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How do you know when a crush is worth a shot? 2017-05-07 07:26:33 Post No.18294614
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How do you know when a crush is worth a shot?
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Basically I've been falling on and off for this girl for nearly 3 years since our first year in college.
The thing is that I've never actually talked to her beyond trivial shit like "do you have a pen" or whatever. I've probably never spoken to her for more than 5 seconds.
I know she's pretty, she has an obvious passion for gymnastics (it's not that it's gymnastics specifically, I just find it awesome when someone is passionate about something) and she's a hardworking student, which I admire and respect a lot. But that's just it.
Some days I don't give much of a damn about her, other days (like today) I find myself nearly sinking in a pit of melancholy, regretting that I didn't get to know her, that I can't have her, that I don't even have her as a friend.
Another thing I should mention is that she's graduating this year, whereas I'll be staying for another year so I'll probably never see her again. This only makes me want to go up to her and tell her to her face that I think she's cool and cute, but my dilemma lies in that I am not sure myself if this crush is actually deep enough for me to go out and pursue it because, like I said, I don't even know the girl personally.
tl;dr:
>been crushing on girl I've nearly never spoken to for almost 3 years
>want to confess but don't know if it's actually worth it (in that maybe my brain is just being dumb and this crush is superficial)
what do, /adv/?
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>what do
Nothing. Its over. Shes graduating and you want to try and rope her into your pathetic life? Come on boy
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>>18294810
Actually, I don't see the harm in telling her how you feel. But don't expect a girlfriend out of this
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Move on.
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Before going to ER I need to know how badly fucked I am
>Be me
>Drinking on Friday
>Feel good but not drunk
>next day
>Take a shit
>Everything is fine
>hangover headache
>next day
>stool looks orange or yellowish but still brown
No other symptoms aside from my anxiety attack over this
Fuck what did I do ?
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Make sure you call and ambulance and state you have 10/10 toe pain. They'll love it.
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>>18294613
Your liver was working overtime getting rid of all that alcohol, so bile salt production was probably inhibited. This causes yellow/pale stools. If it's true you weren't drinking that much, it should return to normal soon. If it persists, see your primary care physician.
source: lab tech that's seen this before
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>>18294625
So this doesn't require going to the ER
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Are women with tattoos more likely to cheat?
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There are many reasons women get tattoos. Some of those reasons line up with a tendancy to cheat, some don't.
So no, a tattoo is not necessarily indicative of a cheater.
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Probably about as likely as men with ratios are to cheat.
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>>18294580
Statistically maybe, you can't base your whole life around statistics or you'll never leave the house, you need to take risks to get the reward.
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Move in together with fwb? 2017-05-07 06:29:58 Post No.18294484
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Move in together with fwb?
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2017-05-07 06:29:58
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tl:dr- Should I offer to have a really slutty fwb move in with me?
I'm friends with this guy who I've known for a while. He's super nice, and genuinely a good friend. We've been fwb's for a while, and I've never been at all confused about our relationship being just that: friends with sex. I know I'm not his only, he's been with a lot of people who I are also my friends, and I'm sure plenty who I don't know. It has never been a deceitful thing, he's just a free and easy to enjoy person.
Recently we were talking, and he's being priced out of his current apartment, and is going to have to move. I live alone in a 2-bed apartment, and have been looking for a roommate. I'm considering asking him to move in together, but am unsure about it all and wanted some input. On one hand, I know we already get along, and he's an easy person to be around. On the other hand, I don't want this to be one of these things where I'm offering him the place to take advantage of him. I totally understand that this isn't making us bf/gf, and I totally understand that he'll almost certainly continue to constantly sleep around, but I do like being around him.
If I offer him the place, is this just me taking advantage of him? Or am I asking for trouble in all this, and growing dangerously close to growing feels for him? How terrible of an idea is this?
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sure just don't expect to have sex with him ever again
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why not?
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>>18294510
this.
at least happened to me in the same situation. but would do again, because i like him as a person
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Hi.
I was meant to be getting married this year but I got cold feet and pulled out at the last minute. I want to send a letter to my ex's mother, apologising for all the money and time expended in the wedding and to start building bridges with my ex again. What sort of stuff should I be saying? I want to say sorry but i'm difficulty putting it into words.
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>>18294439
A good apology comes in three parts.
