Only kidding, I just want to smell good for myself. What are some gold cheap colognes I can find at Walmart? All I have is some shit
True religion I got for free years ago
>>16769432
Cologne is for queers.
Adidas is nice and some deodorants are good enough. Do you know how to wear cologne?
>>16769436
Ever get a boner or the butterflies when a chick's perfume smells really good? We men's cologne has the same effect on them.
But you probably smell lime doritos and shit.
So yesterday I was at a book launch, I was looking forward to it for a few weeks. I usually don't go out much, very busy with work after work (teacher). I married young, and wear a ring on my finger. It's very visible and I made no efforts in hiding it.
After the book launch I went to a bar with my friends and the author because it's so amusing to discuss things over a glass of wine. I have done so many times in the past and always enjoy myself so much. My husband works evenings so he usually can't join me on these events, though sometimes.
Well anyway I should get to the point, there was a young rather charming PhD "student" there hitting on me quite much and sorta getting in between the conversations we were having. I was being friendly and nice to the man, but that's it. I feel bad, almost like i tricked him or perhaps I was sending out the wrong message by laughing at his jokes. They were actually quite funny, oh god it was so confusing and awkward. I tried almost pointing at the ring when holding my glass, but he didn't seem to take the hit.
Cont
I tried to fix the situation by talking about my husband and our anniversary, the trip we have been saving for and so on. But he didn't seem to either understand it or hear it, I am unsure how to interpret it really. Then he got drunker and drunker and started to slightly touch my knee, probably to test the water. I pulled away, then he attempted to get mad eye contact with me many times. I started to get nervous, and didn't quite know what to do at all really. It resulted in him getting more drunk, then seemingly giving up on whatever he was trying to do and left in a bad mood not even saying goodbye to anyone.
I am confused, is this my fault? Kinda is isn't it?
In the past when I was younger if I said I had a husband very early, guys would shout at me saying things like "do you think everyone wants you, stupid slut". If I said I had a husband too late they would say "you trickster, feeding off the attention you slut". What is even worse is when i was being super reserved and not laughing at a guys jokes he told me i was "mysterious and interesting".
Honestly I just want to drink wine and discuss intellectual things with my friends, have fun and talk. that's all. How do I not trick people into thinking I want something I don't? And why isn't my ring some sort of guy blocking invisible shield?
>>16769386
>Kinda it was. The guy didn't care if you were married or not especially when you continued to chat with him. Look you were flattered by the attention, not a crime, but own it.
Nah, not your fault OP. Dude is a douchebag who wanted into your pants and doesn't care that you're married.
Now I'm a bit confused. Did you go to this bar with just this guy, or with a group of people?
If the former, you did send out a mixed signal to him, but he's still a dipshit for not taking the unsubtle hints of talking about your husband and pointing out your ring. If the latter, you're not to blame at all.
Now just something to consider. You seem to feel guilty about how this went. Is it because you might have enjoyed having a man flirt with you a bit? If that's the case, you should talk to your husband because you're missing some of the spark that attracted you to him in the first place.
I am twenty fucking six and never had any kind of relationship at all and im fucking sick of it. I have asked 4 girls total in my life out, all rejected. I have yet to ask anyone in my university classes out and im about to graduate within 2 semesters.
There is a cute girl in my class and I want to just go for it. How the fuck do I break the ice? Do i just casual talk about the weather? Do I try to get her facebook? When does one figure out if a girl is into/not into me? When would I ask for her number?
Help me /adv/, im honestly clueless at this point.
>>16769266
talk to her. if she's responsive and interested in the conversation then that's a good start.
continue regular conversation. if she's making an effort to get to know you or to spend time with you then she's remotely interested.
ask her out. coffee, food, event, etc. doesn't matter. if she says 'yes' then you have your confirmation. if she says 'no' then move on.
be realistic with yourself and your standards. a 5/10 ain't bagging a 10/10.
>>16769266
>How the fuck do I break the ice? Do i just casual talk about the weather?
yes, gadually start talking to her more
>Do I try to get her facebook?
yeah, after a couple of weeks of mindless small talks
>When does one figure out if a girl is into/not into me?
never
When would I ask for her number?
after you talk to her for a couple of weeks on fb and irl
>>16769279
>>16769271
so slow and steady wins the race?
id say we are both 6/10s.
