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>>17252042
It's too late. You already got her number and made this post. You're relationship is doomed and the one with the new girl will also be doomed as soon as another pretty female bats her eye at you. If only guys weren't such slaves to their dicks and had some control, there'd be a lot less heart ache out there

>>17252113
bitch pls

>>17252042
Break up and be a man
If you aren't attracted to your gf more than this bitch you should break up.
Don't let her suffer by cheating on her, its the worst thing you could do.

don't do the crime if you can't pay the time

If you are a suspect and have a warrant against you the police in all states will help each other to catch you. Find a good Lawyer and he'd tell you what to do but expect turning yourself in and getting a plea deal.

>>17252022
>First of all, do states extradite to other states?
Ok, I'll take the bait.

Firstly, states are autonomous regions, not seperate countries. If you could evadw the consequences of your actions by simply crossing state lines there would be a few years of absolute anarchy as people raped, pillaged and murdered their way across the US, until you ended up with all three hundred and twenty million people living in Alaska and being really well behaved as they had no where left to run to.

Secondly, a wanted felon residing in the state in which the felony was commited is soley under the jurisdiction of that state's law enforcement. However, crossing state lines leaves him subject not only to the law enforcement in the new state, but also the FBI.

>>17252015
>Is my life worth living?

we can't tell, we're not you.

do you want to continue playing?

>>17252015
I've been there bro.

Seriously, 2015 was the hardest and worst year of my life for almost the exact same reasons.

I had moved to a new city all by myself and expected friends to just pop out of thin air. I had a job that forced me to either travel 5 days a week or work from home, and I hated it.

I left that job, Got a roommate to help with rent, and got a different job at a bar working with people my age.

My life in the past 8 months has gone from depression, and feeling worthless, to thinking I might actually have a really good shot. I have friends now, I have the ability to call people up and ask them for help, and there's even a couple girls on the table right now.

Get a job OP. Start there. Your grades don't matter, just find something, anywhere. That's your zero point on your way to independence and being able to start making adult friends with similar interests.

>>17252024
Most of the time I'm don't know, this game's learning curve sucks.

I really need help I'm desperate

Anybody? I need advice I came here from /b/

I know it sounds like a big joke but I seriously am bleeding

Self-deprecate yourself, what you've already taken the piss out of they can't take the piss out of. Also offense is the best defense,if they say something you didn't like start taking the piss out of them. Requires a modicum of intellect and not giving a shit though.

You should never need to throw the first punch, if you do it right since you'll wreck their confidence by hitting their weak spots in a way that doesn't allow them to respond without seeming like a cunt

>if someone insults me i get defensive and angry

why wouldnt you? to not care if someone striaght up insults you is being a pushover pussy bitch.

the thing is you can't try to 'justify' yourself. if someone insults you, insult them back, with a smile on your face. dont show that it hurt, just show that its annoying.

>talk to girl
>make a mistake

stop thinking of girls as video games. cuz thats what you are doing. you are acting like there is a fatality you have to perform to win, like a certain number of correct buttons will lead to a special cutscene or cheat code.

there isn't. you could be the most amazing alpha wonderful person in the world, say all the 'right things' and a girl will still be like 'nah not my type' simply cuz chemistry, or shes no nher period, or shes hungry, or shes already interested in someone else.

just cuz a girl doesnt want to get with you doesnt mean you did something wrong. it just means she wasnt interested.

think of it this way
>my mom cooks lasagna
>its considered the greatest lasagna on the island
>people pay her to make it for their birthdays
>me personally i love all her cooking except her lasagna
>have literally never had any kidn of lasagna, premade or otherwise that i liked.
>makes me gag every time
>yet she takes personal offense, as if she did something wrong despite everyone else liking her lasagna

its not her fault. she did nothing wrong. i simply dont like lasagna.

you are lasagna op. it doesnt matter if a girl doesnt like your lasagna. you go be the best lasagna you can be.

worst case scenario a girl isnt interested and your life is no different than it was an hour ago.

