Hey bros,
i need your advice. There is this really cute guy i have a crush on for 2 years now and we were friends most of the time but i said to him i want to go further and then we kind of didnt talk for a long time until he messaged me and wanted to meet up again out of the blue and then we started talking again.
He said he wanted a deeper friendship as well and that he is sorry it ended on us kind of going our own ways. We casually met up 1 time after that but it was still kind of weird for both of us. Now we agreed on meeting up again at his place because his family is on vacation so noone but us is there on that day. He said we could chill and talk and that he told noone about this and i am kind of confused what to think now.
I made hints i want to do something more than chilling and he said we will see how everything will go etc. Should i even bother coming or do you think i have a chance?
>>8095196
Yiff in hell.
Going for it would be better than not trying, as the latter might have you living with those "what-ifs" forever.
The worst that could happen is nothing comes out of it. The best that could happen is the start of becoming closer together.
So what do you have to lose?
>>8095266
This
The embarrassment of failure stings less than the screaming void of a willingly empty life
>Tfw no boyfriend
that just means more time for video games
>everyone wants sexual exclusivity but nobody wants to take it seriously, always stuck in a shitty middle ground where the lines are blurred because everyone just up and assumes we all play by the same rules it's not like some people consider it perfectly acceptable to install dating apps and send nudes and other people consider it cheating to flirt so it needs to be discussed or just made into an open relationship but noooo that's scary they don't want to fuck other people just toe the line and beat around the bush their whole life
>everyone wants to drink but nobody wants to take real drugs and will act all concerned like they know more than you about this thing you have experience with and they do not
>everyone wants to talk about politics but nobody wants to read about politics
Why get a boyfriend?
>>8095161
For cuddles and stuff
so i got drunk and had a grindr hookup last night
he was hot and i decided to bang him even though he said he had undetectable HIV
i was really drunk and he brought over his meth pipe so i smoked some. didnt make good decisions. No condom, i let him come in me
i went and got PEP in the morning
how fucked am I? i don't entirely know if i can trust him about his virus count because you know the whole he brought his meth rig on our first hookup thing.
this has gotta be bait
>>8095075
ill be praying not that you wont get hiv but to stop being a retard
>>8095075
Never do it again. Your chance of having contracted HIV from bottoming and receiving a load if you are an average healthy person is less than 2%, and while it is indeed small, you can never know. Keep checking yourself, and ALWAYS remain vigilant. Also, stop the drugs, you fucking degenerate
Why are people so scared of TERFs?
>>8094983
I don't think anyone is AFRAID of them. It's just that nobody likes them. Even among other feminists they're hated. Whether this is justified is entirely subjective, but that's neither here nor there.
>when people mistake gender abolitionism for being a terf
>>8094983
because they're right
Call a tranny a girl
>wow that was really nice of him what a nice person
Call a gay person a faggot
>what the fuck did this shitlord just say to me I hope he dies
So why are gay people so angry and anti social compared to transpeople?
>>8094779
Trannies are so pathetic and degenerate that being called a girl is a complement to us.
Gays are ashamed of their minor degeneracy, so emphasizing it with words like faggot hurts.
>>8094779
Really makes you think
>>8094818
They said I was practically a girl already. Before that no one believed I could be anything.
I used to always think I was only attracted to girls. I've been in plenty of relationships with women where I felt nothing, but I always figured I just needed to meet the right person.
One day I met a guy who was really cool, we became close friends fast. He would flirt with me a lot, and always was close to me. I was nervous about it but I also kind of liked it.
We hung out a lot to watch movies, and eventually us sitting close together turned to him putting his arm around me. Then to full on cuddling. Then he kissed me. And my heart was racing. It was more exciting than my first kiss. He kept kissing me and holding me and I thought I would feint.
Our relationship kept escalating. I would give him head, and even though I had no idea what I was doing he'd look so happy and make me feel good about it. Eventually he had sex. It hurt but I loved it.
I was never attracted to men before, I'm not sure that changed. I don't think of him the way I do a woman's body. I just see him, and that makes me feel all warm inside.
When he holds me, when I'm between his legs, when he's inside me. It feels so right, I never knew a relationship could feel like this.
>>8094699
Have you ever crossdressed or imagined you were a girl?
>>8094719
No, I'm not trans. I guess he is more masculine than me though. I do like that feeling.
>>8094699
Women could make you feel that way, but they never do. Welcome to the club. Enjoy your stay at /lgbt/, you're gonna be here a long time.
We're being accused of shilling on /r9k/
>>>/r9k/36205164
Thoughts?
>>8094633
there's not enough people here to shill anywhere though
>>8094633
Why the fuck would trannies defend women or make fewer woman hate threads than other robots?
Can you get electroconvulsive therapy to forget/get over a crush? I'm starting to think I need it
How to get over a crush in 4 stages:
1) Tell them how you feel, and have them tell you categorically that they're not into you.
2) Keep as far away from them as possible. If they're a friend, explain to them you need distance, maybe for a very long time
3) time. time heals almost everything eventually
4) when you find yourself thinking about them, remember what they said about being uninterested in you, focus on it really hard, then think about something else. Repeat over and over.
