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Almost 30 and still not famous or...anything 2017-03-04 07:44:53 Post No.18098927
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My favorite author just posted an article about herself from the New York Times praising her for her amazing fantasy YA novels. Went on to say how she's not 30 yet and has 12 books under belt (5 of them on the NYT best sellers list) and that she was getting two master degrees in history while also writing one of those said best sellers. I'm super proud of her, almost like she's a close friend, even though I've only met her once, for ten seconds at a book signing. I don't even think I feel jelouse. I just feel...nothing. Maybe I'm a void of emotion as I look at my 50+ saved word documents of 50 different ideas and plot layouts and characters sheets. I'll never be able to actually finish anything. I'm just too distracted/too much ADD/no will power/always saying I'll start for real this weekend. *sigh*
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Just keep telling yourself that there are Youtube stars that are 16 years old and make multi millions of dollars for playing video games. Not being super good at them, but just playing them and seeing if they suck or not.
Feel better?
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Do you send manuscripts off to publishers? Have you hired an editor to look over your work and suggest improvements?
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>>18098942
And on that note:
http://www.intouchweekly.com/posts/danielle-bregoli-tv-show-cash-me-ousside-girl-126665/photos/cash-me-ousside-girl-danielle-bregoli-236965
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I need someone to tell me if there is a place or book, or anything else that can direct me on how to die. I cannot live this way anymore and am constantly in pain. I do not know if I can reliably kill myself without direction because of my situation and I cannot bare to be this way anymore.
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Wait a little bit. The feeling will pass
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>>18098928
There is no exit out of my situation. I am set on dying, I just really need guidance.
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>>18098930
I garuntee you are not. I don't know what happened but just wait till your head is clear and don't do anything stupid and reckless
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Howdy anons/femanons! I'm hoping a few can relate to this.
Do you ever feel like something is missing? Is it that you need a significant other to validate yourself? Or is it that you will never be content no matter what? It seems like what makes you strive for more, also makes you feel empty. Sometimes I wish I didn't want happiness, it would make things so much easier.
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>>18098921
Its impossible to not desire satisfaction. If you didn't want happiness, you'd still want something, and to want is to not have, and to not have is to desire, even if the dire to not desire, it can be broken. Therefore we can never truely be satisfied. And by default we always want satisfaction, for it will make things better, which in turn makes us happy.
But as far as the feelings you speak of: idk. I've never been in a love/relationship, so I cannot speak on whether that will make mylife any less empty feeling, but the evidence suggests your theory to be true, for the most part at least. I'm sure with the right person, love can be profoundly satisfying to a person. But happiness isn't a sustainable emotion. Loved ones die. But I suppose it's all about the journey. Maybe we find that temporary satisfaction, maybe we don't. But perfaps a good conclusion to this thought is the old saying: tis better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.
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>>18098986
Owner of a lonely heart, better than an owner of a broken heart.
>>18098921
You can't pursue happiness. Once you realize that you are happy you are no longer happy. It's a fleeting emotion. Your basic instincts tell you this.
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>>18098986
That profound feeling of satisfaction, is what I live for.. sorry to hear you've never felt it, I think we tell ourselves love is real just to explain how sane people do crazy things. I think what people feel in most relationships is acceptance, not love.. love to me is primal, unending and unconditional, everything else is just lust and loneliness. We want to feel a part of something, even if it destroys us..The human condition is endless struggle, and we wonder why people are depressed..
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Thought I'd post this here for any of the anons who were helping me earlier. I need you all again.
It's me again, I talked ti my gf about it. I was stern and clear, she said okay, I wont do it. But she was defensive about it all, I didn't know ehat ti say after that, ahe juat said nothing was going to happen, it's not like that between us.
Then she gave me the "you don't trust me" "do you really think i'd do that spiel". What do I do? I feel like I'm in a deeper hole
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arrange a 3some
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>>18098863
No thanks, but thank you for your /adv/
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>>18098860
>I feel like I'm in a deeper hole
not hers tho
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No but seriously, if they were both naked, he's not gay.
