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How do you guys cope with perfectionism? My perfectionist tendencies have stopped me from pursuing new things that I have a genuine interest in, such as video games.
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>>18102483
>perfectionist tendencies have stopped me from pursuing new things
Wrong
You're just an idiot looking for excuses for being an idiot
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Realizing that showing up every day and failing at something leads to one day being ok at it, leads to one day being great at it.
It's the people who can put aside instant gratification that end up being most successful. The ones that go to the gym and work out a little each day, or go to med school for years before seeing a dime back. It's the people who wake up each day and say "today I will do better than yesterday" that ultimately succeed. One day you will look around and all the competition will have dropped out.
The people that seem perfect as young adults will all crash and burn in their midlife.
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>>18102483
Perfectionism implies that you want to make something perfect. If you never pursue said things then it is not perfectionism holding you back but maybe rather the desire to do the choose/do the right thing in the first go.
Accept that some things will remain unknown until you uncover them and accept that every choice has risks. Pursue whatever you want to pursue OP. If you fail then so what, you tried and you learned from it. Trying is 100 times more valuable in terms of gaining precious experiences than never even bothering to try.
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Do you think most of the mental diseases are caused by the lack of sex?
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>>18102465
Freud's theories likely were. Mental illness, probably not.
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If that was the problem then my husband wouldn't have depression.
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>>18102465
This is an advice board, anon.
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This sounds silly but it's a serious question. 2017-03-05 05:52:29 Post No.18102429
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This sounds silly but it's a serious question.
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When I exercise in the morning, I usually skip underwear and just put on a pair of gym shorts. Will the jostling and lack of support be bad for my balls long term?
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cavemen used to run with their balls dangling too
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>>18102429
I dunno i mean we somehow managed to outcompete all other species tens of thousands of years before we had junk support at the gym.
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>>18102429
No, in fact, letting your balls loose is healthier for them than being supported.
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/adv/, this bad? my skin is forming a lip over the scab.
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The scab is starting to separate naturally from the skin as new healthy skin forms underneath it. It's fine.
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>>18102422
>is it bad?
Mothefucker it's disgusting.
Learn how to properly dress wounds you literal retard
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Roommate smoking inside.
In the beginning of the year me and roommate were pretty cool and we shared a few joints inside and cigarettes but since January i have notice the lingering smoke always and afraid it will stain the walls. I have stopped smoking inside and have asked him to stop also. But he keeps smoking inside regardless.
Earlier this week i confronted him about stealing my weed but have no video proof and since its an illegal substance i dont know how to resolve it other than taking to him and locking my shit up but there are other stuff that i am afraid i can not lock up and he can still steal. Once a thief always a thief is what i believe.
I cant bring the stealing problem to the landlord because the landlord is my mother. She is anti smoking. Lets not give me shit over this.
Lastly he always has friends sleeping over. Practically living here. I dont want to share the burden and im sure his friends steal from me too but right now i cant afford to kick him out (assuming he keeps paying rent) and cant bring up these issues with my mom because it will get me into more shit.
What the fuck do i do guys? Why is Toronto so fucked up i have experienced nothing but darkness and evil in this place.
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>>18102416
Buy a cheap safe. I dunno about Canadia but in the US if you need to rid yourself of drug parasites you need to stop doing drugs long enough to get law enforcement on your side.
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>>18102416
try to find a new flatmate and give him the 30-day notice saying that your mom plans to sell the flat.
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Hey friends, I need some help with my mineman infiltration. I have been playing on a RP serb and I told my friends that they should not trust banks but they did so they got jew'd. So I joined the enemies instead but ofcourse I was not for real so I am trying to milk off information the right way. How do I manipulate 15 people with ingenious warplans?
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>>18102385
What the fuck are you talking about?
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I had an older stuck up co-worker berate me today.
This person has a history of teasing people behind their backs and taking digs at them through being two faced enough to seem interested in them. Only to share that information poorly to a small group of other pathetic people.
Now I know I should not really care about this person because they only fuck with people to get a reaction. Ontop of it all they are really spineless cowards.
What is a way to fuck with this person/group?
