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I did the right thing but I dont like it.

Im friends with this woman who I have very strong feelings for. She has a boyfriend, and recently was in a rough patch. She made it feel like the feelings with him had been weakening for several months and she wasnt sure what she felt.
I told her not make any rash decisions and try and fix things with him. Hes a good man.
They had a talk and seem to be happy again, thought its only been a few days.

I feel like I did the right thing by telling her every time we talked that she should be focusing on her relationship with him and not running from the problem, but at the same time I was rooting for it to all fall apart.

What should I be doing with this girl, should I distance myself from her incase I am somehow causing problems? Should I distance myself for my own sake?

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Are my 36B breasts small enough for keyhole FTM surgery? They are mostly fat, so I think with testosterone and diet they will shrink a lot. I have not started testosterone yet. I am almost 24 if that matters. pic unrelated...my cat.

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Yesterday in a silly argument through skype (ldr) I said a bit my voice and hit the bed in a silly manner. I was telling her "see how we shouldnt have talked about this?" because she was getting sad because of some argument we were having

after i raised my voice she started crying for a good while, I stayed there saying her everything was ok, that I was sorry, etc. she went to sleep after a while.

10mins passes by and she tells me that she wasn't angry, just that probably she got scared. I promised her I would make my best to not ever raise my voice again, she tells me she doesnt believe that I can promise that, in general she was cold.

5 mins later she asks if I can do her a favour, and tells me if I can call her again because she wanted to fall asleep while in call, and not feel alone.

I read her some poetry (because I have an exam so it was also a way for me to study lol), laughed at some things, told me the poems were cute and just fell sleep.

Would she still break up with me after the "let me fall asleep while listening to you" bit? I'm really confused about her going out of her way to tell me that she isn't angry, just scared... I don't know how to take it, obviously it's not like I'd hit her irl, I think it's pretty common to raise the voice in an argument, and it's been the first time I've done that...

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Okay so I was wondering if anyone could help me out?? This asshole stole $2000 off my homie and I was wondering if anyone on here could help me see if he deposited $2000 into his bank account or paypal within the last 48 hours. His name is Cody Alan Seagriff and is from Freeport Pennsylvania.

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Fuck, /adv/, slap some sense into me please.

I feel really creeped out by my father, and I'm not sure if my feelings are valid or if it's all in my head.

For example, he tells me to shut the blinds on a regular basis. They're situated in a way that forces you to bend over the couch to shut them. He watches me from behind as I shut them, which makes me feel uncomfortable.

One night in particular, he asked me to shut them and my mom offered to do it instead since I had my hands full. He snapped at her; "No, not YOU!".

He alway jokes about sexual things around me, and brings up topics like child rape/molestation.

There were a couple incidents when I was little (10-13yrs) where I didn't wipe properly. He made a big scene of it, saying "What's that smell? It smells like poop. Is that you? Come here." and he'd make me turn around in front of him, and he would stick his face right up against my butt.

Recently I wore a mid-thigh length skirt with a tight long-sleeve shirt. It was modest, but much less so than my usual attire (which is heavy loose knits). I have a good figure (5'10", 34-22-32) so it looked more dramatic on my frame. I was hoping to sneak out of the house without him seeing me, but he did. He just said "Woooooow. That looks reeeeally good." and looked me up and down.

Is this normal behavior, and I'm blowing things out of proportion? Or am I right to feel uncomfortable?

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/adv/, please enlighten me if at all possible:

How on Earth do you escalate social contact to sexual contact?
I've been with my first girlfriend for eight years, which was mostly initiated (and later terminated) by her. But now I've been single for almost six months in which time I'd not even kissed a girl.

Thing is, it's not like it's hard for me to make contact. I meet new people often and I've had a bunch of very fun, sometimes deep conversations.
Thing is is that I simply don't know how to escalate matters in a way that won't potentially sour her evening.

I'm deeply afraid of saying the wrong thing and being a harasser because of it, I don't want to hurt a girl's feelings or fill her with fear/disgust.

But by now I do kind of miss having sex, it's been a while.

