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Yes.

I'm dating a 19 year old and I'm 26.

>>16757759
Yes it's fine. Go for it bro.

The golden rule is "half your age + 7", so I would say yes.

>>16757737
Everyone has to start somewhere. Keep going

>>16757737
>mtf
>weight lifting
Shouldn't you be doing the opposite of lifting weights. I mean if you wanna exercise do cardio then.

>>16757768
Have no idea desu. Will be interesting to see if I bulk up. When I started HRT I lost a lot of weight from muscle loss, even though I was lazy and sedentary as a boy. It might be hard to build muscle mass. But everyone says weights is best exercise for health. I want the best health!

>>16757708
yes its called suicide

>>16757714
Quickest method?

>>16757708
you're just a shit driver. get a non- driver ID and buy yourself a rascal scooter. you don't need to pass a driver's test to ride on one of those

>>16757707

So I loosen up after a week and start talking to her again like normal. So I finally asked her today in person, since I got the opportunity to talk to her alone. I said to her that I didn't mean to make her uncomfortable by asking her to go to the movie with me. We then talk for a little while and she says a couple of things I take note of.
>Because of a couple of experiences, I shouldn't get close to someone
It was unclear whether she meant that she was afraid she would fall in love, or if she was afraid of falling in love and getting rejected
>I just need some more time
She didn't specify what she needed time for
>She mentioned that she didn't know what I meant when I asked her to go to the movie
So she didn't know if I meant it was a date or just as friends? She didn't specify whether of the two she wanted/didn't want.
She also seemed kind of teary eyed at the end of the conversation.
I have no idea how to interpret this, or what to do now. I'll meet her in school tomorrow. Should I ask her if we can talk more about it or to specify? Is there anything else I can do? Should I just "give her time" whatever that means?

Thank you for reading, anon. It took a lot of time to write and I appreciate any help.

>>16757699
>know her personally
>still using facebook to try and set things up
Use a phone like an adult, faggot. Or better yet, ask her in person. Most girls want to date men, not other girls. Find your nuts, dude.

>>16757725
Did you even read the whole thing? I didn't have her number anyways, so I didn't have much of a choice then

>>16757673
>Is it a realistic goal?
No. Jelqing, like all other penis-extension methods, is a scam. It does nothing.

>tfw body dysmorphia from porn
>tfw decently sized dick (told so by multiple girls) but it always seems small to you
>tfw can wrap both hands around the shaft without even reaching the head and still don't think it's big enough
;___;

isnt that really bad for your dick? ive heard horror stories about jelqing, while hearing just about nothing on success stories

yes my heart is set on joining the military (for other reasons too) so dont waste your time to try to convince my otherwise. and most states that ive researched (including texas) dont require you to be a resident but rather just enlist in the state

>>16757670
enlist under a MOS that actually teaches you something that can transition into a civilian job.

they will tempt you with reenlistment. they may threaten with withholding certifications or licensing. it's whatever. have fun with the four years extra.

I'd like to know it too.

I'm brazilian, started studying at one of the most expensive universities of the country and I'm totally dependent of my father's money.

I can't apply for a regular job for reasons, but I'd love to have my own money (even if it's not much).

Get an easy, but too complicated for plebs skill.
Good starting points are web design, pc repair and tax preparation.
Use the Google machine for a good textbook or read the fuck out of documentation.
Get a book from library genesis.
Then lie lie lie about your background.
Avoid really popular or well connected people for your first few clients.
It's not really a big deal to screw up your first few jobs, as long as you can talk circles around people and don't serve thugs.
Sell services to plebs.

Source: I've been an IRS enrolled preparer for four years. It was enough for me to be a drug addict with no financial consequences my first three years of college.

>>16757665

its not edgy to become an adult and say 'gee id really like to live my own life' so get that notion out of your head. ur doing what everyone does. growing up. and thats great.

but you're also asking for cheatcodes, and there arent any.

first and foremost
>figure out where you want to live

most people gravitate to a city. they tend to be more expensive but its easier to start a new life there on your own then in a small town, where they kinda expect you to only move there for work or a family.

but you need money to move. so you gotta get some

>BUT HOWWW

well you can go to your bank and ask for a personal line of credit. i was able to do this even without a job just saying 'oh i do freelance web work'. they did it when i had zero dollars in my account too under the idea that this is to help you get back on your feet. just be careful.

that being said, get a job you fuckin bum! you cant move without money so why not make money? you're going to need one when you move, so why not start saving now? you should save at least 5000 dollars before a move. but you would be better off saving more.

look around for local gigs on top of your job to make extra money (or in lieu of a job) and start saving away. got a vehicle? sell it and get an even cheaper one. that sort of thing.

once you got your money (preferrably 6 months worth of funds, but hey, 5000 isnt a bad start) go to the city you want to move to. look at free couch surfing sites (i was surprised to find they exist) and immediately start looking for people subletting their spare rooms. if they at least have a bed, you are set.

stay there until you find a job. once you find a job, you can put away a lil more money and then move in to your own apartment.

source: i moved out when i was 18

>>16757683
This is pretty good advice, but three $5000 mark is a little high.
An easier choice is to save about $800, bus to the city, job hunt hardcore when you are there. Move into a sublease room as soon as you get a job (if you use Craig's list, any existing roommate group of three or more people will probably be chill).
A easy way to get your initial seed money is through a student loan refund.
You're more likely to thrive off a part time job and student loan refund and you'll have much more personal and career growth that way.

