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I think I fucked up a friendship on Friday.
I was talking to one of the only friends I have in Houston, I told him about a museum exhibition I wanted to go to and asked if he would like to go. He said no. Then he said "If you're lonely just go with your sister. What happened to John?" And I had to explain to him my sister doesn't want to go and that John hasn't reached out to me despite my efforts of reaching out to him. He tried to get out of going out somewhere with me when all he could have said was "I don't feel like going" and I would have been cool with it. I admit, I did complain about being alone to him once after graduating college. I moved back home and all I do all day is search for jobs and I only go out for job interviews. I made the mistake of being offended when he told me that he makes it a priority to talk to me because I'm lonely. I got offended because it felt like he only talked to me to take pity on me. Not because he actually likes talking to me.
On Friday I told him that it was insulting that he was doubting that I didn't have any friends in Houston. All my friends are out of state or in different cities. That's when things got really terrible and he started ranting and saying all this stuff. Like he was saving all this aggression for this one moment to take out on me. I'll post a transcript of what he said.
Now my questions is, he's going to come back. He's going to come back and apologize and will try to make up with me. It's happened before so many times. I would distance myself from him but he would always come back. What do I do this time when he comes back? What do I say?
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Here's what was said
Me: I just don't get why you question me when I express that I feel lonely or that I just stay at home all day since I don't have anyone to really interact with. I don't get why you doubt how I feel sometimes.
Jeff: I'm going to leave this one alone. No actually I'm not. I won't leave this alone. So I told you that I would speak to you like an adult. Let me follow through with that. So as a preface, none of this is intended to offend. And if you feel offended--I am not sorry.
1. In these conversations above, you see that I use sarcasm, humor, irony, etc.
You get easily offended by things or feels it's all a personal attack.
Get the fuck over yourself.
2. You're an adult, stop being offended or reaching for something to be offended by. If I say it wasn't meant to offend then I fucking mean it
3. I'm not going to apologize for every little thing you feel offended by just because you have the emotional maturity of a 14 year old. The world does not revolve around you. I know you're lonely---remember the last god damn thing that pissed you off (in which I said I made it a fucking priority to talk to you because you felt lonely? Yes? No?
Me: 1. Sometimes it can be hard to pinpoint it out when you use those elements. But in the past there has always been patterns of you questioning claims that I make about how I feel so sometimes it does feel like you question me and how I feel all the time.
Jeff: Jesus Christ I don't have the energy for this.
Me: Fine I'll stop. I'm not mad or anything right now but whatever
Jeff: It's not that I dont care about a person's feelings its just at some point you have to pull your fucking self up by the bootstraps and grow the fuck up
Me: I'm honestly not finding things to be offended by. I'm not. And I know the world doesn't revolve around me. But whatever, point taken.
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Part 2
Jeff: I don't have the fucking patience to deal with people like you. "Every fucking thing is a problem, the world is sad, I am lonely, this offends me." I just don't give a fuck anymore
Me: I haven't even made complaints like that in a really long time. And these past months I've been trying to improve my attitude and not go down that route again.
Jeff: I'm going to bed, be offended. Send me a five page paper about how I dont care. Tell your friends too. Tell the world. I dont give a fuck, I dont have energy for your complaining and others. I have my own shit. Good night! Go write on your tumblr or facebook how mad you are
Me: I'm not even mad though. And I'm not even offended right now.
Jeff: I'll piss you off in the future. Let's get it out the way now. [Insert here something that is insulting, offensive, sexist, etc] Then send me a few paragraphs about how I dont care. Then say "whatever" 10 times. What other stupid fucking shit did I miss (Insert some conflicting stuff here) (Write about how men are sexist and only prize women for look or their sexuality then send me some selfies)
Me: I didn't mean to make you mad. I'm sorry. I'm sorry for not interpreting your messages properly.