Sup guys, this gonna sound really fucking weird but i need your opinion on this. I lost a bet so i had to go to a fortune teller. I'm an atheist, i'm very sceptical to all supernatural things, and i was the last person to believe in things that have no scientific proof. Thing is, i got completely and utterly disarmed. I didn't say a thing and all my secrets, my past and present got exposed with no sweat. Furthermore, i wanted to prove that it was all coincidence and started digging. In the end, there are already 4 things that went the way i was told they will. I am not concerned about what i've heard. I am concerned about what i'm supposed to think right now. I can't even call it a fluke right now, and i'm feeling like there is something i was wrong about all the time, and i need to readjust. I also feel kind of defenceless, since it was a first damn time somebody who saw me for the first time exposed me like nobody else before. Any of you guys got some experiences in that regard? How am i supposed to react?
>what is cold reading?
>what is probability?
>>16769079
cautiously. i always 'wanted' to believe in this sort of thing, but even when I got a job as a psychic's assistant, i proceeded with caution. he did win me over in time though and i was surprised how deep the whole thing runs.
that being said, there is no need to change your life. if anyone asks you can either lie (or fear of being judged) or simply say 'yeah, i think I believe theres some real stuff out there' and leave it at that.
keep in mind that a lot of these people are just top shelf psychologist material though.
i like my boss cuz hes a straight shooter. he doesn't try to play guessing games or start with a letter. he just tells you what he knows and lets you deal with it if you so choose.
>>16769089
Believe me, i've went through alot of stuff before going so i was as prepared as one can be. I got slapped with all my personal bullshit right of the bat, so no i can't even call it a fluke right now.
What to do, what to do.
Currently married. Have lost all passion within marriage. She isn't interested in anything I'm interested in, and vice versa. She's not excited about my plans and dreams for the future. She has no plans or dreams for the future of her own. Things have been bumping along for a few years now where we are kinda living together as friends/room-mates and not much more.
Some time ago, I made a new friend. Accidentally fell in love with her. Now very aware of just how much is missing from my marriage... ugh.
Have tried to persuade wife to take part in couples counselling, or at least to talk to me, but it's hard going so far. Don't want to just cut and run from marriage, want to try and make it work, but not sure if there's any way back when we are both so disengaged and one of us doesn't seem to mind that or want to change things.
So, at what point do I say "ok, this isn't working" and pull the plug?
To be clear: the friend that I developed a crush for is not "plan B", leaving the marriage is leaving to go into loneliness. The friend isn't romantically interested in me, nor will she ever be as I'm not the kind of person that she would want. Friend only contributed to situation by opening my eyes to how unhappy I was/am.
>>16768970
>married
there is your problem right there.
Maybe a bit of background? How old are you? How long have you been married? How did you meet and what attracted you two in the first place? Do you have kids and/or have planned on some?
>>16769012
I'm late thirties. She's younger.
Married around ten years.
Met in an online chat room, ended up talking to each other all the time, met up for real to see if there was any chemistry, kinda went from there.
No kids.
She 100% doesn't want kids.
How do I respond when someone says I look pretty for a black girl?
As a white guy with an extreme case of jungle fever, take it as a compliment.
There's a very fine line between attractive black women, and other black women.
And, if you're on the attractive side of that line, oh my god you're in for a world of dick whenever you'd like.
I slept with one black girl in my life, and it was while my girlfriend and I were split up, and I swear to god I've jerked off to Serena Williams highlights on sportcenter, and that black chicks ass in slow motion on those Gold Bond commercials than I'd like to admit.
Thank god for twerk videos.
PS need a side of white dick?
>>16768841
Considering most black girls aren't pretty... Uh say thanks?
>As a white guy with an extreme case of jungle fever
>There's a very fine line between attractive black women, and other black women.
>PS need a side of white dick?
eat shit and die
Girls have all kinds of *speical girly shit* they do like bath bombs and painting their nails and all other "me-time"-stuff. Do men have anything just men do, except like drink beer while masturbating to sports?
How do I man.
>>16768602
There are men spas where you can get a massage or a facial. Hell there are even skin treatments for men that you can apply in your home while you relax yourself listening music or watching a movie.
>>16768609
I don't want to do girly shit, that's the point. I was asking if there was some kind of a male equalent for the whole gallery of "girly relaxation activities".
If I wanted to paint my nails while sitting in a strawberry-scented pink bath and drinking bubbly wine, I would. But I don't want to, the mere thought makes me feel gross.
>>16768609
I do not think she is referring to aesthetics exclusively
>broke up with ex 3 months ago
>still have feelings for him
>also been having dreams about him recently
>decide to try and contact him
>private profile
>too scared to add him
>i make my profile public (idk why i did to be honest)
>get a snack
>20 mins later
>his profile is public
>panic
>think about adding him
>ended up putting my profile back on private
did i do the right thing? i really want to talk to him again. pls help because i feel like im going crazy
>>16768050
How about you stop torturing yourself and A: Actually talk to him like a grown adult or B: Look for someone else.