1. Statement of the action you took and admission that it was wrong.
2. Statement of how you know it was wrong and what damage you caused.
3. Commitment to specific actions you will take, to repair that damage.
Anything in addition to this is almost certainly an excuse, rather than an apology. So be succinct, be honest, be mature, and be ready for the possibility that even a perfect apology may not be enough.
Good luck.
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>>18294439
I did the same thing and I really regret how I completely cut all ties with their parents. They were wonderful, I truly felt part of the family and I miss them so much.
I don't think I could write to them though - too much time has passed. Just write a few things down and see if it comes naturally. You don't want it to sound insincere.
Why did you get cold feet, anon?
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>>18294439
Thank you - I really like that structure and feel better about writing something up now.
#3 is going to be hard because there is a chance we could reconcile but I don't want to jump the gun.
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I feel your pain, anon. I was really made to feel part of the family and I didn't appreciate it at the time.
I got cold feet throughout the wedding planning process. I was so, so happy when I proposed but it all went downhill. Small things, like not being to agree on a venue, arguing about sharing the planning workload, stupid things like that, until it built up and I could only feel dread about the big day. I love her completely and she wasn't being a bridezilla, it was just my own insecurities took over.
So my gf just gave me an ultimatum either marry her or she is leaving.
I'm 26
Decently in shape
Make $97,000 per annum
My gf is 30, I first met her in H.S, she was a hot senior and i confessed to her. She turned me down pretty harshly went to college.
I went to college, never really had any success with women there. Met here again when i was visiting my parents after graduationn and job. We hit it off pretty well and she apoligized how she treated me in H.S.
She is wonderful women, albeit she has some bad drinking habits. But she told me she has only been with 3 guys before being with me. IDK what to do.
I wanted make her a proper women, but i'm about to get promoted to manager soon and I wanna focus on my careers.
/pol/ and /r9k/ gave me good advixe, I think i'm gonna break up with her. I see clarity now, the interns are flirty with me much more and you ger women are more receptive. They told me to lead her on, but maybe it is better to just break up over text and leave it at that?
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if you are gonna break up with her then be a man about it and break up in person and not over text like a pussy
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this lol
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>>18294385
>I wanted make her a proper women
That is borderline retarded dude. Also the fact that she has been with only 3 guys before you outweights the fact that she has bad drinking habits that could possibly develop into drinking problems speaks volumes about you as a person.
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ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything
GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.
>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
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Do girls IRL have much less guys trying to date them than girls on dating sites?
If dating sites are good for introverts, how will introverts compete with extroverts?
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>>18294377
>Do girls IRL have much less guys trying to date them than girls on dating sites?
No.
>If dating sites are good for introverts, how will introverts compete with extroverts?
Introverts are not objectively worse than extroverts, everyone has their own preferences and they're personal.
I never dated someone who wasn't introverted to some degree.
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Girls, how does the bf selection process work?
When you are on a dating site (or have more than one guy hitting on you from real life), how do you choose the guy?
Do you go on first dates with all candidates (at least the sane ones)?
When you discard some guys, what do you tell them? Do you just block them?
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I'm pretty head over heels with the niece of my aunt's husband(my cousin's cousin). None of my family or her family know and its been 6 months now.
I can't see it ending any time soon, we're pretty much still in that honeymoon phase when usually I'm content or bored with a girl after 3 months.
I think, at this point, its time I at least find out if this is even legal and whether you guys have ANY experience with this kind of thing happening.
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>>18294279
>niece of my aunt's husband
If you're not blood related to the husband, you're fine.
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>>18294283
So if some one told you two of your cousins, unrelated, were getting married, you'd not find that gross/odd?
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>>18294424
You're not cousins.
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Broken Heart, Broken Home 2017-05-07 04:29:59 Post No.18294212
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Broken Heart, Broken Home
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My girlfriend of 3+ years and I just broke up.
She's finishing grad school, and we've both been very busy with work. Money is really tight, and we haven't had much time or opportunities to have fun together in a while.
We also haven't had sex in several months, although we live together and have spent every night together the past 10 months.
I know we've been missing a spark for a while, but she told me somewhat suddenly yesterday that she wasn't happy and wanted to move out. She packed a bag and is staying with a friend this weekend.
I'm really shook up, and I feel very lost.
