File: 1486263571582.png (261KB, 362x350px) Image search:
[Google]
261KB, 362x350px
Hey lads, so this is about a girl, surprise surprise. I've been seeing her for a couple of weeks now and we've really hit it off. Without going in to too much detail our values and personalities are very similar, we share the same likes and dislikes and the sex is amazing.
The only issue i'm having trouble getting past is the fact that she is pretty chubby and I'm skinny. I noticed this first up when I met her and was almost discouraged by her weight but then I got to know her and got comfortable around her pretty quick.
Does anyone have any advice about dating a chubby girl?
What were you families reactions when meeting them for the first time?
5 Posts / 3 Images
View this topic
>>
File: roughlywhatshelookedlike.jpg (107KB, 640x893px) Image search:
[Google]
107KB, 640x893px
>>18093070
>Does anyone have any advice about dating a chubby girl?
If you don't like it,break up. She isn't going to magically start getting physical one day and start losing weight. If you need some help perhaps start investing yourself into the whole THICC meme
>What were you families reactions when meeting them for the first time?
"She seems like a good girl and her face is nice but she's fat." was my mother and "She's ugly and fat. You're way out of her league." My father
>>
>>18093070
If she's actually chubby and not fat, then no one will care. >>18093200 is not chubby, she's fat. Chubby means a few extra pounds, not twice the weight she ought to be
>>
>>18093200
Funnily enough she claimed that she was THICC the other day and I couldn't help but think of /fit/
She does exercise and has been "trying" to lose weight for the past couple of months. Sounds like a cop out to me, just hard to tell without seeing what she was like.
Anonymous
How do I make my dorm room comfy? 2017-03-02 12:32:30 Post No.18093038
[Report] Image search: [Google]
How do I make my dorm room comfy? 2017-03-02 12:32:30 Post No.18093038
[Report] Image search: [Google]
File: 1486893426593.jpg (2MB, 1500x1060px) Image search:
[Google]
2MB, 1500x1060px
How do I make my dorm room comfy?
Anonymous
2017-03-02 12:32:30
Post No. 18093038
[Report]
[View this topic]
I've been living here for the past 2.5 years and it's starting to make me sick. I'm going to be here for at least another half a year or more. So what can I do to make it more cozy(preferably for cheap because broke ass student and whatnot)?
It's just white walls, a plain chair, a messy desk, a bed and a small shelf I filled with medicine, tea and books.
3 Posts / 1 Images
View this topic
>>
1.buy comfy stuff
2.put in room
3.????
4.success
>>
>>18093038
Secondhand armchair - nice soft comfy one
Posters/art/photos on the walls.
File: 1471659931711.jpg (311KB, 1920x1080px) Image search:
[Google]
311KB, 1920x1080px
I don't have anywhere else to go, can you guys please help me deal with my frequent panic attacks.
5 Posts / 3 Images
View this topic
>>
dont know if this will help, but whenever i'm stressed or panicked i pull out my 3ds and play some fire emblem. the games help keep my mind from freaking out because i have to focus on something else.
try finding something that you enjoy doing, and whenever you feel panicked or stressed focus on that instead
>>
File: anxiety breathing.gif (675KB, 500x399px) Image search:
[Google]
675KB, 500x399px
In the short term:
Controlling your breathing is the first step. You want to slow it down. Fast, gasping breaths, with the inhale longer than the exhale, activate the sympathetic nervous system (fight or flight). They make your more anxious.
Conversely, long, slow breaths, with the exhale longer than the inhale activate the parasympathetic nervous system (rest and digest). They calm you down.
By controlling your breathing, you control which system is active and can thereby control your emotions.
In the long term:
The best way to handle fear, anxiety, and phobias is through slow, gradual, controlled acclimation to the fear. The controlled part is the most important part. If you are not in control of a stressful thing happening to you, it tends to make you more fearful.
You want to expose yourself, slowly and in increments. You want to get to the point where you're uncomfortable but not freaking out, and stay there until you get acclimated and calm down and realize that it's safe. If you freak out, stop immediately and try again at a lower level later. Slowly increase the intensity of exposure as you get more comfortable, and eventually you'll reach the point where it won't be a problem anymore.
