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>>18090086
nice try Akmhed

Back the way you came, Muhammad

>>18090086
Just print it out anon you've got one right there

>>18090077
ride it out until it gets shut down (which will be soon, I'm sure)

>>18090083
I don't like reddit.

I'm scared

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>>18090077

>>18090059
>22 years old
>scared of parents

...we are lost.

>>18090059
It doesn't matter what you study. If you don't want to be a cop, you will be massively unhappy if foreced to do so. Tell your parents that. Ask them for guidance.

>>18090012
Just say no im not then ask her out.

>>18090012
More like
>that's your last chance to impress me

>>18090012
Anon, it is FINE to be a nice guy. Everyone fucking loves nice people.

You associate "a nice guy" with friendzone because people who get called/call themselves "nice" often are either doormats or boring.

You call someone nice when there isn't any relevant characteristic about them - they're not great, they're not awful, they're not smart, they're not stupid. They're just there, mediocre, with nothing outstanding about them. You say they're nice because saying "they're boring and bland"

You can be nice AND smart, funny, ambitious or amazing in bed, and women will like you. You can't be JUST nice, or unable to stand for yourself.

Ask her out, see how it goes. Being called nice isn't the end of the world.

>>18089945
You're life isn't taking you down that path... -you are. Man up and take responsibility for your unhappiness and the monotony of how you have been living. You're a big boy now, do what you want. It's your choice how you live your life.

But realize this: no matter how you choose to live your life, there will always be times of monotony and unhappiness. It's a part of who we are.

>>18089953
your*

>>18089953
ok, but how do i figure out what i want to do? i dont fucking know what i want and the uncertainty doesnt help how i feel

Accept it and move on. When she sees that it didn't really bug you(assuming you run into her again) it will fuck with her self esteem and she'll come crawling back.

Not even joking.

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>>18089941
What if she doesn't?

>>18089951
You'll still be better off regardless

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>>18089934
Whatcha worried about there buddy? You seem awfully nervous. How about we do this the easy way and you tell me whats inside?

>>18089934

Damn. When was the last time you remember having it?

Where do you usually store it?


Next time, use password protection on your drive. I would personally also use a separate drive for porn.

>>18089976
tons of shemale and trap porn

Teeth can change position without affecting you too much. Unless you continue to be in pain and find it hard to eat still you don't necessarily need to visit a dentist.

I would definitely get an emergency dental appointment and be seen straight away. I did that when someone chipped one of my teeth a little.

In most first world countries this is fine to do. In most third world countries it's fine if you're a professional worker or related to one.

I guess you're buttfucked in the US? If not, there's no reason not to go.

Lucky bastard. If you don't like her enough just break up, stop wasting each others time. If you do like her, what's the hold up? Would there be a problem with you guys just hanging out at your apartment or whatever if you're not up to going somewhere? Well, anyway, it sounds to me you're not as serious about this, for both your sakes break up.

Break up with her, let her find someone who truly appreciates her instead of wasting her and your time

>>18089903

t. person who has never been in a relationship and is desperate

>>18089867
is it a deal where you're in the same class or did you meet her in a one-off circumstance?
if it's the latter i'd say go for it, try to make the conversation meaningful rather than just "Hi How Are You Great" because i'm sure every girl has had multiple guys like that and have all ended the same way

>>18089876
She used to go to school with me and then she left. We met up at a party in January and met her with her friends at the movies when I was out with mine. I only just now started to think I wanted to talk to her.

"Suppity sup?" Its weird and different without being to off putting and will get the ball rolling

Why do you want to stop?

Block it on your computer, the little bit longer it takes you to get around the filter will help you get a hold of yourself.

Try giving yourself permission to masturbate as much as you want but without ever using porn, it'll help you wean off of it.

>>18089883
Because porn addiction is harmful to your wellbeing and state of mind.

>>18089846

>Browser Addon "Anti Porn Pro"
>As well put your often visited sites AND /gif/ etc. into the hosts file of your windows, so they are still blocked when you might disable the addon.

You just need to start acting more professionally. Nobody is asking you to be somebody you're not, but there is level of professionalism required in most jobs and it sounds like this is what you're struggling with.

Keeping everybody happy in an office is really difficult, even if everybody works well together. It only takes one person to upset the balance and if management sense you might be the kind of person to do this, they will probably try and nip it in the bud.

Yeah it's shit and to be honest, the people around you are probably being extremely sensitive, but I don't think you could go far wrong by extending a bit of courtesy and being a bit more polite to your colleagues. You'd be surprised at how much it can mean to people.

Otherwise yeah, it might be worth finding a job in a less office based career. You probably get paid more in this one because they expect a level of professionalism.

>>18089829

I can act professionally when I'm making a conscious effort to do so. Trouble is, moment I'm focused on a challenging job then the reflexes take over. I might ask to swap desks so I'm sitting with less newbies (they put them with me for guidance but sometimes I literally can't get anything done because I'm always helping them - all great people, don't resent them at all, but becomes overwhelming)

Maybe I'll start job hunting once I've got the mortgage sorted. Grass is always greener on the other side though, or so I've found in the past. Cheers for the balanced response.

Seriously, if everything you say about the situation and your behaviour is 100% fact and not schewed in your favor I don't understand the problem. If you put a little stank on your "I'm busy right now" I wouldn't think that be worth an employer stepping in.

I'm pretty paranoid by nature so I would take it as they have it out for me and either want me to kiss their asses or get me fired or something.

If everything is as you say though, if I were in your position I would start to look for what all is around as far as a job you could take your experience to and possibly get a better job with a better company making better money on top of not having to deal with whatever bullshit that is.

>>18089786
How long is your commute (distance)?

Options are:
Learn to drive or at least get a moped (much easier to learn if you're scared of driving a car)

Move closer to work (if it's really that important)

Find another job

>>18089827
>How long is your commute (distance)?
24,7 km says the internet. It's about 30 minutes with a car, but 2 hours for poor people without cars like me.

It's not work, it's school. I have 2 more years to finish.

>>18089849
What about the scooter/moped option, can you afford that? Alternatively you could cycle 25k on 2 hours and get fucking fit while you're at it, alleviate the depression as well. It will kill you at first but then you'll start to feel good.

>>18089775

by not giving up. its not like there's some list of steps. you just make a goal, work towards it.

it helps to detail your plans, and to create goals that are doable.

for instance saying
>get a gf by april

isn't a doable goal cuz even if you succeed you're just getting any girl you can, and the quality will be shit. instead, you should set up a goal to be more social with girls. to do this create a minimum number of nights you have to 'go out' and a minimum number of girls you need to talk to in passing.

set a goal
when im running, i promise myself to run for example an x amount of time
even if i'm literally about to die, i will run until i fulfilled the promise i kept to myself
force yourself, only by this way you will be disciplined
never do shit tomorrow, do it as soon as possible
or it will always be "tomorrow"

Be expressive and follow more social etiquette. Just only do that a tad or you'll go over into crazy/annoying territory.

>>18089758
How do I learn social etiquette and do you have any tips on being more expressive?

>>18089753

instead of trying to be charismatic, which is a natural charm that draws people into you, just try to be social.

the world isn't divided between awkward betas and charismatic alphas.

most of us just fall somewhere on a spectrum of sociability and the only way to climb higher is to go out and talk to be people.