>>17251956
>>17252030

now, back to people insulting you. how often does this happen?

here is the thing, if its something that cant be helped, they are an asshole. say something mean about them, then just move on. not worth your time.

if you feel they are correct, still insiult them back, but go home and write it down. is it something you can fix? a girl once said i have a bit of a 'beer belly'. i was only 100 pounds, but yeah i was skinny fat. so now i go to the gym and am working to improve.

decide whats okay and not okay.

how long have you been going out?

>>17251998
Not very long, around a week, its just ive liked this girl for a really long time and it is disheartening for it to be this awkward when we talk

I have a similar problem anyone out there?

Why do you want her to change her last name to yours so badly?

I'm a female and I will never change my last name when I get married.

oxnard is a pretty shit surname, OP. If i were her I wouldn't change my last name to yours either.

>>17251907

Because having the same name is part of being a family.

I've been getting more and more put off by marriage with each passing day though, and now I'm thinking if she won't even give me this, what is the point?

>>17251915
It's uncommon but not horrendous, I've never been mocked for it.

>>17251865
I don't think you're accustomed to the taste and/or scent
It's a little different, I agree, but a major turn-on

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>>17251875
You might be on to something, I do t mind the taste, but the smell isn't the best so maybe that's why. The first time I did it I could have got the flu or something I was feeling so bad, now I'm just feeling hubgry, but with no appetite

>>17251883
Tell her to shower before getting it on (or shower together)
See if that helps
Maybe you just went down at a bad time

I had the same issue and going to a prostitute didn't help

what helped was finding a gf and building confidence through experience

>>17251859
Get a girlfriend. If she is a good person then she should be understanding. Girls have hit me up all throughout my entire life, but I didn't lose my virginity until I was 22 because I was afraid of doing it.

The first time I did anything sexual, I was so nervous that I was shaking. After having sex a few times, I was told that I was the best that she has ever had.

Do you have any deeply rooted concerns or insecurities about yourself that keep you from doing it?

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Same boat, fucking sucks bro.
I feel really confident and all then I start thinking "what if?" and pussy out then we end up cuddling or something.

I've come to the point where I don't even care about sex anymore, it's nothing I wish for, I've had so many opportunities and I've blown all of them.
I just want a gf to do stuff and spend time together with but once I fuck up the sex they think that I'm not interested and just moves on.

I feel like it won't last unless she is willing to do something. I've had gfs that say they don't want anal but might be OK with swallowing or feet stuff or submissive things. She has to have some kind of kink but maybe doesn't know it.

You should try talking to her about the way you feel. Crazy, I know.

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In the same boat as you OP. Explain what you want and see if she'll open up to some things. However anal is a do or don't thing on some girls, if she doesn't like a finger she will probably never ever enjoy it.

>>17251734
She was absolutely devastated. She told me she had messaged him a lot begging him in hopes to work something out but he refused every single time. I did what I could to make life easier on her, but she'd always eventually space off just trying to cope with the breakup. Deep down though I felt a little happy that they had broken up and I felt bad for feeling that way. Isn't it a little wrong to be happy that her best friend of whom you feel strongly for is now a complete emotional wreck because her boyfriend broke up with her instead of being there for her as support?

Eventually though I caved in. After a month I told myself I don't get another chance like this fucking ever so I went and told her how I felt about her. I had doubts in my mind that she'd ever have the same feelings I do so I wasn't exactly confessing hoping she'd date me, but rather I confessed so that she would reject me and I could move on with my life. Things got a little awkward for a while, especially since we were roommates but strangely enough she didn't tell me anything anywhere close to that of a rejection. She said she didn't have an answer and would tell me later. For a while I thought she was just trying to find a nice way of saying that she didn't like me that way and would just like to stay friend, so I was always just trying to tell her that I'm fine if she didn't like me. But she just told me to wait for her to come up with an answer.

>>17251736
Eventually, after a long while she told me something I couldn't really believe. She told me she liked me back. But she also has lingering feelings for her ex-boyfriend and didn't want to hurt my feelings because of that. Even more, her ex boyfriend wants to get back together again, saying that he regretted breaking up with her. The cherry on top is that her ex boyfriend wanted to get back together BECAUSE I confessed. She told me that after I confessed, she told her ex-boyfriend about it (just to let him know and stuff), and then right after that he said he regretted breaking up and wanted to get back together.

