I have gotten progressively more antisocial over the past few years.
I'm 34 now, had a ton of friends in elementary school, less in high school, less in college, and literally not one single friend now (though I am married and have a great relationship with my best-friend-wife).
My situation is kind of like a catch-22, where I feel the lonely-type emptiness urging me to make a friend, but then as soon as I get a chance to spend time with another person that could turn into a friend, I get immediately bored and annoyed and just want to get back to chilling by myself.
Anyone else feel this way? Is there a way to start being interested in other people? Is it even necessary to be interested in other people and have friends? Are friends even worth it to have around?????!?!
I don't want to kill myself, I have plenty of hobbies, and I am not really keeping my wife from being social.
>>18555304
Shut up I'm your Friend
do what i do, make short-lived one-off low committment friendships using the power of the interwebs
What are some things I can do to lose belly fat? I've been under a lot of stress lately, and I've been snacking a lot and drinking lots of cola to cope with the stress. But I don't want to go on like this anymore cause the weight keeps piling on. I'm looking at healthier things to eat and drink instead of soda, sweets and chips. And I have a cross trainer at home that I work out on, but I can't manage more than more half an hour, and I read that you have to run more than half an hour to really start the fat burning process. At most I can do 33 minutes or so. If anyone has some tips or advice on how to lose belly fat i'm all ears.
physically just do what you have always been doing but try eating less FATTY and SUGARY things.
For breakfast instead of fried eggs or bacon or some thing eat a big bowl of cereal.
For meals instead of soda get some kind of juice.
Lift weights. Cardio doesnt really burn fat, at least compared to weight lifting. Its a common misconception.
Secondly you cant burn belly fat. You burn body fat. Meaning if you want to get rid of belly fat, you need to burn fat in general to the point where it starts going away from your belly.
Third, and most importantly, is diet. Stop eating bullshit. Cut out soda entirely, it is horrific for your health. Stop eating candy and chips and fastfood and junkfood overall. Want a snack? Eat some fruit. For meals you want most of your calories to come from protein sources (eggs, tuna, most nuts, meat in general, etc). Of course eat a balanced diet, but focus on more protein and less junkfood (or better, none at all).
Go to >>>/fit/ and click the giant link in the sticky. It is a fucking goldmine of info. I cannot stress this enough.
>last, be honest: where are you on this gay little pic of steps? Apply yoself!
>>18555258
Not tryna shit on you but thats bad advice. Fatty foods do not equal body fat. Sugar and carbs infact are the wordt culprits for people gaining weight. OP should absolutely be eating fried eggs for breakfast, they are an excellent source of protein and omega 3s. Infact, breakfast cereal is possibly one of the worst foods possible to eat and should be cut out entirely. It has ridiculous amounts of sugar and is entirely carbs.
Have oatmeal instead, or some sort of healthy granola if you love cereal. Use google to find which ones arent unhealthy - sadly almost every cereal is not good for you.
Again focus on eating more protein. Dont worry about fat either. Low fat diets pushed by mainstream like "the american heart association" and such are actually the least effective at reducing bodyfat. Dietary fat doesnt just get consumed and stuck on your body, its a huge misconception. If you want to cut something from your diet, its carbs and sugar. This doesnt mean you should eliminate them entirely, it just means thats where you should focus all of your dietary cutting on. Simply removing junkfood is adequate for almost everyone with an average diet.
Should I stop doing drugs even if I don't think I have a problem with them? Most specifically weed I don't use everyday but I feel like I'm going to need to stop eventually
How do I put two weeks in for a restaurant job?
over email or phone?
person
>>18555104
Either one, or in person, but it might be good for your own records if you have it written down with the date and employer.
In person, and then ask your supervisor or anyone who works closely with you for a reference
>feel lonely because no gf
>join dating sites
>loneliness only increases
The fuck do I solve this math problem of loneliness
add moar variables
> quit expecting 10/10 girls
> expect 5/10
So I've had some shit going on in the past few days, and I haven't been to eat much. Like, since Sunday I have had less than 1000 calories a day. I'm starving all the time but I can't really stomach food, or I just don't want to eat. Is this depression or something?
>>18555041
more like anxiety or nerves. could be a little bit of depression too. just force yourself to eat
>>18555041
Just get high and go to the grocery store I'm positive you'll leave with a ton of snacks. Then get high when you get home and eat the snacks.
Here's my situation:
I've had many mental problems for a long time, and I've been told recently that it sounds like I've been sexually abused as a kid. It would make sense, considering my childhood, but I don't remember anything that could be called sexual abuse, only hazy stuff that's very borderline. Nevertheless, if for nothing else but to solve my issues, I should probably go to therapy. The only problem is, I can't possibly fit it in my schedule.
Here's my questions: is there a good online therapy solution? I've heard that most of them are shallow and unhelpful. Second: is there a way to explore those memories on my own? It's mostly my curiosity now, but I'd like to find out more (and yes, I know memory recovery is not trusted, I'm not gonna sue anybody based on them, just curious).
Thanks.
> i'm a therapist for real bro got muh degree from best buy
tell me what kind of mental problems ?
