Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 6730. page

File: chuck says.jpg (30KB, 565x335px) Image search: [Google]

30KB, 565x335px

Hey /adv/
So heres the thing. There's this girl in my group of friends that I know since a few months ago and that I REALLY like. We chat a bit when we meet and seemed to get along nicely. We smile at each other a lot (idk if thats actually a good sign though because shes nice to everyone in general). We high five when we have stuff in common. But since I'm so into her my anxiety kicks in sometimes and I act kind of silly around her. Yesterday we were at a party at someone's house and I suddenly couldn't hold a conversation with her, she just replied to me in monosylables. And I asked her to dance a bit jokingly and she refused kind of harshly. She suddenly seemed like she didnt care about me at all. Though she seemed to get along great with the rest. Idk if I screwed up somehow at some point or not or if it means nothing.

Anyway the following weeks she has 2 graduation parties, first one is a friend of ours', second one is her school's (we're both young adults btw). She's more excited about the second one. I've been invited to both, she asked if I was going though she was probably just being polite. They are at nightclubs. Their friends jokingly say she doesn't dance at nightclubs though idk if they were being sarcastic. I've never been to nightclubs since 5 years ago so I probably will suck at any attempt of dancing. So the thing is:
-Should I assume I still have a chance with her?
-Should I go to both or either parties and try to flirt with her there?
-How do I properly flirt with someone I've known long enough now, and with whom I share a group of friends that we meet often without making it awkard?
Besides most of our group of friends will be going to these parties.
-Or should I try something else? What should I do at the parties in general?
The thing also is that I won't be seeing her in the next few weeks unless I go to these parties.

Thanks in advance!

File: Shinpachi-1.jpg (20KB, 650x366px) Image search: [Google]

20KB, 650x366px

I've always been pretty crap at reading social contexts unless it's blatantly said to my face so most times things go straight over my head. I'll just greentext the whole story so its easier to go through.
>going to a rave for a first time with a new small crew i've met recently
>also first time trying capps
>we all get high
>never felt like this before and having the time of my life
>one of my best mates gf comes up and starts dancing with me
>just go with the flow
>next thing shes hugging me
>she says "you're really cute, i really like you"
>push her back and say "that ain't cool, you've got your bf"
>she says "i meant like a friend"
>i say "ahh no worries, i misunderstood"
>spend the rest of the night dancing with other mates to avoid her

There's probably a million different fucking ways to say friendly shit in a platonic way or maybe I'm just overthinking things but she said it right to my face. I can't tell if this was an outright confession or I just genuinely misunderstood her. Help me out here /adv/, I just made a good set of friends and I don't really want to lose them over something like this.

File: tmp_21001_IMG_20151127_020207418606063.jpg (122KB, 646x960px) Image search: [Google]

122KB, 646x960px

Last week I went out with a girl from tinder, and all week prior to that she texted me a lot. After that, she went home for the holidays and hardly said a word. Yesterday I texted her asking if she'd want to meet up again when she's back in town and she said yes. Then I told her I'd find out my schedule tomorrow and she never replied.

Was she just texting me a lot before we first met to learn a bit about me, and now she wants me to make all the moves now? Or is she not interested and probably will make an excuse soon?

File: lischina3.jpg (61KB, 677x850px) Image search: [Google]

61KB, 677x850px

I'm 19 years old and can't use my voice to be attractive for the life of me.

I need help, I just want to hit high notes and do accents but every time I try I sound like a dying cat. I have friends but other than speaking in a boring monotone voice I can't say the funny or attractive things that I'd like to say.

What daily practices should I be doing to better my voice? I've been trying to mimic cartoons and tv shows but I'm so bad at it that it is seriously discouraging. I'm going to keep at it but if anyone has any tips then please help me out.

File: 1448836943282.jpg (270KB, 569x901px) Image search: [Google]

270KB, 569x901px

Why do people encourage guys to ask girls out and pretend that there are no social repercussions from being rejected? I'm worried about these and I don't even have friends or any social media!

Explain, or give examples of what happens if you get rejected.

