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Finding and Apartment 2016-02-01 17:54:32 Post No.16756810
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First time I've been to /Adv/, I am unsure if this is the correct board to be posting on.
My boyfriend and I are moving out of my parents house with our daughter, cat, and dog.
We have 5300+ saved up right now.
Our price range has been 600-875 Depending on the area.
We have more than enough for first, last and deposit. Plus pet fees.
My boyfriend makes 30k+ a year, however I am a stay at home mom. We are in the process or him switching to night shift so that I can get a job however.
We have no rental history, and no credit. He does have a misdemeanor of driving without his license and insurance when he was younger. He is still paying it off.
We have to be out of here by the end of February to early March.
I need advice guys. How can we go about applying if I, myself have no source of income? Will apartments care as long as he can pay rent himself?
I have done all of the math and after everything is said and done (bills, food, baby, pets) we will still have a few hundred left over a month.
Should I lie on my application saying that I have a job? Will they call? I may be able to say I'm a nanny and give them a friends phone number. But would they require a bank statement?
Sorry I'm rambling, I really don't know how to put all of these questions into words. It's very overwhelming.
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I guess I shouldn't have asked 4chan. Since everyone who uses the site still lives with their parents as well.
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>>16757000
So do you. With your whole family, no less.
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>>16757002
Top kek
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So, there's this girl at my work that really likes me, but she told me that she has a boyfriend and that she thinks he doesn't really like her as much as he used to.
What should I do?
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nothing until she breaks up with him. otherwise she's just lonely and wants attention.
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Something to consider:
If she leaves him for you then she could do the same to you when you're together.
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>>16756804
Make out with her, tell her to dump him, fuck her.
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I need help, /adv/ involving my beau and I, and my Mother as the 3rd party.
I am 31 and living at home, I cannot find a job in my town, but by God every job I see for miles are stand up/physical jobs; I have a pinched nerve in my back that prohibits me from standing and walking for long periods.
He is 25 and lives in a group home.
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I respect my Mother, and I love her greatly. This is her house and while I hate it sometimes I have to abide by her rules. ... My beau and I are currently in a LDR, he lives in the next town.. My car died and he has no car to speak of; we use public transit on the weekends to get him over here - to my Mother's house - so that we can visit with one another.
All we have to see each other currently, is the home visits and a place we go for a few hours a day and hang out with other people - then go home; he says it is not enough and if that's all we have to go on then he doesn't see why it's going to work out with us.
He'll go on and on about how he doesn't want me to give up, but then he turns around and threatens to leave; all because of my Mother... <cont>
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I've been itching for couples therapy, esp when the fighting between us has been ongoing for a week and a half; there seems to be no end in sight. My Therapist agreed to help us... I have an appointment on Wednesday and everything was starting to come into fruition... He could stay for a couple days, but only if he came on Wednesday first and then got back home on his own.
Mom has not been feeling good for a week so I knew that she felt like shit, but he would stay with me about 98% of the time - but when I ran off to have a break from the family, she said that "All you two do is stay up in that room!" ... So, wtf? Recently she had said that she (thinks) she is ready for him to come back out.
We had plans today, Mom and I, to go out and enjoy our day.. He cannot get a way to get here on Wed and can only come today - suddenly my Mother isn't feeling well and has to lay down.
I want to be on my Mother's side, because I know that she is NOT feeling good, so I know she's not making this pain up... But at the same time, I'm calling BS because if she wasn't ready for him to come back out, she should not have said anything. Granted I did not intend for it to be so soon, but it's the only time that will work.
I was encouraged to stand up to my Mother, and not fold under pressure, and I have tried. But I know for a fact that one of her arguments will be "You can see each other @ The Center!" ... He says that's not good enough because it's only for a couple hours, three at most.
I know better than to beg to my Mother because I know that'll only piss her off and encourage her to say NO more firmly and stand her ground- so I am literally at a loss as to what to do.
Help?
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>ldr
Stopped reading right there. Get back to us when you are in a real relationship.
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your problems aren't relationship problems, they're monetary problems, which are causing relationship stress. focus on finding (or MAKING) work, get a car, get a better place to live, voila, the issues take care of themselves.