Why did you break up and were you the one who left?
more informations about the breakup reasons and his reaction and afterwards communication
This might sound dumb, but do beautiful girls/ women even go trough hardship ?
Honestly, most of them just get together with wealthy/strong men or just become models.
This might sound sexist, but I just needed to ask these questions
First world?
They might struggle a little economically if they're not willing to go full whore with some beta.
But aside from that, not much, with tinder and the like they can fuck a stud whenever they want, they don't have to pay for shit and can remain in a comfortable economic position until some guy decides to marry her.
>>16767927
No they get everything handed to them in a silver platter
Girls that are just natural laid back beauties mifht not get a lot of hype and lead a comfy and normal life. Those girls that attentionwhore and put a lot of effort into their looks most likey have some serious issues. Mostly due to not having had the easiest childhood. Just read some interviews with models. Most have body issues and low selfesteem
>nice 6/10 cutie
>claims she has major depressive disorder and borderline personality disorder
>talk to her for 1 week
>end up being together
>everything feels so perfect
>she trusts me the most and listens to everything i say
>1 month in the relationship
>manage to fuck up her trust for me
>she barely trusts me or listens to me anymore
>she accusses me of being just like everybody else
>whenever i have to go to sleep she says i'm ''leaving'' her just like everyone else does
>if i feel bad about the whole thing and regret anything she says it's her fault for being such a fuckup
>goes on with the suicidal talking, saying she's worthless and useless
>she thinks i want to ''change'' her
>she says i can't deal with her as she is now and that's why i want to ''change'' her by going to therapy together
>she no longer wants me to take her to therapy
>''i won't be your dog.''
>accusses me of not listening to her and that i don't know what she needs nor know how to make her feel better
>had a long argument last night based on this
>she gets mad at me
>makes me feel like the worst person alive
>doesn't respond to messages or calls anymore
>woke up in the morning with a text from her
>''I'm sorry anon. I love you.''
seriously, what now?
i'm completely off the track.
>>16767785
Congrats, you found one of the few chicks claiming bpd who is actually bpd. This is what it entails. Enjoy the ride.
DO NOT STICK YOUR DICK IN CRAZY!
>>16767785
you dun goofd bud. best to gtfo asap. this cannot get better, only worse.
So Up until recently I was a virgin. I took the plunge at the ripe old age of 29 and bought a hooker because why the fuck not right?
Anyway, I found a website that lists hookers with a profile and pics. It turns out getting fucking fit attractive hookers in my city is really easy, and for about $100 for 30 minutes they're not all that expensive. Problem is, I think I got hooked. This sex thing is kinda good (just FYI) and with hookers its so fucking easy.
I'm upset because Ive seen about 16 hookers in that last 3 months, I'm starting to make a habit of this shit and I still would quite like a girlfriend to be honest.
How do I stop?
Does the heightened chance of getting an STD and the money you're blowing do anything for you?
Well, that's a whopping 1600$ for something that's supposed to be free.
What do you think what it would take for you to stop? A gf won't solve this. I once got with a guy that had a think for hookers before us. At the beginning he was very good at hiding it. After a while the habit got the best of him. He started to masturbate to the task of almost ordering a hooker (choosing one, call her, write her). To this day i don't know if he ever truly followed true but it doesn't even matter. I was fucking disgusted and ended things after i found out.
>>16767450
>supposed to be free
LOL
unless you're a movie star it isn't actually free and "normal" women are always far more expensive than hookers
even if you are movie-star tier the women are only gambling that they can get more out of you because of it and are willing to not be paid upfront
going through rough patch with gf. She starts mentioning on how her other friends' boyfriends bought them jewelry and necklaces. Mentions about 'investing' in her more.
Our convo ends. Head back to my place. Shes excited about how she doesn't have her period yet and we can have sex. She comes over gets in a sexy outfit and takes off her underwear. Get into bed and she is withholding sex. Doesn't want to do anything.
Okay that's fine. Next day ask her whatsup why didn't we have sex. Is something wrong etc.
her response " I dunno"
2.5 year relationship. At what point do women withhold sex to get what they want?
I don't want to buy this girl stuff for sex. We just had an xmas where I bought her a new camera.
Any advice from women / men on women/gf withholding sex?
I don't have a problem not having sex. But she intentionally did it. I don't get why communication breaks down.
>>16766793
its even out of her character to do this. I think she was talking to a friend and she mentioned it.