To make things complicated, we have an apartment together, and still have the lease for ~3 more months. She's actually agreed to continue to pay her part of the rent and live with her dad until the end of the lease.
I haven't contacted her in 24 hours now, and miss her so much. Should I try and patch things up before she starts to completely move out? Am I better off alone? Thank you for reading, I appreciate any thoughts or suggestions.
I'm happy to elaborate on any details.
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Hey OP,
My advice is to not contact her. You cannot force her to feel attracted to you. She needs to come to this conclusion by herself. Focus on yourself and be happy alone. Eventually all exes come back, but when that happens, your live should be so much better without her, that you don't want her back.
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Thanks for the input, anon. I coincidentally just started meeting with a personal trainer last week and am going to get active again. It's just so hard in the meanwhile when I have this big (for one person) empty apartment to myself in a town I barely know.
I guess this can be a good opportunity to get back in touch with myself and my hobbies, it just all feels so sharp and sudden.
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I was in a kind of similar situation OP. Broke up with my gf, felt like an absolut piece of shit. But I started to work out again, did a couple of awesome trips with friends, found a couple good new friends, can finally read again in peace, got bigger balls in approaching women etc. I guarantee you, the minute you start to become happy again, exes appear almost out of thin air, they have a sixth sense for that. Like, why is he happy without me? You have to look at the pain as a growing process. A man cannot reshape himself without pain.
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constantly checking the clock in my leisure time makes me sad 2017-05-07 01:56:06 Post No.18293938
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constantly checking the clock in my leisure time makes me sad
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on weekends i check my clock more often than at work and seeing that i only have X hours left for my hobbies and fun stuff puts me down a bit
how can i deal with this, and no i don't hate my job i just want to stop seeing whats left and start seeing what's available still
thanks anons
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>>18293938
I wish I knew, I have the same problem and it's freaking me the fuck out. In my case though I'm unemployed and sort of a NEET (going to college but lately I'm doing terrible and I'm starting to not care anymore) because I'm terrified of my free time running out.
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Do something that really keeps you busy and takes up most of your time that you enjoy.
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>>18293938
Do you wake up late of a weekend, proceed to shitpost on 4Chan and then think "shit it's 4pm and I haven't done anything today yet"?
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I need to at least vent this, and maybe it alone will give me some insight but I'd love to hear the thoughts of others.
I think I have a bit of a saviour complex. I had a lot of problems and issues when I was a kid that I couldn't really fix by myself, and nobody was around to help me with them. So when I went through tough times, I felt like it was all on me, but I really wished someone would've been there and helped or at least given a little emotional support. I had lots of people to tell me what they thought I'd done wrong, but nobody offering any means to help, and it was really demoralising.
Fast forward and I have two people I feel like I need to save. One is a person in an abusive relationship (controlling, emotionally - not physically as far as I know), they've been isolated and cut off from everyone else, and have an anxiety disorder. It's emotionally rough for them, and they're started to have disassociation issues. I know I can't fix their life for them, they have to make the choice to change their life direction. But I want to take a couple of weeks with them, to take them out to places, enjoy themselves, feel some connection again.
The second is in a real bind, they're not very old, just 19. They have a sleep disorder and an unknown illness. They get some PIP, but their family is not sympathetic. One of their uncles threatened him with significant violence. He had to go and live with his dad, but he's not much better, he's highly controlling and talked of destroying his phone/computer so he has no contact with people he considers a threat (myself included in that). I know I can't fix his life, I can't provide for or care for someone like that long term, but I want to get them away from those negative people, and try to bring him into some normality so that he can lead the best life possible - although we don't know how good that will be right now.
Cont.
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Cont Pt 2
It gets me wondering if there's a pattern to this kind of thing, like it's some sort of complex or extensive validation mechanism?
I tend to have a few rules about things like this; I don't try and change people that have landed themselves in shit with gambling, drugs, drinking etc. I think that's well beyond my means. I still try to ensure I have enough, or have the prospect of having enough (like if it means I can't buy something this week and it has to wait 2 weeks, I'm kind of ok with that).
I feel like there are lots of people that have situations that they can't really change, and I dunno, I guess I don't want them to go through that alone? I want them to have some happiness, to feel like someone somewhere really cares that they're ok.
If nothing else, it's worrying that I have some sort of instinct to seek out vulnerable people, I don't wanna become part of the problem.
