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>>17355454
Omegle, chatroulete, IRC channel's.

If over 30 viagara
If under 30, get t levels checked and fix your brain

I had ED with four random hookups in the space of a year which is really awkward. I am comfortable with my girlfriend and there are no issues

>>17355465
Not op here but I had that too sometimes. Like with fwbs or gf it would be fine, but the first time with a new girl would always be a bit more difficult or at one occasion couldn't get it up at all. I found that not fapping a week before helped because I simply would be horny af.

>>17355453
>My sex drive is extremely low /adv/. I can't seem to get in the mood anymore and my girlfriend is starting to get self concious about it. I'm not a very active person either never had a drive to be masculine. What do I do?

heres what you do, say IT IS her and that if she cared about the relationship that she would make things more INTERESTING in the bed

she will immediately get defensive, you need to claim that you still love her ( you dont) and that she needs to liven things up a bit

heres some suggestions

>a threesome with her hot friend
> whilst you give her $5 for a movie on the wrong side of two her hot mother and sister and you have a threesome
>she watches as you bang two prostitutes in a threesome (paid for by her, if she doesnt have a job she can get one to pay for this


remember, guilt is the key, you want to make it seem like its 100% her fault

>>17355419
It's taken you more than 3 years before you experienced a "cheating dream"?

Dude....it's perfectly fine. Your gf is probably having dream sex with all your buddies every night

>>17355450
This.

There's a 100% guarantee your girlfriend dreams AND day dreams about other dicks. Hell, if given the opportunity to go for a vastly superior guy, she'd leave you in a heartbeat.

Get over it. Be with your bitch if you want to be. Don't be with her if you don't. Just don't ride the fence like a little faggot. Man up and do what you want and deal with the consequences that result from your actions.

>>17355419
I have dreams where I've killed someone and am trying to figure out how to destroy the evidence. Doesn't mean I'm planning to go kill someone.

Most times dreams don't mean anything, and when they do, they almost never mean what you think they do.

>>17355415
if you have a GP/family doctor, you can ask if they recommend anybody specific. sometimes medical folks and mental health folks move in similar circles, they probably hear who's good and who's not. only do this if you trust your doc to recommend someone good, and not just someone who's their personal friend. (though if the person is their friend and is also good, that's fine too)

otherwise yeah, basically go down the list. google them up and see if there are any reviews. if you want to get detailed about it, look them up on the map and see where they're located. if the office is in a skeevy part of town, they may not be very good and you may not want to go there. also call around and ask to schedule an appointment. most good places will be booked a few weeks or even a couple months out. call them all and ask when their first available is. if there are 5 clinics in town and 4 of them are booked up for the next month, but the 5th has a suspiciously empty schedule, take that as a sign. the sooner appointment isn't always better.

but you also have to weigh that with how badly you feel you need to see someone. sometimes even a crummy therapist is better than no therapist, if you're just going for a few sessions to get some of your issues out in the open while you wait for one of the better clinics to call you back.

and yes: some people do have to go to a few different therapists before they find one they like. if you get a bad feeling from the therapist right off the bat, go elsewhere. otherwise give it at least a month or two.

>>17355519
thanks! I really appreciate it.

I don't even have a GP right now- that's also on my to-do list. But I'll just do my research.

>>17355536
no problem OP, good luck! hope you get things sorted

....Dat grammar..

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>>17355392
Is he paying for it? You could take the money and pretend to have fucked an escort and instead buy other stuff you want/need with it.

>>17355392
What the fuck kinda Dad...

>>17355390
I'm sure they'd snake a way to fuck you over for it

>>17355390
Just do it for the lolz.

>>17355394
This is what I'm saying is it possible at all?

>>17355379

the truth is most of them arent actually contemplating suicide.

people live in a very extreme world, and unless someone is threatening to kill themselves, no one will take them seriously, or at the very least, these people dont THINK anyone will take them seriously.

you're not valid unless you are the biggest and best at what you are doing, even depression.

most people arent actually suicidal. they are sad.

>>17355386
The first part of your message may be true, but "you're not valid unless you are the biggest and best"? That is exactly the reason people continue to go to extremes. It isn't fair to say that, everyone is valid. People just need to stop ranking others on how sad or angry they are in comparison to someone else. Everyone who feels something is valid and should be acknowledged.
And although some people may just say they feel that way, they should still be treated how anyone else who actually is suicidal would be, because they still require guidance.

>>17355409

>thats exactly the reason people continue to go to extremes
>it isn't fair to say that

thats what im saying. when i say 'you're not valid...' i am referencing the mindset of others, not what i believe the reality is or should be.