And way to be a vague ass faggot in the post. Maybe you should try sitting on his lap, see how you feel.
If they weren't naked, then it's all chill and you can just explain to her that he's still a guy, and it provoked some innate reaction.
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Should I quit my job?
Night Auditor at hotel. Work the two busiest nights, Fri & Sat. Deal with shithead guests who are rude at best, and threaten me at worst. Make less than the full time guy who works the absolutely dead weeknights because he's been here longer. Ask my boss if he'd alternate our nights so we share the weekend, he agrees because that's what he usually does at the places he's worked before (he's our new GM). Three weeks now, politely reminded him, said thanks and he'd get on it, still nothing. About a quarter of my nights involve evicting someone or otherwise dealing with a borderline hostile guest (CC didn't go through, no vacancies, etc). Occasionally call the cops to deal with fist fights. Constantly on edge. Pays $300 every other week. I'm also on disability that pays $600 a month, so this job doubles my income. I don't need the money since I'm living with my grandparents, but it helps pay for school and my savings immensely.
Currently a junior in college. Doing it all online because autism and people stress me out extremely badly. On the verge of crying at work tonight because I can't do this shit anymore. Prozac+Effexor+Abilify+Weekly therapy. Used to fantasize about a job with responsibilities. Now I fantasize about killing myself and how easy it'd be to buy a gun and do it (FL).
I'd kill for a cubicle job. The two big aspects are customer service, and standing still for 8 hours. They sound like no problem if you do them once. But over and over again, every weekend, constantly, is unbearable.
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If your finances can take the hit quit that shit
I know what it's like man, on a night shift right now. I don't know why anyone would willingly subject themselves to this shit
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>>18098856
>I'd kill for a cubicle job.
>They sound like no problem if you do them once. But over and over again, every weekend, constantly, is unbearable.
What do you think a cubicle job with your experience (or lack thereof) would involve?
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>>18098866
The same tedious shit day in day out? I'm not saying I'd enjoy it, but compared to this job...
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Thanks. I have some great references out of this job, and I like my resume (pic related). But what would I look for as a replacement? I don't want to not work, finish school and then land a fulltime job. I think it'd be too jarring for me. What are some non-customer service jobs I'm qualified for?
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I teach ESL at a junior high school in Japan. Some kids like me, some don't. That's life.
One kid has really really liked me for the last 10 months. My best student, always warmly greeting me and a total teacher's pet. Probability of a teacher crush seems high too.
Always careful to not let her cross any boundaries, but I've been kind and receptive to her affection.
Suddenly, in the last two weeks, complete 180 degree change.
Two weeks ago this kid who always went out of the way to say hello was clearly ignoring me in front of her friends.
Last week, when I visited an after school club which she is also in, I snuck up and surprised a group of kids as I've often done in the past, and she called me gross/creepy in Japanese in response. Those who witnessed were shocked.
I opted to not visit that club the rest of all last week, avoided that student reluctantly, but did create passing chances for apology. Never apologized.
Other students are growing aware of this predicament. The other club members will likely take notice soon and further inflate the issue, potentially causing this kid more stress.
For the record, I don't need other teachers getting involved and taking anything out of context. Last thing I need is some Japanese person with a stick up their ass to jump to conclusions about illicit student relationships or some BS. I'm no pedo.
I need to resolve this issue quietly. This student is quite popular and influential. If things escalated, someone who once publicly was a teacher's pet going fully counter position could totally ruin my image in the entire student body with rumors or bad vibes.
My best guess is that perhaps friends took notice and started teasing the girl about being chummy with me, so she had to take the extreme opposite and start ignoring me and overreacting negatively to deflect attention. However, that's a bit egotistical and it would be naive to rule out other possibilities.
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I went a whole week giving this student space and staying away from the situation, but come Monday I need to professionally handle this somehow without getting other parties involved and potentially compounding the stress and attention turned to this child.
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Bump in hopes for some constructive advice or input on how to approach this.
