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You're gonna have to accept it. People can't change fundamentals like that.

or do an inception
put her somehow in a situation that will cause her to start feeling bad about this habit and she will make a decision to stop
but she has to think it's her decision
hard, almost impossible, done it once or twice in my life, you have to use everything you know about her, like make her miss something she really loves and after that be nice at her or something i dunno, use the manipulative part of your brain

>>17320417
Is she Mexican?

>>17320415
Fucking kids can text at 10? Shit is getting confusing now a days.

Why is it complicated to ask her mom, you're her half brother.

>>17320421
She doesn't have her own phone (for now) but she has a tablet and internet connection and her parents apparently don't realise it does the same things

Trying to change that

You can change your stars, William.

>>17320411
Get a relationship with animals. Have a relationship with your body and get sucked off by nature.

>>17320411
>How do you accept you'll never be happy, successful or have meaningful relationships with people?
The first and third are extremely difficult if you've got certain mental or physical conditions, but success is achievable for everyone. You just have to figure out a reasonable standard, and then go reach it.

You probably overshared, but that kind of question is hard to answer. She's basically saying "I will put no effort into this conversation. Impress me with your skills and prove you're worth this pussy"

It's basically a shit test. When a girl says 'tell me anything about you', you pick one, interesting and socially acceptable skill. If you just wanna hit it, "I've played violin/sax/other slightly unusual instrument" since I was 4 is a good lie to open up most girls. If you don't want to lie then you actually need to be interesting.

A good way to call a girl out on this is to say something along the lines of "I'm actually incredibly boring, I sit at home and knit sweaters for my seventeen cats". She'll laugh and you'll gain her approval without lying
Ps. Never say you're introverted. Girls measure a man's worth by the value of his peers. If you claim introversion, her perception of your value drops.

Stop being an autist and caring about texting. You have a date set. Talk in person.

>>17320438
I think I did. What I said was I play soccer/track and work out a lot, I'm into politics/history/making a difference because she's big into libcuck feminist crap, I play guitar and piano, and I'm kind of an introvert. I do have friends I'm just a quiet person in general.

Well so is it still salvageable? Maybe I didn't say the right thing but I don't see how it could've been a deal breaker.

>>17320439
That date is days away and she's out of town for the 4th of july right now so I have to somehow keep her interest. If she were here rn I would've already smashed probably. I'm better in person than through text.

>>17320321
Most of the time i feel average, but i get this feeling too. Not from drugs though but when i feel like i am perfectly in balance with my life which makes me feel superior and i feel more aware of my sourroundings.

>>17320364
Yea, I started meditating after that regularly to.

>>17320321
When I took xtc for the first time it was a game changer for me too, I was 16 and had some social anxiety. At the time I thought it was impossible for me too change, but when I took x I became the most alpha social guy I wished I could be. It turned on a switch, somewhere in me is that guy, he is just hidden.
Looking back the social anxiety was probably amplified because of my previous weed use and the adhd meds.
Still, the new perspective helped a lot.

>babby's first existential crisis

>>17320322
This. Sorry bro, but you're gonna have to start reading Nietzsche in coffee shops now.

>>17320309
Wow, youre so deep, mature, and smart for having an existential crisis. I bet nobodies ever had one of those before dude, you should write a book about it really quick and make serious cash.

Anyways, its common. We just naturally become self aware, and it sucks. I think about it literally every night before I go to bed.

Ultimately you just have to decide what it is you want to do in life. Do you want to work hard and slave over stupid Government Jobs to become rich and well known? Or will you smoke pot and bum around working $7.25 an hour, only to drink yourself to death at age 29?

You have all control over how your life goes. If you feel like shit is worthless and existance is dumb, how about you step off your computer and go walk around in some Nature? Maybe go further than 5 miles from your house? If youve experienced nothing yet, how will you know 'its all pointless man we all die man no use'

>>17320267
she knows it makes me mad and only does it to me not my sister. its so fucking annoying. and when i say not good i mean mcdonalds serves better chicken than her.

>>17320267
i have never responded to her questions other than if i wanted it i would be eating it. and she still asks and then she starts making fun of me and my weight afterwards.

>>17320267
If you are old enough to go to the college, dont act immature. She is your mother ffs. If you are not comfortable with it and dont want to show some respect to your mother, go and rent your own place and make it better for everyone.

>>17320244

What? I don't understand your 2nd part of your question

>>17320254
Kissing women doesn't feel nice. Kissing men leads to dick.

You can't be intimate with a man without sex. The two words are synonymous to them.

Underage :P

>>17320233
What do you keep doing OP?

>>17320233
If it's something really bad that you keep doing and she can't take it anymore well you gotta wait and see if she'll come back. Maybe you deserve this.

>How do you guys cope with breakups?

Use the pent up energy on something like working out.

