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When I was 4 I came home from school and my dad asked as a joke "are there any cute girls in your class" I replied with "no but there is this really cute boy" after I said that he pushed me down the stairs and I ended up in a&e
He left that night...
Should I try and make contact with my dad again?
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>>18547107
Maybe you shouldn't of been such a faggot perhaps?
But yeah OP go suck your dad's dick, reconnect man.
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I understand your dad, and no matter what i think about gay people, doing something like that to his 4y.o. Child.
I would not. You will ruin all your life to seek for something that might satisfy him, although he is a sellfish manchild. I would not be proud but than men does not deserve a son. Sometimes you cant choose your family and i guess he made his decision.
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>>18547107
the only possible reason you want to track this cunt down is so you can put a bullet in his spine to get back at him for putting you in a wheelchair after all these years.
oh, and maybe getting him served with court papers and shit.
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Purpose of Relationships and Self-Sufficiency 2017-07-23 07:05:09 Post No.18547075
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Purpose of Relationships and Self-Sufficiency
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Let's see your guys' thoughts.
I'm 20, Single, Living by Myself, in the Military, Mormon, and currently diagnosed with Depression. With that in mind, I don't see socializing with friends/acquaintances/others as important unless if I am doing my job or if it's in my way.
Growing up, People seem to value those that are Self-Sufficient (Especially in the Military), those that can handle the hardships of life, those that move forward and grow as a human. Showing weakness and pain is something that is looked down by society and by me. When someone shows that they are weak and can't move forward, They are not succeeding in their own purpose and they are seen as pathetic and weak. When people can't do their job or maintain their purpose in society and life, they are not respected by others around him/her.
These things have always been in my mind for as long as I can remember, and it explains why I don't have any best fiends or friends in general. I just don't understand the purpose of establishing Friendships. You think when you're self-sufficient, you don't need to spend time with others because of how much of a waste of time and energy it is and how you can handle yourself on your own. It's why I kinda stopped talking to people and why I stopped going to Church.
Same goes for Dating and Romantic Relationships. I've never had a girlfriend my whole life. I've never even been in any form of date in my whole life. I've never bonded with someone of the opposite gender. Like Friendships, it contradicts with Self-Sufficiency and it kinda just seems meaningless.
What do you guys think? I wanna see what you guys think of relationships and the Idea of being Self-Sufficient.
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I feel that being self sufficient involves being able to support yourself financially. Das it
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It really depends on what it all means to you. As long as you live according to your means, according to your nature, you'll be fine. However, you talk about being diagnosed with depression, and you talk about never having been in a romantic relationship, that it "seems meaningless", but if you really thought it was meaningless you wouldn't have mentioned it. The fact that you're depressed tells me you're not living according to your nature. That being said, you don't have to be in a relationship to do that. Just don't lie to yourself and pretend that you don't care as an excuse for not living according to your nature, and that there are things you could be doing differently.
If you want my opinions on the purpose of relationships and self-sufficiency, I feel a lot of relationships are misguided and selfish, that is, people tend to enter a relationship because they feel like they "should" and that there's something wrong with them if they don't, and also to fill emotional and sexual needs that everyone experiences. However, that doesn't mean that a relationship is absolutely necessary for someone to enjoy life. I've been single for years, and the way I see it, if a relationship comes along that I'm willing to get into, fine, but if not, also fine. I'm in no rush. I disagree with dating sites like Tinder, as there's no way to foster a meaningful relationship that way - the relationship will end as it began, if you start seeing someone for purely utilitarian reasons, then you will similarly stop seeing that person when it benefits you to do so, and vice versa.
As for self-sufficiency, I see it as being capable of living independent of what others do. However, that doesn't mean that I shun others or avoid social contact, as humans are inherently social creatures; we're not designed to live in isolation, it's unhealthy. I just live in a way such that regardless of what other people say or do, it has little impact on me and my life.