>>17355375
>>17355375
Do you have the ability to better yourself? To at least partially mend the parts of you that you feel are broken or distorted from what they should be?

>>17355375

if its that big an issue when the time comes, than adopt.

but ewre not that different. i had horible volcanic blistering acne well into adulthood. skin fucked up, five foot six, the most unfortunate hairline in the world, and definitely not fat, but yeah, its all centered on my fucking belly.

you can make yourself more attractive. there is something beautiful about those who work hard on themselves. not just in vain pursuits, but in all.

but adopting just cuz you have mildly bad issues is kinda dumb, yeh?

fix your body, fix your mind, and fix your soul.

Mainly, I want to fix my soul and body. It's not purely about looks. I thought about adopting, of course. But it doesn't feel the same, you know? To have an offspring of your own or to have something you call a child of yours.

The only other options I can think of are trying to get together with this girl again now that I'm better looking and financially successful (maybe that's crazy) or seeking therapy

>>17355350
I'd seek therapy man. Sounds like you still have some self esteem issues. I used to have the same, sounds to me like you're not happy with yourself. Could this be the case or am I way out of the ball park?

>>17355358
Thank you for the response.

Yes I believe I may have problems with self-esteem; I constantly try to "assert my dominance" with other guys (it sounds so stupid I know) and I think it just comes off as douchey. And as stated in the post, I can't really form a relationship with a woman.

If you don't mind my asking, what did you do to overcome your self-esteem issues? Did therapy help?

>>17355333

dont fuck her

>>17355333
Why would it fuck this up between your families, Romeo?

>>17355342
*things

you're unbelievably pathetic

anyway just get asshole drunk or whatever and delete the fb convo

>>17355339
i know i'm pathetic, i'll also probably never make friends again.

asshole won't likely want to drink unless there's a party happening or something. i'll consider it though.

>>17355326
>i'm a beta pussy
Boy do you have that right.

>any flaws in my plan?

Yeah, this:
>ask to use his phone for a private call
>make an excuse to use his computer
It's not gonna work. Has he lent you these things before? If I were him I know I certainly wouldn't lend your fake ass my phone or computer, let alone both in the same night. Doesn't matter if you think he thinks you're legit: he's probably not that dumb and if he seems that way he could be playing the same game as you and not letting on that he knows you're a jerk.

Why not try talking to him about at least a little of this? If you tell him you're worried chad will find out about your shittalk and cause you physical harm, maybe he'll sympathize a little and you could ask him to delete it himself. You don't have to let on too much that you suspect him of fucking you over- you could just suggest you're worried he'll get "hacked" or some other nonsense. If you can be as pathetic with him as you were here just now it might be hard for him not to pity you.

And if chad really is a cool guy and really does think you're his best friend, maybe you can ease him into the idea that there was a time you didn't realize he was cool and you might have said some shit you now regret.

Be gentle and tactful with this, but get your act together and start learning how to communicate honestly with the people you associate with. You can still nip this thing in the bud but if you keep going with deception and cover ups it's gonna get even worse and shit will go down that's worse than chad seeing that convo and bite you in the ass.

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>>17355325

just tell me the story anon

>>17355336
Thats the funny part, because there is no story at all...

Good night

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>>17355340

i feel ya. night man.

>>17355304

Its possible but you realistically have to dedicate your life to it. Diet, training, amatuer fights, sparring, everyday.

>>17355314

this. why not settle for boxing as a life style but not as a career. my boyfriend does that with various martial arts. hes pretty good, wins the majority of his fights, but he does it all for fun

>>17355314
Not true. Look at tyson fury.

Op, if you wanna box, then box. But only if you like the whole package and enjoy the tough times. If you try to push yourself through when you dont genuinly enjoy it, you will eventually hit the wall.

And remember: the first 1-2-3 years youre gonna get alot of beating

You dont neccecarily need an athletic body

Craigslist

Ask a black person.

>>17355258
But, cops...
>>17355260
I did! He was even a jacked, tattooed felon! He tried to sell me weak meth disguised as coke. I test my stuff, so I let him know what he was actually selling.

He was an unhappy black man for a few minutes but then refunded my money and thanked me. We're still actually pretty tight.

So I made a cool friend but still... no drugs.

Trim with small scissors

>>17355293

Bad idea unless you are a professional...you could get do brazillian on your bushy eye brows.

>>17355243
I use one of those electric trimmer things. My one has detachable heads so I can select the length. Takes 5 seconds to trim my bushy brows - which are bushier than yours