I went crazy back in February and did some less that honorable things to the person I like. I wrote them a long letter trying to explain and apologize, but they said that they think that I wrote it in a delusional state. Pretty much none of it made sense to them, so I'm hoping this means that they weren't even aware of what I did. The impression they got was that I thought that we were dating and that they hated me, and they said that neither of those things were true. They or their parents were supposed to give the letter back to my father, but they either forgot or chose to keep it for some unspecified reason.
We're on good terms now; they even called me "honey" once--I'm not the only one, though. Maybe it was out of pity. Anyway, there's a party that both of us are going to be at in several days and I need advice on avoiding any awkwardness, as I'm even more nervous about being around them than before the whole schizo episode. I've become obsessed with wondering about what they know, what actually happened, what they think of me, etc.
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Holy fuck, we've seen this thread hundreds of times. Here is how it always plays out:
>somebody replies, asking OP to elaborate on their laughably vague explanation of what went wrong
>OP gives bits and pieces of the relevant information over the span of several posts, as a means of whoring attention for an extended time
>gets told to simply 'move on' by a sensible poster who sees through the dramatic horseshit propagated by OP
>OP doesn't want to because they are too insecure and sheltered to do the right thing
>remainder of thread is filled with dramatic beta male horseshit from both sides
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>>18553258
I mean, I'm willing to answer any questions. My goal is to mitigate any awkwardness. I've already been told to get over the person.
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Why do people always say that college is unnecessary? When I am looking for a good job, I almost always see a degree requirement (I would put this at about 95 percent of them).
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For some theirs no point ergo the person who goes for 4 years and gets a degree in gender studies then whines about people being racist while they have to pay 20,000$ back I student loans while working at macdonalds etc. for others if you know what you want exactly id say go for it / atleast get a useful degree
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>>18553193
a lot of those jobs will take someone with relevant experience or even just a willingness to learn in place of the degree.
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>>18553193
Most of the job descriptions I see require a degree or "equivalent experience".
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Getting past that feeling
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Anons, my gf broke up with me because 'shes going through something' and didn't want a relationship ship to burn her too. And she really is going through some crazy shit. But, I'm not here to rant about that
my question is how do i get rid of that feeling of being wanted, i remember her telling me to. never let go when I was cuddling her and that's stuck with me. That feeling just felt so right to me. Now whenever I see her it just ruins my mood because she basically said she didn't need me and it's completely fucked me up.
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why would she dump you because of an outside event? wouldnt it be simpler to just break off contact for awhile until she has shit sorted?
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She didn't leave because of some external event. A stressful period in one's life usually won't usually cause someone to abandon a relationship, typically people want support from those close to them. However what a stressful time can do is open people up to rash decisions, and if the stress was coupled perhaps by dudes hitting on her she might have been more like to play the field, but that's all internal. The stress, if it is related, opened her up to the idea of going back to the meat market.
I don't know exactly how to help you OP, but I am in a similar phase myself, along with many others around here. The girl cuddling you up, weakly demanding to stay with her, getting abandoned by someone you knew you could spend a life with, knowing they are getting railed at least once a week by all kinds of guys. Feeling like an old Camry traded in for a mustang. I know these feels.
But the feels get numb as time goes on. What I can say is you should introduce some positive changes in your life, so instead of having "your life minus the person you love" it's "a new life where I'll be alone for a while". I've been working out for a half a year and that's pretty nice I guess. It's hard to feel sorry for yourself after two miles on the treadmill. Going back to school to finish my degree, might be fun. Eventually you get so involved in all your new adventures, those instinctual thoughts about the person you care about become fainter and fainter, until you can laugh at yourself, remind yourself not to give a shit about some thoughtless bitch, and go back to the new life you've made for yourself.
I started working 30 hours (down from 40) and I am too lazy to do shit there. I also clock in a bit before getting there and clock out a bit after getting back home.
I am good at smooth talking people, so I can always somewhat stall and make things look difficult and time-consuming. As I appear quite tame and charming this works out for now, but it cant drag on forever.
I got 50k in cryptocurrencies, but I think I should ride this job to the ground, keep doing nothing and get fired once they catch on.
Am I stupid?
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Yes
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I waste a lot of time in commute. I mean this figuratively and literally. For school I commute. For fucks sake, I spent five hours in commute because I had to attend a hour meeting today.
In life, I idle a lot thinking I'm on my way to something, when I should already be doing something, or put off what I should do because there's something more pressing to do. Or, worse yet, I worry.
Either ways, I spend too much of my time doing nothing and never built up a set of cues to spend my time mindfully.
How do I shift gears into a doer rather than a layabout?
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I'm in need of some advice on a certain matter.
My mom is undergoing chemo and it's really hard on her. I think that a small amount of cannabis would really help alleviate some of her symptoms. However, medical has not yet been fully implemented in this state.
She has bloodwork done alongside her chemo and is receiving some assistance in paying for the treatments. Is there any chance that they do an unspoken drug test on the side in order to "catch" people and then disqualify them for assistance?