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B-Bump
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What is the question tho
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how to stop masturbating so much 2017-05-07 05:12:26 Post No.18293122
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how to stop masturbating so much
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2017-05-07 05:12:26
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If the wife is gone or I have the day free for whatever reason, chances are I'll just jerk off all day. It's completely fucking pathetic. I'm a grown ass man and I have no business busting a nut 5 times a day like a damn 14 year old. I tried cutting out porn and it didn't make a difference. I just jerk off to more boring imagination stuff if I have a week without a computer. I guess I'm addicted in a really weird way which is pretty retarded. Have any of you fixed this? I guess the real problem is just the sheer amount of time it takes up, as I have a pretty normal sex life as well.
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Cut your dick
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Cut off porn completely. It's addictive as fuck. Maybe once a month, max.
Get a hobby. Watch netflix if anything. Start learning the guitar or go outside and vape.
You got a woman, save up your sexual energy and unleash it on her when she gets back.
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Yeah.. No luck for me... When in go the longest, is when i work from 6 am to 9pm... Too tired to wack it
My dick shrank
When I was 16 it was over 7 inches and thicc, now I'm 27 and it's like 5
Why the fukk did this happen, what could I have done to cause this, how do I get my big dick back
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Idk but this scares me, I'm at about 6 and a half inches at full length on a good day so I cannot really afford to lose even a millimeter.. I wish you the best op and hope this doesn't happen to me (only 23 yrs old rn)
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Did you stop having sex for a while or something?
I noticed the same thing happened once I stopped.
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You got fat and it's obscuring the base of your dick, retard
Alternatively, you don't get as hard as you used to because you're old now
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Summary:
- got a job at a game development company in marketing and promotion
- go to a big conference for the first time, get a vip pass, so I can get to know people
- big names, chris avellone, meagan marie
- know one of of the big players personally, lead art director at a major company, he was my teacher back at uni
- always really nice, treated students as friends, asked us to call him by his first name, friended everyone on facebook
- THIS IS MY CHANCE
- Walk around tge big names, talk to them freely at parties
- Not all the time tho, mostly hang out with smaller devs
- I AM THE GAMEDEV
- Last day party, grab a cab with Chris Avellone, get invited to sit at the table with famous people
- heaven.jpg
- My ex teacher seems really angry tho
- Get told that i have no tact and i should get lost because they want to talk business and im really fucking annoying
- At first think hes joking, he was always so chill
- act like im super okay with this
- "Hey, sorry, im new to this, thanks for telling me this, i dont want any bad blood between us :) "
- Walk away, sit alone in the corner where they cant see me
How do I get up after this? Do I have kill to myself now?
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Yup now u die
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Sorry anon, that sounds rough. You were probably acting like a flaming fanboy and your professor probably was in a bad mood, high rollers like him usually are facetious/two-faced (charismatic sometimes but often cutthroat/unsympathetic) so, put two-and-two together.
>invited to sit at the table with famous people
>talk to a lot of devs and you seem to blend in fine before the last day
Remember, you don't have it too bad. You got that much. Oh, and don't forget: you AREN'T actually an game developer. Know your place. At least until you get used to the scene.
Chill. You got a great job. Just learn from this shit.
Oh and if you wanna risk further emotional damage, you could always contact him on facebook and ask politely how you could improve the way you present yourself, etc.. It could give some closure. Maybe he may treat you better. I dunno if this would be a sperg move, though. Anons would have to discuss this.
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Thank you for this answer. I tried not to act like a fanboy, I made sure not to ask anyone for selfies or anything, my proffesor even said something like "And you're feelong completely relaxed around them" in an accusing tone. Lol
I completely understand where hes coming from, he surely gets that a lot at all events but im not sure why he waited until the last day to tell me this in this really shitty way instead of telling me straight away and not make me feel like shit in the process.
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My girlfriend has become extremely depressed and hast hung out with me for 2 months. She has pushed me so far away that I'm really considering buying an escort while im away in van this week.
I'm not sure if this relationship will last at this point and its always been a fantasy of mine to hire a really good escort. Should I go through with it? And if so, anyone have any recommendations of sites I can use.
Posting random escort picks from Van backpages in the meantime.
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>>18296124
Dude, you should probably either fix or end things with your gf before getting an escort. Cheating on a girl that's super depressed seems like a dick fucking move
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