>>16757782
>>16757683
The big problem, and reason I have no money, is that I just never get a callback or appointment to interview when I'm applying for a job. Granted the places I've applied to are all around a college town so I imagine they're swamped, but I have nothing to put on a resumé to make myself stand out and don't seem to have any luck getting any attention when job hunting.

The other problem is that I'm in Alabama and there aren't any cities in this state worth moving to, they're all rundown to shit. Nearest decent city is Atlanta in Georgia but it's not far enough away from my family and is also incredibly shitty and rundown in some areas. So not only do I need to factor the cost of living, I also need to factor in the cost of travelling potentially several states away.

>>16757655
you aren't exercising enough. Do 1hr of cardio a day. Or 3 days of lifting a week and 2 days of 1hr cardio then your problems will go away.

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>>16757655

i feel your pain. pic related is me. left was thanksgiving of 2014, right was january 2015.

i tried so many different things and most didnt work. cutitng out dairy, cutting out greasy stuff, exercise, drinking all the water in the world, even changing my sleeping habits so that my face floats mid air with my forehead hanging off my pillow so that i dont have skin touching the pillow. didnt work.

best i found so far was
>retin-A in the morning and as needed
>salicylic acne wash in the shower
>moisturizer after shower and as needed
>erythromicin gel at night

Retin-A is literally just accutane applied to the face. it doesnt work permanently like accutane does, as its just topical, but it peels it all away really fast and really nice.

salicylic acid just dries out the face further so acne cant grow, strongest face wash ive ever used. moisturizer stops it from flaking out of course, and on top of that prevents you from over producing oils that will kil lit.

erythromicin is a topical gel but its literal anti biotics, used to kill the bacteria that creates acne. its a powerful combination but its not perfect. while it CAN keep my face clear for weeks, for the most part its one pimple here or there, bnarely noticeable, just a red spot type things. not a perfect solution, but in your case might be all you can.

ive never had 'cystic' acne either, so i cant really vouch for how well it will work for it.

my recommendation is wait til you've had some time, then get back on accutane.

in my attempts to completely destroy my acne i recently started accutane and hoping it works.

i feel your pain. when i dont have acne i feel pretty fucking cute and can go out and get laid or get a number or what have you. with acne i odnt even like going to friends house cuz i feel they judge me

>>16757719
what are some well known brands of Retin-A cream? I assume it's over the counter?
Is it more effective than benzoyl peroxide?

>>16757621
are you black?

>>16757621

if its true, simply resign. if its not, then explain that you are not involved, you'll gladly report any suspicious activity back to them, they are welcome to post more cameras if they think it will help, but that 'believing' is not evidence, and until they have evidence you'd like to be excused to go back to work.

>>16757626
No, white.
>>16757637
The place I work doesn't actually have cameras. Do you know if they'd try strong-arming one into signing a confession or something, even if they don't have evidence?

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>>16757611
>requires luck

>>16757611

>what do i do if i can't love girls?

get over it. whether its getting over the fact that you cant love them and finding a way too, forgetting over girls in general and just living your life without them.

are you of high moral fiber and have never had sex or sent a nude of yourself / wouldn't if soemone cared enough to ask? if yes, then perhaps you should seek out a highly religious wife.

if religion isn't why you consider it moral, than why do you?

and if not, why the double standard?

>>16757625
I mean yeah I've sent and received nudes but it was really one with one or two girlfriends I mean most girls have fucked like 20 dudes sent nudes to a shit load of guys when they were younger and sucked strangers off

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bump before going to bed, would be happy to have any answer

>>16757688
Typing up a reply, 2 mins

Do nothing, as someone who self harms, we don't want it to be acknowledged. If she has cuts in places that are visible (wrists, legs) and she wears t shirts and shorts, then she clearly only wants atttention for it, and has no underlying issues besides a craving for attention. If, she took off her sweater and forgot her cuts were there, or unintentionally had them exposed, then, still, its none of your business, don't fucking say anything.

>>16757583
You have nothing to lose, so why not?

"Hey, hours ago I walked passed you in the streets. Wannafuck?"

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>>16757563
>implying you have any other option besides comcast in your area

>>16757563
It depends on where you live, kid. We can't do this research for you.

That's correct. Your degree is largely just a qualification that serves to tick a box during the hiring process. However that piece of paper should still come from a traditional institution. Start with your local community college and then transfer to the nearest campus for a state school.