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Well hello /adv/, I will get straight to the point
I am 19 years, old, have been a IV heroin and benzo addict for the past 2 years. Have(had) plans to go to college this fall, already accepted and everything.... I cut up my student ID and had to eat half my benzo script to stop myself from going out, and shooting a gram of dope to become an hero, after 8 weeks clean time life just seems so pointless.... Not to mention I am not on near enough benzos... I have constant anxiety, pretty much all this script does is keep me from going into WD/getting the shakes.
The reason I started using drugs is because of anxiety, bipolar, and depression. This went untreated for a very long time and now, I am on some meds but obviously they are not working and not enough. I just dont see a point in living anymore, I shared needles with some sketchy people and slept with some skanky girls... I pray that I dont have hepc or HIV but that is always in back of my mind and I am just so fucking done with everything. Heroin cured my chronic pain, depression, anxiety, everything... but I will never get an opiod script due to history of methadone clinics and 1 rehab. Even if I were to miraculously get an opiod script it would not be a high enough dose, but that will literally never happen due to my past and me being on benzos.
I dont even know why Im making this thread... if I dont kill myself tonight or tomorrow there is about a 90% chance I will within next year.
Im sure you get these kind of threads all the time and I am sorry for bumping a more important thread of the board... im just a useless junky... I just want to talk to someone...
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>>18547059
Holyfuck
Brah you're going to make it one day just never give up no matter how hard life gets don't choose that route
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>>18547059
Military
As long as you stay off the front, the army is a place to get some dicipline and lifelong friends.
And dont kill yourself, It just forces you to face whatever existential horror you feel
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Another shitty woman thread... 2017-07-23 06:52:25 Post No.18547051
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Another shitty woman thread...
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So where to start. Met this girl. Hot af. Smart, but with a lot of issues. Thought i could help her through them and i did. Took a while. She started calling me habibi and asking me to call her habibti. Later i found out it means lover but i went along as why not eh? Hot af. So things were great for a while. Then she told me about a bit of a messed up past too... someone tried to rape her apparently and some guy in the internet caged her for a year or something. Anyway, should have seen the warning signs but i was too far gone then... so i believed it st the time (yeah im stupid).... anyway she was confiding in me etc etc. All great and then we finally got it on. She was super happy all night etc, and in the morning she was regretted it cos she didnt want to lose a friend bla bla bla. Told her i couldnt just be friends, it was all or nothing for me so she said there was a possibility in the future and separately also told me she had tried to kill herself before. Anyway nights carried on in a similar fashion and mornings the same. So this is where it got weirder. She started getting distant. i said lets call it quits and go our separate ways. And at this point i was in love... but anyway she told me she couldnt live without me and that she needed me in her life or life wasnt worth it. At this point i knew it was going to hurt me like fuck to be there for her still every day so intold her id be there but i needed to be more than friends. Right now i was also afraid she might hurt herself. So indecided to take the pain of all this and keep it away from her so at least she could be happy. So again back to the day night routine. One day a friend of mine mentioned her to me and about how she was Helping him through his breakup - just advice (he didnt know about us) so i tried to end it again but same shit. Now she has told him she wants him (he doesnt), and ive made up my mind to leave her. (Both he and i know about her activities with one another) What do i do?
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I'm not sure how to go further. A couple of weeks ago I got in touch with my old supervisor to get a recommendation letter for a program I'm applying to. Well, we've kept up texting since then. She even took me to dinner and paid for it. She has also expressed interest in traveling abroad with me and she uses a lot of smiley faces when she texts. Tonight she even came over to my apartment for coffee and she wants to go to breakfast when she gets off in the morning. My friends say she is interested in me, but I'm not so sure.
When we met up a a couple weeks ago for coffee she mentioned off hand that she has a boyfriend that she broke up with, but that he doesn't know it yet. She also mentioned that he had a low sex drive. I kind of just smiled when she said it. Since then she still mentions him, but not in any negative way, but I've never really responded or asked about him. I kind of ignore it. Today she even mentioned how his birthday is coming up, but she hasn't called him her boyfriend since. She only mentions him by name. I like her, but I'm afraid to mention it. I don't want to lose a friend. I'm afraid she'll think I have an ulterior motive for spending time for her.
What should I do?
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Breakfast is almost here. Any advice?