File: REEEE.png (50KB, 2000x1430px) Image search: [Google]

50KB, 2000x1430px

Hey /adv/ I want to change my name First Middle and Last. Any ideas? I think I might go with Hanns or Hannz for my first name. So anything that goes with that would be cool. Bonus points if the first name starts with Han!

File: ai-is-a-scam.gif (2KB, 100x50px) Image search: [Google]

2KB, 100x50px

Graduate of a terrible Art Institute "college." Specifically, Art Institute of Las Vegas. Didn't learn shit. Can't get out of debt and owe over 70k. Monthly interest alone is $400 a month. Have three kids, illegally living in a 2 bedroom apartment due to family size, don't qualify for government assistance or aid or even student loan deferment. Debt prevents me from buying a home. Can't get a business loan to start a business. Can't get work in my field because my field doesn't pay shit and is extremely competitive. My education didn't prepare me for pretty much anything career oriented.

Does anyone know of success stories where a student successfully sewed the college and won, wiping their debt clean? I don't even give a shit about the money and time I lost going to that college. I just want my debt removed.

Anyone know of programs or assistance I can get help with?

File: 011.jpg (1MB, 2000x1500px) Image search: [Google]

1MB, 2000x1500px

/adv/, what do I do about threadworms/pinworms?

I somehow ended up with them 2 weeks ago and I've taken the medication, eaten a teaspoon of coconut oil in the morning, applied coconut oil to my anus at night (different jars, mind you), eaten 2 cloves of garlic each morning and added 2 servings of blackberries to my daily diet and yet they're still there, sort of visible around my asshole.

I'm about to take the second dose of worming meds, but these things are persistent and I'm slightly embarrassed about it to see my GP.

File: 1446638819885.jpg (628KB, 1920x1200px) Image search: [Google]

628KB, 1920x1200px

My girlfriend and I was having a normal conversation over text and out of the blue she says,

>Everyone's moving in together, When can we?

I simply reply with "When I can afford to move out" and then replies with

>Hurry up I'm bored of waiting

Anyway thinking that subject has changed within the conversation I then receive this reply from her

>I'm getting sad and frustrated at that I'm ready to start settling down etc and you're years off that

I should mention that we have only been together for a year, personally I think it's just way too soon for myself or even her to actually think about even buying or renting a house.

I told her again that I don't have a high enough income to even buy a house, pointed out that most couples don't start looking into this thing until another few years in the average relationship. I also said that it wouldn't be fair on her I can't even split the bills since my income isn't high enough to support her and lastly, I also said that I simply wasn't ready to move out.

She then replies

>You'll never be ready then. Maybe I should get my house then. I was waiting for you, silly me (Kek'd)

After that, I just didn't know what to say but I feel rather pissed off just simply because she doesn't respect my reasons, honesty and just attempting to rush me into things.

How can I tell my girlfriend to basically stop rushing into things? I can't help but think that she is jealous because most her friends are married in their early 20's, have their own houses and some excepting a child. I have a strong feeling about that

>TL:DR Girlfriend is pushing me into things, How do I tell her to back off?

File: Nasty Habit.jpg (37KB, 630x354px) Image search: [Google]

37KB, 630x354px

I've started to realize I have developed a bad drinking habit, and I know I need to cut it out. I've been trying to stop since summer, but all I manage to do is not drink for 4 or 5 days and then fall back into it.

I don't do it to alleviate stress or anything, and I don't have a physical addiction. But because god damn do I really enjoy drinking its become associated a lot with my home life. Almost everything when I am at home now is.
- Writing a paper: Grab a drink
- Gonna draw some art and listen to music: Grab a drink
- Play some Video games: Grab a drink

I'm young man and I usually take good care of my self, but I'm looking at 3-5 drinks a night for the past 2 years. Anyone with some success stories? What about switching to weed. I really don't want to keep living this routine, any help is appreciated.

File: tmp_26426-130783643800120110725-22047-1euk6061208964595.jpg (24KB, 600x407px) Image search: [Google]

24KB, 600x407px

Wtf do I do about having a cunt mom. Like I'm talking literal evil. She comes downstairs and she's just sitting there looking like a miserable cunt. I said can I have your keys go to the store its only a quarter mile away. And she just snaps and yells no you can't. She starts yelling. I said why just because your a miserable cunt and she said just walk your fat ass down and keeps yelling.

