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Calling all vets / former military 2015-11-30 22:06:28 Post No.16518252
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Calling all vets / former military
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Thank you all for serving!
>Be me
>27
>Work full time
>2 Associates degrees
>Also schooling full time for Bachelors in Business Administration
>All As so far except for one C- in a class where almost no one passed
>Paying as I go because fuck debt
>Will graduate when I'm 28
>Considering Navy Reserve
I've basically been climbing myself out of rock bottom since I was 25 (for about 9 months I was jobless, depressed, eating garbage, and day drinking). And every month that passes I gain a little more confidence and a little bit more self-esteem. Talking to my veteran friends has me thinking about the military.
My question to /adv/ is. Should I finish out my degree and then enlist in the reserve at age 29? Or should take a semester off to go to BCT and come back and finish school? Is that even possible?
Also what kind of MOS can I expect to have at my age with over 3.5 GPA Business Administration Degree?
I would like to pursue a Masters in International Relations (I have a passion for other cultures, travel, and global politics, etc.) eventually and pursue something NGO related with plenty of adventure and experiences to be had. I think the Navy would set me up nicely for that.
What does /adv/ think? Honest answers.
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I would recommend avoiding the military.
MOS is not age related as much as it is test score related (ASVAB).
If you have the ability to pick an MOS, you still need to go to school for that which means you need more time away from college.
I was in the Marine Corps. My MOS was ground radio repair. School was 9 months in 29 Palms, CA.
First duty station was in Okinawa.
Some of the guys in boot camp were radio operators. School was in the same place but was only 2 months long.
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come on /adv/.
no one?
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>>16518313
Thanks for the advice.
Avoiding Military all together? Even reserve?
Why is that? Because of my situation? Or for anyone?
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So I formally demanded medical records and shit from the psychiatric institutions I used to be treated by. Most information arrived, but some stuff is missing, such as diagnosis and concluding statements.
Today my dad told me that my regional mental health institution doesn't want to provide me therapy because it's afraid that I will sue them for medical malpractice.
What the fuck is this shit? Can they even do that? It's a state institution. I used to be followed up by a psychiatrist in that institution, and now they don't even want to provide me therapy. There are no free therapists available in my area by the way - only them.
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Also, is it possible to handle a serious psychiatric disorder without therapy - only with medication?
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This is firmly in the "talk to a lawyer" territory.
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>Hi, I'm crazy.
>I want my medical records for no reason.
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I'm married with now 2 kids. Marriage is fairly bland, feels more like two people sharing a house and mutually raising a kid, but no love or affection. I always hope it will get better..
Anyway I traveled to Canada for work a year and a half or so ago. Went to a bar, bought some people I met some drinks for conversation, one of the girls wanted to hang out more. That led to a night with her and I've never brought this up.
Fast forward to this past august and I am back in Canada. I meet this girl again and the same stuff happens. My family still doesn't know.
This FWB asked if she was messing anything up for me and I said she wasn't.
Yesterday our second kid was born, and someone posted a comment about me being a dad on Untappd, which is one of the social platforms I didn't check for privacy. As far as I know twitter and fb are totally blocked from her seeing anything.
Anyway fwb messaged me today and said ummm you're a dad?
How do I proceed? I felt like I had to do something fast so I said since the last time I saw you things got pretty complicated so I should lay low. What else should I do? I'm wondering if I should block her everywhere and double down on privacy, including going on wife's fb and making sure that is also all locked down.
I'm a scumbag sure, but there are probably others out there who could give advice in this case.
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Fuck you I hope she messages your wife
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>>16518213
She's Canadian, she'll probably apologise
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>>16518213
Dunno what to tell you man. I'd prob just be upfront with your fwb, since that shit was always casual in the first place it isn't like she should be TOO upset, compared to your wife at least. Hopefully she isn't a 4chan moralfag and doesn't decide to go and shit up your life just cuz she can.
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How do I get over the embarrassment of realizing what a know-it-all I used to be?
Some people pointed it out to me when I hadn't realized it before. Now I feel incredibly embarrassed.
I feel like nobody will ever let me live it down and just keep seeing me as this annoying know-it-all... What can I do to stop feeling this way?
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Don't take it SO hard, everyone's got their little flaws. Just be more aware of it in the future. Don't correct people in social settings. Really not a huge deal, though. Don't over-apologize or make a big deal out of it, just make more of an effort not to be that way.