>>8094665
>1) Tell them how you feel, and have them tell you categorically that they're not into you.
done
>2) Keep as far away from them as possible. If they're a friend, explain to them you need distance, maybe for a very long time
done
>3) time. time heals almost everything eventually
couple months now
>4) when you find yourself thinking about them, remember what they said about being uninterested in you, focus on it really hard, then think about something else. Repeat over and over.
doing
I'm going insane
>>8094621
ECT does random damage to the brain. More than likely you will loose lots of other memories and even skills before it zaps all memories of your crush.
Autofemboyphile?
Autotomboyphile?
how are these different from AGP and AAP?
what is a HST?
>>8094494
The basics:
Transgender people are either homosexual transsexuals (HSTS) or autogynephiles/autoandrophiles. (AGP/AAP)
HSTSs transition because they have a neurological intersex syndrome that makes them naturally more similar to their transitioned-to sex than their natal sex in behavior.
AGPs and AAPs are the more common kinds of trans people, and they transition because they have a sexual orientation that makes them attracted to and fall in love with idealized opposite-sex versions of themselves.
HSTSs won't transition if they can't pass, which leads to the phenomenon known as homosexual femboys (HSFBs). (And, well, probably also homosexual tomboys/HSTBs for natal females.) These are gender nonconforming in ways similar to HSTSs, but live socially as they natal sex instead of the sex they act more similar to.
AFP men are men who, similar to AGP men, have a sexual orientation that makes them attracted to and fall in love with idealized *femboy* versions of themselves. (Similarly, ATB women fall in love with idealized *tomboy* versions of themselves.) These are the true femboys in the sense that they actually *want* to be femboys, unlike the HSFBs, who are basically repressing trannies, but they don't act naturally fem, making them seem "fake", in a way.
AAP men are rare, but if they exist, they are ones which are attracted to the idea of being actually properly manly men. AFPs get something similar to gender dysphoria because men are not naturally femboys. Actual AAP would not lead to this, because you'd just be attracted to being what you already are. This makes AFP and AAP different.
AGP and AFP differ by their targets; AFPs are attracted to being femboys whereas AGPs are attracted to being women.
It is actually quite common for supposedly AGP trans women to actually be ATP ones, and for supposedly AAP trans men to actually be AFP ones. Some of them realize this and identify as nonbinary instead.
Hope this helps!
>>8094777
>unlike the HSFBs, who are basically repressing trannies,
HSFBs aren't repressing trannies because HSTSs aren't true trannies.
>>8094494
>HSTSs won't transition if they can't pass, which leads to the phenomenon known as homosexual femboys (HSFBs).
this is bullshit lots of hsfb hsts could pass if they committed themselves to it.
>Be unpassing hon
>Move to UK
>Suddenly pass flawlessly amongst bong womyn
>>8094450
Left one is CUUUUUTE
>>8094450
Anon, if you look like these women, I'd fuck your socks off.
t.bongistani
>>8094450
>I know that fucking street corner
>mfw this is my city
Can absolutely confirm your hypothesis. Women really do look all like that here and we love trannies and americans/non-gypsy foreigners to boot.
Glasgow if anyone is wondering. Don't move to London, London is a tumour.
>try to meet LGBT friends
>they're all gigantic annoying SJW types
Just why?
>>8093472
I feel this OP.
I'm in the closet too, gets lonely.
>>8093472
Gays act like faggots
Who would've thought?
>try to meet 4chan friends
>they're all gigantic annoying /pol/ types
Just why?
does anyone have the templates of man x man versions?
>>8093443
>>8093443
>contry love
Where is this name from?
>>8093443
Are transgenders "the beautiful ones"?
>>8093337
Only A*Ps.
>>8093346
Would you say that gender dysphoria is a mental illness that mainly effects the privileged in society? As in, people who don't have the growth benefit of more immediate suffering.
>>8093337
Yes, transbians are the harbingers of the downfall of society, just as they were in the Roman Empire, akin to angels ushering in the end times.
Is this a true fact?
Nice sources there family. Wanna sauce me up on the fucking definition of mental illness while you're at it? Schizophrenia isn't a mental illness! It's just people being mean to scizos! Why does this thing live?
>>8093319
wow honestly confirmed not trans tibby eighch
>>8093319
All facts are true, but this isn't a fact. It's a statement from an idiot who believes that because she didn't have dysphoria, it doesn't hurt anyone.
It's the literal definition of an opinion (and a shitty stupid opinion at that).
How does /LGBT/ feel about their birthname? (All of LGBT, not just trannies)
I hated it waaaayyyy before I even knew I was trans. Like absolutely fucking hated it. Then this one song came out when I was in middle school and my hatred for it grew into an all consuming, white hot flame inside me whenever I heard it. It still irks me that the process to change my name is so convoluted that it will take me a while to ever actually change my name.
Anyone else have a thing with your birthname?
Do you actually like it?
Do you have any nicknames that make in bearable?
>>8093182
It's a perfectly fine name. For a while I used an androgynous nickname but it was stupid.
>>8093194
How was the nickname stupid and why'd you go for an androgynous one?
>>8093234
It was just ill fitting. I used it until I socially transitioned to smooth the process a bit.