I would have already had her try if I knew the answer to this question. Does anyone here know anything?
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How to gain confidence? 2017-07-25 12:25:19 Post No.18553024
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Basically I've had a rough time as a kid and teenager due to my autism and even though I have improved myself in the past 2 years (24 now) to the point where my autism is non-existent I still have low confidence in myself like today I was in a drive through and 2 girls and a boy were in a car behind me but the weird thing happened when both the girls seemed to know who I am and said "HEY ANON! PARK UP SO WE CAN CATCH UP" even though I have no idea who they are and because of past experiences where people have been nice only to take the piss out of me I just smiled and said "Hey! sure!" confidently but after I got my order I just drove off.
I didn't have a panic attack or anything like that but I just didn't feel comfortable and I know this is because of my low confidence, I find it difficult to see how people can like me when I have been alone for the majority of my life.
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I like to think confidence > competence (generally speaking)
People will like you, you just gotta start stepping out of your comfort zone! This doesn't mean go do stupid things (Or do, who knows!), but think about going to bars or talking to store clerks.
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Stand up straight, look people in the eye, and give a firm handshake. Never fails, Champ.
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How do I stop compulsively faking a handicap?
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Stop being handicapped. See a doctor.
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I'm not handicapped for real, I just can't stomach going out without a cane.
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I got suspended from registering for RefundSelection dot com. Anyone know how long this lasts? I tried to call but it has a bot answer the phone. Even made a twitter to tweet them and its a bot. This is my first year of community I am so scared please help.
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I'm considering asking this one girl (ill-fated love from highschool, we both were into each other but no one dared to make the pertinent moves, we finally made out back in September right before she went on a 9 month trip to Europe tho, texted some times after that but nothing since March) out for this one techno-ambient event nobody else wants to go and I do want to because I want to get drunk, dance and maybe snort shit.
In her first months in Europe, she used to text me like "heeey I remembered about you yesterday and shit", but she suddenly stopped and hasn't texted me since she came back.
What do?
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>Got a shit sticking out of my hole
Tried cranberry juice and water to no avail
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Go and drink some cooking oil. I drank olive oil and it did the job and more.
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Just that, anyone?
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I've been unemployed for about a year, though my spouse and side projects bring in enough to live comfortably, just not glamorously. I received a job offer a few hours ago and have been mulling on it.
I want to be able to purchase 2-4 acres of land and begin building a house within 3 years as my primary goal. I applied to this job because I knew it was going to have tons of overtime, but when I went in to the interview the hiring manager told me it was clear my experience meant I could do something at a director level rather than at manager, so I was going to interview for that. I did, everyone was a thumbs up, but after getting off the phone with him now the job is both the one I applied for AND the director level position wrapped in to one job, and is no longer eligible for overtime. Plus the salary is less than I was expecting, at $90,000/yr it's about $15,000 less than I made at my previous job which had far less responsibility.
I'm really on the fence with this one. On the one hand $90k/yr is $90k more than I'm making now, even though it'll take more than 3 years to buy any land where I live after taxes and expenses. But I'll be adding the stress of two jobs in one (the title isn't impressive either), a commute, and the fact that the company couldn't make up it's mind with what they want the position to be, so I'm sure more things will get tacked on. I've worked here before years ago as well, it wasn't that great - but I don't want all the financial burden to be on my spouse even though I was the breadwinner for the past 6 of 7 years.
Should I take it, or pass and look for greener pastures /adv/?
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Based on what you have said, I think the only question is what other options might you have for $90k a year. Im not sure what field youre in or your location but it sounds like you are a decent catch in your realm. There may be someone with a bit less workload looking to save money on a director? If $90k is your target, branch oit and see what else exists atm. Eitherway, I would avoid companies with scope creep and multititle positions, it is a sign of toxic management using tacky methods to save $$$. Good luck either way and keep us posted on what you decide!
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I feel like when I talk, the window of time I get to talk is extremely small compared to others, like I have to rush to fit in all of what I want to say before someone immediately jumps in and snatches the floor from me.. I never feel comfortable taking even a second to think of a word because almost always someone jumps in and finishes my sentence or just uses it as a segway to the next topic.
I feel like I never get a chance to flesh out my thoughts or to pause and reflect mid conversation with my coworkers, or plainly at work
the problem is most definitely me. but what is causing this?
I consciously try to talk slowly and to listen and engage and not interrupt, but I feel like the same courtesy in some aspects is NEVER given to me.. today during a meeting I got harmlessly cut off and it took everything within me to just let it go, which is kind of ridiculous but at the same time, what the fuck man.
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Make sure you are expressing excitement and confidence when you talk. It should be a pleasure to listen to you speak even if you arent saying anything at all. If someone cuts you off and it was blatant, let them know. Just say, "hey man I wasn't finished".
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Alright that is actually solid advice, I could work on that. Thank you.
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How do i get to know other people?
One of my biggest problem is that i don't have friends or anyone i can hang out with, talk, meet or anything. All life is just me and myself. How do i change it? i can't take it any more.
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Asl? Wanna be friends?