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Dont be like it, people will se that youve changed and wont bring it up and itll just be you who cringes at night thinking of all the "know it all" stuff youve said while your friends dont care, trust me, ive been there
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>>16518221
In what way have you been a know-it-all?
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>be me
>major depression
>fat double chin
>barely motivated to get out of bed all day
>24
>all my past is marked by failure
>some so bad that they make me want to kill myself immediately by hanging even though thats not the way I want to die
>"drug addict" I guess been shooting meth coke and heroin for a while when I can since I dont have a job and cant hold one down
My parents are fixing to move somewhere by the end of next summer and I think that would be good for me to just start over somewhere, but I still feel like a leech and that I should probably just kill myself. What do you guys think?
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>Your authority is not recognized in Fort Breadsticks.
I think you need to stop making decisions for yourself buddy. Give someone else the reigns and be happy for a change.
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>>16518187
Also give them the reins. Kings and horses, kings and horses everywhere.
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>>16518187
you mean god?
>zoning out while walking to class
>hands in pockets, staring at ground
>might have had a frustrated look on face, not really sure
>some girl passes by walking in the opposite direction
>out of fucking nowhere the BITCH turns to me and says "Hi"
>completely off guard, no time to plan out my response, have to act on instinct
>look up with really confused expression, reflexively try to say hi but it sounds more like "Hiaah?"
>she smiles at me
>look down and keep walking
>this fucking cunt is probably going to feel smug all day for her """""good deed""""" or some shit
Why the FUCK do normies think it's acceptable behavior to talk to strangers out of the blue? Who the fuck do they think they are? If you don't know someone, you've got to be pretty full of yourself to just assume they want to be talked at out of nowhere.
Is there some way to signal people to just leave you alone?
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Hahahahaha o dear....
> Is there some way to signal people to just leave you alone?
Yea, listen to music with headphones/ear buds in. No one will bother you then
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srsly OP?
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Bait.
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Relationship dilemma: I lived with my ex for the entire time i knew him, we got in a lot of fights but there was always a strong bond and lots of love between us. We moved across the country together after only knowing each other for 3 months and put our young relationship through a lot of stress. We broke up because there was a lot of stress after a year and a half and I moved back, 3000 miles away. We didn't talk for 2 months.
In those 2 months, i met someone else who i also love. I don't love him with the same passion that I did my ex, but he seemed like a more natural fit and there is a deep bond between us. I get along really well with his family and we share many similar interests. It seemed like this new relationship was everything that my old one wasn’t: carefree, fun, and no fighting.
Then the new guy fucked up. He gave me herpes. Because I was freaking out, I contacted my ex and we have really rekindled our relationship since then, which was 2 months ago. Our biggest problem was communication, but I can see that he has taken real, concrete steps to improve, and he is really happy with the steps I've taken. The distance between us has been really healthy and we are communicating so well now. He wants to move out here in about 6 months and he wants to marry me.
Both guys want to marry me, actually. I've forgiven the second guy, and I still love him. My ex and I have so much history, sex is incredible and he is the most loyal guy I've ever met. He has seen my darkest moments.
My heart is torn between these two amazing men, I feel like both would make excellent husbands and fathers. The stress I'm feeling over this indecision is killing me, and it's hurting both of them, even though they are being so patient with me.
What should I do? Wait for my ex for 6 months and hope that these improvements last or devote myself to this new guy who seems like a more natural fit but has his shortcomings as well, and who I don’t feel the same passion towards?
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I'm you ex. You're the woman I want to marry one day.
Only difference is I wouldn't want to marry you until I've seen that you are going to devote yourself to me in the long term. I don't feel like the new guy is any real competition, and even if you did end up marrying him, I would think that you're being impatient and kind of immature.
The right thing to do would be to not be in a hurry. If you love us both, then how do you justify having to make a choice. You should be free to continue your singledom until you know for certain which one of us you should choose. In fact, it shouldn't really be a choice at all, it should play itself out until there's no doubt, and the answer will be given to you by our respective actions. Go ahead, marry the new guy, and see how you'll never going to stop wonder how life would be with me. You already see the changes I've made. Do you think I would make them if not for how important you are to me? I will meet you in twenty years time, and nothing will be different between us. It's up to you if you want to go through that, marry the 'better fit', have his children, and one day realize love isn't suppose to be logical, and you never stopped loving me. Our passion, the tumultuous bond we share, was made before time itself. It doesn't even matter whether it's ever materialized again or not. I will love you all the same.
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Same fag
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>>16518409
You idiot 3 different IPs. It is not a samefag but rather a shitty troll. Smarten the fuck up.