>>18554961
Oh boy, here we go:
>depression since 13
>sex fantasies since around 5
>don't remember much of my childhood before school
>constantly afraid of my mom, who's never hurt a fly, and had been always, well, creepily close
>generally phobias, can't stand open spaces and nights since 4-5
>sexual ocd, ever since 13, trying to be "clean", changing all clothes after masturbation
>yeah, also - non-stop masturbation and porn addiction since 10-11
>always feeling unsafe
>used to lock doors at night as a teen
>obsessed with "childhood innocence" (jesus, that sounds dumb) since a kid, thinking of sex as dirty and damaging, and forcing myself to do it, often
>no response to bullying, beating, or anything like that since at least 10, instant dissociation and numbness
Probably forgot something.
>>18555001
> wow
you definitely sound like you may have been abused , your mother being close very close may have been a result of that same with most of what you listed.
> Have a business idea
> Don't have time for regular work
> Need to make around $1500
Any help with that? Do You have any ideas?
I can do whatever, selling and buying stuff. But I have no capital for start. No chance of borrowing from friends or family.
For the most helpful i go with 10% of first income.
Sell your ass to men
>>18554928
All I could do is fuckin a CD for money, nothing more, hard to find
if op is still lurking do it >>18554928
my job is not related to my major. 7 months in and my bosses are gradually noticing i am not suited for the task.
i want to quit but i need the money. i have no connections in my field and i am scared that i wont find a job i like, based on my current irrelevant experience.
should i give it another try and try to learn this job, even when i have no idea what i am doing ? the contract ends up in december and if i do well, i was told i would get hired again for another year. but is it gonna be worth it? should i stay here until the year ends and then look for another job? should i quit now and flush this discomfort away and be unemployed for god knows how long? should i sign up and wageslave for another boring and unsatisfactory year?
help anons
>>18554889
work hard and have a good attitude and be surprised where that takes you maybe?
>>18554889
Stick to your job. Work hard at it and get better. Look for another job on your own time.
bugs... easy on the carrots
How do I become more emotionally "ready" for a relationship? I'm a male, and whenever I've been broken up with, I'm told I'm a great guy and special, but that I'm not yet ready for anything emotionally serious, but I'd like to be.
In general I'm pretty insecure and anxious, but I have no idea how to remedy these. Both by "ignore it bro just be yourself" and also actually dealing with my emotional problems head on.
I was told that I'm too judgemental and that I'm not understanding enough, although I've thought I've tried to be patient and understanding in the past.
>>18554885
>How do I become more emotionally "ready" for a relationship? I'm a male, and whenever I've been broken up with, I'm told I'm a great guy and special, but that I'm not yet ready for anything emotionally serious, but I'd like to be.
Sounds like women weaving lies for their own continence. No one will be able to tell you what that means.
>>18554885
What insecurities do you have? Of the /r9k/ variety?
>>18554948
I don't browse /r9k/. I'm able to obtain a gf, hold a job and progress, have friends and hobbies. I don't think my looks are bad at all but I know could still be doing better there. I guess I'm insecure of where I generally am in life and the possibility that I will never be happy with where I go.
How do I make it go away quicker?
Is it too late to start HRT? I'm 21 and after a long time I'm certain I'd like to transition, but I'm worried I've waited too long to gain positive results.
How Can i get gf?
Current situation
>18
>manlet
>can talk to grils
>sliver of self confidence
>dont have many friends
>spend most of time chatting to females on snapchat/instagram
>wanna meet new potential gfs
Any advice?
>>18554829
im in the same situation
people will say go to clubs and meet people, but how many people do you see arriving at clubs on their own?
you NEED to have friends to make friends
and you need to make friends to get gfs.
>>18554853
We on the same boat brother i feel
>>18554853
You don't need friends to make friends, it will only make it easier though.
You aren't born with friends so by your logic nobody would have a friend ever.
So I quit smoking a month ago and have slowly been getting worse since.
Clearly I hoped quitting would make me feel better and more energized, but I feel awful and am starting to worry. I have a lot of nightmares and I think the foul smells of the streets that were muffled before give me flashbacks. I've been smoking since I was 12/13. So more than 10 years. I thought I overcame depression and had been feeling great and happy for years.
Has anyone had a similar experience? How long till these effects wean off? Will I feel like myself if I start again?
Little background: I suffered abuse as a kid an was diagnosed with depression age 13. After taking anti-depressants I suffered psychosis, so taking drugs is 100% out of the question.
>>18554824
Anyone? I can't be the only one feeling like this.
>>18554824
Give it some more time, much like everything weening off of it is also a better choice than cold turkey
>>18554824
I've never smoked cigarettes but I've quit weed and caffeine before and the only withdrawal symptoms were that I felt some really ugly depressed thoughts for a while. Your brain has to rewire itself back to equilibrium and before it does that it's missing a flood of chemicals that it's grown accustomed to so it thinks HOLY FUCK SOMETHING IS WRONG.
Cigarettes especially are cholinergic and anti-smoking drugs like chantix are associated with nightmares and violent thoughts even psychosis sometimes. These things are tied into your nervous system pretty hard, so they will affect your mental state. I'd say what you're feeling is normal and will get better with time.
Hey, I'm studying for the Comptia A+ 901/902 and i was wondering if buying simulations are worth it for 200$. I feel as though some Hands on experience would be worth it, but i'm not so sure about the price.
One last bump