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Should I stop smoking weed?
Long story short I started smoking weed pretty late (age 23) after being pretty straight edge throughout HS & uni. It was fucking awesome and blew my world open. My buddies and I moved into a place together a little while after that and it didn't take long for it to become a stoner nest, which was pretty sweet for a bit, but soon I noticed I had real trouble talking to people when I was high. Like even answering the door for pizza or having a roommate come home when I was high was torture. I noticed that nobody else seems to have this problem and that made me wonder if it was something wrong with me.
It made me incredibly self-conscious and I started thinking about all the shit I missed out on by not smoking earlier in life/all the stuff I could have done differently/all the reasons I was lame or whatever. It'd happen each time I was high and started to bleed into when I was sober, too. I figured it was time to take a break so I tried - like once every month. But all my friends smoke and nobody thinks weed is anything but a miracle drug and I always end up caving to the pressure.
I guess does this sound familiar to anyone else? I just need some advice because I feel really confused about it. The idea of quitting weed forever makes me sad, because on the occasions when it doesn't affect me poorly it makes me incredibly creative and I like examining the world from that new perspective.
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>>17193766
If you have to ask whether or not you should quit smoking weed you should probably stop smoking weed.
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Smoking weed is degenerate. You will make it a personality crutch if you don't cut it out.
I started smoking everday at 16 and only stopped recently. I am 21. I feel legitimately better. Keep it out of your life. If you really have to, I'd recommend not letting it get habitual. You will stagnate as a person. It's not worth it.
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>>17193766
I'm the same way. Makes me socially autistic and I get all introverted and can't form sentences to save my life.
You don't have to stop, just cut back on it. Make it the thing you do when you're alone and just playing vidya or whatever. Don't partake in social situations. If your friends are stoners, they'll probably pressure you about it because for some reason it's not fun to be stoned around sober people.
How ugly am I? Do I have a chance for a girlfriend?, truthfully.
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>>17192851
Shave that half ass beard and meet a woma of your race and you'll get a GF
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Put deodorant on
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>>17192851
7/10. 8/10 if you lift.
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I seriously think 4chan has poisoned my mind. I am growing increasingly misogynistic and sometimes think all women are money grabbing whores looking to fuck over providers and make babies with genetically superior men.
How can I change this? Give up 4chan?
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Leaving this site is probably the best because it sounds like you really agree with the shit posted on here and it is negatively affecting you.well I am in the same boat as you and have taken a few steps to start getting off 4chan. It's a slow process because I'm so enthralled but it is starting to work.
Block boards that push that dumb message you are talking about. I am specifically talking about r9k, pol, fit and probably v as well. It's a hassle for me to turn the block off so I just leave it as is.
Find other sites to go to that aren't so consciously mean and angry. I'm not saying go to a hugbox like reddit because that'll just have the same effect.
Get off the internet and live. Talk to people IRL not over the internet. The shit posted here is just pushed and pushed and gets nastier as time goes on.
This was a lot but I hope it helps you man. THis place sucks but I feel like for some of us, it is such an escape that it is hard to escape hahaha
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>>17192774
>leaving 4chan
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>>17192718
Don't use the internet for a few weeks, you'll return to your normal optimistic self within a few days: it really works.
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What jobs are there out there that really reward competitiveness, while also allowing workers AT LEAST weekends off?
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Sucking dick
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What are your skills and interests? "Competitiveness" without talent doesn't mean much except "I will treat my co-workers poorly"
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>>17192373
Work at a commercial bank, most banks don't open weekends, and if you stand out as strong in sales and leadership you will climb quickly. Aside from paycheck, you get quarterly bonus based on performance and commissions for large investments you bring to the bank.
Source: work at bank, but mine does open weekends :(
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ask away and i will give you the answer you need, but not necessarily the answer you desire. Scrolling through /adv/ has shown me people who just come to ask questions dont deserve to be answered and if you are in this thread it means you are worthy because you took the time to read other peoples problems. Ask away anons. I will give you the best/realist answers and will stay in this thread until it dies.