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24 year old kissless virgin here with no friends.
People always say in order to make friends and especially to attract girls, you need to be ''confident''
Can somebody here explain to me what the hell ''confidence'' means?
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Its broad term but i think i can help with a couple of examples. Confidence means when you encounter someone new at work or something you dont look at your feet and murmur "how are you", it means putting yourself out there and asking that co-worker where he got that sick shirt from or cracking a joke in an appropriate situation.
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>>16517958
so i need to force myself unto other people like some annoying asshole?
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>>16517948
it means you need to have the qualities women want
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Hello /adv/ !
>Long story short
I met a girl recently. I find her really cute, I talked to her a bit and it doesn't feel awkward at all. Though, tomorrow will probably be the last time I see her in person (at least for a while). Could you help me find an excuse to get her number/Facebook to stay in touch with her ?
>Here are some details
I'm in my second university year and she's at her final high school grade. We're both at the same conservatoire but not in the same department (that's why there is almost no chance to see her again). We both take part in a project and the final concert is tomorrow. She's playing the flute and I'm playing the guitar.
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Shameless selfbump, I'm really not good at this and hope that someone would help me.
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You don't need an excuse. By creating an excuse, you're creating the illusion that you're not interested in going on a date with her. It's okay with letting someone believe you're interested in them - in fact, it's necessary.
You can just ask her for her number. You can just ask her for her Facebook. Or you could just ask her to go for a coffee with you, or something similar. Indubitably, if you both feel some sympathy for each other, there'll be a moment and an opening when you're not walking away from each other too quickly.
Everyone needs to take a leap sometimes. It's a good feeling to do it, it really is.
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So I just have to say something like "I find you really cute, can I have your number so we could stay in touch and maybe go for a drink someday" ?
I don't disagree with you but she seems relatively shy, don't you think she could kinda freak out if I tell her this ?
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Ask a 22 year old artist with no college education who works at a smokeshop and sells cigarettes all day anything.
pic related, chalk drawing I did for a street art competition. didn't place.
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Why do you believe you are so interesting you need your own thread for people to ask questions in?
/adv/ is to ask people for advice and give them advice. Not give advice to people who haven't even asked a question...
As an artist, I do get that you might be illogical – but come on man. Even I am a self-proclaimed artist but I'm not this up in the clouds.
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>>16517854
Is this really an AMA or a cry for help?
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>>16517854
This isn't a thinly veiled attempt to fish for compliments about your art. Nope. Not at all.
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My biggest fantasy is for a girl to ride me while I'm asleep/passed out drunk/not conscious enough to understand where I am. How do I go about making this happen safely?
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>safely
Idk.
Happened to me once but I had smoked some heroin with my ex and nodded the fuck out and don't even remember it. I just remember waking up totally naked at her place and apparently we were back together
Shit sucked, i was back with my crazy ex and i don't even remember the sex
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>>16517862
Ahh, that must have been a bummer. Everything except for the ex and the heroine sounds amazing though.
I should also mention that I have a GF and have no problem with her drugging me, as long as there are no major health risks.
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Anyone? I would even be contempt with stories.
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want to help the loveless and alone 2015-11-30 19:07:29 Post No.16517719
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want to help the loveless and alone
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Dunno if this is the right board for this.
I am, and always have been (upon hearing of his story), been fascinated with Elliot Roger and his plight. It took me days but I even read his whole manifest. His plight is NOT unique. There are thousands of young men around the world in the same situation as him (Just go to /r9k/ or /adv/ and you'll see. I frequent /adv/ myself). All they want is to be loved, wanted, and accepted. It is heartbreaking thinking about how many young men this encompasses. Imagine being invisible everywhere you go. Imagine having no friends whatsoever, no one to talk to in the middle of the night. Imagine always being alone, not even your parents wanting you. Imagine your birth even being an accident and your parents telling you this (yes this can happen).
I wish I could help all these people but what the fuck can 1 person do?
I don't have a ton of experience. I have absolutely no relevant advice. I'm not even that great of a person. I could just be someone to talk to.
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It makes me angry that people make people like him out to be irredeemable, black-hearted villains. Like he just hated people, especially women, because he couldn't have sex, so he's a misogynist. That was just his obsession. It was a manifestation of his real problems. In reality, he was a broken, lonely person. It's not so much as that he was rejected by women, but that he was rejected by EVERYBODY. It may not amount to being mentally ill, but it's just undesirable of a condition, isn't it? People are so fucking shallow, it's ridiculous. I'm in college, and when this past Thanksgiving break started, Yik Yak was filled with faggots going "wah I'm so lonely cause I'm not partying with the bros cause they went home," and all I can think is like wow, imagine if people like this realized that this is how people like Elliott Rodger feel 24/7, maybe people would start to give a shit.
