Hey guys, here's my plan: By 2024 myself and my best friend will likely have the funds to achieve our dream of buying about 10 acres of land and building our own houses, having some crops and livestock (tobacco, tomatoes; goats, chickens), and having a garage/workshop with tons of tools, and a small building specifically for recording music and stuff.
We're both in Cleveland and looking to do this in the US, but we have some criteria to meet for the location of our dream homestead.
1) Must not be as fucking cold as Cleveland, Ohio. We love it up here, but the winters are starting to suck cocks
2) Must be pretty good for growing crops. This is a must, as we want to be a tiny bit self sufficient.
3) Can't be too racist; I'm Mexican/Native American and thr last time I drove through Kentucky, the person behind the counter at a gas station refused to serve my white friend and I. This happened at 3 gas stations. I don't need to be coddled, but I'd prefer my excursions into town aren't a problem.
4) I'd like being about 20 miles outside of a major metropolitan area. Somewhere between the sticks and the inner city.
So guys, which state and general area do you think we should choose?
>>17455562
Damn those sound like nice plans
>>17455565
Yeah bro. We're doing some business shit and saving that should get us pretty chunk of change, and this is how we want to invest our money. Living how we want, growing most of our own food, and continuing to do what we love.
The planned houses aren't mansions either. I just want to build my own modest home to suit my needs. Most of the land will be used to further support our lifestyle.
>>17455568
Fucking amazing! That sounds like fun, maybe throw in a pot plant or something.
You could also go hunting and shit.
I would do something similar it just sounds laid back and awesome.
ok, so I've thought long and hard about an hero'ing, and basically ive decided thats the cowards way out. rather than off myself, whats a good way to donate my life? I've read about the kurds accepting westerners to fight ISIS, but so far thats my only lead. give me some ideas.
OP, that's an awesome thing to consider.
French Foreign Legion. You can spend the next year being an utter criminal asshole, and join the FFL and start over with a new name and identity. If I hadn't gotten my fuckup younger self organized, I'd have gone that route.
An Hero is not an option, if you have people who care about you. It's just awful for them.
OP, get your shit together. Regardless of how bad it is now, you have options to build a good life. Don't walk away from the opportunity to start fresh.
exactly my point. too many poeple care about me for me to just put them through that selfish pain. an hero is not an option
Ive got my life "together" I make 60k a year as a machinist after only being graduated for 2 years. I workout everyday, and have plenty of people that would call me a "friend"
I took my 2nd dose of mushrooms about a year ago, and it absolutely changed me, I saw the world for what it is, and myself for what i was. I quit drinking, smoking and doing drugs about 3 months after that, and on paper, my life is grand. but it still feels so meaningless. I guess im just ready to throw in the towel, but I want to do so with a purpose
If your life feels meaningless, seek out meaning more in your life. Build something- a life for yourself, or connect with someone and build a relationship. If you're a person who is cerebral, thoughtful, and not too self-involved, have a damn kid or 3. Having a son changed me.
I can't speak to your experience, but I found that the things that I didn't have drove me. I was shy, smart and quiet, so I sought out the opposite, and it worked. I grew up. You can find the same for yourself.
just had a mutual brake up with a girl i was dating for 4 years, we were our first real relationship, not some bullshit hit it and quit it, what now? i feel empty and have no clue what to do to fix it or how to move on. we are still pretty involved with eachother still after the break up, go to the same college, which is fucked, live around eachother, we arent hostile either, im literally just spewing, what the fuck do i do
>>17455483
I don't have anything useful to say I just didn't want to see your thread with 0 replies because I am in the same situation except we have 0 contact
It sucks I miss her but, idk whatever. I hate my life
>>17455520
i feel you dude, literally took our v cards and everything
Why'd you end it OP?
I'm currently going into my 4th year in my relationship with very similar circumstances and it's just... stagnant. The feelings just aren't there for me.
I fucking hate myself
Girls liked me in high school, they flirted with me and touched me and asked me to dances and sent me love letters on valentines day
But I am literally an asperger and didn't realize it, now it's too late because this kind of stuff doesn't happen to me because I work in an office where everyone's older than me and it just doesn't happen and I don't know anyone anymore
Why didn't I just realize they liked me and wife one of them
OMFG IF YOU'RE IN HIGHSCHOOL DON'T MAKE THE SAME MISTAKES I MADE OMFG KILL ME I WANT TO SCREAM I'M SO FUCKING MAD
WHEN YOU LEAVE HIGH SCHOOL YOU WILL NEVER SEE PEOPLE AGAIN, GO ASK THAT GIRL OUT. OMFG SO MAD HONESTLY WANT TO CRY
Sorry for caps.
yeah the same happened to me. i actually met up with one of those girls quite a few years later thinking there still might be something there....nope. im a fuckin dummy.
hey, at least you're not an ugly sperg
we'll never know how any of this feels
You know, many people realise things too late. It's called hindsight.