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Should I break away from my current ambition-less relatives and attempt to move in with a friend who shares the same thought process as me and eventually get my own place or should I continue going with them.
I'll basically have a vehicle to my name and some income to contribute to their place.
I resent the people I am currently with after being around them for too long I suppose. I like nothing about them and they basically rely on the government for their income while I go out and actually earn every dollar I get.
Yes they could actually get the means to not rely on the government by the way.
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How do I get a girlfriend?
I've been alone my entire life, thirty fucking years, and I'm getting tired.
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>>17190813
Get a job or hobby
be interesting/a person of interest (if you're a wizard, you're either pretty fucked in the head or severely unlucky/inept)
make friends
find grill that seems chill and intresting/interested in you
be friends and ask her if she wants to go get food or something
see where it goes from there
repeat steps 2-6 until gif is achieve
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profit
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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something that cannot be explained. You either have learned to intuit this or you have not. If you have not, the only way to learn is experience--there are no shortcuts. So it comes back to: Just ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online. Don't complain that this isn't helpful; stupid questions deserve answers like this.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't fucking know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>Brandon, that one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
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What does it mean if a guy texts you quality up from 9pm to 4am at night and doesn't text through the day? If he doesn't study or work?
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>>17190495
He sleeps during the day?
I cant sleep at night ita 3:50 in the morning here
But idunno it means nothing people think too much about texting
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>>17190501
German fag
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Hi /adv/ this might be strange,
I do not know how to start this, but I will jump right in and say I am a liar. I am extremely deceptive, I am extremely manipulative, and I am extremely, objectively, scary, to the point where I even scare myself to the point where I am thinking that therapy might be an intelligent option.
You might be asking why I am here, writing this, but it is because I do not want to be this person anymore. Over the last few years I have developed these extremely complex lying personality that it gets to the point where if I tell a truth, then I feel actual reward, I feel actually really good that I did that, and it feels unique, and you know that is a problem when you do feel that and realize it is because you rarely ever actually do not lie.
I have been trying to remove this persona that I've built up, and trying to revoke life of this disgusting vile being that arose in me but to raze something so powerful is an extremely difficult challenge.
So far I can honestly say I am doing well, I've only told one lie in the passed day where I could have easily done more, which is really good, but I never, NEVER want to do it again.
I have been thinking of suicide since that could help a lot, because I am afraid of hurting someone whom I might fall close with and raze their life.
I'm really not sure what to do, and to clarify about what I mean by lying, I do not mean anything small, or jsut typical shit that you might think is just a tiny histrionic, little lie, I am talking about actual constructive, literally genius, seriously complex lies with huge plans and whatever, I hope that clarifies.
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I forgot to mention that behind this persona that I built, I am an extremely sweet and caring individual and a very good and mature man.
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Shit... bump don't want to bother anyone though
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Can you give some examples of the more elaborate lies you've told?
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How do I beat such a deep-seated depression and lethargy that I hardly recognize it as such?
I mean really, I've tried just about everything that *I* can do myself, and the problem I see is that I know it has to come from within myself, but I need someone else to help bring it out.
...Somebody I can look up to, admire, aspire.
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>>17194932
People who are happy have been happy their entire loves. Those people you see going out and being active are those who were in sports and clubs and had friends as children. They know how to socialize and live with other people who support each other because that's how they grew up; that's what's normal to them.
Think about how you grew up. Think about where you are in your life. You honestly think that, at this point, you're going to acquire traits and social skills that have been fostered in others since birth? No. There is no hope for you. Your life will not get better because you don't have the skills to make it better. You'll never have them. You're going to be apathetic and alone for the rest of your life. No one wants to help you, because you're not worth helping.
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>>17194956
You just helped me though, you just gave me an insight I could have never seen in a million years by myself.
I'm not sure that helps completely, and I'd like other anons to reply, but thank you.