The other day my friend was here and she says I need my fucking card I said ok. She runs out to me and my friend and starts screaming and shit and I said ok I'll go find it and she just follows me around the house screaming the whole time while my friend sits there on his phone trying to leave.

I have childhood trauma and I think I have PTsd and she brings up being molested just to watch me snap. All she does is try to make me as miserable as her and she just screams at me like fucjinb mad. The only way I can talk to her is if I scream over her screaming.

I'm trapped out in the boonies with this bitch what do I do? She just sits in her room drinking all day and she only stops to come scream at me. I'm scared I'm going to get drunk and just black out and punch the shit out of her.

File: 1424343724510.jpg (36KB, 605x423px) Image search: [Google]

36KB, 605x423px

In order to make this concise I'll greentext the background information:

>Get job
>Qt3.14 works there
>Always makes excuses to work with me
>Obsessively touching me
>Very flirty, but in an innocent way
>Come to find out that she has a boyfriend, as well as a son
>Just write off previous flirting as her just being friendly ,as she's very friendly to everyone and I have a history of misreading signals
>Qt3.14 finds a new job, puts in 2 week notice
>Days start to go by
>She becomes really flirty again and kind of sad and distant at the same time
>Ask her whats wrong and she's said she's sad she won't be able to work with me anymore
>Asks me for my phone number so we can text eachother when she leaves
>Text her that night
>Goes on and on, she's asking what I think of her and what not
>Tonight I leave work and she's in the parking lot
>She gives what is at first another one of her "I'm going to miss working with you" speeches
>Says she has feelings for me
>Have no idea what to say
>Am a kissless virgin, no previous relationship experience and live in my parents basement still
>She keeps going on about how she's sad she's in a relationship, feels bad to her current fiance for having feelings with me
>Literally have no idea what to say or do
>Hug her and tell her I'll text her later

cont.

File: gun-suicide.jpg (48KB, 800x600px) Image search: [Google]

48KB, 800x600px

I'm thinking of killing myself. Nobody knows I feel this way or that I'm even sad. Is there any reason to live?

File: Jeremy-Corbyn-10_c_3328947b.jpg (8KB, 243x207px) Image search: [Google]

8KB, 243x207px

As pretentious as it sounds, I think I've been having an existential crisis for the last couple of years. It started when a close friend I was sleeping told me she had started seeing someone else, which effectively ruined our friendship. It was only when it was over that I realised she was the most important friend I had ever had, and all of my other friendships were meaningless in comparison. As you can tell I took it pretty hard and sank into a bit of a depression, so I began to isolate myself as I waited for the feeling to pass. It never did.

University ended, and I decided to take a year off to do something completely different. I signed up to volunteer for a few months in Africa. Everyone else I went with found it an incredible life-changing experience, but it didn't really mean anything to me. I spent the rest of the year travelling to the places I'd always wanted to go to, and I did enjoy it, but I grew more and more alone and decided that it was time for me to settle down and rebuild some meaningful relationships. I applied for, and got accepted on, a Master's course that is interesting and will lead to a well-paid and enjoyable career.

Now I'm here, I'm feeling pretty low again. All of my feelings are contradictions. I want my ex to be happy, but I also want her to go through the same pain as I did. I want to find a girlfriend, but the idea of being that close to someone repels me. I am both interested in and completely bored by my area of study and future career. I feel like I'm heading for a miserable life, and yet I don't know what change would make it better. The one and only thing in my life I'm looking forward to is spending this xmas with my family - after that I'll just carry on 'existing', because I feel like I've not really lived in so long.

If that last paragraph seems fucking stupid, it's because it is. Is there anyone who's felt a similar way before? Does anyone have any advice for me?

File: bleeding-gums.jpg (13KB, 481x378px) Image search: [Google]

13KB, 481x378px

How do I stop my gums bleeding when I brush my teeth?