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>>17304959
>I'm really starting to find myself unhappy in the relationship and I don't think I want to be with her forever.

Why?

>>17304959
So break up. I wish people would just take control of their life and stop wasting time being unhappy for something that may happen.

>>17304963
She's really controlling and is negative. She is always judging and critiquing people, be it on the street or social media. I'm more open minded and don't really care how people look or what they do but she always has a negative comment.

>>17304957
Did it ever occur to you she doesn't want to talk to you? Doesn't matter if don't understand why. All that matters is that she's not interested. If she was, she'd reply. End of story.

She's sick of your shit, man.

The world doesn't revolve around you.

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Stimulants.
Benzos.
Preferably MDMA, I'd go with that.

Psychedelics like Shrooms and LSD for a Metal concert? Probably a no go, but I heard the music can intensify the high.

>>17304953
aspirin for the headache

Note: don't want to hurt her feelings and I like her truly

Hellppppppp

Tell her she's sexy and make her feel sexy and desired. Compliment her genuinely and tell her how horny she makes you feel. One thing people keep forgetting is that sex doesn't start in bed. To have good sex you need sexual actraction and that is fucking complex. And don't be scared to get a bit of exposure. My current bf gives me the best sex I ever had and I think it's because I never felt so attracted to anyone before and I guess what makes him so actractive is how confident he is in his own body. He use to send me pictures of himself and his body out of the blue and it always makes me horny. He also compliments me all the time and give atention to every little detail when we are making love and makes me feel sexy and confortable in my skin.

>>17304909
it just sounds like tough love to be honest, at the very least i would say borderline personality, bipolar is extreme happiness to extreme saddness so no

>>17304909
He just sounds like an asshole in general, I'm sorry about your situation. The only thing I could think is moving out to live with a but that sounds difficult with your situation, and it doesn't sound like your mother is open to kicking him out.

Mentality wise I'd try to just keep in mind that you're better than he is because you don't need to be a prick to people to feel better about yourself. I know that's difficult especially in the moment but you have to remember that.

Hope things get better for you anon, know what it's like to have someone like that in your home.

>>17304920
>tough love
>"you're the reason for our divorce"

what the fuck.

OP on that note are he and your mother divorced or something?

>>17304964
No. He said that one time during one of his tantrums and got into an argument with my mom when she caught him berating me for forgetting to empty the dishwasher. She says we should give him a chance to change since a "Good, Christian family should stay together", but he has made no effort other than get some medication. No anger management, No psychiatrist, nothing. Right now it's nothing but a cycle of anger episodes over trivial crap, him thinking everyone is working against him, an occasional half-hearted apology, rinse, repeat. He makes sure he does most of the yard work and building/fixing things when needed just to make himself feel superior to the rest of my family. He seems like a pretty cool and happy guy, until you make a mistake or he suspects you may be lying to him about something. He does some mental gymnastics to make sure he's right and you're a dirty liar who's worse than a murdering, rapist, pedophile.

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>>17304867
>have long distance bf
>no friends
>no idea if/when I'll ever see bf again

H-heh at least I have a bf, r-right?

Sorry op, can't be of much help.

>>17304867
Yes, but it requires you going out.

>>17304867
Like no social media? My boyfriend and I have no social media.

Ok Holden.

What is it that disappoints you anon?

>>17304828
How about you just realize the whole has always been like this for thousands of years and the shit you've been taught growing up were fairly tales. Grow up, and get involved or accept it.

>can't legally work
go back to whatever country you came from and work legally

alternatively go stand outside a home depot with the other illegals until someone offers you day labor

>>17304832
i'm legal in the country, just not allowed to work dickhead.

>>17304833
How about more info asshole.

>>17304818
>But fuck me, I don't remember any electromagnetics so what does it even matter.

>>17304820

Not to hurt anyone's feelings but I would like feedback from other people in skilled jobs. I realize we have a bunch of teenagers in /adv/. I don't really want pie in the sky, steeve jobs quotes, etc.

>>17304818
I can only guess as to what kind of advice you want since you didn't really ask a question but if you are looking for a different job then 5 years is a long, long time to be out of a profession. That gap is going to be hard to explain when interviewing. Best answer I have is to brush up on your books and then lie, lie, lie about your skills.

