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What do you feel like doing?
Don't you have stuff to do and can't be on the phone all the time?...

There's nothing wrong with talking less, but you should send a message sometimes.
Don't even think that the msg should start the conversation, but just send her a moment a of your day - people take pictures of food, per say, followed by a describing "Best coffee ever".
The last time I did this I sent her a picture of me on the club reading a book on a beautiful sunny day in Brasil (where I live), "Awesome day to be out!".

>>17354717
>What do you feel like doing?
Not gonna lie, I'm a pretty lonely person, so I want to talk to her a lot. I really like her so far, but I don't want to crowd her obviously or make her think I'm needy.

But I'll keep what you said in mind though.

Ask her what she is doing, ask her about her day. Text her about your day, thing you found funny through out the day, etc

>>17354678
What the fuck kind of question is that? You unbutton and unzip.

>>17354678

i dont like to unbutton or unbuckle. it kinda depends what im wearing. if im wearing a suit, i use the fly of my underwear and pants. if im wearing shorts, i just pull the boxers down with them.

anything inbetween i take on a case by case basis.

but no, if you google 'urinal secret cam' and sit through hours of really ugly men peeing as a fetish you will find that very many use the fly in their underwear.

>Friend is insisting the fly is just for show and no one actually uses it.
Your friend is a toddler apparently.

The only time I don't use my fly is when I'm wearing underwear without a dickflap.

>>17354657
Why not just go up and talk to those already at the park?

Or just walk outside right now and meet them.
Right now.

Also do it before the hype wears off and the only people who still play are the autistic weirdos.

>>17354657

no need man. just go up and talk to em. i did it last week and it was awesoem. got five of thems phones numbers and were all going to the beach on saturday to catch pokemon together.

>>17354632

and id like to get fucked in the ass by twelve muscular black men without getting AIDS, but thats not possible.


decide whats more important, and go for it.

my advice? ask her out, assuming she doesnt at this meeting. if you dont do it you'll just keep obsessing til it destroyst he friendship anyways.

>>17354651
We've gone out before. 2 weeks ago, she came back town for 3 days. We "dated " 3/3. It was so amazing... I think i'm going for it.

Any suggestions how? A little present or something?

>>17354672

whatever you think is best. she seems into you so being romantic is fine, versus with new girls it being weird. a little present. flowers. somethign traditional and cute.

you can't, that's now how it works

Are you fourteen or sixteen, first?

>>17354613
Why did you lie when you ticked the box?

Try something along the lines of "listen I love you and appreciate your concern for my future but I honestly have ZERO interest in doing that and I need you to respect my decision."

If my significant other ever tried to control me, what I enjoy, or my plans for the future I'd tell her to learn some fucking respect.

please tell me the program you found. I'm using my bachelors in biology to work at the post office. if my girlfriend told me to get a masters I'd set our apartment on fire

You can't please everyone, OP. Friend numero dos for sure he sounds like a friend that will last, and as do memories, so choose wisely.

Well you gave a super long rant about #1 and the only "negative" thing you had to say about #2 was that you haven't been friends as long. It sounds like you should invite #2

>>17354540

not gonna bother reading their descriptions cuz it doesn't matter.

first and foremost, happy birthday. my birthday is july 24th but im celebrating the 23rd as well. not with a cabin in the woods, but yeah.

deep down you know who you want to bring, so just bring that person. he might not be able to go and you can invite the other without guilty anyway. but invite the person you want, nto the person that logic or culture dictates should go.

who do you want?

and if that doesnt ring true, then do the following

stand up, take three deep breaths. ask yourself out loud 'do i want (friend1) to come to the cabin instead of (friend2) ?'

if your body leans forward YES, you want friend 1. if your body leans back NO you want friend 2.

Is that all the note said?

>>17354548
There was a lot of bitching about the tenants' guests, which I don't have any and letting people into the gate at 2:31 am (one gate uses a card scanner while the other the person dials a code that calls your cellphone number and you dial 9 to open the gate).