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>>17194961
Kill yourself. No one will miss you.
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This girl from the internet is coming over to netflix and chill tomorrow
I haven't beat off in like 4 days because my friend was in town and staying on my couch
should I not jack off or should I jack off like 5 times
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>jack off like 5 times
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>>17194889
Give her 7 gallons of cum anon
>nofap
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>>17194894
she said she wants to netflix and chill, i usually wear shorts, im just gonna have a raging boner the entire time.
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>have loving girlfriend but not all that attached anymore
>suddenly be social and goodlooking due to new job/working out
>have many girls hitting on me, asking for my number, asking to hangout
>want to fuck all of them but dont have it in me to cheat
has anyone been in this situation? i mean i love my girlfriend but at the same time im only 21 and still feel like i have a lot to experience, she was a slut before we were together and i didnt get to experience that.
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Either cheat, or don't.
Power breeds choice.
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If you love your GF, stay with her. If you're hungry and you have to choose between fastfood (sluts) or you have to wait but get mamas chistmas dinner in the end (your loving GF), the first intention of our animalistic mind is: hungry. eat. But will you feel satisfied in the end?
As long as there are no other negativ conditions with your GF, I say get hungry outside, eat at home.
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Leave her and fuck at will. Or stay with her and restrain your dick.
Pick one.
Don't cheat, it's dishonest and disrespectful to everyone involved. Shows weakness of character. Your mind must control your body, not the other way around.
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I kissed a married woman today. Not a peck on the cheek. A meaningful kiss.
We were at work past store hours cleaning up. Manager sent me and her to a certain section near the back to clean up and restock and such. We were laughing and messing around as we usually do. We've always been good friends and I suspected she has possibly liked me, but thought nothing of it. She has a husband, and a baby.
We were just messing around a little bit, cleaning up and making jokes. There was something she couldn't find where to put so I tried to grab it out of her hand and I grabbed her hand. It was awkward but I just looked at her. She looked at me like I sometimes catch her looking at me when I'm not looking, and I just leaned in and went for it. I pulled her head and body towards mine, not forcing it by any means. I didn't start kissing her, she started kissing me, and I stopped and let her take over to see if she would, and she did.
It lasted maybe 5 seconds. We ended everything after that. Didn't talk or text. I have to see her in the morning.
What do I do? I'm freaking out. This is big for me. I'm not the type of guy that does things like this.
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>>17194850
She's a slut; she sluts around.
Bang her.
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>>17194856
This. You're already a shitty person for initiating it. You might as well be a shitty person with a wet dick.
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Do you want to be with her? If so are you willing to break up a family for it? Is yes ask her if the kiss meant anything and go from there.
You may need to stop being friends with her if you don't want anything serious. It really depends where your priorities are.
Godspeed op
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So /adv/, I need some outside opinions...
I'm apart of a club on my college campus (the president actually) and I went around speaking to classes to recruit
Fast forward a few weeks, and there's a bunch of new people one of them is this cute chick, who I find out through another one of the officers that I'm the reason she showed up (they passed this off as me being good at public speaking)
We do a few events together, and she seems to be interested in me. After one of the events, I invite her to dinner with me right afterwards and we hit it off pretty well.
I asked her out a few times afterwards, and she always said she was busy (she works 40 hours a week, so this is understandable), but she did it a few times. Finally, I basically told her: look, tell me if you're not interested because I don't want you to feel uncomfortable coming to our club anymore. She responds that I don't make her feel uncomfortable at all, and then immediately proposes next Friday after she gets off work.
/tldr/ girl genuinely interested in me, or stringing me along?
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>>17194812
Ugh.. You're president of some club and you don't even understand basic human communication.
You asked her outright. She answered and reassured you, then made plans with you Friday night. Despite her busy schedule.
Sounds like you have massive insecurity issues and will fuck this up eventually anyway..
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>>17194812
I don't know, women are pathological.