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Get a real job you eikaiwa monkey
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Paramedic. Supposed to be my day off the other day when a coworker called in sick and I took over for him. Whatever, might as well pick up an extra shift. Pretty slow day. Couple elderly situations, nothing major, this is a town of only 5000 or so. Then we get a call of a young girl who just tried to kill her self. When we get to the house the girl was on the bathroom floor, fading in and out, messed up on whatever bottle of pills she just downed. Not to be morbid or whatever, but this girl was stunning. Very pretty even though she was covered in vomit, hair a mess, pale and out of it. Anyways she ended up being fine. I have no idea how, but the mother of the girl got my cell number and wanted to thank me and my coworker for our quick response and saving her daughters life bla bla bla. She was admitted to the psychiatric ward of the hospital and her mother told me that she's would just love to thank me in person and that I should come visit at the hospital. I initially declined, told her that it's just my job. However I had the next day off nothing to do in buttfuck nowhere town, I thought fuck it let me humour this woman. I showed up the mother gave me a huge hug and all that. Just as I arrived she told me she had to rush out for an appointment, but that her daughter was just in her hospital room and would love some company. So I went to say hello and started talking to this girl. Ended up chatting it up for about an hour, we actually have a lot in common. Now this is fucked up but I think we really hit it off. She seemed to be really comfortable around me and we seemed to have really good conversation. Could have just been the drugs she was on now that I think of it. But damn, she's literally a 10, well to me, my kind of 10. I told her I had to get going and that I'd probably see her around town, and that I hope she gets better and all that. cont.
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Tonight I was really on the fence about it, but I found her on facebook and sent her a friend request. She ended up accepting, she sent me a message simply saying "hey *smiley emoji*. Should I even bother? Am I playing with fire even teasing the idea of trying to be with this girl? Or is this one of those once in life time "fate" things? Btw she's 19, I'm 23.
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Why are you guilty about being attracted to this girl?
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>>18098761
No such thing as fate - grow up and get past that oneitis bull shit. There's a perfect match for everyone, but that's guided by the science of statistics, not "fate".
You have two choices. Move on with your life and play it safe, or eliminate your guilty conscience and date the girl to see where it goes. I would choose the latter, because I know how to deal with crazy and won't be afraid to walk away if shit turns down hill fast.
If you are able to balance the stress of your job with the stress of dealing with a mentally ill woman, then go for it. Your decision honestly comes down to how you gauge your personal emotional/psychological endurance.
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My GF wants to wait until marriage 2017-03-04 06:03:25 Post No.18098755
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My GF wants to wait until marriage
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First off, I haven't had a lot of sex. Maybe 3 times in my life. Hookups. I don't like to sleep around and to me sex is great but special. That's just me. Anyway I recently got a gf and we've been going steady, mostly on my part. We're taking things slow, which is good. She's religious but we come from the same denomination (no longer practicing). She loves to talk with me.
We had a convo about abortion and chastity, and she asked me what my thoughts were. So I told her. She wants to wait until marriage. She seemed to be skeptical about what I said, but she ended up respecting where I came from.
We're early into this relationship and I like her but I'm worried about being in the position one day where things will get hot when we hook up. Anyone wanna chime in here?
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Dude I wish I was you
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If you can't handle no sex before marriage, then don't get into a relationship with her. If you're okay with it AND you won't get sexually frustrated because of it in the future, then go for it.
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>calling someone your girlfriend
>not fucking
4chan is an 18+ website and making a thread on /adv/ice only makes sense if you can be helped.
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How the fuck do I get her out of my head?
I can't go a goddamn hour without my ex popping into my head.
I can't stop thinking about how she and her rebound boyfriend are having lots of sex, while I'm sitting alone barely getting any attention on Tinder.
When I'm happy, she doesn't seem to be a problem. It's only when I'm lonely that she invades my head and causes me to go insane slowly.
I'm doing everything I fucking should, like meditation, working out, socializing with other people, and working on my life goals.
I broke up with her, but now that I don't have her and she found someone else, I feel like shit. She isn't even that amazing of a person, she's a fucking bipolar weeb, but I still loved her.