Navigate your family drama with care and consideration. I don't see anything that your mom is doing wrong (wondering why you're in your room with him? Feeling sick from a legitimate illness? are you fucking kidding me?). Your relationship with your family is just as important to maintain as it is with this dude.
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don't be a moron, they're only a town over.
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What's the point in fucking existing if you have to work all the time? What a miserable existence. Suicide sounds easier.
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Find a field where there are jobs you enjoy doing.
If all else fails, you can at least get a job where you make a lot of money. If you're going to hate your job either way you might as well make bank.
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It is.
I'd only recommend the helium + mask tactic if you dont have a gun.
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Basic needs involve a roof over your head and food in your stomach. Everything else is just a bonus. Maybe you think you are too good for this shit, but your attitude suggests the opposite.
I mean, what do you want out of life? How can you even want out of it without knowing the answer to that one? You certainly don't have to spend all of it working. I didn't work 'normally' for most of my teens and 20's and spent a pretty long period homeless.
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Losing a friend..or not? 2016-02-01 17:35:14 Post No.16756756
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Hi /adv/isors,
This post is both seeking for advise and probably a nice case study for you to comment on.
So my wife and I belongs to a certain group of friends whom we have been together with for more than 9 years. We were living as neighbors during university years thus we were really close and had little to no drama.
Long story short, one of the girls in the group, let's call her P, has recently married a guy whom I shall refer to as Tom, who is pretty much some random dude.
Historically, this P girl has always been close to one of the guy in our group called Dan. While she used to take a liking in him, he had specifically stated he was not into her and prefer to stay just friends.
P used to build a relationship with a guy called Mark in our group. They were really close but they broke up since Mark was allegedly cheating on her. To sum up, P thought that while Marc was wrong, she was also responsible as she was very strict on Marc on to the tiniest of details and was rather controlling.
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Continued.
Now P took a 180 degree noscope attitude in being in a relationship and she prefer to be more passive and holding back. Personally I also thought she talks too much and likes to boss people around but is generally an OK and positive person
She still had some love comebacks or extra closeness with this Dan guy but since Dan never really wants to go further, they remain friends.
Now here's where the stuff kicks in. A few months before his marriage with P, Tom lashed out at her about her closeness with Dan after discovering her texting Dan that she arrived after a flight. Subsequently, he banned P from seing Dan ever again.
Not wanting to lose our friend and ruining her marriage, we told Dan to lay low.
Fast forward to this month. I have just invited P to my baby shower (gonna have a baby girl soon) and to at the end of this month and told her to feel free to invite Tom. Never really liked the guy but they are one package now.
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Continued, last post.
Her reaction when I invited her was quite unnerving. After finding out that Dan will be present in the event, she quickly said no as he will be there and would like to avoid problems with Tom.
I asked her would it really become so problematic since there will be our whole group + a few other guests as well, meaning that Tom should not be too worried or else he can just come over.
She quickly rejected the invitation and saying the she'd rather meet my wife in a separate occasion. Although she did try to slightly persuade Tom, he only allowed her to go if it is girls only and specifically asking "don't tell me that guy is coming".
Whelp, this is me and my wife's event and now he's making it a bit complicated.
So, /adv/ what do you think of the whole stuff based on the context I have shared? What would you do if you were me/my wife, Dan, P, one of the group, or even Tom?
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OP again. I do apologize if the post ia too long but I thought giving some context wouls make things clearer.
Poor tl;dr attempt : have a group of friends, one of us is being banned by the husband to meet one of the guys in our group, thus making future catch ups difficult. Thoughts and opinions appreciated.
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So my girlfriend broke up with me a few days ago and we haven't talked since, she said she needed to concentrate on university.
I was wondering how long i should wait before i consider texting her and what should i say?
any advice would be great, thanks.
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Sounds like it's over.
Delete her number, block her on social media, and move on with life.
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>>16756748
>/adv/ pls help me be a beta or orbiter
No
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The solution is simple. Don't message her again. Seriously, that's weak as fuck and she'll lose respect for you subconsciously.