She may be mildly interested in you, but have other men her life.
Bang her, and forget.
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Some people just suck at time management I had to deal with a similar girl. Give her a chance but know she'll be unlikely to change. If she is interested she will keep talking to you, just maybe try go more by her schedule than yours.
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Would it be better for me to just sequester myself in my apartment for a year, or continue to let peoples words and opinions of me have a negative affect on my mojo in general?
I am schizo on SSI, but I will be taking online courses once I get on metro housing and have the ability to pay for them.
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I like online courses myself, but I'm not sure that they should be used as a means of avoiding interaction with other people.
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isolation won't do shit except give you motivation to kill yourself.
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>>17194752
Don't isolate yourself, dumbass. I know it's hard to resist the urge as a schizo (schizoid myself, could say we're distant cousins, did it for 5 years until now), but don't do it.
It reduces your social skills (which are necessary for most jobs) and lowers your emotional IQ (necessary for any relationship). Also tends to make you feel useless and unnecessary, a waste of space and oxygen.
Stop caring what other people think about you. They can fuck right off with their opinions.
If they think you're crazy, good. You can get away with more shit that way.
It's worse when they think you're sane and then expect you not to do anything weird.
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So i've been dating this guy for almost two months now and we hang out with each other a lot mainly going out on dates and playing video games. When we don't go on dates we do get intimate, but it usually never goes past making out . Today we watched a movie together on netflix and we started making out it escalates and I asked him if he wanted to have sex.
> he says yes
>we fumble around and he puts the condom on
>after he puts the condom on dick goes flaccid
>it's no problem to me I'm not upset
> he is though
>he told me he's only had sex one other time and he couldn't get it up then either
> i ask him if it's just performance anxiety
> he says he doesn't know why it happens
> told him I wouldn't expect him to be a sex god being as he's only ever had sex once
>he's really torn up about it
>tried to comfort him and tell him it's no big deal
>he's still beating himself up about it
I know the irrational way to feel about is would be to think that he doesn't find me attractive , but I know that isn't true.
> i keep trying to reassure him that i'm not upset or mad, but it doesn't convince him
How do I help him feel better about sex and maybe get past his anxiety ? I'm not trying to be pushy, but I want to help him and assure him that it isn't his fault.
tldr: my boyfriend might have ed any tips on how to get past it and/or comfort him
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It is performance anxiety.
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Kek he probably doesn't have ED my youthful anon. It's most likely performance anxiety. Just have unprotected sex
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>>17194754
yes but how can i help?
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I have a co-worker I'm deeply infatuated with. I've told her how I felt, and while she was initially receptive she was rather honest and said she didn't want to hurt or lead me on and wasn't really ready for a relationship, but still wanted to be friends. This is okay, I think it's the next best thing I could ask and if anything maybe I still have a shot in the long term.
Thing is, I'm 20 and she's 28. She has a kid and lives with her ex for financial reasons. Even if it panned out, I know I'm not getting myself into the prettiest situation. But I feel so hung up on her and I really wish I was a more talkative/outgoing person so that maybe I'd be more likeable. I don't even know what I'm asking- it just has to get out there. I guess how to move on. I feel sad just being at work with her and being unable to talk to her more. It'd ridiculous.
t;dr i have feelings for a coworker with something of an age gap, a kid, lives with ex husband, and she has essentially rejected me kindly. how do move on
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>20
You are young. You will learn to get over it and move on. By the end of the year you won't even remember her name.
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>>17194694
This. She might have even lied to you for your sake. You see that it's "not the prettiest situation" but you should also consider that your own immaturity and lack of life experience added to that situation.
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>>17194694
I have to cope with seeing her at work though. She's nice and when I pass by without trying not to look at her she'll say hi and stuff, so she doesn't make it difficult or brush me off, at least.
>>17194712
I have, I think maybe the age gap is a reason why i was turned down. It's common to see the age gap in couples but usually the guy is older... we mature slower.