If you are worried about losing that knowledge over time then you need to constantly refresh it. In your case you may be limited to online forums and practice tests. It's like me and Spanish. I've learned that like 4 times in my life but I can never retain it because I don't speak it with anyone.

You sound like you are clever enough to always have some sort of job that pays the bills but that won't guarantee that you get the job you want. Keep trying. Hope it works out.

I don't know if he would try to rob my car from me or pull off a store robbery and then jump in my car and take it so my license plate would be seen by police but not theirs?

>>17304812
If it seems like a scam, prolly is. Probably it was a test to see if you'll fall for something outragous that you'll continue to do other stupid outlandish things. Good job. I got scammed once by people selling speakers from their truck for $500. Started out as "free"

If he could so easily give $5 to $10 bucks how come they couldn't take a taxi or uber service? Also, they were at the mall so there are movie places there too.

Stay anon, keep trying, I've been where you are and thank god I didn't end my life because I'm happy as puppy now and everything is beautiful for me

>>17304804
You're worth it anon. Life has ups and downs but if you end it that's it, so stick it out and find something good to focus on. Travel. Even if it's just down the street, get moving a little and relax. Exercise seriously helps sometimes. Your parents might be in denial but if you need help there are places and people you can call. Therapy is a crap shoot and so are drugs but don't stop trying.

>>17304817
What made it change for you

>>17304826
I've started to lift and I've taken up hobbies like piano and sports but nothing's changed

Women are (most of the time) temporary
Diplomas on the other hand ...

It's your choice, but I know a lot of my friends made poor decisions because they wanted to be with their gf. In the end they usually lost their gf and have nothing left. It's a sad thing to witness.

By the way 2 years is not much and for me it's not enough to justify having a shitty job for the rest of your life.


PS : Why can't you just do both ? Study a few years, learn her language in the meantime, then move there with a diploma ?

>>17305763
Thank you very much for your response. Unfortunately doing both is impossible as she understandably wants to be together already and told me she can't wait for 2 years more like this.

I've read enough threads to know that your answer will be probably correct in most of the cases, yet it's so painful to do it when you're the one being pointed out, lose her & everything we've built so far and have that void inside for god knows how much time, and wondering how could have went in this particular case, had I decided to move with her.

On the other side, I don't want to end up later in life jobless as many middle aged people I've seen and with even worse odds of getting back in the right track. I'm depressed enough with my situation as it is now and I don't want to be a burden for anyone.

Right now I'm leaning towards getting the education, as that's the more reasonable thing to do in my case as you pointed out, but man the feelings are killing me.

>>17305826

>doing both is impossible as she understandably wants to be together already
This alone is not a good sign.


Sure it's hard, but 2 years is not much. It'll be hard the first few weeks / months but try to find a hobby of some king in the meantime, reading, learning an instrument, going out more often (to find someone else maybe, idk).

Breaking a relationship is awful but as you seems to understand, some things are more important for your future.
A diploma is a 100% real thing that will follow you wherever you go, relationships are volatile.

do you have any skills and money? Do you have friends in any cities?

>>17304794
Join the army lol. Jeeze.

Berlin

Set your phone or watch to 5 minute intervals. When it goes off, assess your situation: what am I doing? Am I doing what I need to do? What should I be doing? Reorient and go back to your task. When you find you can go the whole 5 minutes doing your task, bump it up to 10 minute, then 20 minute, then 30 minute, up to an hour (you honestly don't need to focus longer than that). The purpose is to make you more mindful of your surroundings and situation instead of racing off like an untrained puppy.

>>17304784
Thanks, that's really good advice. I've tried to break tasks into 20 min of working and 5 min of resting but somehow I always end up taking 2 hours long breaks, it's really hard to control myself

>>17304772
Everyone has ADD, it's a manufactured illness created by drug companies to sell pills.

Go to your doctor and get the hottest new pharmaceutical today!

>>17304753
Ask your bro to hook you up. If his gf knows if the girl likes you, ect.

>>17304753
Solid

>>17304872
I sort of have, but I don't see what he can do for me at this point.