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>>18636671
You just go day to day, trying to forget.

Either get a new girlfriend or find happiness in other places

suffer until you don't

or fuck 10 different girls until your ex doesn't become a big deal anymore

idk man, breakups are fucking brutal

>>18636671
You don't.

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>>18636654
Family issues can be the worst. Like a forced burden.
After all, we do not choose our parents.

My best advice is to seek Jesus.

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>>18636673
thanks

>>18636654
You may be expecting too much from a person who is actually a stranger to you.

Yes, she gave birth to you, and yes, she probably does feel something for you. But if you have been apart for many years, you can't have the relationship you missed back then.

What you want is the Mama you missed as a child, but you aren't that child and she isn't that younger woman. If she feels anything it might be for the baby she remembers, but you aren't that baby anymore.

If the two of you are going to make a connection, it will have to be as fellow adults with the desire to be friends as adults.

>>18636640
Are people really this fucking retarded?

There's a fucking wealth of information out there all curated and condensed and you can't even be arsed to fucking use google? There's even a fucking board here specifically for workout advice.

>>18636645
Ive thought about it but I spent most my time shitposting. so can't argue with that.

Lift weights and eat a high fat high protein low carb diet

Whine to his superiors, whine to Reddit employees, or just make your own subreddit.

Literally anything except posting about it here.

>>18636609
bump

>tfw received text at midnight
>replied at 3am (I never get texts so I wasn't looking at my phone, and just replied immediately when I saw the text)
what if they ask me what i was doing up at 3am? i was just at home, but should i say i was out with my non-existent friends instead?

>>18636609
I operate on the assumption that if you texted me, you want to talk about something. Maybe it's just a little nothing request for information, maybe you wanna have a conversation about something important, but if I see someone trying to text me I try to get back to them in a timely fashion when I can. That's just polite. Ducking people for any reason just makes it seem like you don't want to talk to them.

Reply when you get a text unless you are busy. It really is that simple.

How do you go about having face to face conversations? if someone asks you a question do you answer it 3 hours later.?

>>18636590
Don't look for that excuse. She's really mad at you about something.

In a sense, yes. Generally it's a culmination of many things that she likely has never even discussed with you but in her altered state she is less stable and more prone to irrational or knee jerk reactions to those issues. She also likely has a backup guy and is planning to fall back on him.

I've seen it three times in my own relationships, it's just the way of women, they expect you to read their minds and pick up on all their little clues they drop rather than just come out and say what's bothering them. If you are like me, you were just riding along happy and oblivious while this stuff built up in her until a particularly bad period was the tnt in the volcano.

Just keep fucking her until she's comfortable with it.

>>18636581
We've been fucking for 2 years straight now.

>>18636574
Either put up with it

or

Dump her, because this shit never improves with the same partner (and usually even in the next one)

>>18636571
Have you tried telling your gf that large crowds of strangers make you uncomfortable and you have little no interest in attending?

>>18636579
I'm thinking about telling her that tomorrow. Or use some version of it. Although we have gone to games at this park many times, just weekends are packed. The fiancee is a Chad type, nice enough, but I'm bookish and into sci fi, so not much in common. I might complain my hips hurt too much. :/

>>18636571
Arrive a little (not too much) late an leave a little (not too much) early, just to cut down on time there.

Sit with your GF and others you feel comfortable with. Nobody expects you to mingle with everyone.

Eat, drink, watch the game. Do normal things that don't involve too much interaction

You don't want to be circumcised. You'll get used to and appreciate the sensitivity, and your head will get dry and crack and look like shit without a foreskin.

Need advice please

Go on your own. Assumimg you're female? Places like record shops are good for meeting people into music, or a music club if you go to uni.

Maybe sew some cotton cloth or soft fabric to the surface.

https://www.lovehoney.com/product.cfm?p=34010

Would highly recommend this one that my gf bought for me.
The inner lining is so soft and comfy that I even find myself wanting to wear it when she's not around.

I swear, gays are all the worst degenerates.

>>18636537
most likely form of diabetes.
but we'll need more info o n her like, does she eat a lot, she eats healthy and so on.

>>18636554
Healthy weight, but basically never exercises. Drinks a lot of coffee.

She was a chubster in middle school.

Depends on what she means by 'blind' momentarily. When you pass out your vision fuzzes into black and it's impossible to put any brain power into focusing on the things you can see and it's almost like being blind for those few seconds.