I think withholding sex is some shady girl shit
>>16766793
Isn't valentines day coming up? I'd wait till then. And just buy her a $60 necklace or ring.
dump the shallow bitch
>be 19
>decent looking but not a stunner but i make up with it by having a pretty decent amount of charisma and high intelligence
>Started university in september
>Moved in with a bunch of great people and this one beautiful girl
>We hit it off but it becomes pretty apparent that she has a boyfriend who goes to the same uni
>She loves him
>sees him occasionally
>She's the good girl type - studies hard, hates cheating, never smoked etc
>has social anxiety and depression which really eats away at her
>over time she begins to confide in me
>when she has trouble sleeping I stay up all night until she falls asleep telling her stories of when i was a kid
>start catching feelings for this girl
>Have great times together as friends
>she even trusts me enough to smoke her first (and last) joint with me
>admits to me that she self harms
>convince her that every time she feels the urge she should talk to me
>get really good at calming her down and cheering her up
>months go by and we become ridiculously close
>I don't tell her my feelings but every time we're drunk we get very flirtatious
>one night drunk in my room after going to a club she asks me if i like her
>tell her i do but downplay it
>she tells me that for her its just platonic
>the next week is a bit awkward until one night she calls me because she needs me. she's become somewhat dependent on me when she's feeling depressed
>i admit to her that i don't just like her a little bit (but didn't say love)
>tell her the story of my first day at uni as well as other stories
>get a bit playful and match up the cute moles on her back telling her which constellations they look like
>stay in her room all night until she falls asleep
(TO BE CONTINUED)
Go on op chan
(CONT)
(sorry for late update but my shitty uni internet died.)
>Saturday comes round and her brother comes to visit for the day
>go to a club and have a fairly good night
>on the way to the club she asks me if i love her
>don't answer
>she keeps pestering me
>in the club we sit down and she asks again
>me"you don't get to ask me about something that affects me so much and affects you so little"
>see that my comment hurt her
>don't apologize
>come back fairly drunk and have some drinks on the balcony with flatmates and order pizza
>8/10 girl from the flat above us shouts down to tells us to climb up to her balcony balcony
>go upstairs with one other guy flatmate and the girl's brother
>have some more drinks and the night gets blurry
>next thing i know i'm kissing the 8/10 girl from upstairs
>feels really good but strange at the same time
>feel like i'm cheating even though i'm obviously not
>move from the kitchen to the hallway and eventually her bedroom - kissing her and bumping into things on the way
>she opens her door and leads me in
>i pause
>me: "this feels like a bad idea - i cant do this"
>turn around and leave
>go downstairs and see my flatmates eating pizza
>see girl i like and sit next to her
>whisper that we need to talk
(TO BE CONTINUED)
(CONT)
>she comes to my room
>i tell her that she's got me so fucked up
>can't think about other girls without feeling weird
>up all night thinking about her
>she asks me if i love her again
>me:"i love you, but i hate what you've turned me into"
>she says she's sorry for hurting me so much
>silence for a moment
>she leans in and kisses me
>it's quite innocent and no tongue
>she starts freaking out saying that she can't believe she just cheated and that she hates herself
>hold her close and manage to calm her down
>tell her i'm not good enough for her anyway and i just want her to be happy
>she cries into my arms for a bit and goes to bed
>initially worried about her self harming but remember that her brother was staying in her room and relax again
>don't really register what happens
>go to bed
(TO BE CONTINUED)
What is it called when you have a female friend in your life that has rebuffed your romantic advances, stays friends with you, but continues to be jealous and bitter when you show attention to or hang out with other girls?
All the meanwhile, she's been on dates and hooked up with guys, even before our little falling out, and I didn't even bat an eye.
I'm not interested her at all at this point. She blew up at me after I went on a date with a girl she didn't like, then heartfealtly apologized 6 months later, and I accepted.
I don't understand the psychology.
She wants you to continue to desire her.
She wants to have her cake and eat it too.
>>16766577
>>16766584
>>16766577
OP here.
Even after making up, she still acts very passive aggressively if I so much as have a picture of me hanging out with another girl on facebook or snapchat story.
If there was some kind of romantic relationship; I would get it. We never even hooked up or kissed or anything, so I don't get it.
Hi /adv/, my bf was in Amsterdam with his friends,
we had a little argument on one night, now he tells me because i acted cold and didn't show him any attention he opened up a tinder account.
Says he had a couple of matches, messaged girls but no one replied back.
Claims he did this cause he really needed an ego boost because i was cold towards him.
Is this normal? Should i believe him (that no one got back to him)?
Just don't even know how to feel, don't even used tinder before
>no one replied back
not normal, he's objectively ugly
Well, just mentally prepare yourself for this to happen every time you guys have an argument if you stay with him.
Dump the fucker, that's some teenager level of bullshit