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>>18713975
Part 2
* I embarass her in front of everybody at the
office. Telling her that "I am not interested in you!"
* Months later still offers to buy me coffee.
* Goes to Brazil
* Gets nosejob.
* Super nice to me, super friendly.
* One friday, I go to DMV with her, she sits and
waits, I stand, she asks me to
"come and sit next to her".
* Has other errands to do and says that
"I'm stuck with her".
* Later I tell her about the problems my
GF and I are having. And that I had feelings
for her. Now for some bizarre-assed reason
this is "awkward" for her. (as if her constant
unwanted advances weren't awkward for me)
* Next monday ... nothing .. no ride offered.
Can sense the discomfort.
* My heart is interested but my head isn't
I ask her to "just please say no so i can
get this over with"
* She says we'll talk over lunch.
* Write email saying that "im not interested in
pursuing her" (this is true) pour my heart out
telling about the difficulties I'm having
right now and that what I said friday was a
mistake. She doesn't respond for three days.
Finally says that "she's not ignoring me but
hasn't had time to write a proper response. i will
get back to you." .. still no response.
* Makes sure to leave without me knowing.
* Learns I have a job interview far up
north.
* Brings a coffee to work for me again for
some inexplicable reason.
* Sees me going thru trash in the back of the
office ... offers to "help". (i found this
really bizarre desu)
* We talk for a bit in the back.
* Tells me she turned down an interview to
stay where she is. Thing is, she is just an
intern and doesn't really get paid. She
drives for uber part-time to make money.
* I give her a bit of my coffee.
* Says she's going out for lunch, changes mind
waits until 4:30 - packs things and leaves thru a
door where I cannot see her exit.

OKAY

Can somebody please give me some clue as to
what the hell is going thru this woman's head
and what she is trying to pull and what she'll do
next?

>* Later I tell her about the problems my
GF and I are having. And that I had feelings
for her. Now for some bizarre-assed reason
this is "awkward" for her. (as if her constant
unwanted advances weren't awkward for me)

hahaha get the fuck out you retard.

She obviously has a thing for guys playing hard to get and just wants a deep ol' dicking. The moment you show a bit of compassion is the moment she will fuck off, because that means you're actually a human.

>>18713965
Be more assertive in life, participate in after class shit that interests you(like books join book club, ect.) and make friends with other degenerates, theyre out there you just have to look harder.

>>18713965
First of all, meeting 10 and ending up with 2 or 3 is a pretty good average. And chances are that some of the other 7 or 8 would still be available if you reached out to them.

So you're not doing badly at all.

Meanwhile, the university has loads of social events - dances, parties, etc - specifically for freshmen, to help you meet each other. Go to all of them.

And remember that all the other freshmen are in the same boat, strangers in a strange land looking to make friends. Say hello to the people next to you in class, on lines, etc. Many of them will not only be open to meeting you but delighted that you made the move they were too shy to do.

Hmmmm

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>>18713955
i wish i wasn't so stupid

how do i make an e-mail and make an account?

>>18713955
I like this site because I don't need anaccoutn

>>18713941
Any piece of paper beats no piece of paper. But 4, 6 and 8 year pieces of paper are better than a 2 year piece of paper. But ALL of them are inferior to an equivalent amount of time of direct experience in the field.

Yeah, it's normal. I'm a recovered addict myself, who used to have moderate HPPD (it's gotten better). I get it.

Just avoid it, man. It's cool. You don't need to explain anything to anyone.

For a long time I'd get instant extreme nausea at the mere sight of Robitussin... still kinda do. I also bug out sometimes when I look at tight patterns, like narrow stripes on a shirt or small dots on a grid. It just makes my HPPD act up, and I see the lines and patterns exploding in rainbow fractals.

Just ignore it and look away. Focus on reality. Don't live in the void when you're sober.

>>18713923
Time heals all wounds. How long has it been since the bad trip?

>>18714096
About a year

inb4 thread full of "jacking off" replies

I will start, if you live by woods or forests, get away from everything for awhile and be in the forests and don't bring anything with you.

