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>>17455742
>35
>married for a decade
>no kids
>just got home from seeing some local band
>didn't have to pay for a baby sitter
>don't have to pay for school or baby clothes
>don't have to touch someone else's feces
>its just after midnight and I'm listening to loud music, drinking good whiskey, completely naked
>I have enough disposable income that I'm not worried about retirement and have gotten deep into two pricey hobbies

The better question is whats the point of living if you have children.

>>17455794
what's the point of being married then?
Do both of you not want to have kids?

>>17455799
Neither of us want kids, but we're into each other. We have similar interests, enjoy one another's company, I literally cannot imagine life without her. She's like a best friend I get to have sex with who shares half of the bills and is still into picking up college girls in bars. She knows things about me that nobody else ever will. Its a wonderful, mutual, adult relationship. Why would we want to fuck that up with an expensive, time consuming child who would ruin a lot of the things we like to do just by being there? Spontaneous brunch and Bloody Marys? Not with a toddler. Random sex over the dining room table? That'd scar a kid. Trying to explain your new friend Suzy and why she was sleeping in mommy and daddy's bed (let alone why she kept yelling "daddy" last night)? Fuck that shit. College funds and money for a decent private school? Not at this time.

Ever heard of something called a self fulfilling prophecy

expect the worst and hope for the best

>>17455748
My car got totaled 2 times in 3 months from natural disasters, it's also had tree branches fall on it when I'm not parked near a tree. Every event I've planned in the past year has not worked out for bizzare coincidences. Every errand I've ran has some catch to it that makes it a headache to work with. I've tried being positive and being cool and not thinking about it. I just get blindsided too often.

>>17455731
That after you kill yourself nobody will find you for awhile.

>>17454813

Read everything in this thread.

>>17455731
Save enough money to cover your bills for at least 6 months.

Make a deal with someone that you can count on that if something happens and you need to count on someone, they will be there for you. And you for them. Doesn't have to be somebody particularly close to you.

>>17455723
Is the Corvette not suited for long highway cruises just because of the straight pipe or because it also gets bad gas mileage and/or is uncomfortable because of the sporty suspension, etc?
If the first is true, I'd think about buying a stock exhaust system (or atleast one that's quieter than the straight pipe)

Also, do you have your Jeep because you actually need to go offroad regularly? And what shape is it in?
If it's not too beaten up and you don't really need it, you could trade in your Jeep instead and get some cheap used economy car while keeping your Corvette

Can you maybe reach the place your gf is moving to with public transport (bus, train, etc)? And if yes, how much would that cost you? (I'm from europe and not familiar with the american public transport infrastructure and pricing)

>>17455723
This isn't about your girlfriend. This is a point in your life where you realize you need to make an important decision:
Do I continue to be a piece of shit, or do I be an adult?

>>17456412
The Corvette is bearable for highway cruises in terms of suspension and ride, fuel economy isn't the best but is better than the Jeep. In terms of the commute I would be taking, the Corvette wouldn't not be my first choice.

The Jeep is needed for snow, although I do not go off-road I do need it for the occasionally snow days. It is in great condition, but the handling and fuel economy is not suited for the trip.

A train would be possible, but the place to board and the closest station to her would make it more of a hassle to repeat often.

>>17455722
>I'm not attracted to men in the slightest and really the only thing that appeals to me is sucking a dick.

>but I'm not gay

How are people like this allowed to breathe?

>>17455779
Ok fine I'm a degenerate flaming faggot or whatever makes you feel comfortable, question still stands.

>>17455722
you do realize there is a fag board you could go to and ask

>A cracka using nigga
He should beat yo skinny white ass

>>17455686
This is an advice thread for me, not him, bucko

Actual black people are the demographic that feels least offended by that. They call themselves Niggers all the time. If you tell him that you feel guilty about using a dirty word in his presence, he'll probably just think you are a weirdo.

>>17455656
Can you justify cheating? Nope.

>>17455656
>i dont want to be alone
No one wants to be alone, but you wouldn't have cheated on her if you actually loved her.
Take your mistake like a man and leave her, because clearly it's not working out.
You may take comfort in the possibility that you find a partner that you are more compatible with in the future

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>>17455656
>I really do love her

Dude fuck off.

>>17455653
It's likely all assets including the house are divided between them and child custody arrangements agreed upon. Then, an assessment of need and income is made and the share of assets adjusted to take account of capacity to earn and the cost of providing for kids etc.

The house may or may not be sold. The court will listen to the kids if they have an opinion on living arrangements.

It'll suck ass, especially if one or both of them decide to be spiteful. Your house will be sold, your dogs will likely have to be rehomed. Your mom will likely get most of the money/assets, which seems unfair and bullshit until you realize that she currently has no way of generating income and has been out of the workforce for such a large period of time that it will be difficult for her to enter it, meaning she will burn through those assets quickly on just finding a place to life and taking care of two kids. Your siblings will probably go with her, it's possible they'll have an even split custody but that's not likely. You'll be screwed, because you're the oldest and "on your own" and neither of them will have money to help you any more. Both of them will become severely depressed, alcohol and drug abuse is likely, and when they start dating again they'll bring home lots of pieces of shit.

So yeah, enjoy op.

>>17456043
That doesn't sound very fun at all.

>>17455648
You're drunk.
Don't do that shit, or your bf will find a new gf.

this only applies for when you start dating ("should i have sex on the first date or will it be too easy/boring?"). when in a relationship sex should come easily if both want it

>>17456157
On principal I agree, but I usually hear this stuff in referent to male psychology I've read/heard that guys interpret "easy" as "low value". If I'm making it easy for him, am I making him disinterested?

PIA, also you should share your VPN with me :( I really fucking need one.

Ya there?

>>17455654
PIA looks great, and not expensive.

Are you legit asking for me to buy you one?

If you haven't even given it a try, try counseling. Work at it a bit man.

>>17455612
Hand her the signed divorce papers along with a pen

I've tried to talk her into counseling but she refuses to do any counseling. We have literally nothing in common other than good sex.

>>17455606
Not really, no.

>>17455606
Its not normal to have no friends at all.

>>17455606
Nope. Even a pathetic stumble bum like myself had 10 while I was around. Seriously, it's not normal.

In fact, there was a disabled kid who looked like a mutant fish who STILL had some friends.

Everyone's there to mingle. Not start relationships, but mingle as buds.

Lol chill dude.
You need some glasses
Your eyes will stop straining
Your eyes will go back to normal

>>17455599
I'm pretty sure that you can't permanently damage your eyes by looking at screens. Get an eye check-up, only an optometrist can tell you what's wrong.

>>17455621
>>17455636
Thanks senpaitachi. You figuratively took a ton heavy weight off my chest.

Serious advice: You fucked up telling her you don't like her like that. It seems obvious that you both like each other, but if you bring that up to her she may not make the connection and say, "But anon, I have a boyfriend and you said you don't like me like that." So that's on you. You fucked up. Honestly, you should be truthful with her. Say, "I actually do like you, but I fucked up." Something to that effect. Report back what she says and maybe we can give you more advice.

>>17455591
Thanks nigger that's actually right she said she liked me a lot but she thought I played her

This is Nigger again: Why am I getting a connection error when trying to respond to your message?
You probably did play her, man. But own up to it. You can't live your life in the shadow of your own doubt. I know it's hard, but for real. Let us know what happens.

Here lad, just satisfy yourself. It has worked well for me so far.

>>17455586
Yeah dude, but I'm really nervous, and i heard that the first time sucks anyway so I just wanna make it nice for her.

>>17455571
just make sure she's wet and begging for it before you stick it in.