So what's the deal with texting? I see people who are just texting on their phone all day every day. How did they get these people's numbers? What are they even talking about? How do people go about collecting 100+ phone numbers?
>100+ phone numbers
Are you shitting me? I have over 500 contacts and I'm one of the least sociable persons I know. It's mostly people you meet at work, school, on trips, when going out etc.
>What are they even talking about?
What they ate last night, the weather, that movie, that person, etc. Basically nothing.
>>17352996
>I'm one of the least sociable persons I know
You ain't.
>Tfw you only have 12 contacts.
I live in Perth West Aus
The drinking water has turned shit in the last two days, I've run about 150 lt through the tap to see if it clears up.
It's made my girlfriend sick. Problem is we're students and if we're going out to buy water we can't really afford to do so.
Are there any alternatives to where I could be getting my water ? (Apartments)
You can buy Arizona iced tea for cheaper than water
Buy a few home brand 1.5 litre water bottles and just refill them in some random tap, just make sure it's not bore water and make sure you don't get caught if your refilling them in some cunts yard
Can't you filter the water and then boil it?
Or just buy bottled water in bulk.
How can I increase my self confidence and self esteem?
I always get depressed about stuff over little things that happened to me.
Then I tend to speak or share it with someone and realize how stupid I'm being
>>17352914
Self-esteem and self-worth are things that you need to spend time on constructing by yourself.
It takes a lot of work (and I mean years of work) for any person to build their self-worth up to where they want to be.
The truth is that everyone has faced depression. I know everyone else on the surface looks like their lives are perfect and happy, and you aren't good enough to be in their lives, but it's all a facade. Everyone has an internal struggle that they don't reveal to the people around them.
You can start by forcibly pushing away negative thoughts. I know it sounds hard at first, but it gets easier the more you do it. When a negative thought enters your head, just imagine hitting ctrl+alt+del and going into your brain's task manager and ending the process. This simple little trick worked for me.
Also, don't worry about sounding stupid. You're simply having a rough patch in your life and feel that you need someone to talk to about it. You just need to pick the right person to talk to. And the MOST IMPORTANT PART is to know that this person does not hold your life together, you do.
>>17352926
Why do I have to work on all of that for years when others have it straight off birth?
Also, is this normal for me? I'm still, an.. uh.. teenager (no mods pls)
>>17352972
I suppose some people have it straight from birth, but I don't think that's the question you should be asking. Don't worry about what you don't have, but start building on what you already do have. Other people aren't really part of your self worth.
I've spent the past year looking for jobs, anything to earn money, but have found nothing. Just graduated high-school so no work experience, but I try to soldier on anyway. Had to leave college and live with my grandparents because I couldn't afford to keep going without going into debt.
Temp Agencies, Factories, Car Mechanics, Fast Food, supermarkets, and even damn internships across two different states won't even look at me. I have been to three interviews after hundreds of applications, and they never said anything again, even after I returned to see if they had a verdict.
Any advice on how to get any kind of Job, or should I just give up.
You're obviously doing something wrong if a fast food place won't hire you. Work on how you present yourself. Have good hygiene, wear appropriate clothes to the interviews, make sure you smile and are very enthusiastic and friendly. See what the starting pay rates are for whatever you're applying for and don't ask for more, you're going to have to gain work experience. Are you handicapped or have a criminal record? Just go to a restaurant and introduce yourself and ask if they're hiring. Shake hands and make eye contact. Idk what else to tell you.
>>17352907
Oh and don't tell any potential employers or coworkers that nobody will hire you! Tell them you couldn't work after high school because you were taking care of your grandparents or something.
>>17352919
I always make sure to shower, brush teeth, comb hair, and other necessary things especially before going in for a job.
When it comes to starting pay I either leave it blank or put the minimum wage for the state I'm applying in. Though looking at it now I come off as a bit desperate.
>>17352921
I don't mention that I'm applying anywhere else unless they ask, and I never mention that I've been out of work for so long.
Semi-continuation of the thread I had a few days ago. to sum up the previous thread:
>going through a rough patch.
>instead of helping, my friend (lets call him Adam) ends up doing a dick move making things worse, which made me personally feel betrayed and made me explode in rage on him.
>However, He didnt know I was in a rough patch, and I my reaction may have been exaggerated given that fact.
now for the issue at hand, After cooling off, I apologized for my reaction and explained that I am going through some hard time. Adam apologized for his actions aswell.
Now the problem is, I am still angry at Adam and I cant just forgive him that easily. I told him that and said that maybe in time we could go back to usual.
haven't heard from Adam until yesterday, when he told me that I cant judge him over one mistake and a background situation he didnt know about and that its my own fault for never telling about it.
This morning, a mutual friend (lets call him Ben) says that he talked with Adam, he knows the details and basically told me the same thing as Adam and that we should move on.
I need an unbiased opinion here, is it really that wrong of me to be still be angry at Adam? simply because he said "I'm sorry"? how come I am the bad guy here?
>>17352904
I think you being purposely vague is the worst part.
