Hey /adv/, I am in a bit of a dilemma here. My sister is getting

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Hey /adv/,

I am in a bit of a dilemma here. My sister is getting married in October, and my fiance is turning 25 on the same day as the wedding. Due to scheduling conflicts she will have to stay home in Georgia, while I fly to Minnesota with our daughter to attend the wedding. At first she told me that she thought I shouldn't go because we didn't have enough in our budget to allow for me to go with our daughter. Then I found some really cheap tickets for under 200 dollars to get me and the baby out there. She insisted that we didn't have the money for it and that I shouldn't go. After I got family to lend me the money until such a time that we could pay them back she then began telling me that she doesn't want to be alone on her birthday and is giving me a hard time for it. I really want to be there for her on her birthday but I also want to be there to see my sister get married. My sister and many other family members made it clear that it's really important to them for all the family to be there for it.

Right now the only thing that is standing in my way is my fiance telling me that even though we are able to get the money now, it won't make much difference because we will have to pay it back eventually. Which I totally understand. It makes sense. The thing I think is really bothering her is that she will have a birthday while I'm gone. She says that she wouldn't feel so bad if I had "given a shit for even one single second" about her turning 25 and being alone for it. Is 25 a big milestone for women? I really don't understand. I

What should I do /adv/?

I really want to do both, but she has a birthday every year, and my sister is only getting married once.

To be fair, she is so concerned about money because we will have to either move to S. Korea or Japan after she graduates. She is doing this for me because I wanted to work with JET after college, but we had a daughter, so I've been working while she finishes school.