Even if you wanted another shot, your best chance is to just never initiate conversation with her again and show her how well you're doing. If she feels the vibe, she'll chase after you. If not, then you've lost or gained nothing since she broke up with you.
I've been looking for ages and found nothing on this.
Every time after cutting my hair, where it is a huge change or just a small trim, my hair feels totally different for a day or two. It seems to be smoother, easier to style, not shitty and dry, and a bit darker, too. It's as if cutting it released some natural oils onto my scalp.
Just 30 minutes ago I trimmed the sides with clippers and this shit is like night and day.
for the records I haven't used shampoo in a couple of years and I rinse daily with hot water.
has anybody noticed this? I've never seen anybody talk about it.
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>>16756744
Use shampoo. Better yet, since you'll ignore that advise based on whatever bullshit myth you were told, use conditioner at the least. Hair oil is great for dry hair, look it up, spray some in your hair every day.
Oh, and if you can, rinse with cold. Hot water is the worst for your scalp and hair.
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>>16756758
One last thing, if you do decide to listen and use shampoo, only use it every few days. That's what most people do wrong and give up shampoo for.
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>>16756744
>for the records I haven't used shampoo in a couple of years and I rinse daily with hot water.
Shampoo like 2 times a week
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Considering to move back with parents 2016-02-01 16:46:26 Post No.16756669
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Considering to move back with parents
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Im 20 and go to school in the city. The advantages of living in the city is that commuting to school takes less than 10 minutes from my apartment, I get to be with my friends, I'm close to my girl friend, and I'm close to the job market for my major.
If I lived home, I would have to take a train to school which would take an hour- hour and a half, but I would be saving money on rent, food, and laundry.
The other thing I considered was to move out of my apartment and find something cheaper. I pay $850 a month for a 4 bedroom apartment.
Any advice?
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>>16756669
How much are you making right now? You're supposed to be broke in college man. I personally think unless the money situation is totally fucking you, it wouldn't be worth it to move away. Do you really want to be an hour and a half away from your friends and girlfriend? Same with potential contacts for networking.
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>>16756706
It's mostly money that my parents saved away for college and also little programming gigs here and there.
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I usually end up having after rent and bills around $300 a month. $150 usually spent for time with my girlfriend or friends, the rest go towards food. Still not the most comfortable unless I do ramen diet :P
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>dating girl
>we do everything sexual but intercourse
>We both turn each other on a lot
>haven't done intercourse because she wants to wait and take it slow with me (even though we've both had past partners
What does this mean? And why does she want to do this?
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>>16756650
Shes waiting for the day her pussy doesnt smell.
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>>16756650
Because she doesn't want you to think she's easy or a slut. Because she really likes you and cares about your opinion of her.
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Maybe ask her
>May I insert my little weenie, m'lady?
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I can't stand another day here, but where do I go? If I just get in my car and drive how far will I get from this midwest US state? Is there somewhere I could go or some better option that just picking a random direction? I have 1k in the bank, a really shitty car that will breakdown, has no cooling/heat gauge.
Anyways I woke up this morning with 4 hours of sleep and felt like killing myself so I got on here to write this. I'm 22 and I've almost never gone outside since I was a kid. I've never lived life. I'm a kissless, fuck, hand-holdless virgin with no real friends here. I'm a coward and will probably talk myself out of doing this and it's eating me away inside and I know I won't last too long if I keep this up. Is there something I can do though? I want to live, I do, but I don't know how and what I'm doing can't really be considered living. :\ Only one that would miss me is probably my therapist. I don't know where to go. I did meet an asian guy in his 30s online who said I could visit him in cali, he's straight and I'm a guy. But he wanted to start a cult too, so that might not go well. Any serious advice appreciated anons, ty.
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>>16756625
Ok so let's say you start driving in 1 direction. Then what will you do?
How much money do you have on you for gas, food, etc.)?
What is your daily routine like that makes you so miserable?
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>>16756635
I mentioned 1k cash total. My daily routine is browsing the internet, imgur, reddit, reading, anything to distract myself with. I do the absolute minimum to take care of myself. I've been out of work for a few months since I hurt my shoulder. I've always felt this way though, not new.