>>
>>18092938
I just feel so terrible when it happens. Like I'm completely alone. I can't deal with that. I don't want to put myself through something like that intentionally.
File: 1482536996687.jpg (144KB, 1280x720px) Image search:
[Google]
144KB, 1280x720px
>tfw you deliberately avoid talking to relatives because you're ashamed of how big of a loser you are and don't want to remind them that you exist
5 Posts / 2 Images
View this topic
>>
>dat feel when grandma thinks you're gay because you havent brought any girls home but ur not gay just extremely bitter and inexperienced and a loser
>>
>TFW attention whore
>>
File: girls on panzers.jpg (45KB, 676x474px) Image search:
[Google]
45KB, 676x474px
hey, could be worse
File: 1488252119597.jpg (63KB, 480x578px) Image search:
[Google]
63KB, 480x578px
>Don't have any dreams that will come to fruition
>I'm probably screwed for the rest of my life
>Doomed to piddle around until I die like most people are
>Have no desire to do anything aside from draw and play video games
>20 years old
I've no real desires except to create art.
That's not a real direction I can steer my existence. Poverty will tarnish my life, and I'd be better off working at Wal-mart at that point.
I don't know what to do.
I have total apathy towards all things that I see in the world. I believe I should secure a good dead-end job like a police officer, and work it. The issue that arises is that I've had that, and I constantly thought about suicide due to the emptiness of the job.
Has anyone ever been here before?
4 Posts / 1 Images
View this topic
>>
>>18092785
just pick a job that doesn't completely suck and do that. then pursue art in your spare time.
stop having apathy towards all things you see in the world, you can't act like the worlds all messed up just because it doesn't cater to you.
real artists appreciate hardship, its what drives the creation process.
>>
>>18092793
I've had hardship, and all of the art that I created only got worse.
>>
>>18092819
wow what a shite artist.
Anonymous
is there a reason I shouldn't kill myself? 2017-03-01 10:31:17 Post No.18092769
[Report] Image search: [Google]
is there a reason I shouldn't kill myself? 2017-03-01 10:31:17 Post No.18092769
[Report] Image search: [Google]
File: 1239484_1379355198961720_1077181602_n.jpg (28KB, 504x315px) Image search:
[Google]
28KB, 504x315px
is there a reason I shouldn't kill myself?
Anonymous
2017-03-01 10:31:17
Post No. 18092769
[Report]
[View this topic]
So objectively speaking I don't really have a reason to live.
I pretty much fucked up live. I'm almost 30 and still living with my parents and basically a NEET. ( Well technically I'm in art school, but well, almost the same)
My parents are always nagging me about how my peers are now super rich and buying luxury cars for their parents and shit.
I don't have any close friends, hence why I'm posting this on a mongolian horsebreeding board.
To be honest I'm lonely, I can hang out with people to have a more or less fun time, but they come and go and there is no one I feel really connected to or anyone I could or would want to burden with my thoughts.
And getting to know new people also get harder each day, due to my NEET life, I just don't have anything interesting to talk about.
I see no point in going on anymore, but I don't want to hurt those around me. My existence is just such a burden.
5 Posts / 2 Images
View this topic
>>
>>18092769
>is there a reason i shouldn't kill myself?
yes. because you can break the cycle.
or you could give back to society. instead of wasting your life, why not go out and volunteer on a daily basis to make other peoples lives better.
>>
>>18092769
>To be honest I'm lonely
where do you live?
if you want someone to talk to I wouldn't mind chatting a bit, I'm FAVelour on steam so add me if you want someone to talk to.
I'm 27 and still live with my parents while pursuing a fairly worthless degree as well. I have a job though and am paying my own way for school. I also don't have parents on my back comparing me to others, how cruel.