It's very good meditation.

Winter edition: bring a lighter and make a small (safe) fire, fire is very good for cleansing the mind,

Try body building!
I just started doing it, but boy it makes you feel good! It boosts your ego, and it will make you look nicer. You can go whenever you want, stop whenever you want. Sure there are 2m big muscly men, but if you don't look at them, they won't look you. One of them even helped me yesterday.

Get
Your
Body
Fit

>>18713843
i'm not into anything else mentioned but i do have a crippling piss fetish

>>18713843
>when I was 13
Implying you still aren't 13.

>>18713843
Guess what? Most people very rarely have all their kinks catered to. Relationships are about compromise. Be happy when a significant other meets any of these.

>>18713770
the diagnosis is anxiety
you are addicted to closure

>Once I know everything is fine
you mean once you think everything is fine

if the other party lies and gives you a resolution to your face even though they actually resent you, you'd feel fine
conversely, if a situation is truly fine but you haven't 'resolved it yourself', you would worry needlessly over it

the diagnosis is needless worry. maybe you could look for that.

>>18713830
Thanks I appreciate that. I'm not sure if I'd still feel okay if they lied to me for a resolution, but you're probably right.

Everything else sounds about right.

Addicted to closure is a good phrase, maybe googling the word closer I can fin other people saying the same thing in a forum.

I really just needed some key words or a condition or something so I could look it up myself, otherwise I'd never ask.

Thanks again for your time.

>>18713756
>friend
>will dox you
Sounds complicated

get busy with other things in life so you will have an excuse to stop talking to them.

You're a NEET. You're not in a position to be picky about the job you take.

>>18713734

Do you have any skills?

how about train driver
automation threatens that field though

There are more than enough support resources available at any decent university for anyone worth their salt to not struggle. If you're struggling, you're either not making full use of them or you're just not cut out for it.

>>18713690
What specifically are you studying? Try looking up videos of the same subject with better teachers

>>18713685
what about her is weird?

>/b/

Where do you think you are?

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>>18713685
I'm an autistic male who as high functioning enough and attractive enough to date NT females OP. Here is the best advice I can give you from my perspective.

She is going to fall for you fast if you go on dates. Don't let this scare you, us aspies aren't usually used to the affection so we fall quick but are very devoted for the most part (there is always the exception of course)

She might hurt your feelings by accident. If this happens, clearly tell her what happened and ask her if she gets how you feel. My girlfriend has to do this sometimes because at first I just don't get what I did wrong.

Communicate with her about everything and don't just assume she knows how things are supposed to go. Aspie people are usually very nervous about relationships because unless you flat out tell us, we have no idea what you are thinking or how you feel.

If you aren't interested in some of her hobbies and activities, try to become so. an Aspie really connects with someone who shows interest in their special interests.

Best of luck OP if you decide to go down that road. It has its challenges but high functioning autistic people can be great partners if you are patient with them and open.

>>18713637
I like how you used the image of an ugly pug so I cab imagine you bwing the ugly dumb fucking pug for staying with a cheater.

Hahahahahaha what a waste of life you are

>>18713637
>Like what if he cheats again and I'm just stuck in this relationship til the end of time?
Why not just leave him and never be stuck with him?

Also I hope you're aware you're the side chick.

>>18713645
>hating pugs
Hahahahahahahahahaha what a waste of life you are

>>18713624
You either need fewer friends, or friends that are less needy/demanding of your time. You're an adult, they will understand you've got other things going on besides your social life. You can say "no" sometimes.

If they make a big fuss about it and act like it's all about them, they're self-centered, and you can allow the friendship to drift apart just by doing what's right for you.

I keep a tight circle of friends but we don't usually "go out" more than twice a month anymore. We've got jobs and relationships, this is just how this shit works

>>18713632

Well, I'm trying to maintain as many friendships as possible with my old groups of people because I don't plan on getting into a relationship.

The last thing I want to do is get to the point where I CAN'T find anything to do. But I'm also aware I don't have the energy I used to.

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>>18713594
mOre