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A website filled with trolls and children is where you feel like you can be yourself? Play an MMO

>>18551701
I understand what he's saying and I would say it this way, and it's why I've been using online media to make friends since the 80s. It's not like I feel more like myself, it's that I don't have to pretend to be anyone else.

>>18551698

I'm 25 and I've been using 4chan since 2007. I felt that way for a few years when I was younger but got over it as I got more comfortable with myself and happier casually making jokes about stuff that in the past I'd share online but paranoidly hide IRL. It helps that I don't have anything really bad to hide like extreme redpill beliefs etc. How old are you OP?

Personally, I would pursue the statistics career path and continue to do programming as a serious hobby. If you do love it and continue to hone your skill at it, I'm sure you can get a job in computer science but do stats for assurance.

>>18551697

Lots of friends in actuary work = contacts that can actually get you a job in that field which is huge. Additionally, "an actuary who can also code really well" is a pretty good CV that will get you into a lot of things including many programming jobs, whereas "a guy who can code really well and has a piece of paper to prove it too" will not open the same amount of doors.

I think actuarial work will leave pretty much all your doors open, make your CV insane, and if you find you hate it it's extremely easy to go get some highly relevant 1-2 year programming course under your belt or even just move straight into programming off the back of your mathematical ability

Having the same problem in Hamilton(city nearest toronto). Only I'm a guy.

All the girls I meet are afraid of commitment, either that or are crazy "marry me now" types.

Also with so many options many of them feel like they can hold out for their 10/10 and he will come by. Only issue is he will sleep with them and then move on. But because he slept with them it makes their standards all warped and they think they deserve nothing but 10/10's all the time.

I'm not even some bitter R9K virgin. Just a very tired guy in his mid twenties coming out of a long long term relationship that was actually based on trust and commitment and caring and who really really doesn't like playing the dating game.

I can't do all this peacocking game playing crap. I just want to meet someone, get to know them and be myself. But people in public don't want to be approached, people at clubs are not my kinda people. And girls online are either all just seeking attention or are playing too many games with too many people after them that they treat it like going shopping and you have to grab their attention in 2 messages or less or they move on.

>>18551687
Two roads:

Enter the world of casual dating. Don't look for a mate or ltr, but one guy to go dancing with, another to play co-ed football with, one for movies, etc. As long as everyone knows what everyone is doing, this can be a lot of fun

OR (or meanwhile) take the long friends-to-lovers route. The teenagers on 4chan are paranoid about the friendzone route, but after 20 the most likely prospects are guys you know and like as friends first.

>>18551687
My advice would to try and find someone from your own area who happens to be in the London region. At least you'll have that in common, and it will make things easier if you ever decide to move back. Widen your circle of friends and acquaintances from home, and suchlike.

There's no right answer for a question like this. You seem to have realized that you are the one who needs to take action and make changes, so there's a start. You're on your own in trying to figure out what those changes are. The way out of your comfort zone is paved with doubt, remorse, fear and anxiety, so it's going to be tough.

>>18551680

Dude you're just like me!

I'm 26, I've had sex once when I was 20 (it was awful), and I became emotional with a girl a few years ago who burned me. So now I can only see girls, sex, and dating in a very negative light. So more or less, im scared.

I workout too and have myself on a very good life track. Girls think my life is very interesting and i do get attention from QTs. But all I do is friendzone them.

>>18551739
Same, got burned by a girl who lead me on in h/s and the experience gave me the fears big time. When I think about who I am I wouldn't want to inflict myself on anyone - all I do is lift, read and fantasize about dying. I know they'd hate the real me so it's hard to deal with when they show interest.

>>18551634

As a rule of thumb, if you're willing and able to commit to improving your life in a manner that will help you out of depression in the long run, then antidepressants can help you by giving you enough energy to start working on it. Then get on them. But if you're in such a shitty spot that you have no plan or motivation to get out of the situation you are in and have no intention to work on yourself/your life, then antidepressants will only give you enough energy to wallow more and eventually to kill yourself and getting on them might be a bad idea. Basically, don't go in expecting a miracle solution to your problems or it will backfire.

>>18551605
Hello anon. I am older than you and had the same thing. One day however for one month I did feel happy. While I lost what made me happy recently I knew it was indeed possible to obtain happiness. You'll do fine.

>>18551632
I just don't know how to go to bed anymore.
My life isn't bad, but there's just no respite, I can't push myself anymore.
If I'm not working I'm just sitting there, don't even watch youtube anymore.
Look like a complete psychopath from the outside.

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Who cares, you'll never be alpha.

>>18551529
Except I would rather like to keep my friends. And as such I worry about things like this as a means of preventing perceptions that I may not be aware of that can affect the friendship.

>>18551521

I sort of know what you mean, I'm the "witty" guy of my groups usually so I'm always burning people and sometimes realise I'm laying it on a bit too thick. Sometimes it's satisfying setting the other person up for a good comeback and letting them have the last word too, it's like hard mode banter: escort mission

It would be kind of weird to ask that, but it depends on whether you have a friend who was there that you're really close with and share a lot of stuff with. Like some of my friends we're great friends and hang out a lot but don't necessarily overshare with each other, while some I only see once or twice a month but we'll get drunk and share stories about our exes and stuff like that.

If you're feeling like you were too much of an asshole, just keep toning it back like you are already and try not to let it happen again. Start bringing chips and dips and stuff to hangouts unprompted

BURP

>>18551498
Jesus Christ you're a sad sack of shit
No begging won't work it makes you look like a creep no one loves which you are. But you don't want people to know that.

Oki listen up faggot. You want a gf you're gonna put in some work because right now you're disgusting.

Step 1: Gym. Go on body building dot com and look for a plan. Follow it religiously.

Step 2 learn to talk to people like not an autist. Be kind, respectful, compassionate, but also know when to say ballsy things. Learn what is acceptable and unacceptable in the group around you

Step 3. Go out. Find school activity or clubs just do things with people and be social. Go up to people talk to them and show genuine interest in them.

Step 4 make sure you understand social ques. Some girls don't want you around. I don't want you around desu because you're filth. Learn to know when and how to tell if you are wanted

Step 6 ask girl to hang out. She should be cool and get along. After his point keep asking her to hang out then fuck her and you're good

It's easy. Get off 4chan and go out. Stop acting pathetic. Also get a good job if you don't have oke of those. I'm assuming scum like you doesn't.

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>be good looking
>take whatever you want
No, but seriously.

Not much of help but i get the feeling that you might like doing other things than you are doing atm with your friends. Like friends that actually share your interests.

>>18551484
I don't know where to find friends like that though. All the people from my social circles are normies.

Playing games and anime. Like aint there any facebook groups, forums or meetings, conventions or smth.. There you might find equal minded fellas.

Its quite obvious that you wont find neets around somewhere except for those meetings or online...

Make a tinder acc, take an anime looking profile pic, write a weaboo description and look for men and women and tell em you are only looking for likeminded anime people. 90% of ppl wont anyway reply or answer any simple anime related questions since you can sort em out... And between the rest you might find some friends..

Work your ass off, long hours and or try to accomplish something that might cinvince ppl above you of your significance.

Although it might be all worthless as long as no open positions are available no matter what you do, so you might aswell apply in other companies for better position

Admin work, you really don't have to work at all, just be the guy

>>18551472
There are several routes, but let's focus on "quickly"

TELL your boss/foreman/department head of your ambition. Ask him to keep you in mind if any job with less back and more brain opens up.

It really may be that simpke.