Jeff: Dude go the fuck to bed. I am tired with you. Im tired all these other assholes getting mad. Don't apologize. You and the rest can go royally fuck yourselves. I'm done. Im really fucking done. No more. Delete all my shit. Block everywhere you can. Write as much as you want. Im done.
Actually I'm sorry
When you and the rest write about me, give a juicy context about how im an asshole or rude or whatever. Make something good up. Make sure everyone gives you sympathy.
Me: Jeff no. I'm not going to do that
Jeff: I'm begging you. Please, just piss me off more. Let's make up now and then you can find something to get mad about next week. Or you can try to subtly force me to hang out with you
Me: Jeff stop. I didn't mean to be insulted or anything
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Part 3
Jeff: Or better---try some tricks to get me to date you---oh that'll work. Then when I politely decline get mad. Then say we're friends and try over again. (Tell me another story about how everyone looks at you---I'll fill the conversation with a compliment and reply back with something sexual so as not to come off rude) What about this---I'll keep apologizing to everyone because I don't want to be labeled an asshole. Nah fuck that. I give up. Every single one of you---I cant keep up (Invite me somewhere else) Let me decline. Then try guilt tripping me. That'll work
Me: You're not an asshole and I didn't say you were. I'm sorry I took offense because I couldn't read your tone. Obviously you don't have to hang out with me. And I'm sorry if I impose.
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How do I lose virginity? 2016-07-04 14:06:11 Post No.17322332
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I want to lose my virginity so I don't end up like that 30 year old guy saying "You should of lost it when you were young its too late now" I do not want to lose it to a prostitute however, here are my stats.
>20
>Average looks
>5'8"
>Some income but no job
>No car
>Average sized dick
>No real hobbies outside of gaming
I mean looking at that I am pretty sure its literally impossible to lose my virginity in todays day and age where only the super hot get laid
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>>17322332
Stop gaming
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>20
>"bawww it's all over for me!"
Faggots like you are the reason why it's hard to get good advice on here.
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>>17322356
I probably will soon it's starting to be less pleasurable
>>17322359
Well when everyone around me is losing it at like 13 yes I get worried being a 20 yr old virgin with nothing special about myself its not that I think its over yet its that it could be over for me unless I figure out a path of action
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I posted this on /b/ with no help. maybe some here can give some help for a friend I'm 18 btw
>he is 14 and has been fucking this (8/10 9 in a good day) girl for a while
>the problem is that she is 23 (9 years older)
>his mom found out and freaked out
>the kid is scared his mom will make an scene and tell his father, because he really likes that girl
He just called me and need some advice, I told to try to calm his mom and tell her to accept it.
what else should I tell him /adv/
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jail that bitch fucked
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>>17321696
that hes fucked
and she is too only moreso
pedophilia in its purest form
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>>17321704
The age of consent here is 14 and that is not the point they like each other and there was no rape. The problem are his parents she lives alone.
Hey anons, what exactly makes a girl a 'slut' or 'whore'?
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On 4chan, whether or not the guy feels wronged or 'disrespected' by her behaviour.
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It happens when a guy can't get a girl he likes to go out with him. Once she turns the guy down, she's a slut or a whore.
Of course, should she accept but move on later, that will also make her a slut or a whore.
She's especially considered a slut or a whore if she goes out with anyone else besides the guy she rejected.
I hope this was helpful.
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>>17321350
Its weird because I knew a girl who is only 21 and has had sex with 5 guys, but they were her boyfriends so I wouldnt say she is a slut or whore. I would classify a slut or whore a girl who sleeps with a new guy every night or sleeps with a guy while in a relationship with another. Everyone has different definitions like I know people who call my friend a slut for fucking 5 guys and she is only 21 but idk since she was in a relationship with them I dont consider her a slut just emotionally broken being she has had 5 loves and 5 heartbreaks
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ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything 2016-07-03 20:40:32 Post No.17320170
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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>I'm about to have sex for the first time. What do I do?
