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I feel the physical sensation of being horny. But nothing gets me off. Sex or porn, nothing satisfies this horniness. Only times I feel sexual pleasure are in dreams.

What did I mean with this?

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Hello, /adv

Let me start by saying I hate my father. He never hit me, but he took away the happiness outta me during my childhood. He never showed love to me and used to manipulate and brainwash me as a kid into thinking my mom's the villain in my life. It was a living hell. My parents got divorced eventually but he didn't stop there either. He used tactics like "I'll buy you a PlayStation if you promise to never go to your bitch mom" or "I won't feed you until you tell me how much you hate your mom in full detail" and such...

He's an old sob now, probably rotting in his home.I haven't seen or heard of him since high-school. It's been 10 years. I know he's got another woman, but.. I am not sure if I want to go and see him. If I do, I'll probably be an asshole and tell him a lot of things I never dared when I was younger. I'm afraid I might even punch him.

Then again... I don't wanna end up like BoJack did with his abusive mother. Who knows if my father will also get dementia (unless he already has one by now) and wouldn't be able to remember me, his only son. Maybe we still have a chance to talk things out. I dunno, man... But this show kept me thinking. A lot.

What do you guys think?

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>be me 18 (college freshman)
>crush is also 18 but older by 11 months
>she's 9/10, drives a car to school, and super rich but she never had a boyfriend
>i'm 7/10 and middle class. about 6 girls had a crush on me but i never got into a relationship with any of them (i didn't like them enough)
>crush is in my class twice a week, an hour each
>i can usually talk to girls and flirt with them since the moment i meet them but crush is really something different
>can't talk as good with her but after a few weeks i got to know her more
>i decided to message her and ask for her twitter but i asked how she's doing first
>after a while she just left my question on seen and it has been a week
>i was in an activity with her for 3 hours a while ago but i couldn't talk to her thinking that she doesn't want to talk at all
>seeing her again tomorrow
>what do?

>inb4 beta
>used to be very cocky but after i got backstabbed i became very quiet and an overthinker so i kinda lost my social skills
>i only have until december before our subject ends

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I'm only ever confident around people that I subconsciously deem 'lesser' than me. People with perceived lower physical appearance, mental intelligence, life accomplishments, social position etc.
I meet a bro in university who looks a little seedy and is clearly socially awkward. Around him, I'm a such a chill, alpha dude, taking charge and initiating things (no douchebaggery or unfriendliness - just super confident).

The same goes for middle aged women. I immediately become a smooooth ass motherfucker with even a sexier tone of voice. 9 times out of 10 I can feel their impressed-ness and attraction.

But around people I view the 'same' as me? I'm mildly uncomfortable. Around people I deem 'greater', I'm a timid mess. I become wojak and fall into line behind actually confident people. And of course, pretty young girls? Pic related

Why am I like this? It disturbs me, because it means it's like I'm assigning peoples' intrinsic worth on "things". It also reveals how i think about/evaluate myself. I would much rather treat everyone and myself the same with a static level of basic regard..

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>Be me,high school student passing most of his time studying+browsing 4chan /g/.
>Likes a girl from my school.
>Too shy to approach.
>Only waves.
>The girl stays close with her best friend and wont be alone.
>She has a low profile most of the time.
How do you make a move?
Want to get to know her better.

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Semi-vent, feeling down about post:

>bf is 4 years older than me
>partied and experimented with drugs before we met
>bad experiences with people/drugs/alcohol decided to quit all of them permanently
>we meet, date for 3 years
>me being younger, want to drink and smoke pot while I don't have responsibilities (I'm the age he was then)
>he respectfully declines to join me
>can't drink or smoke with my best friend
>feels bad man

I would never force him to, it just makes me sad.

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I have been single now for about 5 years now, and I have just dug myself into a giant sad hole. There are multiple girls in my area that I would like to even talk to, but how do I approach them? Do I just grow a pair, or wait to see if they are interested. I have asked a lot of people but they don't really help me. I just don't know anymore

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/adv/, I need your help. I've always thought of this board as a complete joke, even worse than /r9k/ and down there with /cgl/ and /soc/, but... damn it, I've got nowhere else to go to whom I can get honest advice from. You guys are my last hope. I'm 25 now, and I'm getting old fast.

To make a long story short, I have a chronic problem with procrastination. I basically realized a couple of days ago that millennials are so unlikely to ever accomplish anything because they have a constant access to some source or another of Dopamine. Whether it's video games, porn, over-eating, travel-addiction, weed, drinking, spending, et cetera... I have come to the same conclusion as the Buddists and the Ascetics that, so long as a person has these things in their life, they'll forgo taking the hard, but necessary steps that will make them truly happy. To that end, I decided to quit all of those things. But even now, I'm still procrastinating. Today was my day off from work (a crappy part-time position in sales that pays pennies relative to what I should be getting,) and even despite having quit everything fun, despite my resolve to finally sit down and send out copies of my resume... I still didn't get anything done today. I spent all fucking day on 4chan and YouTube, not to mention sleeping. It's almost like I'd rather do anything else except look for a better job. Granted, it is a total pain in the ass to look for one these days, and I'm very insecure about my resume, but this is just completely ridiculous.