Or if you can explain to me how not to focus on being vindicated through some means, I have a problem with letting go of stupid shit like this aimed at me.
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>>18102379
The best revenge is to live a good life.
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>>18102379
Phish them and steal money from their accounts
but really dont take revenge, makes you seem salty
move on
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>>18102395
/thread
Doing anything else will just waste your time.
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Pro and cons of lying? 2017-03-05 05:16:26 Post No.18102350
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What's the importance and the utility of speaking the truth?
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>>18102350
I only lie to my family. If I didn't, they'd think I'm a satanic neo-nazi. That is why.
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>>18102360
What kind of lies? If I can ask
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>>18102364
It's very specific things. Like for example, my mother is really into A Course in Miracles.
When she talks about it, I just nod along and say "oh hehe thats nice..." when in actuality I think it's the most ridiculous bullshit that only a total subhuman moron would ever fall for.
Another one... my brother plays in a band and is totally OBSESSED with music. Every time I see him, it's "music this music that, have you heard this new music?" etc. and it turns into him wanting me to listen to a bunch of shitty nu-male bands like Bastille and other dumb shit like that. I usually just say I like it so as not to hurt his feelings, otherwise he'd get mad at me in a really passive-aggressive way.
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Am I a being a bitch? 2017-03-05 05:08:38 Post No.18102335
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I feel like I'm being a bit of a bitch but I just want someone here to confirm it or am I being made a fool of..?
So right now my and my gf are at a stalemate because I wanted to see her see her today but she was out until 3am with her friends, she said she would see me but didn't seem bothered.
I know this is something petty which is why I feel like a idiot but hear me out.. I'm trying to secure out future and were looking to get a house. I've been to the bank, crunching the numbers, budgeting etc and also advising her we should save a bit more but I'm not against her spending too much money etc and told her this despite making 3x what she does and spend less.
All I wanted was to chill with her and discuss our future today but she's at home, maybe sleeping or lying in bed on Facebook or something.
What do you think? Am I overreacting here which I think I am a bit maybe or should she at least be more committed?
Just like to add, it was her friends party because she left work but she will still get to see her and she has opportunity to come home earlier etc.
Don't know what to think..
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Buddy, holy shit.
You're trying to rope your gf, (note, not wife) into buying a house with you?
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>>18102343
We both want to do this but I'm looking to move from whimsical ideas to actually making an effort, she's my fiancee btw not gf if that helps.
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>>18102348
That does change things a decent bit.
I guess to answer your question, you are in fact being a bitch. She's recovering from a night of partying. You can always talk about your future tomorrow. Go buy her some lunch and bring it over and watch some daytime television.
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I recently got dumped. It wasn't my fault apparently but it still hurts a whole bunch. I can't stop thinking about them. I still love them. I joined Tinder and hooked up with someone from it and haven't spoken to them since. I feel guilty, but I only feel guilty because I don't want my ex to be hurt if they knew.
Did I do the right thing? What the fuck is the right thing to do in this situation?
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I was in your place about 1.5 months ago so I know exactly how you feel. First of all don't worry too much about the Tinder hookup. I was also agonizing over not immediately getting into dating because I didn't want to hurt my ex, then I found out he was already in another serious relationship just a month after he dumped me. If you were dumped then chances are they already started moving on before the relationship ended and you shouldn't think about whether or not what you do will hurt them.
Second, the best thing to do is no contact. After I was dumped I immediately deleted his number, deleted all of our pictures/tagged posts together, and blocked him on all my social media. Not knowing what he's up to has immensely helped in my moving on. I actually only recently unblocked him (but not re-friended) because I no longer have the urge to snoop on him.
Finally, focus on yourself. Hang out with friends, find a new hobby, go to gym. Once you think you're ready to start seriously dating again, put yourself out there. And if you need to cry, then cry. Even though I'm at the point where I no longer want him back, I still think about him a lot and some days are worse than others. But I'm a lot better now than where I was just a month and a half ago and I know that with time I'll keep on improving, and you will too.
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>>18102773
>Once you think you're ready to start seriously dating again, put yourself out there
Not OP, but how do you know when you can? Ive been dating many women over the past few years and they never go anywhere. Either the girls ghost me or I self sabotage and end it quickly. Maybe I have trust issues?