Keep the note, but I assume he is just being a dick. Maybe he plans to add $2643 dollars to everyones rent for a month? Regardless, he can't legally make all of you pay for it unless that's part of your lease/rental agreement, which would be odd.

>>17354483
What exactly are you overthinking ? Your own issues or things with her?

>>17354501
I guess it's both. I start to overthink things with her, and I catch myself doing it so I tell myself to stop doing it. When that happens it feels like my brain just stops.

Well...

I believe a man shouldn't have a woman in the center of his life. I don't mean we shouldn't love her, yes, we should and it's fucking awesome for both sides in many ways, but when we are talking about priorities, woman shouldn't be number one.

And I believe they don't want you to put them on number one. If you do so, you'll stop following your life and dream, stop growing, sacrificing it to be with her.

Bottom line, puting her first makes you and her sad and less atracted to each other or life. Therefore, you should stop forcing yourself to "love her all the time" and give yourself some love. That's one way you can love her more and fully.

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I would be uncomfortable with a girl who's uncomfortable with not being the only hot girl in existence.

>>17354489
I'm completely aware of that, but wouldn't it be respectful to not say certain things to your girlfriend?

You chose your partner for a reason. I do understand that "look at the menu, but don't buy" thought process.. But there's no reason to be talking to someone you consider a partner about this unless your gf is a closet dyke. Are you TRYING to make her jealous? This is manipulation.

Be respectful, save it for the dudebros. It just makes you look thirsty anyways.

Are you drinking enough water? Getting enough fiber (so certain fruits/vegetables/beans/oats/other good sources of fiber) in your diet? If yes to both of these, you should probably talk to your doctor.

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>>17354469
try doing a few bodyweight squats per day or walking for 5-10 minutes.

>>17354750
pretty much anything on that list that looks easy and involves glutes or abdominal muscles. Sit-ups, crunches, leg raises, squats,

>>17354450

was diagnosed with a 'mild' form of brain damage earlier this year, MdDS. no idea how i got it. docs claimed i could have just stressed myself hard enough to make it happen. total bullshit.

even now that I've mostly recovered i still have issues. namely my shitty memory and poor coordination.

ive definitely come back... 'different' and i kinda get you. i definitely feel like a different person than the guy who had this body in january. but i am who i am and theres no reason i need to be that guy.

as for your recovery. only your docs know, not us.

>>17354464
I'm just feeling really blue about it man. I just wish I could concentrate on what I was doing instead of worrying about people thinking I'm retarded. Even when I'm not around people, I'm often ruminating about whatever stupid thing I did or said earlier.

I just want to be intelligent enough so I can socially cohere, or at least learn how not to be a total leper. I'm not asking to be an astronaut, I just want to live and function normally like everyone else.

It's so depressing man.

>>17354713

i feel ya. but hteres certainly a learning lesson in here, wouldn't you say? not to rub it in just... now you know better.

even now that im recovered i still get it. i am able to run my business but theres still aspects of my intelligence that seem... affected. if i bring it up casually to someone, especially potential romantic partners, they quickly lose interest.

lost a lot of friends over the whole ordeal.

>>17354442
Ehhh. If summertime is approaching and she's going back home for three months, now wouldn't be the optimal time. What do you think is gonna happen? You'll make such a big impression that she'll spend the whole summer texting you?

Better to wait until the new school year, or just forget it.

This is a sixth form college in England, we're all local.

>>17354460
Oh, well, in that case just ask for her number and hope you're able to act charming on instinct.

>>17354404
Is she not paying her own rent? Or would you not be living together? I'm confused.

>>17354410
Yeah living together. Right now we both live with our parents. She has a cushy government job, great benefits, etc. and could easily afford rent. I, on the other hand, would have to struggle at the level I'm at now.

Shitty job and living with your parents vs Shitty job and living with your girlfriend.

You know what you have to do.

>>17354402
what are your interest?

>>17354420
Horror novels, writing, mental illness and physical deformity, David Lynch, dreams, the Souls series of video games, music, isolation, being displeased with myself and people in general.

>>17354429
lmao
I don't know why I even try. I'm friendless myself.
I'd rather advice to learn how to be comfortable by your own.