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Like I feel different sensation inside my body and I don't know why. I also take breaths without pause . Is this normal?

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as of my life so far (i'm 18, so not that much life so far lol), i've been doing my best.

i lost 20 pounds over the summer, got a full-time job with plenty of disposable income, and i'm save up for a trip to japan in january with the help of my family.

despite these positive or at least ok things,i can't help but feel like shit most of the time.

i smoke weed occasionally and started getting into smoking again until i had a really bad panic attack a couple weeks ago. i felt like i was going to die, i was being depersonalized, and i felt like i was going to trip forever. it could've just been way too much strong weed or maybe laced, but since then, i've had more problems with anxiety since then. most of the anxiety ive had in my life has just been a result of not getting my shit together in certain aspects of my life, but i've been more anxious than usual and sometimes feel i could have another attack.

i don't have that many friends. luckily, i know how i can make more (going to music shows with what friends i have, going out for drinks, etc.), but in the meantime it's not going so well. other than my discord friends, i have 1 friend that i keep in contact with regularly and spend time with. i have one friend that is too busy and too flaky to spend time with, and i have another friend who i've really had a falling out with, or at least it's beginning to happen.

while i generally like her (and even used to have a crush on her), she's essentially a fair-weather friend. when she's not with her band of cucks at school or her unfaithful boyfriend and they're not around, she comes to me. mind you she's a nice person and i think she likes me as a human being, being a back-up friend is a shitty feeling. i was starting get a sour taste from her after her exceptional behaviour (opening her journal of pornographic self-portraits in front my friends i only see once a year, being mad at my when i wanted to spend time with said friends and not her ) and shit like that.

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i have this problem where i pursue a relationship with some girl, i'm excited, and when i get to the actual relationship part i get bored. i feel like i'm nuts for them one second and get tired of them the moment i get to that point. what's wrong with me?

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I'm looking for thoughts on the sitatution. Ive been living with these people for 3 months and for the last 3 months my chair has been leaving black spots on the floor. There small little black spots around the floor of the house. I perosnally dont see it as a nusicane or as a a mess at all. However recently one of my flatmates, texted our group chat calling me out saying that she hates seeing the floor as a mess and even goes to say that she is thinking about throwing glitter round the house, or her own period blood. If she would have asked me without thoose werid threats i would have been fine with cleaning up. Im kinda confused now what to do? I dont know how to deal with crazy

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Is being in a Long Distance Relationship while in college worth it?
It's been about 3 weeks into my first year and not having the person i'm with there is very difficult for me. We talk all the time but it doesn't really help me and when I'm too busy to respond we get into an argument. I go to parties knowing i can't flirt and i don't have intentions to flirt or get laid but i do miss sex quite a bit. I also plan on joining a Fraternity and my girlfriend didn't sound to happy about that. I just want some advice on helping me get through this. Some ideas on how not to feel shitty about being alone.

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hey, the more i think about it, i have bipolar disorder mixed with substance abuse.
its harder to tell now with pretty dumb addiction issues but i still recognise episodes.
but i dont want a diagnosis. that shit goes to insurance companies and fucks you in the ass.
i abuse almost everything right now and im tapering everything but opiates. too good. maybe one day. my brain can be so retarded i fantasize sbout shooting h until i die to make it stop.
right now i think im starting to cycle to depression with a mixed episode as a buffer. i was just making shitloads of investments and getting ideas and starting projects and asking people to hang, even thinking i could become super rich and famous, and i talked my ass off about everything. now its mood swings and a mix of the two making me want to do violent and stupid things. ill get suicidal thoughts, self harm impulses, and vigilante justice ideas. ive also been extra paranoid, more than normal, to thinking about betrayal and poison and cameras and thinking people are talking to me. last time i was having sex with my gf it felt like a shadow man was watching the whole time. sometimes i can barely move or speak then i get energy bursts. soon ill be "who gives a shit" and lay in bed all day and probably make up reasons to skip work/uni. last time i took shitloads of oxy xan and whiskey, took a hot bath, cut myself, and didnt give a shit what happened.
i honestly dont trust doctors or their meds or the whole complex. dont want financial or social effects of a diagnosis?

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I've asked two girls out. Not right after another nor do are they alike. Okay story time ppl. So it's been a several month since my significant other left me (December)
Frist girl asked me to hang out. We was just talking n well one subject let to another. Then I just asked her out. She didn't say no however never said yes. The first girl had always been reserved never really spoke much. However I wouldn't mind getting to know her more on a different level. Asked her to two different activities she declined the first one and hasn't responded to the second activity. It's been a week so I moved on to another potential girl.

Haven't hung out with the second girl in long time we known each other for years. We sat somewhere outside. We talked about our relationship situations. Then again not my intend to ask her out. Just did it. Again the second just like the first one didn't say no. However didn't say yes.

I can handle being rejected it sucks I know. I'm not looking for advice on how to change their minds. More so on what is it with exactly not saying "yes" or "no" to me. Like I'm not sure how to take that. I'm not feeling sad or angry.
Just wondering why there was no exact answer?

Side note *** I have the skill to hook up with girls. It's just I want something of a real relationship.