I'm only ever confident around people that I subconsciously

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2017-09-11 10:03:02 Post No. 18711546
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Anonymous 2017-09-11 10:03:02 Post No. 18711546 [Report]

I'm only ever confident around people that I subconsciously deem 'lesser' than me. People with perceived lower physical appearance, mental intelligence, life accomplishments, social position etc.
I meet a bro in university who looks a little seedy and is clearly socially awkward. Around him, I'm a such a chill, alpha dude, taking charge and initiating things (no douchebaggery or unfriendliness - just super confident).

The same goes for middle aged women. I immediately become a smooooth ass motherfucker with even a sexier tone of voice. 9 times out of 10 I can feel their impressed-ness and attraction.

But around people I view the 'same' as me? I'm mildly uncomfortable. Around people I deem 'greater', I'm a timid mess. I become wojak and fall into line behind actually confident people. And of course, pretty young girls? Pic related

Why am I like this? It disturbs me, because it means it's like I'm assigning peoples' intrinsic worth on "things". It also reveals how i think about/evaluate myself. I would much rather treat everyone and myself the same with a static level of basic regard..

Anonymous 2017-09-11 10:13:47 Post No.18711556
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Anonymous 2017-09-11 10:13:47 Post No.18711556 [Report]

>Why am I like this?
Because you're insecure and aren't happy with who you are. You need to surround yourself with 'inferior' people to feel any sense of self-worth. When other people are 'superior' to you, you feel like you're nothing, because you don't have real confidence, it's just a facade.

Anonymous 2017-09-11 10:28:55 Post No.18711578
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Anonymous 2017-09-11 10:28:55 Post No.18711578 [Report]

>>18711556

>Because you're insecure and aren't happy with who you are. You need to surround yourself with 'inferior' people to feel any sense of self-worth.

Jesus H. Christ you're right
Bloody hell, I always thought I was okay with myself but on deeper inspection just now I realized I'm not

How do I fix this situation?

Anonymous 2017-09-11 10:35:34 Post No.18711588
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Anonymous 2017-09-11 10:35:34 Post No.18711588 [Report]

>>18711578
>How do I fix this situation?
No idea, you just asked what the problem was. Therapy would be my educated guess though.

Anonymous 2017-09-11 10:44:41 Post No.18711603
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Anonymous 2017-09-11 10:44:41 Post No.18711603 [Report]

>>18711588

Fair enough. At least this direction is a starting point. Thanks anon

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