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Couple points:

>looking back on relationship in skewered view; relationship probably wasn't as good as you're making it out to be. You're just not used to being alone after 2 years of relationship.
>you didn't ask for advice on anything.

Time ends up fixing this stuff. Since you got so used to a relationship and company as soon as you were lone you turned into a mushy pile of autism. Take a step back and actually look at your relationship with the previous girl and determine how good the relationship actually was.

Finally:
>pls no self-pity or 'she is the one' replies.

>>16523040
I've had enough time to think about this stuff already. I can say with 100% that we were both happy for the majority of the relationship. Her life improved drastically after meeting me (i did a hell of lot for her). And the only time we wernt happy was during the breakup, which took about 2 weeks.
I stand by what i said, it was as close to perfection as it could be.

Im not looking for pity, i simply came here to ask what in the hell i should be doing with the cards i have in my hand.

>>16523055
Moving on then, obviously.

From the looks of it she sounds high maintenance.
>I did a hell of a lot for her

Sounds like she used you for a month then moved on. She was content with you looking after her and being an keeping her happy while you enjoyed her company. Probably just felt guilt at the end of the relationship and decided to end it. Don't assume she enjoyed the relationship as much as you just because of the smile on her face.

>what in the hell i should be doing
move.on.

In a normal relationship you would probably talk and discuss all night.
You "lose your shit" and don't really want to talk.
It sounds like you're only drawn together because you're emotionally weak, (which also explains the losing of the shit).

If you're in the wrong then make up. If your relationship just isn't working then break up.

>>16523006
I actually told her that right now it wasn't the best time to talk , I mean we're both at knife point, even more when we're both about to end the relationship

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You're fine.

>>16522916
It's possible, but very rare. There can be normal spotting during pregnancy though.

If you want to be sure, just get her a pregnancy test. You should have a few on hand anyways if you and your partner are sexually active.

You should also consider using better BC than condoms.

if she has had her period a pregnancy test will work

might as well try it, they cost $5

You ARE beta as fuck bro.

Enjoy the KEKENING

>>16522910
No. If you want her back then get her back. Just don't go through the same cycle that caused the break up in the first place. I got my girlfriend back because I am not a beta cunt that's going to watch another guy swoop in on her.

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>>16522910
>65% sure

You got to be 100% or nothing.

>>16522784
well there arn't many things you can do, which makes your decision simpler to some extent.

you can ask the other girl to leave him alone (good luck)
you can yell at the other girl for being a hussy

you can ask your boyfriend to leave her alone
you can yell at your boyfriend

or you can ignore it

if it was me I'd yell at the girl and tell everyone she's a slut, then tell your boyfriend that other people have noticed him talking to her and it's embarrassed and upset you, he might be under the impression that just talking to her doesn't do any harm

you can't force either of them to be moral, and you can't fix it by making yourself a better girlfriend, this is on them
then

>>16522824
Anon, it's nice that you tried to help, but this is abysmal advice for OP...

>>16522784
So, to me OP it's a respect thing. I would never allow a dude to flirt with me when I'm in a relationship. And if this other guy also KNOWS I'm with someone, and hits on me anyway, I have no problem being a huge dick to him.

If it's to the point that you feel like you need to confront the chick, you've already lost. You should never HAVE to, he should tell her to back off on his own. Also, I can almost guarantee you- you won't like what you find on his phone. You know your boyfriend, and you know when somethings up. You know when it's just a friend, and when it's not. Your gut is usually right, so prepare yourself.

>>16522755
It'll only result in sex if you're both in the mood and if the setting is right. Don't get your hopes up and definitely don't be a fucking neckbeard about it if nothing happens.

>>16522764

But why would she invite me for tea in the middle of the night?

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Bruh nah, Don't ruin this for yourself getting so hung up on the possibility of sex, because if sex doesn't happen you'll feel disappointed.

Expect nothing, prepare for the whole spectrum from good to bad. Enjoy her company, and be good company.

>>16522746
When did you meet? Sounds like you just saw her. You should have just settled for getting a number and work your way up. Anyway it doesnt matter because shes putting up a hurdle for you. I know girls that do this. Kind of a way to filter out creep asses. Up to you if you want to go through the trouble.

>>16522746
>Does this mean exactly what she said or do I abort?
abort. she isnt mature enough for a date obv so dont continue

>>16522794
I hooked her up with some stuff. Could this mean she's just being nice to get better deals in the future?

Have you ever smoked before? Legal grass can be pretty strong.

>>16522741
Once. I got extremely high. I couldn't even talk or move my body right because I smoked way too much so this time I want to try less so I assume like 1-2 puffs instead of the 4-6 I did that time

do it. one good hit (not too small not too big) should have you feeling great. finish a prerolled joint on your own might leave you incredibly baked.

>>16522703
Observe how other (confident) people act, copy their mannerisms, adapt to your specific needs. Ta-da fake confidence.

>>16522707
Normal people turn hostile if I come too near them.

>>16522703
Here's how I did it back in high school

>I don't care
>I don't care
>I don't care
>I don't care

I repeated this in my head every time someone/something would bother me.

By the end of HS it evolved into

>I like my life
>I like who I am
>I like how I look
>I don't care
>I ENJOY LIFE

>>16522574
It's called having low self worth.

>>16522574
insecurity

>>16522574
Just remember: she wants you, so just accept that you are actually good enough for her

>>16522549
well this is an ANONYMOUS board, so... you kinda need to tell us what the fuck it is, Anon.

>>16522549
This is why you disclose everything and do it early. That way you find someone you're actually compatible with.

