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Here's some replies I got on /b/
Was undecided for a while... Was wondering what she wanted from me but I think I got it right now !

You sound like some beta retard. Move on faggot she's just messing with you because it makes her feel important.
I'm probably the only person who actually bothered to read your shit story

Women are such whorish children.
I have been single for 25 years. Some guys here even more. I would rather wait for a good girl than settle for a slut.

Get some fucking priorities.

>She says without posting a picture or location
Sucks to be you then. If only you had a vagina, you might have had a chance at finding another guy.

>>17164000
They aren't interested for a reason. You dont convey a feeling of stability and cant offer them happiness because you cant like yourself.

You should work on being a better person and gaining self confidence. The first step to that is severing ties to this guy who makes you feel bad.

>>17163983
>having trust issues and don't trust anybody
>having a gf

when will you kys?

>>17164400
soon.

Write a list of your insecurities/ things you don't trust your girlfriend about. It doesn't matter how irrational they are, make a list with every single one on there and add more as needed.

Now go through it and come up with logical reasons as to why those things are not true/realistic and can't or won't come to pass. If you can't think of reasons for it on your own talk to your girlfriend about your project/insecurities in non-accusatory ways, make it clear these are your own hang ups that you're trying to get through and that you want her help in reassuring you. Write down anything she says that resonates with you on that list.

If something is founded in reality address it accordingly but take the above steps regardless to prevent your mind from making it a bigger issue than it is.

>>17163958
Have you tried articulating any of this at all to your fiance? It could be as simple as getting him to chastise them.

Sometimes families aren't supportive of a relationship, and when that happens sometimes you have to break off connection with them for a while.

My mother cut off all contact with her family after they refused to show at her wedding (because she married a jew). It took them a while but her sisters came around pretty quickly once they were out of their mother's house and her father convinced her mother to get over it so he could see his grandkids

>>17163961
He tells me "what am I supposed to do? They're not going to stop if I tell them to, it's how they are."
I find it so odd that's he's related to them, they're nothing alike (he was always a nerdy shut in growing up.)
He also says that's their way of joking around, but i know it's not just joking.

>He also says that's their way of joking around, but i know it's not just joking.
It probably is though. His family sounds very similar to mine. Very tight-knit and slow to welcome newcomers. Fortunately, hubby could take it (and dish it back). It took awhile, but they eventually came to like him.

If I deciphered your message correctly, then no, it makes you a massive hypocrite. Don't impose standards on others that you don't hold yourself to.

>>17163954
but im not here, you're saying standards are objectively universal? im suppose to be my own girlfriend? sounds like a mental illness.. if i was my girlfriend id expect this, so how is it hypocritical?

>>17163957
It is hypocritical because you have expectations of her that you don't meet yourself. No, it is not universal, but asking something of a partner that you don't want to do yourself is not fair. You CAN ask it. Maybe she has no issue with not having male friends and it works for the two of you. But expecting it or not taking no for an answer is not fair.

Realise everyone is excited, nervous, busy and doesn't give too much of a shit about what you say. You'll do great and probably won't remember the night well as will no one else.

>>17163913
Dude, congratulations! That is pretty awesome to tell a speech in front of that many people! What is your speech about?

Picture everyone naked. Especially your parents.

>>17163875
Bump

looks like it might be psoriasis
go to the derma if you can
if not, lush makes really good shampoo that could help you. it's pricy but it lasts awhile, and it smells kind of weird, like a campfire, but it's worth it imo
here: http://www.lushusa.com/Soak-and-Float/00101,en_US,pd.html

also rinsing your head with some diluted apple cider vinegar MIGHT help

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Use Nizoral with Ketoconazole shampoo

http://www.amazon.com/Nizoral-Ketoconazole-Anti-Dandruff-Shampoo-4-125/dp/B00SWRY0BI/

>>17163855
Why do they need to be convinced? Are they forcing you to be interned in a hospital or something?

>>17163857
No, getting gaslighted about it just makes me lose my mind.

Your family is disgusting and you are normal, they should be ashamed of being fat cunts.

do you smoke?
and do you have an oily skin/skin that sweats easily in general?

>>17163852
I don't smoke and yes my skin is oily at some parts. I also sweat easily although I'm thin

ive been there, tried all the advice and 100% of it is bullshit. seriously, save your time and money and go to a doctor right aw-
>Except using antibiotics by the way
never mind, keep trying your placebo methods for another two months.

>>17163829
Think of something that rings well with two or three syllables and add college.

ex: Harvard College, Dartmouth College, Boston College...

How about Threadwork College?

>>17163829
Something meaningless but impressive sounding

Academy University
College of Life Studies
East Southwestern A & M

Frankenstein University?

>>17163814
Why don't you like the idea of kissing other actors/actresses?

>>17163817
Cus I like the sensual/sexual parts of our relationship to be strictly between us only

She's an actress dude, fucking lighten up

Go out and find a friend group that want to do what you want to do, I have many friend circles for alot of different shit man, expand your horizon

>>17163767
bump

>>17163781
how though? the only place i can really make friends is uni and i made friends with all the guys in my class. plus most people in general where i live generally dont do anything but play games or go clubbing.

Bump, I could use some help

Try and identify the things you hate about yourself and take steps to improve those issues. It isn't going to be an overnight thing, you need to change the way you see yourself.

We all have flaws and there are times when it feels like everything about you in negative. It's about self-improvement, committing yourself to this and slowly raising your opinion of yourself.

You're not a bad person, anon. Cut yourself some slack. Good luck.

>>17163798
This is what I 'm trying to do.
I realized that I' m someone afraid of conflict and very often hide his feelings. I tried to pass that by confessing to a friend that I loved for months (no success but at least I took a step)

I'm not very comfortable with my body so I decided to start working out at home and I try to eat more, and I 'm planning on going to the swimming pool each time a week.

I also have some kind of hate inside me, I can be hateful but I don't show it. I' m cynical and quite pessimistic, I don't know what to do about it.

But I feel like there are bigger issues with me, I can' t point them out tho

It really depends on her vagina, there's not much you can do. I had women that came almost instantly, giving them multiple orgasms in one night by just wriggling my finger. And I've had women I had to keep messing with for almost an hour before they came.

I think it's more related to your girlfriends sensitivity than your ability. Women's vaginas vary a LOT. Some can't even orgasm in their entire life.

>>17163747
Why don't you try to please her like she wants rather than acting all insecure and offended like you're doing? You aren't going to give her what she wants by bitching. This is why I bought myself a clit vibrator and why she should too, if you want something done you gotta do it yourself.

>>17163747
Your insecurity is a huge turn-off and if I were your gf I would dump you. It's fine if you don't know how to please me right away but bitching is unacceptable. Shut up and keep trying and correcting your actions until you get it right without being an insecure whiny little bitch, a man complaining about his insecurity instead of being confident like he should be is fucking disgusting.

>>17163743
Yes it is
You don't need theoretical courses to learn programming, just a lot of practice
Also, actual programming is very different from CSS and HTML

Start by learning Java or C#, they are common languages that can help you grasp the thought process of programming

It's possible if you have the discipline to dedicate time for learning. You have to figure out what you specifically want out of programming and develope a plan to reach your goal. You can learn everything they teach you in classes or college course online through youtube but books are also really beneficial as well. It's going to take lots of persistence, practice, and constant exposure to learning material if you want to be consistent and competent in programming. But if you're the type to lose motivation quickly when learning new things then it's not worth entertaining.

>>17163743
Don't know what language you plan on learning, but this is a good place to start https://www.codecademy.com