Although for you, I highly doubt it's too late. Feel sad for now, but you can use this lesson to grow. In short; is a life without this knowledge better or worse?
I recently just got a new haircut and a lot of girls have been telling me it looks really good, but this one girl in my 4th period (shes really hot) , kept looking over her shoulder in my direction. I believe shes interested in me, but then again she could just be thinking its weird since i had really long hair until yesterday. Anyways, how would i be able to tell if shes into me and how to get to talk to her. Im kind of (am) a non-charasmatic guy so ive never tried asking.
Tell her something. Anything, a joke or a remark or some sheet. Before you know it she'll be gone.
>>17455459
Before you know it you'll be 50 OP and will never see her again
Ask her out, I'm begging you to honestly. Having a bit of a mental breakdown myself right now over my wasted opportunities in high school
Please ask her out, do it for me.
Sorry. That's weird. But I'm serious.
Being awkward is better than being a FUCKING PUSSY
How old were you when you found a sense of direction in your life? How did you find it? What led you to that point? How do you recommend someone sort their life out?
>>17455434
20....sat down one and figured out my major. also id be lieing if i didnt say my ex made me realize how fun finance is.
16. I felt caught up in the bustling world of school and preparations for my future but in the haze I was able to find myself and realize that my true passion was international culture and travel. I never wanted anything more. After my parents introduced me to international exploration, I was changed. I realized at 16 that my goal in life was to wander. If you want to sort your life out, look at every detail of your life individually: social life, career interest, education, health, motivation, entertainment. Avoid the overwhelming Gestalt perception of an insurmountable series of conflicts and obstacles in life. Take each moment as it comes without fear, and always be positive.
>>17455434
19
I met people with whom I felt comfortable being myself. Basically made me realize it was ok to be the way I am
In the past few days I have a sting in my right lower leg, now after reading up to thrombosis I'm scared shitless...
I want to go to the Hospital in a few hours but right now it's in the middle of the night.
How can I get my head clear of this mess and maybe get a few hours if sleep?
I'm too lazy to look this shit up myself, but I can direct you to do your own diagnosis.
First - what are the symptoms of deep vein thrombosis? I can't remember.
No, Thrombosis is a very serious illness. If one of those clots move up to your heart, it will cause a hiccup and then greatly hurt you from the inside. You must go to the hospital ASAP first thing in the morning. Believe me, last time I had one, they had to do surgery on me.
Sorry anon, it's very serious.
Hey man, dont get yourself worked up about something you dont even know. I freak myself out all the time because i think i have all kinds of weirds stuff every time i feel pain somewhere and the google it. And evidently im still alive. Try not to think about it, you cant do anything about it right now anyway
How do I deal with a husband that doesn't satisfy me?
We have been married for over two years and I'm not extremely sexual but I constantly have to relieve myself in the shower after sex because i'm still turned on.
When I ask him to do stuff, I still get shy but I figured he'd still get a hint when I ask him to do things but he just won't.
I'm always the one doing things for him, several times a day sometimes. Does he not care or something else?
>>17455398
Elaborate on asking him to do stuff and your shyness.
>>17455398
DO NOT FUCKING HINT, USE YOUR WORDS TO TELL PEOPLE WHAT YOU WANT.
Sorry for caps but it aggravates the shit out of me when I hear people complaining that they aren't getting what they want from someone and then say that all they've done is "drop hints". You aren't doing yourself or them any favours by being vague.
If you've been direct with him and your requests are reasonable (and it sure sounds like they are), then the problem is that you're married to an asshole.
If this isn't the relationship that nets you sexual satisfaction, then you need to discuss with him the alternatives to that.
Hey I need some /adv/
>Parents wanted me to become doctor
>take premed course
>while taking premed course realized I actually wanted to become an engineer
>Parents still force me to finish premed saying various excuses
>Now at first year med school proper and feeling miserable every single day
>wat do?
I have fairly good grades and was accepted to a good medical school with low amount of people getting accepted due to their rigorous selection process. A lot of people are expecting me to become a doctor (besides my parents, my past coworkers, and my relatives). But since the first year of my premed course I almost always think of becoming an engineer. Halp I feel like i'm on the brink of insanity every single day
Your parents are probably going to die before you do. You need to ask yourself if its really worth it always doing what they want for you in life when ultimately you may end up standing over their graves saying "Well, they're gone. Now what?"