Yes she should see a doctor if this is something that happens again and again without obvious reason (e.g. excessive fatigue or dehydration or severe anemia). No she's probably not going to die.

This made me much more fragile. Around November my girlfriend started to become very abusive. She would threaten me, keep me away from my friends, insult my looks and hobbies.
She told me I would never ammount to anything in life because I play video games. Then she would tell me how much she loved me and needed me. She would say how much she wanted to fuck other guys (but surprisingly didn't for some reason?) I fell for it every time because I was such an emotional wreck. Eventually I did manage to snap out of it. After I left her I started talking to her again a few months later so I could get her to cheat on her new BF and tell him. She actually fucked another guy besides me before then and told me over text so I made sure to screenshot that too.

Come April, I started dating a friend I had for a while but never knew very well. It was great. Easily the best relationship I'd ever had and one of the best things to ever happen to me. She cared about me just as much as I did her. She told me things no one else did, treated me better than anyone, she was beautiful, and actually liked the same things I did. I'd never been with anyone like her. Everything was perfect up until a week ago when she suddenly asked to be alone to "think about some things." I immediately knew she was gonna leave me I just didn't know when. She still talked to me but very sporadically. Never when she said she would just randomly, and whenever I asked what was going on I get a different story every time and many of them conflicted with each other. She kept mentioning something happening with her family that she couldn't talk about. Not didn't want to, couldn't. I still don't know what it is or if it exists. Yesterday, she told me that when she asked to be alone it's because when she woke up that morning she didn't love me anymore. Just one day no more love.

(2/4)

The day before she asked to be alone, I got fired from my job. I had been applying to every place I could for 3 years, sometimes twice with different names and this was the only place to ever even offer me anything and they fired me in a month. (The place was a mess that abused all the workers but that's irrelevant) The day before she broke up with me, I failed my driving test for the 2nd time because the instructor was completely oblivious to my actions. She lied about what I did and didn't do because she wasn't even watching me. Now my father is back and making sure to make me feel as bad as he can about everything I do.

I have bad confidence issues. I hate just about everything about myself because I only have a handful of friends and the ones I usually do have back stab me all the time. My whole life I have always felt like the extra, unimportant backup. Like nothing I say or do matters to anyone and if I died no one would ever notice. My friends have been much less than supportive. Every girl I dated was just me settling. I didn't think I deserved or could get a girl like me to love me. Absolutely all of this changed with her. I got over all my self destructive bullshit, put my mind to it and I got her to fall in love with me. I felt like I belonged somewhere. Like I finally had a place I should be. Now she's gone and I don't even know why.

(3/4)

Now I'm sitting here, no girl, few friends, no job, no car, no money, no direction. I tried talking to some old girls I used to talk to and I was disgusted with myself. My interest in them was completely superficial. They could not be more different from me. I cannot believe the shit I used to put up with just to get some stale expired flavor of love. And I don't have high standards, I had just never had someone similar to me as a person like me in any way. I'm a nerd who plays video games, watches anime, and takes computers apart for fun. I'm not going to college this year since I have no clue what I want to do in life. I don't know how to meet new friends or girls, and I don't even have any transportation to such things. I'm appalled at the basic, generic thots that plague apps like Tinder, OKcupid, Bumble, and whatever else I used to use. All of their descriptions and pictures are the same. I don't want to adventure or vibe with them, I don't want to fucking smoke get drunk and hear about how you love your dog more than any man.

I don't even know what kind of replies I want from this or what I think it'll do. Maybe I just need to vent somewhere since no one else wants to listen. I never realized until writing this how much of a non-stop assault of shit I have had to deal with. Please, /adv/, how do I break free of this monotony? How do I get myself out there and find where I'm supposed to be?

(4/4)

+ to that blonde that kept looking at me but never approached me.

I don't think your wife material that why I never did anything...

>>18636516
People smile at people. It's called being friendly. Sometimes they even go so far as to say "Hi." You should try it sometime.

Not every passing encounter between men and women is sexual or romantic. Sometimes people are just being friendly.

Ad what's wrong with that? Having friends of both genders is a nice thing. It fights loneliness. In fact, scientific studies have shown that friends are the number one cure for loneliness.

And if you're looking for more, doesn't it make sense that the more female-type persons you know, the better the chances of finding a GF among them?

>>18636819
thanks I've looked online. you;re right

>>18636498
Yes you should go to HR.

You should also look into another career path. Warehouse work is shit desu, apply yourself.

>>18636521
I appreciate yor advice. I'm currently doing warehouse to pay for my school