>Why the FUCK do people wanna date and be in relationships if it hurts this bad if it doesn't work out?

Why do anything if it'll hurt in the end? Because it might not hurt and it might be wonderful.

>>17320233
>I did something bad, doesn't really matter what,

>What do I do to manage this shit?

ugh conversation bait.....just spew what you are doing already before this thread gets fast tracked off the board.

Ive always been more than generous to people I consider my 'Inner Circle' of friends, because they always will get me back on a free blunt, bong sesh, whatever. Not that money is an issue for me, but its still a nice gesture to not feel like my friends are leeches.

Problem being, my inner circle is like 3 people with ambitious Jobs, so we see eachother maybe 2-3 times a month, id just like to expand a bit and meet other people, but I always get stuck smoking people up, paying for booze, etc.

>>17320227
If you feed the animals they will come back.

Be more selective about who you do it with. Or realize you just wanna chill when you do it like most people.

>>17320227
Here's the thing with cool smokers. They don't tell anyone they smoke or try to hide it to the best of their ability. Those are truly the cool smokers. In other words you will have to pay attention to find a cool smoker.

>>17320182
I can smell this bait all the way from the toilet.

at least you didn't wake up to dead hookers.

pic totally related.

>>17320189
Not baiting.. the whole night i told everyone that i wanted to kill myself.. i have been in depression before.. and now that im not seeing my class anymore... makes me depressed aswell.. i just turned 16

Girl B: I've been seeing her since about 1 month. She's 21, lives with her parents but very autonomous. She has her own car and it's much easier to see each other. She's studying art restoration, which obviously won't have much prospects. She's a smoker, but makes an effort to avoid doing it when we're together. She's got glasses which is my main fetish, and overall much better clothing. She's got more prominent piercings which I don't like much though.

Sex is good too, she initiates a bit. She's doesn't always comes, but likes it a lot. She's quite silent though, which I'm not used to. However her body feels really good and from what we talk she is experienced in particular kinks I have and would really like to try.

From the very beginning we've talked a huge lot about ourselves, probably more than I've ever shared with anyone. As a result I learned that she had some troubles with anorexia in the past. She's past it but still sees a psychiatrist and takes some antidepressants, but I wouldn't have guessed if she didn't say it. She's extremely altruistic, which is really soothing. Allegedly a very good cook. She has her own past-times which mainly include a lot of acting in theaters. She's shown happy with just coming to my place and read a book while I play games, which is important for a long-term partner. Likes to travel, and suggested we go on a trip next month with a coupon she has for a free hotel. Choosing her for the moment doesn't mean becoming exclusive.


What do /adv/?

Good luck getting someone to read this bullshit.

>>17320153
Go with B)

A) is gonna be nothing but problems in the future. While B) has a future, plans, a brain and still viable if you ever decided to breed. Plus from reading this i can tell you are leaning more towards B) anyways.

>>17320123
Not enough exercise
Too much junk food
normal relationship lull
time to get kinkier
get testosterone levels checked
gay
bi-bordom
emotional issues
passion gone

If you give a fuck about her you should probably do something.

Well - I guess a good starting place to finding out the cause here would be to ask yourself why your sex drive drops the mic and fucks off when you're around her.

Do you experience this with just her, or all females in general? If it's the former, then you can try to zone in on why it's just her. My own shitty opinion on it is that there's something else in the relationship that is causing you to remove yourself from it on a physical level - and if you want to get anywhere here you need to do some reflecting on that.

>>17320134
Well the whole "not wanting sex" thing makes me question how much of a fuck I actually give.

>>17320139
It's just her. I haven't cheated but I still get horny when I'm alone. It could be other stuff, since we've been together for a while and she always tells me gross stuff about her body and she farts, etc. and idk I think I just miss the mystery.

>>17320120
ur dumb.

dump gf and fug nig
or
stay with gf

not gonna tell you to cheat bro.

>>17320120
>I love my gf
>I just want to fuck another girl
>halp
M8, you are not ready yet for a long term relationship, this happened today if you ignore it, then it will come back later and even more pressing. You might be married and with a kid then, if you are seriously considering destroying your relationship just for the sake of sexual experimentation with others, then end your relationship, it doesn't look like you are committed to it when it comes to accepting the fact that you are only going to have sex with the girl you first had sex with.

You have to weigh up if your temporary instincts are worth sacrificing your long-term love.

I fantasise about previous girls, girls I'd like to get with, etc. but none of those with ever compete with the full package of my girl. It's natural, its instinctive, but cheating to act on it is not just or fair.

I wouldn't myself, but don't feel too guilty about it.

>>17320114
Suffer a fuck ton.

>>17320114
Yeah, by obtaining knowledge through education.

Open a book, open your mind (third eye).

Spreading your asscheeks