>>17352933
Vague how?
>>17352904
Are you going to let 2 other people dictate how you feel?
This Adam character is trying to blame YOU for something that HE did. Who gives a shit about what this Ben motherfucker is saying.
You're mad and you have every right to continue to be mad until something changes.
You have two options:
>Drop these assholes and find better friends
>Continue hanging out in this toxic friendship, but remember that this Adam guy doesn't give a shit about you.
Learn from your mistake about trusting Adam.
I basically have 0 talents and 0 skills
I suck at everything I do, and yes, I know the regular old "keep trying" phrase but I do keep trying and I will what? Succeed at the 500th try?
I even suck at fucking video games
the fuck you need a talent or skill for? you trying to win a beauty pageant or some shit?
Don't give up. Took me 7 years to learn to paint and I'm still finding out things every time I pick up the brush.
If you like something enough, you'll get there. As long as you're looking for a "talent" you're looking for work to do. Find something you like doing even though you suck. It gets better.
>>17352875
You sound like no fun to be around at all.
Are you the guy who rage quits during Mario Party?
You're good at something, you just need to find it. Or stop putting yourself down for the good traits that you do have, and have convinced yourself "don't count" or something.
I'm getting sick of it. On this Internet I check out forums but rarely see a topic that interests me. So I started trying to create topics. Right away I noticed that no matter what I say people will insult me. Quite often what they say will have nothing to do with the topic. As if they just want to shit on everything. Other times people will just instantly go off topic and derail the topic.
I don't think it's actually that what I present isn't interesting it's as if there is actually just a bunch of people who thrive on ruining stuff.
How do you not get irritated at such stuff?
I'm so sick of trying to find others to learn with and expand my understanding of things but only finding the scat league of the universe instead.
try redit.
>>17352870
Guess what the common denominator is? Hint: it's you.
Don't expect others to simply understand things while overlooking the fact that you might not be communicating your ideas very well.
Also, you're getting mad at something on the Internet. The solution is to not go online and turn off the computer.
So right now I'm looking for a job and an apartment. I currently have a job but it's part time and I need a full time one. And I live in an apartment now but my lease ends soon, so I have to look for another.
But here's the problem: when I think of actually looking and applying for jobs/apartments, my mind just goes crazy. It makes me want to kill myself. For some reason it just seems so insurmountable to simply send in applications. It's like my brain just goes super depressed and horrified at the idea. I don't know how to explain it. Has anyone else felt this way?
Whenever I try to tell myself to look for a job, and an apartment, I just get so stressed out and end up doing nothing.
>>17352868
Its call anxiety, procrastinating makes it worse.
take time to figure out what skills you have or what positions you would be most comfortable with and apply for those jobs.
>>17352868
Get over it quick before it's too late. Make a list of what needs to get done and just do it.
1. Get your resume together, have an outfit for interviews on standby. Do some research online on how to make a good resume and cover letter.
2. Apply for jobs online or in person. Google sample job application emails to give you an idea of what to say. Apply to as many as you can. Proofread before you press send and always make sure your resume is attached
3. If you're in the US, check Zillow or Trulia online (or download the apps) to see apartments for rent in areas you want to live in. Contact the ones you like. Figure out your roommate situation.
Do you know how many people apply for jobs and look at places for rent everyday? If they can do it then so can you.
>>17352879
>>17352908
Man I try but whenever I open a job application I just freak out. For some idea, it just seems impossible.
I've done them before, I have a job now, I've had jobs before. But actually just taking the step to fill the stuff in, my brain just looks up and I seem incapable of doing it. I think my anxiety with this is just off the charts. Sometimes it feels like committing suicide would be easier. I know that sounds ridiculous, but that's what my mind comes to.
I'm way too clingy.
I don't know how to stop myself. I chatter nearly constantly when bf is home, he says he doesn't mind, and comments on missing my chatter when I've been away, but still...it's sort of embarrassing. I expect a lot of attention from him, and I tend to talk very personally and seriously. He says the only thing that bothers him is when I am ranting in an upset way, because he feels like there's nothing he can do. He's usually pretty brutally honest, so even if this is all sugarcoated a bit and it's more like "I hate when you upset rant because it's a waste of my time and is stressful because you expect comfort rather than just an ear" that's fine.
Mostly I'm just embarrassed for myself. I have a lot of hobbies (I leave the apartment alone to do these more than he does), and we have some shared hobbies. I just feel like I'm way too needy but...I don't even know what to do about that, especially when he is happy to give me attention/conversation 90% of the time.
>>17352867
So are you just bitching, or do you have a question?
>>17352959
Does anyone have any advice for becoming less clingy/needy when there is no external enforcement not to be?
>>17352969
yeah, don't.
He says he doesn't mind, why are you set on changing yourself?
Anyone else paranoid that no one actually likes you?
How do you get over yourself?
I try to be independent and get real sad every week or two. it's fine.
>>17352865
Isn't that just part of being human?
>>17352865
I just secretly resent anyone who's not immediately close to me and do what I want.