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>>16756646
Ok, $1,000 is good for a nice road trip I guess. Your routine does sound like it would be depressing and since you've felt like that even before being unemployed it makes it sound like you're pretty hopeless.
Are you not able to find an office job or something that doesn't require a shoulder?
When is the right time to move in with your girlfriend?
Just for context I am 22 and in my last semester of college. I'm pretty confident I'll get a job. She is 22 and works full time making $43k a year. We have been dating for 5 months so I know that it shouldn't be any time soon. I'm thinking maybe when we hit a 2 year mark.
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>>16756602
>at least two years
Finally someone with their head on right. Don't let yourself get pressured into something as you graduate. Moving in is tantamount to saying "I expect to marry you at some point" and logistically is just as much of a clusterfuck if it doesn't work.
Keep on keeping on. play it by ear.
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>I'm pretty confident I'll get a job
Get a job first in your area. Work there for ~1 year and then start looking for work closer to her area, especially if she already lives more than 30 minutes away from you.
Hope your parents are ok with you moving back in with them.
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>>16756640
Why the last sentence?
hey /adv/
i recently got plastered at a party and told all of my friends (some are not dudes) that i was a racist and thought women should be locked in cages for fertilization. i guess in my drunk mind i thought it was funny? Now none of my friends will talk to me. Is it hopeless to try and apologize or should i try and say im sorry? We were all really close but now i see pictures of them going out without me and stuff. Not sure what to do next. I also remember talking shit about feminism and making 'age of consent' jokes. Just a big drunk psycotic mess all over
thanks all
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hit your head with a hammer repeatedly
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Get muslim friends they sort of have the same ideas
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>>16756596
Fucking hell bro. What were you on, and how do I get some?
Seriously though. Hard to know without knowing more about your situation.
If you've got a good rep with them then playing it off as some hideous drunken haze, esp. If you've been known to partake in drugs.
If you already have a rep as the wierd friend, you're probably pretty fucked, but it's worth trying
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Growing up I went through a lot of shit experiences that left my subconscious drilled with twisted views on men and myself.
This is the simple short version.
As I am now reaching my 20's, I've made it a point since I was about 13 to rationalize all of this the best I can at all times. This is to say I do not consciously demonize men, but there are periods of time where I cannot help but have disdain for them, but also feel shitty about myself for being a woman.
I've come to see that within my subconscious lies the idea that I will never be good enough; I have idealized being a man in both the biological and social sense, and in addition to that have grown to hate simply being my gender.
E.g: I'm in public and surrounded by men. I will feel like I am being watched as a mere sex-object, I will see the men walk around in a cocky manner with their naturally strong torsos and respect-imposing voices and both hate but envy them for all those points mentioned. At the same time, I will look at myself, how weak and small I am; how I am the exact opposite, and I will hate myself for it.
Sometimes I'll be doing my workout and feel like quitting because what's the point? I'll never be stronger than even the weakest of men. I'll feel pathetic and lose my enjoyment for what I am doing. "My body wasn't made for achievements" is what intrudes my mind often, and I will feel like shit.
Now, I know better than to allow myself to be easily swept by these sudden emotions, but sometimes it happens, in a very slap-in-the-face kind of way. I don't go around treating boys badly and blaming the patriarchy. I don't go around complaining that if men hadn't kept women from taking part in science and other male-dominated field years and years ago, that I'd have a better life with perhaps more female role-models.
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The problem lies exactly in the fact that these are all notions that live in my subconscious. I don't have to make sense of them because I can't. They're irrational, simply there. I'll try to make sense of it, I know what's made me feel like this, but it still won't go away.
I'm afraid I'm irreversibly damaged, but I can't keep on living like this. It' s too painful; I am left with both a void sense of self and purpose in life.
Anyone gone through something similar? How do you erase all this shit? What's the cure?
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>>16756604
Sweeeeeeeeeeeeetieee :)
You're not a mere sex object, you're also here to be adored cherished and protected. Guys don't just want to fuck girls, we also love them for their beauty.
