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Not OP, but I'm procrastinating on major assignments by browsing 4chan, right now.

Procrastination is like a bloody drug addiction for me. Seriously, it is easier for me to go cold turkey with porn (which is apparently a potent as heroin) after being addicted for 10 years, than it is for me to bloody sit down and do productive work for longer than 10 minutes.

get off 4chan, delete facebook, youtube and blizzard account

>>18714820
OP here
This is the shit im talking about

You didn't actually ask a question or say anything that could be used to start a conversation so I'll throw you a bone.

In your seven sentences you mentioned yourself fourteen times. Stop that. Get out of your own head-space and allow other people to demonstrate who they are instead of what you imagining they are. You aren't psychic so don't pretend you know what they are thinking. You'll be wrong more often than right. Stop over analyzing yourself and when you find yourself in an awkward situation own it and commit to it. And for the love of god loosen up a bit.

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>>18715806
So you say focus on others and the environment and not on yourself? I'm incredibly insecure, I worry about every fucking thing.

It's a sign you haven't gotten over her, which is an issue because it was so long ago now.

>>18714639
Well what can I do? The only time she's not on my mind is if I'm in a relationship and it goes on for a while. I don't think about her as "hard" as I did (I used to be really cut up about it, now it's like a constant reminder of what I had).

I don't know I just want to be freed

>>18714645
Accept that you will never have what you had with her. I'm in your current position as we speak. But it's only been 4 months. I've looked through tinder and just looking at any of them i just keep reminding myself thtlat they don't hold a candle to her.

You cannot replicate what you had with your true love. But it simply wasn't meant to be
What you need to do is focus on just yourself. Once you're ready. Strive to not compare, but to find that one person that goes beyond what you once had. Tall order i know. But there will be that one person that just sets the fire going and only then will you realise what a blessing it was that you found this person and that you finally have something BETTER than what you had.

TL:DR
Come to terms that you cannot replicate what you once had.
Focus on yourself and your own personal happiness.
Stop comparing and focus on what you want from a lover.

It's not easy. My god it really fucking isn't. But if there's one thing i've learnt since coming to /adv/ is that you will always have people on your side.

Good luck.

decided i'm just going to off myself, any good ideas on howw?

>/b/
gtfo

On a serious note though, I have a bad habit of cramming before the test, but I tend to score well. Maybe it's the added pressure that helps push me through, or because it's still fresh in my mind. Either which way, good luck OP.

haha yeah sorry about that, I was originally going to post there, but then I realized that I'd probably have better luck getting an actual answer here. Thanks for the response though, I appreciate it.

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Should mention I had a phone interview with them today and they want to meet Thursday, they said there's a few positions in lasers open but wouldn't mention how many candidates.

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Also, I'm on probation for damage to property misdemeanor. Will this affect?

If they want to meet with you that's a good sign. Most HR departments only take a few seconds to look at each resume. Be cool and amicable.
>Also, I'm on probation for damage to property misdemeanor. Will this affect?
Maybe. Depends on the temperament of the employer. If you are asked about it then tell them the truth. If not then don't bring it up. Simple.

Get out of the country, teach English as a second language. Portugal is the obvious choice but japan and china always need english teachers and you don't even need to know the language. Teach advanced so all your classes are in english. I have a few friends who do this, they travel the world stay in a country for 6 months and teach english then move on. If you can do a quick course on teaching english as a second language you shouldn't have a problem finding work abroad.

>>18714518
Offer yourself as a contracted business writer, writing or translating letters, catalogues, instructions, etc for companies that have (or want) to deal with English-speaking customers.

Work for more than one, on either a piecemeal or on-call basis.

>>18714518
start a revolution and overthrow your government and declare yourself the king of Brazil.

Become a hermit and never talk to anyone again.

What makes you think everyone else feels differently?

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>>18714488
>OP

you're more than likely going to have to map it yourself

>>18714390
You should go to /g/ with your problem

Yeah, don't do it unless you enjoy herpes and hpv. Spend that money on healthy food and an alarm clock to get a propper sleep shedule.

>>18714154
If what she and I had was not the real deal and not something that would end up lasting forever then nothing is real. I thought this was it. Maybe I'm just a naive idiot and should've known "She's never yours, it's just your turn". Fuck my life

>>18714154
>>>/pol/ does a good job of explaining this phenomenon. Our society is oversexualized, to the detriment of wholesome relationships. People rarely think about settling down until they're visibly depreciating; they'd prefer to play the field in their 20s, their prime years of life. That's what happened to you, OP--your gf decided that she could "upgrade." You probably were 'good enough' for her, but she thought she could do better, and left. If it's any comfort, the likelihood is that she won't ever be able to get someone as 'good' as you in her eyes, because she will keep trading up until her looks collapse, and then she'll have to settle for a fatass in a relationship that will probably end in divorce anyway.

tl;dr people are shit
>>18714173
>She's never yours, it's just your turn
You'll come around. It was not always like this. But society has become very warped, and it caters to many of humanity's most self-destructive instincts. If your gf fell to those, she wasn't for you anyway.

>>18714154
i did something similar. My high school sweet heart and i went to different colleges. I made myself believe we would stay together and meet up. I didn't even think about looking at other girls. A month in she wanted to break up.
My whole world felt like it was destroyed.
The future i built in my head for the both of use destroyed.
The security of a significant other destroyed.
Its a thought process you have to start putting your thoughts into more meaningful things like regarding your future and goals. You thoughts are still in "i'm with my soulmate mode" you have to unlearn these thoughts and replace them with something else. It will take time.

>>18714136
Death in Dreams, sorry for the bad text.

>>18714142
I've read that death in dreams, similar to endless falling is an interpretation of gilt. Maybe you subconsciously feel guilty about something?

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Have also considered things such as biochem, engineering, but those are intimidating due to the difficulty and amount of time to go into those

>>18714113

who is 'mlady in the picture here

>>18714107
Get really good at something. It doesn't matter what it is, but you shouldn't be completely ashamed to say it to someone else. That way, you have a fallback of self-worth in case you fuck up socially.

I have this problem myself, although not as severe as you, OP. While you should visit a professional if possible, just remember that our main issue is assuming that the people around us pick up and evaluate the things we do. We're always going over in our heads how we can fuck up, and it makes for a miserable experience, even though the person you're talking to doesn't really notice until you do something like stutter for 10 seconds.

>>18714133
>get really good at something

Yes this has helped me in the past. I actually made some significant improvement with my social anxiety a few years ago. I got a job I loved and made decent money, made some cool friends, and hit the gym and built a good physique. My confidence went way up and my social anxiety was like 50% better. I would go weeks at a time without even thinking about my social anxiety,

BUT it all fell apart when I developed some health issues that made me quit my job, lose my (small) social life, and kept me out of the gym for a long time.

>>18714133
>It doesn't matter what it is, but you shouldn't be completely ashamed to say it to someone else

this is so true also.

Reaching level 80 in world of warcraft probably isn't going to increase your confidence around the ladies

continue to post these threads
get insurance because pussy will flood you

>>18714066
Just b urself

With your mindset, your only choices are sad and aggressive.

>>18714029
nah that will make you look like you got dressed in 1987

post a pic