Everyone's got a good amount of superficiality to them, I don't blame them if they perceive me under a bad light, as I can be just as superficial. We're all idiots.
Moving on..
Person A really enjoys movie
Person B thinks movie is bad
>movie is bad by default because Person B thinks so
>Person B mocks/judges Person A for liking movie
>No person can like that movie possibly because it is "bad"
>Social situations become awkward because Person B mocks discussion of said movie, unknowing of who else likes it.
Ghostbusters?
>>17352845
Well person B is kind of a dick.
And person A probably has bad taste in movies.
Is this a hypothetical situation or do you really like Independence Day that much
>>17352847
haha, it's hypothetical, i'm personally not involved but theres been heated debates between a really good friend of mine and a lesser friend who is in the same friend group and Person B is the lesser friend and i was just wondering what his traits are
I have a hard time communicating and spit game to women when text messaging or chatting via facebook. I am ok in person but I am just plain boring when I text.
For example, met a cutie firefighter girl (I am one too) and she initiated conversation. We had a good time and she eventually added me on facebook. I tried to initiate a conversation with "Hey the girl with pretty eyes, how are you doing". She wrote "Hey there! I am doing great how about you". I just replied "I'm good too"...That's all. I don't know how to continue. I always never talk to a girl after this. If she is interested, she will let me know but if she doesn't try to maintain the conversation, it's already over.
Thoughts?
>>17352841
>I'm good too.
Did you just leave it at that, you didn't think to ask her out?
>>17352841
Play to your strengths better, man. If you suck at texting, keep it in its place. Text conversations should typically be used solely for A. Building rapport and 2. Setting up dates (you can ask out via text but I personally find in person works better).
Literally just ask her out for beers or something. If it doesn't work then whatever move on, won't be the end of the world.
>>17352849
No I sent her some pictures of my bakery ( I work part-time there) and wrote "Are you hungry?" And she replied "Wow it looks great! I am actually eating dinner right now haha ;) " That's it.
>>17352855
The trouble is that she lives 300km away. We met at a competition between firefighters. I usually avoid these kind of women because they are cum dumpsters and attention seeking whores but she seems better than the others.
Has anyone ever left home and never talked to their parents again? Details please this is my wet dream
>>17352816
NEVER, no, but I did all but disappear for about ten years. I came to regret it. But then, I had no real reason to disappear; it just meant Doing Things, and it was a time in my life when I didn't Do Things.
But even though I had no good reason, the fact remains that good reasons can and do happen sometimes. You may well have good reasons, but I don't have the information to know that. So tell us about your parents. Are they abusive? Are they neglectful? What makes you want to banish them from your life?
>>17352816
I didn't completely cut them out of my life, but I have removed myself enough from their influence that I can control when I talk to them.
What kind of advice are you looking for? Moving out advice, or how to get ungrounded because you're underage
I've been moved out for over a year now and I've gotten to the point I only call my parents at most once every other month because I'm still on their health insurance or stuff gets mailed there and need info sometimes.
I'm hoping eventually to get off their health insurance and never need to talk to them but eh.
What's the best brand/food to eat while trying to get fit
>>17352810
I really like eggs and bacon.
You can really eat anything in moderation. Just keep an eye on your calories and it really doesn't matter at all what you eat.
>>17352810
eggs (nature's vitamin/protein pill), vegetables.
you aren't getting enough fibre, enough micros, enough protein, it's almost sure.
Here OP, this video will help you.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qux9-HOm6eg
Usually really critical of bad/stupid tattoos, made the appointment for my first and only tattoo 2 years in advance and flew 2000 miles to the artist.
Suddenly want a bad, stupid tattoo. Pic related. Considering getting someone who can make it look more like a natural birthmark but still clearly a star.
I'm turning into shit-tattoo garbage after fighting it so long. Weeby, bad design AND "lol but it's okay if it's ugly so long as it means something and I liek it"
Euthanize me. Or tell me how to get over this craving I've had for two fucking years. If it matters at all, I'm a bodybuilder and think it would be kinda funny on top of me being a nerdweeb.
>>17352807
Just do what you want. If you want a stupid fucking tattoo, then get it. If you're a bodybuilder and you're huge then any kind of tattoo is going to look fine as long as it's not really ridiculously stupid (OP is not ridiculously stupid).
It's all well and good if you're ripped like a Jojo character...but can you POSE like one?!
I'm face to toe in tattoos. I have well over 30. Some are fantastic, some are mediocre and only one I've had lasered, then covered up.
The truth is; it's just drawings and art. You'll like it no matter what if it's something you're attached to done by someone who cares for your idea (or is an excellent artist).
People from all walks of life get tattoos for all sorts of reasons. I can understand harsh criticism on myself from the public because I'm pretty shocking looking; but everyone has them nowadays and all sorts have had them for thousands of years. From young boys to wrinkly old women
It's human culture, it's fun, it's 2016 and most tattoos are pretty classy nowadays.
Go for it, it's a good idea.