He still wants her to move in with him, naturally. But the same problem remains, which is moving out. She has a job here, and she has friends, and she has me. Moving out would mean leaving all that behind her and starting a brand new life. She said that her family used to move a lot and she didn't quite like the experience of always having to start a new life somewhere else and leaving friends behind, so the thought of moving in with her boyfriend always brought in hesitation.

She also had worries of whether her relationship with her boyfriend would work out after a while. She didn't have this worry before, but after the breakup she just didn't want to have her heart played with again. She was worried if she would still make him happy and stuff like that. So for about two months she's been thinking literally every day about whether to move out or stay here. I didn't try to do anything that would sway her decision, since I didn't think that would be right of me to do so, and always supported her decision to move out instead, and constantly telling her I'd be fine with that if that's what would make her happy.

>>17251750
She's had a hard time deciding because she didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings, even though I constantly tell her I'd be okay she still wasn't sure on what to do. She's basically deciding a large part of her life, at least that's what she told me anyways. Deep down I wanted her to stay, but with how she was and everything, putting my wants before the person I loved would be selfish. Every time I told her I'd support her if she moved out I felt like I was taking a gun and shooting myself in the foot, but I felt like it was the right thing to do. She's done a lot for me, a fucking lot. So I really wouldn't have minded if she moved out.

After the longest time she finally decided to come up with her answer. She felt like it would go on forever if she didn't decide, because she always kept going back and forth on whether to move or stay. So she finally decided to ultimately stay. She likes living here and she felt like she was actually making something for her life here. She also said I make her happy and to leave all this behind just for an uncertain future isn't worth it. But she was also devastated because this would mean hurting her ex-boyfriend's feelings. Even though she made a decision she's still emotionally wounded and I feel bad personally that she decided to stay, because I myself is unsure if I'd be able to make her happy all the time, what with all the personal problems I have and the fact she has to help me through it all the time.

She's always asking if she was a bad person for choosing something that she wanted. and she's always asking if she made the right choice, if staying here was the wrong choice. I keep telling her there was no right nor wrong choice but personally I don't even fucking know myself. It feels weird for my best friend to decide to stay here with me instead of moving out to stay with the guy she's literally been with for the longest time (albeit long distance).

someone must have some ideas?

can anyone else even see this?

>>17252242
>2242▶
>can anyone else even see this?

yeh

Are you buying this as a vacation property or a primary residence?

primary residence. I was planning on moving to the beach within five years but now just seems like a perfect fucking time.

>>17251739
Get a job there first if you can. It'll help to have it lined up for you, otherwise you'll end up burning through your inheritance much faster than you'd like. Half a million is not a lot of money.

Is this 5cm per second pic?
You should appreciate how unique you are and that you can learn about different experiences from different people and share yours.
Be interested in external world m8

>>17251651
You start by realizing that you're not special. Sure, your experience is yours alone. That doesn't mean that you can't share in that with others and make connections.

>>17251662
Dunno, just a random pic I had in my folder

>Be interested in external world m8
Well that's the thing, I'm not. Maybe I'm just selfish but I don't care about other people's experiences, they can be interesting to listen to but they feel alien to me, I can't relate to them.

Also I'm not unique, just a random normie. But no matter how similar another person's experiences may be to my own, if they are not the exact same (as in, we experienced them together) I don't care for that person.

I have this strong desire to find my childhood acquaintances again, but I don't care at all for forging new connections with new people.

>>17251665
I know. But for some reason I still have no motivation to connect with anyone except people from my memories. I could feign interest but that feels shallow.

>>17251626
>Do guys avoid girls with issues? That "don't stick your dick in crazy rule".

I didn't use to but after coming to /adv/ for the last 3 years it's a way of life now.

>>17251626
You didn't explain who "them" was.

But yes, people with any kind of standards tend to avoid crazy dysfunctional people in general. How is this not common sense to you?

Also of course you have the chance to get back on the rails and be a person, unless you're seriously fucked in the head beyond repair/retarded, you can work it out.

>>17251648
Okay, thanks anon
And how long will it take for people to treat me as sane?
My new acquaintances think i'm normal, not an angry autist.