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>>16517738
Yes I agree with you wholeheartedly.
I'll put on a trip so im easier to recognize i guess
The only thing negative I'll say about The Supreme Gentleman is that he hated women yet wanted their love, yet blamed them when they rejected him.
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I wouldn't start to feel too much sympathy with him in particular, OP.
No matter how lonely/fucked up your life is, taking human life isn't even close to justified. He had mental issues.
You are correct about there being sad lonely guys out there, though. Thanks for the consideration.
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So my wife is mad at me because my new higher paying job makes me wake up earlier 1 hr and goes home 1 to 1.5 hrs later.
My old job was in an agency kinda thing and schedule was very flexible - also the office was closer. I could wake up at 9, arrive at 10, and went back at 5. The catch was, I often had to continue my work for almost 3 hrs at home..which for me a bit tiresome.
Plus, this new job offers me a higher position and 2.5 times my current salary. Wife is not working and we are expecting our first child, so obviously we need some money now..
Is this called growing up..?
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It's understandable why she's upset, but the fact is this job is much better for you both overall. She'll probably realize that once the money starts coming in.
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Additional info : my previous job could barely make any saving in the bank.
How can I convince her? Marriedfags could probably relate better, but all suggestions are welcome.
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Tell that bitch this isn't fucking Disney, that if she isn't working and there is a kid on the way, you will need to put extra hours in.
She should be happy that you have made an advancement in your job if she wasn't being selfish, but no boo hoo you won't be around as much, well that's fucking reality and yes it sucks.
Let me put it this way OP, she'd have complained if you didn't take the higher paying job when the reality of the expense of a child kicks in. You were fucked either way. Now is the time to make it very clear this is needed for her and the kid and is beneficial for everyone.
You made the right call, don't take her shit.
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soo my bf cheated on me with his ex while they were still seeing each other. What can i do to punish him for this
he is acting like he doesn't know what he did wrong, which is a lie
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>>16517489
Punishing is immature, just break up with him like adults do.
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>>16517489
Make him do the most humiliating sexual act you can think of and then dump him.
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Be the better person? Drop him, move on and cope with the pain for a while.
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Me and boyfriend haven't had sex in 6 months.
First 3 months was due to his anxiety about sex (long story short, he had a masturbation addiction before we dated, it carried on through our relationship, sex became boring for him, we stopped, I stepped in, he stopped masturbating, but too anxious to stay hard during sex)
Just as he was starting to get over the anxiety he developed a bacterial infection that restricts his foreskin. We physically cannot have sex. He did not like doing other sexual stuff as it frustrated him to get hard and not be able to fuck/relieve himself. After 3 months I struggle to see him as more than a platonic friend as I find it hard to establish a romantic relationship without sex.
He tries to cuddle me, etc, I pull away, uncomfortable. We talk about it, and we make more effort. I begin being attracted to him again, he helps me jerk off. He helped me jerk off 3 times, I was starting to feel good. Then the past two times he has declined saying he has a headache. I believe he genuinely has a headache btw, that's not the issue. He has a terrible diet and drinks 8 cans of soda a day (he's skinnyfat). But being rejected twice so soon has caused me to switch off again and see him as platonic once more. What do? How do I get over this? Every time it goes well I get shut down.
Is it unreasonable of me to get upset over him rejecting me twice? He couldn't technically help it but its just ANOTHER THING to kill our sex life
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>>16517479
Are you gay? Girls don't jerk off. Believable story. 2/10 for having a vivid imagination. Next.
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You need to talk to him about it. You both have needs and a relationship isn't about you sacrificing yourself for him, it's about you both finding compromise and respecting each other.
Rejection is a legit reason so feel hurt. You need to talk to him about his issues, how they make you feel, and that you're here for him if he needs help. If he cares at all, he'll listen and act like an adult to even try more. If he thinkis the conversation is stupid or ignores your feelings then I don't think you should be dating him.
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>>16517501
I talked to him and he said he is not to blame as he couldn't help his headache and the discussion ended there. I am scared that by being upset I'm crossing his boundaries sexually and not respecting his space, I don't want to force sex on him but its upsetting he doesn't feel like he has to push through for me. But again, he says it couldn't be helped as he has a headache