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I fucked him there I said it. It was great too. No I did not cheat it just happened soon after everything went down and pushed me away after I refuse to be fwb. We have a lot in common and he knows how to speak to me. I can speak to him also and doesn't undermine anything I say or out me under his thumb. I'm happy. He is truly a partner a good one who stands by me and defends me. I return the favor as well. I knew you cheated on me and wished that I would leave. You told me remember? Right to my face. All I did was try and work things out and you got Jealous, grew untrusting, greedy and impatient. You got what you wished for stop trying to make it seem like you're the victim here. You wanted to abandon me when you knew I had no place to go. (he was there to help me while you sucked off your mom's tit because she paid your bills) you told me you wanted to fuck the girl I knew you were trying to get at but you insisted that I was just being jealous and then I think back to all those other girls who you defended and said the same things. But once I hung out with an old HS friend You lost your shit. Projection much? Why only then did you decide that you do want to get married after all? I was the only one wearing an engagement ring. You took your time getting yours. Why the hell did you change your mind all of a sudden? Then you got abusive above everything else. Who knows how far along I would have allowed it to all happen if it wasn't for my friends to open my eyes and make myself see what an asshole you really are. You faked wanting to get married and having children because of sex. Fuck you. Go off with your whores. Stop spreading the rumors that I cheated on you because we both know it didn't happen. And fuck you for raising your fist at me. No real man does that. No real man screams his head off for no reason. No real man grabs his woman the wrong way because she simply was getting comfortable. No real man makes his woman fear for her safety. I'M DONE!

>>18558140
This has been a long time coming and you know it. You should be happy by now especially if I was the burden to you. That's what you told everyone. I was just a burden. Now I feel like I have to second guess everything. Going on my own path made me realize that I'm not worthless and I have people who care about me. I have an income, genuine people who care for me, I'm not the helpless little bitch you made me out to be the one you made me think I was dependent on you. Moving away was the best decision I made so far and I was fearful of moving because of you. You're nothing but trash and how dare you play the victim card for sympathy. I did not cheat on you. I left you for good. Now I can move forward in life with someone that treats me as his equal and not someone beneath him.

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>childhood friend tells me in a man to man that his wife is pregnant
>can't get a girl to talk to me for 5 minutes

>>18557842
A "friend".

You done fucked up A-Aron

Mate, I say this with love but you are a fucking idiot, read your post back and pretend you're just a random anon, now give advice to yourself.

You know the answer. You're a major rebound and nothing can compare to someone's first love when they're only a month coming out of it.

I hope you're fucking her at least, if you are enjoy it.

>>18557954
I suppose you're right. I just needed some unbiased responses because I wasn't sure if I was just being paranoid or if things really did seem suspicious. Thanks for the reply.

>>18557954
^^^

Idk the other two guys but I like the guy on the rights videos. Very modivational.

Which advice?

See, those guys, just like me and you and like everyone else in the world are sometimes wrong and sometimes right. But we always like to categorize things, including people. If someone said something we believe to be smart and accurate we will accept the next thing that guy says at truth if we have no strong reason to otherwise. And if someone said something we deem stupid we'll think that everything else he says is also stupid, even though we'd be neutral towards those ideas if they came from someone else.

Point is that you shouldn't judge ideas by the people who spread them. Nor by the ideologies they belong to. Take out an idea, break it down and figure out for yourself if it works.

If I were to chose which one spews the most bullshit it would be alpha m, not because most of the things he says are untrue, but because in the long term his practices achieve the exact opposite thing he's trying to get. They will turn you into an emotionally unstable man who's obsessed with everyone's opinion about himself and can't think for himself. They will turn you into a social animal with no personality whatsoever, who's only desire is to be appreciated by others. That won't be a fulfilling life.

At least most of the practices of Elliot Hulse will achieve their goals to some extent (make you big and confident and imposing or whatever). And I don't know much about the guy in the left, but I think he mostly talks about political stuff from a certain ideology, so you know, some of the things he's saying are true, others are complete bullshit, depending on how they reflect on his political beliefs.