People insist on deceiving, lying, and hiding, thinking that's how to build a healthy, successful relationship.

Learn from this mistake.

>>16522575
Agreed. Give more insight or there is nothing we can do for you.

>>16522531
Maybe work on your grammar.

>X and X will came too.

>And you better gotta deal with it

Lol who fucking wrote this?


Anywhoo, what's on your mind anon? Maybe I can help. I'm bored asf procrastinating my essay.

>>16522531
>>16522553
EH, didn't bother reading your entire post my B.

>I can't make friends
Yeah you can. You should elaborate on why first before just throwing that out there.
>never asked out the girl I loved
Love is mutual, sorry senpai she didn't love you. But that blows, better move on.
>My live is getting worse and worse because of this.
hmm. well you have the ability to make yourself feel happy, so why not try and just feel happy?

>>16522553
Well my life is basically like this:

Before 3rd grade I was this happy kid with all kinds of friends, I was not afraid to talk to strangers or girls. Then in the middle of 3rd grade, I started to become nervous when among people. Lost friends and got bullied until 7th grade and in these years I would cry whenever I got home. 8th grade, I'm completely silent in class, never say anything and fails a lot. Parents are called, they are disappointed in me. 9th grade people ignore me and I lose almost all of my friends, only friend I have left is just as beta and stupid as me. 10th grade, I try to talk to people, small talk and such, better than nothing. People see me as their friend and add me on Facebook but never invite me to stuff. Now on to business school (3 years on total). 1st year I'm in the same class as beta stupid friend, yay. He begins in gym, gets more social with others, and starts forgetting me. I try to make friends, kinda works. Make some friends here. 2nd year my friend begin to make a bit fun of me, I just accept it so that I have someone to talk with. I actually get invited to shit and meet 2 cute girls, 1 I'm extremely interested in. Never ask her out and instead do stupid shit near her. 3rd and current year, I'm still being made fun of, never invited to anything really, when I'm home I just play video games. Hate my family for who they are. Now we are close to the end of the school year, I feel like I will fail and have to start over, my friends are drifting away from me, my beta stupid friend has a gf and has a nice looking body. I'm just here even more pathetic than before, shaking writing this, semi-crying, not knowing what to do.

Sorry if text is full of grammar mistakes or hard to read.

>>16522492
I can't really write this in a way that doesn't sound sort of smutty, so I'm just gonna go for it. He stripped to his shirt and boxers, me to my shirt and panties, we spooned on my bed and sort of drifted in and out of sleep. We talked for a while. He got hard. He wasn't really trying to hide it, it was pressed up against my butt, and I just decided "fuck it" and started wiggling my butt against him. I started subtle, it sort of got more and more intense, he started making happy noises, his hands started wandering, I thought "thank fucking christ this is finally fucking happening" and turned around and put my hand down his boxers.

Here's where I get confused. He grabbed my arms and rolled over on top of me, pinned my arms down over my head and straddled one of my legs so one of his thighs was rubbing my crotch, and had his lips right down to my ear and he sort of sexy growled "what do you think you're doing?" I did the whole dumb "oh I just thought I felt something hard there, wanted to see what it was" thing. He's goes "Oh is that all you wanted?" and I sort of floundered for a response, but then he just says "Tell me what you want." So basically here he is, pinning me down, we're both in our underwear, we're both turned on and grinding on each other, he's breathing his hot breath on my neck and grazing it with his lips and asking me what I want, so I feel like that's pretty clearly a green light, right? So I say "I want you to fuck me." He sort of smiles, gets up really close in my face like he's about to kiss me, but right before he does he just goes "Nnnnope."

I'm kind of stunned, as he just hops up out of bed and basically goes "hey good nap I'm well rested now thanks for the jacket I've gotta go study for finals see you later" and leaves me there horny as fuck and with no idea what the shit just happened. Then a day goes by and it hasn't really been addressed and I don't know how to proceed and now here I am asking for advice.

Fuck that's hot. You're on cock ban. Enjoy. :) This shit makes me wet as fuck

He was disappointed in your answer and thus you as a person. You came off as slutty and it probably turned him off. He then remembered why he was there and quickly made a decision using his head instead of his dick.

Next time don't be so autistic and say what you want from the get go without causing all this unnecessary shit.

Walk right up to hwr. Blank any orbiters present at the moment. Ask her out. Turn to the most sour-looking orbiter and do your best trollface "Problem?" Then walk away.

Fewer orbiters tomorrow. Problem solved.

>>16522489
This.
Just ask her out man, everyone else will get BTFO at your confidence and pride. She might reject you though, just gotta not give a fuck.

I did this with some artsy chick in my theater class freshmen year at my CC. She was literally the only attractive girl in the class, and every fucking being with a penis wanted that ass. I was the only one who had enough balls to ask her though. She said yes but nothing came of it, still I'm glad I just went for it.

>>16522489
>>16522513
How do I ask her out and make sure it's clear I want to bone/love her and not just be another orbiter? Like, what should I ask her to do or how should I ask her?

>>16522448
In the past I've just been honest- anything else kinda leaves a window open. Just tell him that you just don't seem very compatible to you, and you'd like to end things.

It's going to suck regardless anon, but the facts are the facts.

>>16522458
the problem is he is most likely not going to see we are incompatible even if I said it straight.

He seems absolutely convinced we are most compatible thing ever since first meeting even if it isn;t true.
There is also my fault in that since I always try to find mutual stuff and try to talk about them on first dates.

>>16522477

"It isn't going to work, not now or ever. We don't click and I want to cease all contact. If you do contact me I will contact the authorities."

Pretty brutal but enough to never having you deal with this sob.