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>>17191715

You can afford $600 for a fucking mask but can't drop $70 on shipping then you shouldn't be buying it...

>>17191723
More concerned about the conversion costs and import fees than shipping.

Was hoping to get some insight from others who have made big purchases from the US, and then had them shipped to Canada

>>17191715
>>17191715
>Does anyone have any advice to keep costs for getting the item shipped/imported to Canada low?
My wife is Swedish and we live in England. When she wants something from Sweden and we're not going there any time soon she asks her mum to either buy it in person or have it delivered to the house in Skanderborg. She then sends it to us via postnord sverige (the regular post office, rather than a courier) with the customs label marked to show the package as a gift. Although the delivery time jumps from two days to a week or so, it drops the shipping cost by about 70% and does away with VAT/import duty all together. The only time it's backfired is when I paid for a neclace we'd seen there on my credit card and had it sent to her mum's house. She put the package in an envelope and sent it to me. Customs decided to open in, and when the saw the commercial packaging and a sales reciept with my name on it I had to pay import fee's, VAT and a hefty fine so I ended up paying about £800 ($1170 US) for a £350 ($510 - everything is ludicrously expensive in Sve) neclace. Anything we buy now I paypal her mum the money and she buys it on her card, to reduce the paper trail a bit.

Whilst it's different borders you're crossing, the principle should work the same as long as you know someone relativley trustworthy in the US.

>>17191684
She misses you but she doesn't want to go back with you.

>>17191684
if they can't answer you need to stop twisting the knife yourself. whether or not that's their intention, doesn't matter. if you're getting no response its not gonna work well is it?

this person is psychotic. be glad you have less melodrama in your life.

well, if yu do it yourself, you can perfectly fine decide how long you can last. just take away intensity or stop completely for a while when you get near the point of no return. you can also masturbate oover the course of a day, always stop before orgasming. makes for a mind blowing orgasm in the evening.

>>17191672
Guy here. I go slower when i masturbate if i feel myself getting closer to climaxing Idk if its the same for women. Also, where was that pic taken? Its so beautiful

>>17191705
Hm I'm unsure but its similar to the anime " higuashi"
Yeah i might try that

>>17191551
>house choirs
This sounds cool as fuck. Who wouldn't want to be part of a house choir?

>>17191551
I wouldn't want to do house choirs either though, OP. I can't stand singing in front of people, even if it's in a group

>>17191551
Well shit, at least the nigga works. My brother is shit and just wears the same fucking red shirt every day and plays a fucking ps3 all day. I'm gonna break it one day and then he will really be fucking done

2/?

It should be noted that, during the time of her telling me about considering the divorce, she also confessed to me that she had cheated on my father multiple times while she was deployed. I had no idea what to do with this information as a teenager, as I wanted to protect my mother, though I didn’t (and still don’t) agree with what she had done.

During the time leading up to the divorce, I went to a concert in a city a day’s trip away with a friend and my partner. My mom drove us, and while we were there, she met up with a childhood friend she had reconnected with (keep in mind that this man traveled around 600 miles to get to where we were), and had started developing a relationship with while she was still married to my dad. My friends and I were fairly uncomfortable with the idea of sharing a room with this man we had never met, and he and my mom wound up in a separate hotel room because of it. Being in the midst of the situation, it honestly didn’t seem that bad, just uncomfortable, but looking back on it, I realize how horrible this was of her.

Fast-forward to after the divorce, and I’m living with my mom. On more than one occasion she talks about how she “never could have done it,” without me and how “it took my kid telling me for me to finally get a divorce.” She says these things as compliments and basically praises me (to me AND her friends) for helping her end her marriage.

Over time, it starts eating away at me mentally; I’m beginning to realize that a divorce was a quick, lazy solution to problems that could’ve likely been solved via proper communication (she never made an effort to communicate her problems to my dad while they were married; it seemed like she simply expected him to know what he was doing wrong without being told). Now, as an adult with my own healthy, long-term relationship, I understand fully the rashness and foolishness of my mother’s decision, and I feel like the sole factor that made it happen.

3/?

Since the divorce, she’s had several short-lived relationships, her second-most recent having been a mostly long-distance one with a man who was married, and had been for I believe around forty years. They justified their relationship because there was “no love” left in the marriage, but despite this, I still didn’t like hearing about it, and my mother knew this. I would become markedly uncomfortable and silent when she brought him up, gushing about how happy he made her. Once she would notice my discomfort, she would say something like, “I know you don’t approve” or “I know how you feel about it, so I’ll be quiet,” and I would be made to feel badly because I didn’t want to hear about my mother being a mistress to a loveless marriage. Despite her knowledge of my thoughts on the ordeal, she would still continue bring him up unprovoked, much more often than I would have liked.

Ignoring the obvious reason of “she’s my mother and I should love her no matter what,” I feel overwhelmingly terrible about my resentment because her military service is paying for my college education, and the surplus from it is what’s allowing me to live comfortably and worry-free. I don’t feel I can divulge my feelings to her for fear it all turning into a guilt-trip about me being ungrateful for everything she’s done for me. I’ve expressed my sincere appreciation for what she’s done for me on numerous occasions, and it never seems to be enough to stop her from using it all as guilt-trip leverage.

4/?