If you want respect and achievements, you can still get that. Female athletes are worse than male athletes, but they can still be strong and get respect for that. And you can get respect by getting good at a lot of other things (e.g. in some career or in academia or whatever) where there's nothing stopping you from being as good as the best. Women tend to be underrepresented in this simply because they're not as interested, not because they're not capable.
And also you can get a lot of respect and attention by working on being pretty, popular and dominant.
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>>16756890
thanks anon, I appreciate your words, but like I said, this is something deeply ingrained in me. Yeah, now I can look at what you wrote and without a pint of doubt agree whole-heartedly.
But I know that it is only a matter of time until this weird insecurity and mix of anger, disdain and regret come up again and ruin me whole for a period of time. It always does.
There's something bad rooted deep in mind. I need to get it out completely. Reason only softens the symptoms for a while.
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I'm male, 23 years old.
I've been going though a bad patch (since last year, all because a breakup) but recently i've been getting better, been feeling more and more confident with myself, feeling more sexy and all... and also i've feeling a lot hornier lately. I mean, I've always had a really high libido, always been really sexual, but lately i've been feeling really horny (the other night I masturbated twice in less than two hours, and without porn, i don't watch porn frequently)
is this normal, to be this horny? i feel kinda weird, with this urge to masturbate a lot, like i'm some sort of sex addict... is it bad?
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YOU HAVE NO EYE FOR FASHION
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>is this normal, to be this horny?
Yes.
>is it bad?
No.
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I need some advice guys. Long post inc.
I am a tall, decent looking guy. I am funny, charming and not autistic. I get a fair amount of attention from girls. I have literally everything I need to be drowning in Pussy.
However, I don't. I rarely get laid and only had one gf so far (I'm 22). Why? I cant make use of the things I listed above, as I have literally no concept or clue how to transition from harmless flirty banter to clearly showing that I am interested.
I always keep it easy and superficial, I never make a move, never take a risk or do something bold when talking to girls. I have no problem talking to girls per se, even hot ones, make funny and dirty remarks, getting their number, going out with them. That is all within my "comfort zone". But as soon as shit gets serious I always get scared and back out.
For example last month I met a qt in Uni. She approached me, we talked, I asked her out the next week, we went to a bar. We had 2 dates and I told myself I would kiss her after the third. Of course I didnt. We had THREE more dates and everytime I told myself to fucking make a move but I never did. I felt her interest fade away, so I stopped texting her and now we are more ore less friends. Thats it.
Its like this every fcking time. The only times I got laid in the past was when the girl made the move.
I realise where all this comes from: I was bullied to the verge of suicide when I was a kid and my father kept telling me what a failure I am.
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Thats long ago and I got my shit together, but subconsciously this mindset still sticks. Everytime I try to make a move some irrational fear and stupid thoughs come to my mind and it goes blank. I tell myself that she isn't interested, that I must have misinterpreted her signs, that she's just pretending to like me only to humiliate me. I feel like the ugly beta that approaches the captain of the cheerleading team in these moments
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>>16756443
>I am afraid of rejection
Look anon, we've all been there, shit, some people still are there.
The only way to fix this is to get rejected.
Im serious. You need to take a leap of faith with this one.
Rejection hurts, I know. I have been rejected a few times.
But rejection isnt anything other than a sign that another human being is not showing love for you.
You tell us that youve been dating girls but never making a move. Your reasoning is that they might not like you the same way.
If you just asked, wouldn't you get all the answers?
Thats it. Thats the only real way to fix this.
Get rejected (you probably wont if you luckily pick the girl of your dreams next) but either way, getting rejected is the only way out of this shithole of a mindset.
Happy hunting anon!
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(3/3) I messed up:
and pictures like the video of the autistic kid that dances for the blonde girl come to my mind. I do realise that this is irrational and stupid, but I don't know how to let this realisation change the scared teenager mindset I still have.
I still subconsciously feel like a loser, that I am excluded from sex and social life, that sex is something noone would ever want to do with me. I still havent realised that sex is somethign casual and normal and nothing special, just some activity two people do together and that I am not excluded from that activity.
How do I change and become less uptight and autistic? Don't tell me to go see a psychiatrist. I made it out of the deepest abyss of anxiety without one and I won't visit one now.