>>18557783
Guy on the right, Elliott Hulse gives out advice that is so powerful it would answer 90% of questions you see on /adv/ or /r9k/. It's intended for the same demographic who watch PUA shit, exceptt that his message is not condescending towards women and instead, it's highly motivational, especially if you are depressed, lazy sack of shit. His later vids are getting too new age/hippie that I find slightly pretentious, but the older vids from 2013-16 are full of quality advice.

>getting a fake degree in anything ever
that's why most employers don't give that much shit about degrees these days anymore

>>18557761
bbbbut it's not fake, only milled

>>18557708
In this situation, you have to go with the one girl that you see as more of a long-term partner and who is available to you the most. The other girl will understand your decision if you show that your mind is set, but don't over do it, just casually mention it.

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>>18557704
Fucking whores is no problem.
Filming them while doing it is a problem. If you release it without them knowing, it crosses multiple laws at once.

And good luck finding whores who will whore while being filmed. You will probably need to pay much more.

>>18557661
>actually caring about this bullshit
A fool and his money are soon parted

>>18557673
t.mulato

But in all seriousness im quite interested in genetics and such so.. yea for you it may be pointless but i for me its not

This isn't even to mention the effect that my self-projection issues had on my social life. What started out as unreasonable refusals to take of sweat shirts in hot rooms has now degenerated into canceling on friends because of how much I fear they will judge my imperfections. I havent dated in a year because in my mind there is a number. It is a number that always lurks slightly beyobd my grasp, dangling enticingly in the near future with promises of lustful fantasies and acceptance. Whether that number is one I must reach on my squat or bodyweight is immaterial. I always manage to find another one to justify turning down women who have clearly been interested in me in the past.

After a while my obsession began to take a physical toll as well. I drove myself to consume 4000 calories a day to fuel the mindless shitshow of my weightlifting career. I worry now that my appetite is permanently fucked (I literally cant feel hunger because of how much Ive come to despise food). I get noxious at the mere thought of eating foods that were once beloved staples in my diet. All the red meat and whole milk caught up to me; a recent trip to my doctor informed me that I have the blood pressure of an aged black man; at the age of 19 I'm now at risk for having a stroke.

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I'm disgusted by the thought that I've turned sonething as healthy as exercise into a threat on my life. I'm saddened by the hundreds of hours wasted pushing pieces of iron up and down that could have been better spent studying my passions. Now I've completely stopped lifting. I'm sleeping like a vampire and severely undereating out of sheer apathy. The thought that I'm losing all the progress I've worked so tirelessly to attain over the year depresses me deeply, and saps my motivation to lift even further. I'm becoming fat, and this time I don't have the luxury of dismissing it as the gym goer's body dysmorphia.

The truth is that I am a man of very little willpower, /adv/. I finally realize that now, after years of tricking myself into believing that obsession meant strength. In my mind, where there is no obsession, there is almost zero drive. Like I've said, this is just one episode of many in my life have been driven by pure obsession: there either is, or is not.

My question is this: how do I learn moderation? How do I find balance in the things that give me pleasure, without one consuming the others? If you have read this far, I thank you for your time and any advice that you have to offer.

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I think the only way you learn moderation is by practicing moderate behaviour. This ties into willpower as well. Begin to discipline yourself in terms of what you spend your time on and you will 'learn' the skill over time. It obviously won't be a painless process, but at least you are aware of the ways in which you want your life to change.

>>18557583
Pick up a math book.

>>18557583
You'll want to look at your local community colleges to see if they offer any lower level math courses. This way you'll learn and get credit.

If this not the option for you, you may find /sci/'s wiki to be the most useful. Khan Academy and a variety of youtube channels as well.


Also >>18557590

>>18557583
Nigger you have the entire internet at your disposal. Fucking use it.

That being said Khan Academy is pretty good for what I've been told.

>>18557519
Try to stick around.