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How do I live a happy life without external approval, reassurance and attention?

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Just found out my gf was cheating on me with her ex, he doesn't know I even exist and she assured me she had no feelings for him anymore. Checked his FB and found I've been lied to for quite some time now...

Pic related, the lying slut that committed to fucking marry me and told me so much about how she only wanted me

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Oh damn, adv... I'm such a mess and somehow i still managed to get with this perfect guy. I'm scared that i will ruin this... I have no idea what he sees in me but apparently he enjoys my company. I think i'm just too much for normal and balanced people to handle. For example, we talked about movies and i was actually dumb enough to bring up a serbian film. Like wtf was i thinking? Or yeah, we made out in his car and despite him telling me twice that we don't have to do this i slept with him. Am i fixable at all or should i just acceppt that i am a broken piece of trash? So far he doesn't seem to be bothered THAT much, he still texts me all the time and it doesn't even look like he's only in for the pussy. Am i delusional or fucking lucky?

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Hey /adv/- i can't keep it up during sex. I've been going out with a girl I like a hell of a lot; she's pretty sensitive and I'm able to keep her going for more than an hour fingering her and whatnot, so I'm able to please her, but she wants me to get off. Problem is, I don't really keep it up very long... She's attractive and I like her a lot; I get pretty stiff during the foreplay, but even when she's giving me a blowjob I just lose it after like 2-4 minutes and I get close to coming but don't. Same thing happened to a different girl I was with before . (Thankfully this girl said she's patient and happy to work out with it, she's lovely.)

What can I do? I know it's a mix of nerves and resetting my dick/head after years of fapping, but I've never really had the chance to be physically intimate before and now it's a little overwhelming to be doing it too. My last sex experiences kinda sucked, and while I'm enjoying the romance and making out with hrru girl I just wanna properly bone her and give her a good time/blow my load already.

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So I recently broke up with my ex. We dated for just over. I hurt her and I know that. We spoke about getting back together, she said she needs time, but is willing to try next year. I know she has been spending time with other guys and has made new friends, I am just hoping that is a way to help with her self esteem.

I do know I really fucked up and I want her back in my life. It wasnt an ugly break up and we are really good friends.

My only question is, do I still message her? We spoke about getting back together next year. Both of us live in seperate towns and now are off on holiday. So I will only see her in 2-3 months.

Like I still want her to know how much I care about her, but I dont want to come across as needy. Like how do I build up her trust again? The whole making her jealous childish bullshit wont work here.

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>Own small business
>It has grown quite sizable
>Needed a clerk to help me run some day to day operations and keep office hours and a schedule
>Interviewed a few applicants, eventually hired clerk, it's no longer a one man show
>Hired her fresh out of college
>Her degree is, in fact, deceptive
>She knows nothing
>She's not particularly competent
>I'm pretty decent at teaching, and she hasn't gotten any better over the course of months even though I take hours out of my day to teach her
>Important shipping deadlines are coming up and I absolutely need somebody trained by then and she clearly isn't going to shape up
>Can't have her fucking up important customs paperwork
>Decide to give her a few weeks after thanksgiving break, basically she'd be in arrears getting paid through Christmas
>Seems like plenty of time to line up a new job
>Still feel awful about firing her, especially around the holidays
>Call her in near the end of her shift
>Tell her that I'm going to have to let her go, but that I'd be happy to give her a reference, but it just isn't working out
>She gets upset and starts crying
>Immediately regret firing her
>Says that she'd get naked to keep this job
>Wut
>You see where this is going
>Eventually outright offers to trade sex for employment
>A combination of her tears and my erection has made a normally smart man very stupid very stupid
>Accept
>She spends the last half hour or so of the day blowing me in my office
>As soon as I finish feel massive regrets
>She leaves for thanksgiving break
>Clocks in on Monday

What have I begun?

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I know the picture is alarming, but it was one of the only pictures I have on my computer.

I like a girl (big surprise, someone asking for relationship advice on /adv/) we go to the same school, we only have one class that's basically a study with 3 other people who're pretty alright as well. She is blond and blue eyed, very Christian that loves her seminary classes. My National Socialist side loves this, besides a few issues.

I do not believe in God, I do not intent to chance either my own or her beliefs if I engage in a relationship.
We live in separate towns, 20-30ish minute drive (mornings are rough)
She also dislikes texting, so we never have long conversations, mostly only a few texts are swapped. I also dislike the basis of relying on a phone for a relationship, so I hope any advice does not involve a lot of reliance on texting.

So /adv/, this is my first post, let's see if you have any good ideas?

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My girlfriend of 4.5 years out of the blue stopped talking to me. I didn't speak to her for a day then she unfriended me, next day she blocked me.

I tried to not do this but today i used the account of a family member that she hasnt blocked to tell her to unblock me so we can talk and she just blocked that account as well.

There was not talk of a breakup. Nothing just blocking me on fb. I feel like this is the worst thing anyone could do for a "breakup." I have no reason, nothing. Not a single fucking word after nearly 5 years of being together. She's in another country right now so i have no way of actually contacting her besides fb.

What should i do?

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Those of you who have stayed with a cheating S/O, how did you do it? Was it worth it?

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There's someone I like, but I'm kind of getting mixed messages in return. What do I do?

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Hello, I'm 25, I just finished engineering. I'm in the work force. I don't know where else to ask this, and sorry if my grammar or spelling is off.

after I graduated university a few months after, I was with a group of friends that did a lot of drugs. I havn't smoked pot or extacy since high school, and I never tried LSD, so I thought I'd try it.

I bought 3 hits, and two days later I did it with a girl I knew. I have never done it before. but basically it was fucked up, I remember a lot of it, and I tried to write down what was doing on. It was honestly really fucked.

Since then I feel like I have a very hard time concentrating, and I feel like I have become pretty anti-social, even if I was before. Sometimes out of no where I get small instances like I was on acid again, and I feel like "Whoa, I'm here right now" or some objects start breathing.

I can control it most of the time, but sometimes conversation is hard, and I don't enjoy what I used to do.

Any advice from any other drug users?

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So I've been friends with this grill since childhood, and in the past few months had developed feelings for her. I tell her about them and she gives me a peck on the cheek and complements my eyes, nothing else. The following week, she at random times would lay her head on my chest, and this happened maybe 3 times. I had been very hesitant to her advances over their sporadic nature, but now she doesn't show any form of affection, and seems to be a lot more distant (barely talks to me when I'm present, single syllable replies on most msgs sent to her, will not stay in a room alon with me). What do?

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I have an attractive aunt (not by blood relation) by marriage that I've been very attracted to since I was a kid. I'm a bit drunk right now and sitting in her living room with her son. She and my mother don't like each other and even though I'm 24 the drama between them still tracks me down.
These feeling I've had for have gotten to the point that when helping her move furniture around once she pulled me into a room in a hurry to ask me to move a dresser and I almost had a heart attack and if she weren't so interested in moving things she probably would have noticed my erection.
What should I do about this? Should I make a move and if so how? If not, how do get over this?

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>live in small town
>under 2k people here
>7 hours from a major city
>nothing here at all besides societies deformed rejects
>they all hate me for not being retarded or farming
>just want to leave and be with my own kind
>closest source of jobs is like a 60 mile commute
>no such thing as full time work
>my body and mind are failing from being so far out in the middle of nowhere with nothing to do

Holy fuck what do I do

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So I dont have facebook but I wanna try tinder. How should I start? I only wanna use it so i can match with girls, i dont want people to find me through facebook. And what kind of pics should I use, since I dont have many pics?

Thanks for helping a noob out