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I need advice, i don't know what to do. met this girl a year ago, instant best friends, we talked every day, told eachother private shit, and helped eachother. I always had feelings for her but I could tell she never had any back. Eventually she met this one bitch, we can call her slut. slut turns my best friend into a slut, best friend talks to her a lot more, feel us growing distant. We get into a fight (happens a lot) and ignore eachother for months. she texts me again and we talk again. Fight again and no longer talk, she hits me up and we talk again. I decide to finally break it off. Shes cool with it, says she respects my choice, mostly did it because she had a boyfriend at the time and i was pretty jealous like an ass, but she also changed into someone i don't like being around. after a while we talk a little, nothing serious. I want to talk to her again. My heart is telling me to talk, my brain is saying to not. Please help.

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How do I learn piano? I'm 23 years old and have very limited music experience. Does anyone have any resources they can share? I can't really afford a teacher right now.

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Why do people hate cops? Are they not a necessary evil? It seems like the majority of the reason people hate them are cherry picked events and/or one sided examples.

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>be 20 something me
>go out to raves, electro-themed parties, etc.
>never ever been to a "club" with blasting rap music and club sloots
>go tonight
>see big booty hawt girls everywhere in skin tight club slut dresses and hoop earrings looking trashy as fuck- all of them
>realize this is going to be someone's mother one day
>lose all desire to party
>take an uber home, fetal position, and question the validity of my existence.

What the fuck? How do people enjoy the club scene? How can you look at a woman grinding her butt on your crotch and respect her as a human being? Might as well take some PCP and just go on a dicking spree because that's all clubs might as well be... where's the humanity? Where's the empathy?

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Hey /adv/ I was just recently hired as an instructor for a small web design class. I haven't met the class yet, I start Wednesday, but I've just been anxious cause I feel like they won't like me / pay attention / give a shit etc... Any words od encouragement /adv/?

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They size me up, look at me, stare at me, talk to me etc. When I shave I get none of that. Yet online I see nothing but shaven men being praised, wtf??

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I was followed tonight. It was 1:30 AM and I was walking home from a friends house when a perverted looking man cat called me and then proceeded to follow me after I ignored him. My street is kind of quiet and when I turned around to make sure he wasn't following me, I realized he was following me. I stopped I turned around and called out, "are you following me??" and he just stood there watching me and not moving. I started crossing the street and looking for any cars but there wasn't any and it was me and him alone in the street and I didn't know what to do. He started following me across the street when THANKFULLY some guy came outside of his house to smoke a BLESSED cigarette and scared off the attacker. I yelled I was going to call the police and the cigarette guy walked me home.

What the fuck can I do if this ever happens to me again??? I'm a 5`4 girl that is pretty small boned. I work really early mornings so I'm in the street at scary hours. Please help give me advice!

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The only reason I want to do stuff is to impress other people. Having a hobby, dressing well, even sex. If I didn't have the motivation of impressing people, I'd just sit around and jerk off all day and browse the Internet. Does everyone feel this way? If not, is it something you're born with? Can one learn to be passionate about something?

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Hello everyone, I just need to get this out of my chest.

I'm taking japanese lessons every week on saturday. I chose japanese because german classes were full (at least that is what I tell myself), japanese classes were cheaper and closer to home. Aaaaaaand, I wanted to meet girls.

I did get to meet some, but most had boyfriends, too young or just unattractive.

Someone added me to a facebook group, because I was my classes' representative for a festival we had. Browsing the members, I found a really pretty girl, and I realised that she was the teacher that uses the class room before my class. I hadn't noticed how pretty she was.

One day I gathered some courage, and entered a classroom she was in. I told her that I found her very pretty and interesting and that I wanted to go out with her. She seemed a little surprised, maybe because most guys don't plainly say such a thing. She told me she had to think about it because between the classes and her job she did not have time for dates.
I asked her for her phone number and she gave it to me, and her full name. Cool

I did send her some texts but she never replied. I tried calling her but she never picked up.

I should have given up at that point. I friended her on facebook and within 30 min she accepted my request.

I sent her some pm s, but she replied with short answers. I told her again that I wanted to go out with her, but she told me she has had bad experiences with "blind dates" (she means with people she bearly knows), and that she would like to chat on facebook or text more before going out. Ok, cool, whatever.

I did not talk to her for like, 3 or 4 months. One day I saw a new profile pic, and I felt the urge to send her a message. But I hesitated. Then I said YOLO and sent it. She replied within a minute and we talked for 2 hours. That was a month ago and I haven't talked to her since.

I wanted to get that story out of my chest. Please, if you have advise or just want to share a similar story, go ahead.