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>>18547267
She won't realistically treat you any better than the boyfriend she has and also doesn't have. That's bad biscuits, bro.
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Sometimes you gotta be blunt. Be upfront with not knowing what it is you two are doing, and try to find out her intentions.
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Ok I have a slight issue,
There's this girl that's 109% into me and I kinda like her too but everything she believes is everything I'm agenst, she's not bad looking (7/10) and We're both kinda desperate
What do
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Everything? You will never agree with anyone 100% on everything. And if you found someone who perfectly aligned with your beliefs, you'd just have a sounding board with no room for personal growth for either of you.
Agree to disagree.
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>>18546942
are you able to open your mind to learn from eachother? Or are the differences just too severe?
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>Fuck her as much as possible.
That's the answer you're looking for isn't it?
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Asymmetrical Red Reflex 2017-07-23 05:52:04 Post No.18546941
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Hi /adv/, I'm probably being paranoid.
My eyes have looked like this for a couple weeks now. It's such a subtle difference that I think maybe I'm just imagining things.
Could it be retinoblastoma? I read that it's so ridiculously rare in adults but it can happen.
Anyone know what else could cause this or if it's inert/just camera problems and I'm being dumb?
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Disregarding these fine folks 2017-07-23 05:28:48 Post No.18546921
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Disregarding these fine folks
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How do I revert back to being someone who isolates themselves, without the anxiety and pangs of loneliness? I don't want to meet anyone until I have a better income. As of now, I don't have freed up money for a gaming computer or anything like that.
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That's side effects to being isolated, sorry
Why does money determine your relationships? Tell the people you know you're saving for cool shit or something if you don't have the money to go out or but games
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I rent a room in a wealthy area. I'm afraid the only solution is to start making money. The friends I made, having zero dollars in my bank account, were pretty damned troublesome. It won't take a lot of money, but it'll take something. My first break at winning interaction with human beings again will probably be gaming online, once I can afford a gaming computer.
Anyway, nobody can deny that there are good and bad ways to get through rough times. There have to be things to do that will alleviate the anxiety and loneliness, something that is immersive and feels worthwhile to focus on. Lately, I've been watching classic films.
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please help i wanna play toontown rewritten but it wont work thank you
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did you try unplugging your computers power cable from the wall and plugging it back in?
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Please elaborate as to why it doesn't work? Does it crash during game play or it just won't start at all?
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Some background info:
>date ex for a little less than a year
>he dumps me because he says that he's not emotionally stable enough to date a girl
>I understand and somewhat agree, but I'm still heartbroken
>we hook up for about 3 months after the official break up
>it was really more than hooking up, we were essentially dating without the title
>he starts distancing himself and tells me he wants to stop hooking up
>I ask why
>he gives me a bs answer
>a few weeks later he tells me a female friend likes him, but the feeling isn't mutual
>at this point, we aren't hooking up and are barely even friends
>a week after that he backtracks and tells me he does like her
>I remind him of the reason we broke up, because he "can't date anyone right now"
>he reassures me that they will never date
>he starts getting involved with her
>I find out they're officially dating a couple weeks later
This is just one example of how I got absolutely played for the fool I am during this relationship. I've finally realized that this guy was just no good. Hindsight is 20/20 and it's pitiful that it took me this long to figure it out.
Regardless, I am so damn bitter and resentful because of all this. I still see him occasionally because we have shared friends. Simply seeing him puts me in a foul mood because I start thinking about how pissed I am at him. I've tried to just avoid him (and therefore my anger) in general, but that just amplifies my animosity when I do finally interact with him. It's the kind of rage and frustration that can make you cry.
Tl;dr how can I get over my resentment towards my ex?
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You can't really get over the resentment if you plan to learn from it. For starters stop giving the milk for free if you want someone to buy the cow. Why put up with your downsides when he could hook up with you and do his own thing?
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Cut contact.
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>>18546847
What are you mad about? He didn't want to date you, so he broke up. That's completely normal. It's not his fault that he didn't love you. You don't choose who you fall for. Maybe his reason was BS but who cares, you're broken up either way, get over it.