What do I do?
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Suffer until you don't.
What do you expect us to say? Everyone with an ex has felt what you're feeling. Get over yourself.
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WHY WOULD YOU LET GO OF A BIPOLAR WEEB!!!@@#!@#K YOU ARE AN IDIOT *-*
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yes u may love her. but did she really love u. keep your head up an think positive that there is another woman out there. waiting for a man to love respect trust an b happy with. yes the pain will hurt on getting over her. but I promise u it will work.
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I just broke up with my boyfriend of almost 4 years. What do i do now?
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>>18098713
Make some popcorn.
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>>18098713
I broke up with my gf of 8 years, just over a year ago.
It gets easier, at least a bit. Slowly.
Dunno if some parts will ever truly improve desu.
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It sucks like hell and you will feel it, and sometimes it wont go away.
But you have to keep your mind occupied, school, work, hobbies, literally anything. But you'll also need time to cope.
Basically start being on your own again.
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How do you cope with the idea of your own mortality? The fact that as young and/or healthy as you are, you can be dead tomorrow.
One day you can be shitposting on /r9k/ and the next day you can be dead of a brain aneurysm. Or the one day you decide to leave your NEET-cave to get tendies you get hit by a bus and die.
I know some of you don't give a shit whether you live or die and would welcome death's embrace, but for those of us who may be trying to have a fulfilling life, how do you cope?
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>living a fulfilling life means you have to be afraid of not accomplishing goals in life
pitiful and unrealistic.
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thanks to denial, i'm immortal.
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>fulfilling life
What exactly is this? In the end you will die just like everyone else.
I suppose a fulfilling life is simply pretending that anything you did mattered right up till the very end.
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Someine please teach me proper hygiene. What's your daily hygiene routine?
(I have a vagina)
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Scrub between folds with wet wipes until sardine smell fades away/disappears.
Repeat as needed.
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look at >>>/fa/
The sticky taught me how to skin care.
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>>18098653
wet wipes aren't good for the pH of your vagina, don't do it girl. shower daily (don't have to wash your hair every time bc that's bad for the oils in it), use a gentle bodywash but when cleaning your lady parts only use water as to not upset the pH balance
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Got a girl's number I barely know from work. She invited me over to her apartment literally 2 hours later.
Does she just want to get laid? She keeps texting me, but doesn't show much interest when I ask about her hobbies/interests/etc. I'm 30, coming off of a failed 8+ year relationship, whereas this girl is 22. I'm trying to avoid putting myself in an awkward attempt at casual sex.
This is probably the worst possible place to ask.
Pic unrelated.
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If she invites you over, and there is alcohol, then after a few drinks ask her what she wants.
If she's a stupid bitch and asks for clarification, ask her if she wants to be friends, friends with benefits, or something else.
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If there is alcohol or any drug usage within this contact and you can best but your relationship will be over quickly as it began or if it continues it will burn out real hard because let's submit some facts here that's not a good recipe for a good relationship and most likely she's probably attracted to an older person do and ask her does she like the daddy thing
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>>18098630
Tbh I steered it away from same night, and to a bar instead of her place.
It's kinda become clear what she wants, I guess I'm just disappointed I got my hopes up.
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I've never done "Spring Break" before, and well, i was just looking at videos and pictures of it..
Is it just me, or is it actually pretty degenerate? All i've seeing is young people getting stupid drunk and doing lewd acts with random people...
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>>18098557
Yeah, it's pretty stupid. But normies think that's the only way to have fun.
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When you studies for months without any time to even masturbate, a lot of shit becomes pent up.
This is their release.
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>>18098566
Only way? Nope. A hell of a way once or twice in your twenties? Sure.
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Is it normal to ship your child with another child?
The neighbor girl has a crush on my son and it's adorable how oblivious he is. Is there anything wrong with encouraging him to play with her?
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ship?
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Don't be a dick. Forcing your son to interact with neighbor's retarded daughter is just cruel.
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It might embarrass him and turn him into a social autist.