I’m just so unbearably angry and annoyed at everything she does at this point. She’s in early retirement due to disability, so she’s just kind of doing nothing with her life outside of online shopping. She buys a fuckton of piddly little inexpensive shit off the internet, and then gives me like half of whatever she gets. Normally, I’d be fine with this, but I’m actively trying to de-clutter my life and get rid of as many things as possible, and she knows this. I’ve repeatedly asked her to stop buying me things because I have no room for them, but that never seems to stop her. Hell, while I was trying to get rid of some of my stuff in my room, she saw me put two stuffed animals that she had gotten me less than a year ago (that I specifically asked her not to get) into the “to get rid of” box, and she got upset and was all, “You love those!” and when I explained they were large, I had no attachment to them, and I needed to downsize, she just kind of scoffed, said, “Fine, do whatever,” and made me feel like an ass. I’ve been getting rid of things she’s given me behind her back because it all feels so hollow and empty, and I just don’t want to deal with her guilting me about it.

Nearly everything lately comes back to her making me feel bad about something. I ask her to stop buying me things since I’m trying to de-clutter? I’m the bad guy. I suggest she stop buying things just because they’re on clearance because she doesn’t actually need them? I’m a “fuddy-dud,” because I don’t want her to have new things. I suggest we shouldn’t get another cat because we already have four of them in a house that should have no more than two? She pouts at me like a goddamn toddler because I’m “no fun,” and gets one anyways.

>>17191491
Yeah plenty of people do only reason you would think other wise is from all the sad losers on here

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>>17191493
Am used to the sad losers.
Only asking because my vision of love and other humans is tainted by the actions of my past experiences. Love is also just a chemical reaction of Dopamine and Serotonin. Nothing else.

Some people choose not to have relationships, some people meet their high school sweethearts and stay happily married, some have bad luck and don't find love for a while. Everyone is different. "The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away" Not essential for survival, but it is nice. When it's a healthy relationship of course.

>>17191486
It's one of those things you should just play by ear.

My first girlfriend was crazy about me and it was nice for the first few weeks, then it got tiresome real quick because it turned into her being as clingy as shit on the sidewalk. I tried telling her I needed space, but the relationship didn't last more than a few months. Sex was crazy good though.

Sometimes you'll find someone that respects and admires you, but that's different from being borderline addicted to you.

>>17191486
Either you'll get annoyed of her obsession or you'll dissapoint her as she gets to know you.

You should always love equally IMO. Or have her love slightly more just in case.

>>17191486
Nah that means she like you and is spreg good out.

Now the question is does it seem like her affection is too good to be true?

What have you done to earn it?

If yes to the first and nothing on the second then it's sketchy.

Why your gut is telling you something is up. Listen

The second is based on the fact that women evaluate and pick the best mate if you've done nothing then why'd she pick you.

She's riding the cotton pony. Wait a week.

>>17191454
Period or she's nervous/insecure. Maybe she has an STD. Maybe she isn't ready. There are millions of fucking reasons dude just ask her

>>17191458
>>17191494
It's been weeks. Really like her though so I'm not prepared to move on and we're not exclusive anyway.

>dude just ask her
Please read the second sentence of the OP.

>graffiti
>art
Stick to huffing the paint, degenerate

>>17191391
You shouldn't do graffiti on someone else's property, cunt

First off, OP find a chill spot where you can go to during the day to practice painting, not just your backyard.

Second, DONT worry about being caught unless if you are caught in the act by a police officer. Try to wait until the coast is clear before writing anything because there are lots of cunts like the posters above me who WILL dial 911.

These forums aren't the greatest of places to discuss graffiti. Head over to bombingscience.

Not sure what you've been practicing but the way it should work is you start out tagging, then move on to hollows, throw ups, etc. then maybe a couple years down the line you'll be ready to piece up, unless you're a fast learner.

I used to steal my paint, why pay money to commit a crime? Most people these days get caught up. So just buy rustoleum, montana, whatever. You need to immerse yourself into graff, not just practice in your backyard. Buy some markers, name tags, white out pens, and get up. Enjoy yourself, easiest way to get caught writing graffiti is looking suspicious.

>>17191257
More info or fuck off

Let them make the first move, even if you have to wait weeks/months/years. Don't try to convince them that you changed, don't make any argument about having changed, don't act like you deserve to be forgiven. Prove yourself through your actions. Just change and then go on with your life. If one day they want to go back to being friends then good for you, otherwise keep going.

>>17191421
if you really fucked up, this
More info would be appreciated either way

>>17191228
Rape ur ass

don't be an idiot

He can't do shit, block and ignore him.

>>17191233
I wish he would only do fuck me. But that ruin my life part is scary to me.

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Aleve and Red Bull.

You're supposed to work 7 hrs a day for something you enjoy doing, that can pay the bills, HAS RELAXING MOMENTS and that doesn't kill you with stress. You're doing it wrong by working at fast food. I do not know anyone who could handle working basically full time in fast food as kitchen staff. fuck that. Try getting an internship for a 'real job' whatever that means and you'll see the difference.

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>>17191209
Trust me i don't want to work 40 hours a week. I didn't ask for this.

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It's not your fault

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>>17191193
But it's still your problem

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>>17191193

Not sure if troll, too high to make the distinction.

Anyway, it's entirely my fault. Like stepping in front of a moving train is entirely my decision.

So... cop to it, go to prison and get ass-raped for god knows how long, keep doing it hoping I wont be found out and try to stop (not happening). Or an hero.

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We only regret the things we didn't do.

Fuck. Ride the same route again. Problem solved.

Just man up and say Hi.

>>17191174
i live in a city with 500k residents so thats sadly not gonna happen

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By appearance

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Or use OkCupid

Because we're all desperate and don't have anything positive to say about ourselves because of low confidence yet we don't want to date uggos.