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>>18102323
think of it like this, if thats how they are in a relationship, you dont want to know how marriage will be like. also it helps to meet "functional" guys/girls.
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How can make this effect
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>>18102312
How can I *
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Google "video glitch tutorial" you twat
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>>18102499
datamoshing is what it's called from my google searches.
Just fucking use the internet. You have the entire internet at your disposal.
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I am having a conflict of mind, but I am afraid of throwing up some incomprehensible bullshit. So I am going to try my best to keep this simple.
I am having trouble with probably 20% of people I know currently. But generally I am very focused on trying to be accepting. I just cannot get beyond people that are addicted to gossip and treating other people like shit. Unlike most others that just put up with it, I don't know why. Some just appear spineless but I am sure people have their reasons. Continuation of a certain existence perhaps.
The thing I am having problems with is letting to of that 20%. It's not that I care for these people, I think they are shallow manipulative. I just don't really know how to let go, and I also think they might be playing that fact because it's not really a secret.
It's as if I give them the knife to back stab me, knowing full well that's what they will use it for.
But then again I don't believe in living in a world where people like this cause everyone to be more cautious with who they deal with.
I guess I am just idealistic thinking that people should be beyond pathetically trying to have an impact on each other and getting off on the fact.
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Is English not your first language?
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This is incomprehensible bullshit.
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>>18102298
Just commit suicide already, jesus
>Meet a girl
>9/10 she looks perfect
>write with her for a week
>she is chill and kind of fun
>today she sends me pics of her cutting herself from a year ago, like totally random with some stupid emojis
>says its been many years and she's ok now
>I ask her why she sends it to me
>like do you expect me to go "OMG xDDD" or something? Why are you sending me these stupid monkey face emojis next to a bloody arm ?
What do I say guys? I am so confused rn. How do you react to this ? This kind of scares me gave me these psycho vibes.
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She wants to open up to you emotionally, but isn't mature enough to sit you down and talk about her past. She'd rather make a joke out of it.
How old is this broad?
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>>18102277
>Teehee im an edgy little cunt, not a big deal anon-kun :)
She enjoys attention from the shock value the cutting gives her. Seen that type already.
My life is a fucking wreck, I want to kill myself but I lack the courage to do it, or more like I can't disregard the thoughts of what will happen to my family if I really did. I don't want them to be hurt even though I kind of hate them. I just can't find a reason to live, even if I did take an interest in to a thing, for example in math, drawing, etc., I lack the skill to able to learn it because I always give up too early when I can't do it. What's worse is that despite of I'm aware of what's happening, I do not take any action and just say fuck it, fuck everything. I go to school, go home, shitpost, sleep, and repeat the same shit over and over. I did some self studies before but i'm always distracted by vidya and weeb shit. I want to change my perspective in this so called meme "life".
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Sort yourself out.
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>>18102297
That's what I've been trying to do for the past years, I can have efforts to things that I like to do to but I question always myself if this is really worth, I might as well as sleep the whole day becauae nothing really changes.
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>>18102276
I was with you up until the part about having a family who would care if you died. Fuck off normie.
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What makes some men more desirable that other men outside the obvious "money, looks, fame" bullcrap?
I mean a girl I liked and talked with lately just posted a picture with some random ass dude drinking coffee and hashtagging shit, thinking she never actually did this with me as well. I don't know man, it seems like I'm some sort of relationship antithesis because since I get attention from girls, It's obvious it's not my looks or social status. Just that every time we get closer,m it never actually goes all the way into an official relationship.
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>>18102269
you need to have that inner confidence, lead the relationship, dont be too emotional but still be friendly, caring.
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>>18102269
Personality and intelligence.
>Laid back
I never felt like their emotions were overwhelming. They were rarely nervous, very calm yet assertive. They rarely were excessively angered, they were sad but not upset. When I was around them, I felt like everything was going to be fine.
>Picky about girls
>Witty
>Interesting to talk to
>Grown ups
Finances in order, a decent job, able to handle responsibilities
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game, emotional intelligence, natural dominance