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People without hobbies 2017-07-23 04:55:07 Post No.18546846
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How do you deal with people who do not have hobbies? I seem to always find myself moving in with people who lack hobbies and as a result become very demanding of my time. While I don't mind socializing with roommates, I spend a lot of my time away from work pursuing other interests of mine. Does anyone else experience this kind of pressure from people who seem to lack lives outside of work/school?
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How can I deal with tooth pain? I think I have a cavity, can't get in to a dentist for another week and a half. It comes and goes, but has been getting worse the past few days. Tried rinsing with salt water, tried taking advil, but neither worked. It is getting to the point were it interferes with me eating sometimes.
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if its that bad there isnt much you can do but actually go in, unless you wanna get a serious painkiller for a week and a half but thats goign to make everything other than eating worse.
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I can't though. When I scheduled the earliest I could get in was 2 weeks. It's only been a few days since but I don't know if I can make it much longer.
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So the pain isn't as bad in the morning/day. It really starts hurting at night.
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I went to Protestant school, My mom is catholic. My dad is ethnically Jewish. Never really had much to do with my dad's side of the family and people only notice it if they know about my last name being pretty commonly Jewish.
Just got told that I am " a filthy half breed mut and not fully chosen and will spend my life rootless without a real identity, hopefully i will kill yourself or your nazi friends put you into the oven for you "
This is from a fully Jew guy who ran a discord I was in.
Alot more mixed people are going to be attracted to identarianism because the rootlessness is real for them. But at the same time they can't partake because they are seen as impure.
I dunno, I guess Im doomed to living in rootless bohemia.
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So some asshole insulted you. Who elected him God, and what possible reason could you have for accepting his judgment of you?
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>discord
I don't think he's in any position to judge anybody. And very few Jews are fully Jewish, you've had a couple thousand years to pick up some outside blood.
Some of the most devout Jewish folks I know are half or a quarter Jewish.
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Why do you care what he thinks? You have two cultures, but that that doesn't mean you have to choose either, you can be whoever you want to and learn more about it at any time. Being mixed isn't bad once you realize you don't have to identify with any certain group, I know I never did and it's not an issue to think about.
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I'm good at making friends but not keeping them. I don't expect /adv/ to rectify my entrenched personality issues, but currently I have no way to make friends for a few months I'd say. I've already pushed away the old batch besides a few exceptions that are burning fast.
I have to bide my time alone for a good while (a few months) until I can go back to school, which leads me to being around the shitty people that I keep around, but I have decided I don't want to do that.
Any coping mechanisms you have for being absolutely alone? I don't even really have online friends, and I do not wish to make a Facebook. I also can't drive and live in the middle of nowhere.
I know you're going to try to address something else in this post, but don't.
I just want to know some good ways to avoid cabin fever in this situation.
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Uhhhh I've fell in this reasoning once. Try to enjoy company and others. Theres something nice about relating to other people and talking about the same things, set aside the edge and embrace the gayness of frienship, the oportunity to make friends will come eventually.
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>>18546770
Be your own friend! It's cheesy - it's what I do though, and it works! Enjoy the time you spend with others but enjoy your own time even more. Maintain positivity. Be okay with how things are going!
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I wish I knew. I'm bad at making friends, but I have no trouble keeping them (so long as they're real and no fake friends).
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I broke up with my boyfriend last night because he doesn't have a car or a cell phone and he wastes all his money on drugs and alcohol. It's really not as bad as it sounds. He's a great guy, very smart. The best person I've ever met, and I'm not much better off either in terms of saving money and I also don't have a car. I blocked him on facebook last night and today we saw each other at work and didn't speak. I miss him and I think we should talk things out. Is it too soon or should I just move on?
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A cell phone is $40 once and then $35 monthly. Most drug addicts have cellphones. How does he call his dealer? The fact you have to question whether or not you made the right choice, by leaving him, is concerning.
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You probably should've talked to him first unless you already know he won't better himself. You can have an amazing personality and great synergy with you, but destructive behavior with drugs and alcohol doesn't bode well for a healthy relationship.