What's a good excuse to explain to employers why I had long absence from employment?
What's the true reason?
>>17353610
Say that you've traveled the world or something.
>>17353610
world travel
taking care of a relative full time (They're better now, or maybe they died) etc.
I dont understand my brother, I just lock the door to masturbate and he always came and start hitting the shitty door. At the beggining I just stopped masturbating but then I just started to ignore him. The problem is that now he start to speak loud in the house about why I lock myself in my room. What I can do to solve this problem?
Brother is 21
>>17353602
How old are you?
>>17353604
>18
Move out.
If you impregnate a girl what do you do? Having the baby isn't an option, both parents absolutely cannot fucking know and you can't have an abortion in your country, except for specific cases that none apply to you?
You're an asshole.
Just grow up, tell your parents, and raise the child.
Or just punch her in the stomach until she miscarries you immature little fuck.
>>17353596
Asshole why you cunt? We both can't raise a baby, and I don't want to leave her, yet I'm an asshole fucking still? Help or get the fuck out
>>17353587
What country are you in? Is there a nearby country you could take her to to get the pregnancy terminated? If not, you can surely give the baby to some fucking nuns, assuming you live in a pope-addled shithole.
Wear condoms, dummy.
I'm sweating like a motherfucker. Especially now, if I step out a few minutes later I'm drenched. I've tried a good number of deodorant but all they do is make the smell of sweat mix with the deodorant, which is even worse. I'm not particularly obese either (around 85 kg with 180 cm). Anyone has any tips what can I do with this?
>>17353567
Always like this? Or just because it's summer and hot?
If you are prone to sweating year-round, you have some sort of gland problem. You need to visit a dermatologist to get some prescription strength deodorant.
>>17353572
Only when it's hot and/or humid, so very bad during the summer.
In colder weather it's only bad if I get on the subway/bus in warm clothing when the heat is on.
>>17353567
You're a little overweight but I don't know if that's just muscle mass or body fat. Could all just be genetics. Try wearing fast wicking fabrics like under armor and merino wool. Cotton is a no go. As far as deodorants go, try Dry Idea advance dry. Shit is odorless and it lasts two days. Really good stuff.
Some family member that just died left me money in his will, as I'm told by other family. I never met him; but this was incredibly nice.
What does this mean? What do I need to do? How long does the process take?
So confused.
Make a dubs get thread and give away steam games
>>17353600
The best advice of this month
seconded
>>17353564
Cheapest solution is to find the executor of the will (typically a family member) and confirm whether it is true that you have money coming to you. If so, and if there is no dispute about it, you deal with the executor to collect.
If there is some family dispute about whether you can/should get it, buy an hour or two of a probate lawyer's time for a consult. About 90% of sole practitioner lawyers will claim to "do probate," but they are dirty liars who are just trying to make an easy few hundred bucks. Look for someone who advertises that they do wills, trusts, and probate, rather than, say, a personal injury or family law attorney who takes the odd probate case.
Possibly you can get a free consultation, but this is less likely the better the attorney. If you have a significant amount of money coming your way, paying for an hour or two just to see your options will be worth it.
My gf (27) and I (28) have been together for about 2 years now.
She has a problem that's bugging me and I dont know what to do. She keeps pressuring me to commit. I don't want to commit yet because I'm waiting for someone better to come along.
How do I stop her from constantly pecking at me about marriage?
Dump her, fuck around for a while then hope you meet this "better girl" in the process. Staying with her is pointless if you feel that way.
wasting your time, just go for the 'better one'
>>17353558
I will dump her when I find someone else. Besides the nagging, she does cook and clean, buys me whatever I want and the sex is decent. If I can't stop the nagging then what's a faster way to meet a better woman?
>apply for a good job in a new city, with the plan to move in with my partner
>end up getting said job, complete surprise
>need to leave my current job which I enjoy but this is a good thing because I need a challenge
>due to move over in just over a week
>suddenly hit with the highest level of anxiety I have ever experienced in my life
I can move to a new area, I can start a new job but I absolutely cannot shake off relationship concerns.
Backstory, we've known each other several years and are extremely close. We're not your conventional couple but we work extremely well together, we're best friends, extremely open and the sex is great. I think they're simply wonderful, warts and all, and I've never been as happy with another persons company in my entire life. I miss them terribly whenever we're apart.
I just have these nagging concerns about things that never bothered me before. What if we move in together and things go stale? What if it's all just in our heads and everything breaks down? What if all the trust I have for them is based purely on how much I want to be with them and secretly, they're a massive cunt and end up fucking me over?
I know I can't rule any of the above out and its good to be cautious but it's ruining what should be an amazing experience for us both. I want to go into it absolutely buzzing with excitement and take advantage of this amazing opportunity.