Humans have worked this out on their own for centuries. You'll be fine.
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. You either know how to tell, or you don't. If you don't, you learn through experience. So ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online. Don't complain that this isn't helpful; stupid questions deserve answers like this.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't fucking know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
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>>17320170
This thread is gay and so are you
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If a girl starts making her messages shorter, does that mean she's losing interest?
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>>17320194
no, that means she is making her messages shorter.
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>be me
>female
>18 years old
>enlist in army
>watch the invisible war
>doc about rape in the army
Guys.
Im a piece of shit. Watching this movie just makes me sexually excited. Whats wrong with me?
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>>17317882
Bump cause im a pos.
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Rape fantasies are incredibly common, but people don't really discuss them due to the societal taboo.
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>>17317882
you're definitely not a piece of shit just because you get turned on by a scenario, even pedophiles aren't pieces of shit until they act on their fantasy.
20 years old here
I genuinely can't think of anything to look forward to justify continuing living. I know numerous people would miss me because according to all of them I'm a very likable person but honestly I wish I didn't care so I could just kill myself. I dunno, I just feel like I've gotten all a person like me can get out of life and don't see much reason to continue
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>>17323769
Learn some fucking magic tricks and entertain some sick kids.
Go sky diving, donate your body to science i dont fucking know
Stop taking yourself so seriously and being a drama queen you're talking like its a movie and this is your dramatic monologue
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>>17323769
Get out more. Life for living and if you aren't going to live it your body and brain start shutting down.
>but i do _____ all the time.
Find new shit to do even if it seems dumb.
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Remember that you can always call the Samaritans if you need a stranger to vent/talk to.
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porn habits different from IRL habits
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so even though im gay and find women irl pretty gross, i still whack it to (pretty unrealistic) hetero hentai most of the time
is this somehow unhealthy do you think? i have had "performance issues" during sex in the past, do you think that might be related?
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>>17323731
I'm straight and like yuri/yaoi hentai, nothing wrong with it.
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>>17323731
completely normal.
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>>17323731
nope. sexuality is complex.
I'm definitely gay but there will be months at a time where i only watch hetero porn and often times hetero hentai. why? for me its mostly about getting off on the straight guy. there's a certain energy these men have that gay men (or gay for pay men) often dont. especially when its more than one man with one girl.
theres a homo erotic edge, that sense of htem being uncomfortable, trying not to get too close but still getting too close. even in hentai you can see the reverse of this, which is men who are all too comfortable with each other, bringing a different kidn of kink.
tbqh i even fapped to a video of two lesbians making out htis year just cuz they were legit hot.
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Hey guys,
I'm feel really horny today, and i was wondering, is it worth getting a hooker? Yes i have sex before, just in general, do you get ripped off a lot? is the chance on STD's high? just geral advice please
EU btw
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If you pay a little the risk is a lot. If you pay for an hour you get an hour, be very specific with what you want to do and how long you want to do it.
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>>17323719
not worth it.
just fap.
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>>17323734
The fap clears the mind. Thank you
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My Professor saved my college career.
She nurtured me into becoming a harder worker and gave me great advice. Im here however because this question is too akward and stupid to ask her myself.
I know that reading is a great way to learn. You soak up the thoughts of great people and it will probably launch you forward in life. My problem is that i think its boring as fuck. Im a more hands on physical active kind of guy and my mind just could not care less where these words lead. I do love math and problem solving. Hope this info helps. Can anyone romanticize reading for me? I want to like it.
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I understand.
I can only read fantasy, comics or psychology. everything else makes my mind wander while i read.
Butterfly in the sky, I can go twice as high.
Take a look, it's in a book, a Reading Rainbow!
I can go anywhere.
Friends to know,
and ways to grow.
A Reading Rainbow!
I can be anything.
Take a look,
it's in a book.
A Reading Rainbow.
A Reading Rainbow.
A Reading Rainbow!