This goes for the other people in your life too. A lot of them will likely not be in your life forever.
if you dont actually like your job, it will show in your work. you'll go on to effect hundreds of people's lives and possibly ruin some of them simply because you hate what you've become. TL;DR: Do what you're passionate about, nothing else is worth the time.
>>17455397
youre way into deep to back down, unless you can do something else with your bachelors degree.
I'm going to my cousins wedding tomorrow, whom I consider more like a brother or friend than a distant relative, and we're close in age (21,24). I also know the bride as well, and would consider her a friend.
We typically don't get each other gifts for birthdays, at most we hang out and buy drinks. Extending that train of thought, I haven't gotten anything for their wedding, but I've been thinking maybe I should as this is a very unique occasion.
Should I go and purchase something? If so, what?
just buy some fancy champagne , they booth will like and it fits with the party
>>17455373
Cash and a card
Generally you want to give enough to pay for your meal and then a little more as a gift.
Do men have any sensitive spots like women? Something similar to the ears or the back of the knee...?
My girlfriend drives me crazy by kissing my ears and moaning a little.
Might depend on the guy though
yes. men and women have very similar erogenous zones. women have more on the limbs than men. the neck is safe bet, hence "necking" (I guess).
>>17455367
Apparently the prostate is.
Swear to Christ. The fucking prostate.
If I chose to believe in God, I'd believe he only made us to have a giggle.
Anyone have /adv/ice on handling your parents divorcing?
How do you balance your relationship with both parents when one fucking hates the other now, and they're both talking bad about the other, and they both need you to pick sides?
It's really distressing. I talk to my dad and he thinks my mom is becoming insane, tells me about all the insane crap she's been doing. And then my mom will tell me of all the horrible accusations my dad has been making, and acting like he's the insane one. They have no end of negative things to say about each other. I don't want to hear any of it, but I can't ignore it, because they'll think I hate them.
try "active listening" and nothing more. if that is not enough for them, tough. you don't need to pick a side.
>>17455372
Active listening is hard when I'm asked direct questions. They keep wanting to know the other's "side" to the story the other is telling me.. and even if I try to keep it neutral and short, they latch on to anything and use it as more fuel against the other. It feels like a really fine line to walk.
>>17455382
why should they speak through you? I just said that's not your responsibility. don't you know that?
Anons so I'm 22 years old and I've never had a job nor do I have any experience in anything, I was wondering if I can still get part-time jobs/full time jobs in grocery stores etcc.. places like that? I have to help my dad pay the rent and bills, I'm not irresponsible, I don't do drugs nor do I drink, It's just that I've never been mentally strong enough to confront life, but now I have to, has anyone went through this and have any advice where to start?
If you can still talk your way into the job, yes. Just look very straight-laced like you weren't doing drugs or anything. Look like the man for the job. Experience is not a prerequisite for foodservice.
>>17455360
Thanks for the reply man, yeah I figured I have to have decent communication skills to get a job, I mean tI have to turn into a social person overnight I guess. Do you think applying online is a good idea?
>>17455387
apply every way possible. apply online, then ask for the hiring manager in person. if you go to a job fair and they don't bounce you, they still might as you to show up to the specific location. quantity, quality, and persistence friend.
My partner is slowly losing interest and it's beginning to scare me. He used to have no problem with coming onto me, showing affection, etc. It began when I was pregnant. It was less and less, and I began to notice a spike of porn in our internet history. Then a couple of times where I saw craigslist personal ads. Then chunks of history began to be deleted. We've had sex a handful of times in the 3 months since our child was born. He never really initiated it, either. This morning I thought about trying to spicen things up by sending him my results to a kink test I took, and had asked him to send me his results back. Nothing. He spent his day on etsy. Does anyone have any tips on how to cope with this or possibly get him interested again?
Maybe you should have an upfront discussion with him?
He's probably gay
>>17455326
I have, and it's always "I'm still interested" or when I confront him about finding personal ads and deleted history it somehow gets turned around and it's my fault
Do girls take their phone when they go on vacations abroad?
Depends on the girl and the vacation.
>>17455310
Would a nerdy girl do it?
>>17455311
>It's a "let's guess what someone would do by using stereotypes to describe them"
Guess what? Girls, like guys, are not all the same. Would a nerdy guy bring his phone on vacation? Depends on the guy