I can't keep speaking to them about it because it's unnecessary pressure and there is only so much they can reassure me before the words seem empty.
How can I manage such a huge life change and approach it in the most positive way? I don't want to ruin what could be the best move of my life.
>>17353548
Fake it.
This is the best advice I was ever given. If you fake it hard enough eventually your brain gives up and you actually will be extremely positive. This works in most aspects of life. If it's tearing you apart inside you just have to learn to deal with it, as dismissive as that sounds. Faking it will actively retrain your brain to look at these things with a positive outlook.
>>17353615
Thank you for your response.
I'm very good at the whole faking it thing because I am a born worrier and it helps me get past it. However, it's more of a long term solution than something I can use in the short term. As I said, I don't have long until the move happens and it's really important to me that I approach it as positively as possible.
I'm not sure what advice I'm looking for really. I just want to make sure I don't ruin something amazing just because my stupid brain is trying to prepare me for all eventualities.
>>17353630
Find time to meditate if you can. That can help a great deal in the short term.
Find a hobby that gives you time to just focus on something else. The stress a good hobby can relieve is immeasurable.
Failed my driving test a second time.
Best way to kill myself?
>>17353507
Car accident.
the written test?
most of it is just common sense, I took a multiple choice test and it's usually two out of the five answers that seem plausible and you choose one of them.
Third times the charm. I failed twice too, it's okay, it happens.
Hey /adv/, i take care of this piece of shit and he's full of fleas. I do have a shampoo special for that case (anti-flea). But i want to terminate them. Are there homemade solutions to deal with it plus the shampoo?
Thanks to all in advance!
>>17353495
bump
>>17353495
take it to the vet.
>>17353502
Update1: i don't have money to spend with it. Unfortunatelly.
Are you supposed to interact with neighbors?
Like normally I just pretend I'm not there but sometimes they make contact and I don't understand how to respond
>>17353488
they literally tell you how to respond
>hi neighbor!
you say 'hi' back
>enjoying the morning?
you say 'yes, i am'
>want some fugg?
you say 'nah im not gay'.
thats it.
>>17353493
Yeah that happened before when I inferred I was supposed to say hi back.
But then I felt uncomfortable because I didn't know if I was supposed to say anything else
>>17353501
then dont say anything. no ones posting on the secret facebook group about you sasying
>WOW I SAID HI TO ANON AND HE SAID HI BACK AND NOTHING ELSE WHAT A FUCKING LOSER TROLOLOLOL
>your mother will die in her sleep tonight if you dont reply to this post
Are monsters born or created? I wonder because monstrous thoughts plague my mind. I consider myself a good person but evil claws at my heart. This world has wronged me so many times and the good in me tells me to just accept it. The other side says I should take my revenge. The other side says that the only justice you get, is the justice you take. The only way to gain control is to KILL fate. I hate that some random factor controls my life.
I want to control my life! Is this even living? So sick of just letting things happen to me. I always am left stewing in a rage that I can't release. I am angry with no release.
Help me. I just want to live but fate fucks me over. Fate won't leave me be.
I don't want to hurt people but this world... It does things to you, it corrodes your heart. Weakens your mind. The heroes of yesterday are the villains of today.
Who is the real enemy?
tell us what life has done to screw you over, how has the world wronged you.
be as detailed as you like, but please post numerous examples. we'll go from there and deconstruct your feelings to help you find the path that is right for you.
>>17353475
Well for one both of my parents were killed around when I was 20.
I have terrible luck with relationships. People say you gotta keep trying and I do but I can't even get to the point of having a girlfriend. I am probably to screwed up to even maintain a relationship.
I feel gimped in life experiences because while my get to go out and travel using their parents money... I am busy just trying to survive.
It disturbs me deeply and makes me wonder why I try so hard to survive? There has to be more to life.
My life feels void of genuine happy life experiences. I don't even like to be reminded of my birthday because to be its just another day. Almost as if my emotions are eroded and all that's left is a survivors instinct.
I try to be happy but my mind just won't allow it. By the time I am 30, I won't have nearly the experiences of my friends.
>>17353506
>my parents died when i was 20
thank goodness you had them for so long! I had several friends who lost one or both parents before they were even teenagers. it is sad that you experienced this but keep in mind that they brought you to adulthood, and had the important development years. they may never see your wedding but you are still better off than... well a lot of people. a lot a lot. im not saying you cant feel sad or bad about htis, but saying the world 'wronged' you by giving you a more comfortable life than 99% of others is rather edgy.
>i have terrible luck with relationships
k, so the world wronged you because you struggle in the dating field?