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This is the final frontier for my self development campaign. Please, if you can, make me love reading
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>>17323716
I dont have problem reading when im looking for something in particular.
Id like to be able to appreciate what ever comes my way. I mostly want to read science and math stuff since i like those fields but its mainly educational, academic, and scholarly things i want to enjoy reading.
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/adv/, it's night where i live, i am tired, but i have to tidy room and pack my belongings. Of course I want to play video games instead for 4 hours like good old times.
Should I
>sleep and do things in the morning
>play video games
>do everything i have to do and sleep
In the morning resting wouldn't be as cool, because it's very likely i won't be alone.
How many hours of sleep should i get?
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>How many hours of sleep should i get?
8-10 for best result
6-8 for passable
but it varies person to person and age to age.
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>>17323677
Do things now, it's unlikely you'll want to do them in the morning, you should get 7 hours, any more or less is unhealthy.
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>>17323688
I really fucking want to healthily play without any more tasks hanging.
It makes me angry that i haven't had a rest like this for a while now.
Yeah, i'll try to do as much as i can now. I was very close to pass out to sleep 3 minutes ago and made this thread, thank you.
>>17323684
Thanks
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Can I change my voice? 2016-07-04 22:04:08 Post No.17323655
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I hate my voice. No one can understand me and it doesn't fit in with where I'm from. I don't have a speech impediment since I can do accents quite well.
Is there a realistic way to change your voice without people noticing?
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Take singing classes.
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>>17323664
That's actually a really good suggestion.e I never thought of that. Thank you!
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>>17323655
Smoke cigarettes if you want a sexy scratchy voice
Yep
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Any 30+ anon's here? I'm curious, what are some things you regret doing/failing to do in your 20's?
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31 married with kids here. \
I regret very little actually. After being around for so long i realize that all the shit i dealt with led me to the happy place i am at now. Maybe traveled some more.
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Not abstaining from alcohol sooner.
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>>17323614
big one for me,
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Why even?
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An hero
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>>17323578
Not even.
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>>17323578
network is undefeatable, sort of inane at this stage
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I think I've completly fucked everything up with probably one of the most amazing girls I could have ever met, now this sounds like the same old story and blah blah blah and theres plenty more fish in the sea,
But this girl to me is perfect, she's beautiful, funny, works hard to make her own money, gave me a lot of attention and was just all round a really nice person to be around
The night started perfect but as it went on and on and we went to a house party with a bunch of her male friends, there was two who were just utter cunts to me because she brought me and my friend along (it was a group night out of 4 of us 2m 2f and we met up with a bunch of her friends later on) but yeah... she messaged me at the end of the night when she was walking home with her friend and these two cunts to tell her when I got home, and I just straight replied that i fucking hate her friends and i wanted to kick the shit out of them, which really isn't like me at all but I didnt give a fuck... so the next day rolls round and were talking very sporadically, i get the feeling her opinion of me has changed after what i said or one of the guys she walked home with said something or they got up to something, so I write her a massive apology for what I said cause it wasnt right what i said especially a reply to her being kind and now I havent heard a thing from her all day and i dont know what to do...
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Nothing.
Everytime you fuck up there is not a instant remedy of what to do. Each person has low moments, this is one of yours.
She may think of you different now. Don't try activelly to change that because none of us know how and you will end up fucking up again.
Just keep going and keep trying.
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>>17323547
so you displayed these qualities to her:
>he is aggressive and potentially violent towards my friends
>he is either insecure about being teased by my male friends or he lacks a sense of humor
>he acts without thinking, says things without thinking, he's impulsive in a bad way
>he is a cuck/pussy for writing a massive text apology to me
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>>17323568
Yeah pretty much, but we've been on dates before and have talked for quite a while so really she should know that I'm not really like that but thats the hard part cause she'll only see this side of me
She did admit that one of her friends was being a cunt that night too but i guess really that doesn't excuse how i acted
>>17323556
good words, thank you