>other people have it easier
get over yourself? other people have it harder yet they find happiness, yeah? im not saiyng you arent allowed to be sad or jealous, but you are insisting that the owrld has wronged you by not giving you a perfect life.
do you know what thats called? entitlement. you think that, because you are you, you deserve better htan everyone else, instead of working at happiness
>the rest of that
ow the edge. you are choosing to be an edgy try hard. you are. you really really are. very few people will have the experience of your friends.
make your own experience.
I know other people feel bad, but I used to think they were faking it. I don't get it, I lie, steal cheat etc and never feel bad. Why do they feel bad?
>>17353417
Because they don't have a neurological disorder, you sociopath.
>>17353428
>implying OP didnt make this thread and guided you towards that answer
>implying he didnt want to feel cool being called a sociopath
>>17353428
what do you mean? my friend called me that too
What are some comfy jobs that are easy to get, require you to interact with only a few people (or none) and don't require experience, for someone who's depressed and suicidal?
>>17353374
they dont exist. if they did everytone would covet them.
no jobs exist to asist thoughs who are depressed or suicidal. why would they hire someone who wants to kill themselves?
i guess you might find osmehting depending on your definition of 'comfy'
Software developer, programmer, etc.
>>17353403
Well maybe they existed but were low paying? I almost go to be a janitor in my building but they took some other person.
>>17353407
Ironically those were the ones I was trying to get but couldn't. I know some software dev stuff and programming but I hate it. I guess I should keep trying there.
Thanks.
>Be me.
>Be only 20 years old.
>Spend 20 years of my life devoted to others.
>Get kicked down. Time after time.
>Every time I say I quit, I continue on.
>Be 8. Live the last truly happy year of my life
>Life completely changes. I feel the happiness drain from every facet of my reality, but I am not quite aware of it yet.
>Watch as all of my friends completely isolate me.
>Watch as I become the social pariah that I never truly wanted to be. I just wanted to fit in and be happy.
>Be 12. Move from original state to new state.
>Find out my Father has cancer.
>TFW
>TFW
>Become biter. Start to realize that every bit of happiness I ever lived was a lie. That life was as much a bitter joke as reality itself.
>Watch as my Father becomes a husk of who he was. Watch as he tries to his last seen breath defending his one true gem he had left in the world.
>The gem is me.
>Be 13. Father is on Death Bed. Refuse to go see him.
>It's too painful.
>Hear that he finally died.
>It hit's really hard.
>I feel nothing now.
>Spend the next few years seperating myself from everything I've ever known. Everything I've ever cared for.
>Completely seperate myself from reality.
>Live life in my own bitter shell of masochism and sadism.
>Watch many things I regret to this day.
>Do many things I regret to this day.
>Find my way out of the darkness.
>Find a path in life that makes me feel like it's all worth it again.
>Spend the next 6 years completely devoted to changing myself from my Evil ways and becoming what I once thought I was.
>Get kicked down every time I try to trust anyone or anything. Start to hate, but I eventually forgive.
>Realize that I am slowly rotting away. I am no longer what I thought I was.
>My mind no longer is as sharp as it was when I was a Teen.
>My spirit is as shattered as it was when my Father died.
>Still trying to find hope. Still searching.
>Be 20.
>Find dream job in Japan.
>Finally feel like I'm going to help people again.
>Like it's all going to matter once more.
>Arrive. Nothing feels different.
>I try and give it everything I have.
>This is my last shot.
>I eventually get fired.
>Full onset depression. I find alcohol. It's the only thing that eases the pain.
>It's the only thing that truly makes me.. Feel again.
>Watch as everything I have ever done amounts up to depression and debt.
>Find God.
>Give everything I have.
>Try to believe.. Just one more time.. For old times sake..
>Nothing changes
>People are destroyihng me and my life.
>Be writing this post in tears.
>Please.. Kill me
I don't want to change 4Chan.
I want to help others. I love to see how they look when they can feel that someone is truly looking out for them..
But I can't do it anymore..
>>17353392
I just want to make sure that you know I'm listening to your history, so keep going.
/adv/, how can you tell when a girl is into you? particularly over text/snapchat? also, if you're snapping somebody that you're in to, how do you go about getting their actual phone number? and should you make a point of doing that before asking them out?
>>17353363
there is this weird new trend / culture of young men such as yourself who think women are in charge of making moves or at least signalling they are ready for moves.
they are not. and there is no real world tangible consequence for making a move when you are 'unsure'. stop waiting for a girl to be a 'sure thing' and just do what you want. you've been talking to her reasonably enough so go for her number. or just ask her to hang out irl.
>>17353376
this directly contradicts the advice often given by other anons on this board though
>>17353363
make a joke and then hold her hand.
If she laughs and holds you back in an excited manner then maybe. If its tepid then improve your game and try somebody else.
Also its the future and casual sex is normal, so you can get laid any time by a horny stranger.