>>
File: al maari quote.png (145KB, 850x401px) Image search:
[Google]
145KB, 850x401px
>>18092769
>is there a reason I shouldn't kill myself?
because you're already here, just learn from this experience that existence is pain and don't have children
File: fukn dun fr sun.png (7KB, 360x140px) Image search:
[Google]
7KB, 360x140px
I've been in the market for a job for a while now. I have a degree. Any of you guys have osha certification? Does it really help in your job? What kinds of things does it certify you for?
4 Posts / 1 Images
View this topic
>>
>pursuing regulatory work during a Republican administration
don't do this.
>>
>>18092757
Woof, good point. figured it couldn't help with the job search, plus its somthing to get my parents of my back for a week or so.
>>
>>18092757
why
File: IMG_7225.jpg (89KB, 1024x683px) Image search:
[Google]
89KB, 1024x683px
I am trying to quit smoking weed.
I say I quit, but after a month passes by I always end up buying another gram. I then say it's the last but a month goes by and I always buy another
Any advice on how to quit forever?
4 Posts / 1 Images
View this topic
>>
You only smoke a gram a month?
>>
You'll eventually grow out of it.
Really.
>>
>>18092733
Like 3 grams a month tops.
Doesn't seem like a lot but I'm planning on having kids in the near future
>>18092735
I'm 29 and I haven't got rid of it yet
Anonymous
Dealing with obsession when in isolation 2017-03-01 09:45:11 Post No.18092650
[Report] Image search: [Google]
Dealing with obsession when in isolation 2017-03-01 09:45:11 Post No.18092650
[Report] Image search: [Google]
File: 4565464543.png (1MB, 1664x1574px) Image search:
[Google]
1MB, 1664x1574px
Dealing with obsession when in isolation
Anonymous
2017-03-01 09:45:11
Post No. 18092650
[Report]
[View this topic]
What's the best way of ridding yourself of an obsession with someone when you have no other interaction with anyone, online or extraneous to that?
I've been obsessed with the person in question for two years now and recently it landed me in legal trouble.
4 Posts / 1 Images
View this topic
>>
make friends and hang out with them a lot.
>>
Find a hobby/activity that you are interested in and throw yourself into that. Depending on the hobby it might help you find friends with common interests; otherwise, you can invest that excessive energy and thought into something productive that improves you as a person.
And, if financially possible, get a therapist. If you're obsessed enough to get into legal trouble, this isn't the sort of shit you can break based on some anon's advice.
>>
>>18092650
find a hobby that you enjoy, such as video games, writing, etc. and look for local events for those hobbies. it will be much easier to make friends if you already have something in common with them
Anonymous
How do you deal with someone that hates you? 2017-03-01 09:31:57 Post No.18092610
[Report] Image search: [Google]
How do you deal with someone that hates you? 2017-03-01 09:31:57 Post No.18092610
[Report] Image search: [Google]
File: 449531-48814-5.jpg (13KB, 260x196px) Image search:
[Google]
13KB, 260x196px
How do you deal with someone that hates you?
Anonymous
2017-03-01 09:31:57
Post No. 18092610
[Report]
[View this topic]
To put this in the shortest way possible. I have 2 online friends that I have known since 2007. Up until last year, I thought we were pretty close. We met in real life and stuff.
One of them has a childhood friend, that is also apart of the circle. He's closer to them than I am I guess, which wasn't the case years ago.
He has Aspergers and he is incredibly hard to deal with. For a long time I tried to just ignore his behavior, but then one time I called him out on it and he's been making it impossible to talk to them ever since. I have completely given up on trying to stay in contact with the one he is childhood friends with, but I'd prefer to not have to do the same with the other friend.
The guy with Aspergers will literally just kick me and ban me, no matter what I do. The guy I still prefer to stay friends with tries to stop it, but in the end I'm always exiled. I have tried to make peace with this person, and there has been times where I have to pretend I'm a different person and not talk just so I can stay in the group chat/game with them.
Is there anything I can do in this situation? The last time I had any contact with the Aspergers guy was over 6 months ago, and I just tried to join a game of Overwatch with them and got instakicked.
3 Posts / 1 Images
View this topic
>>
>>18092610
If the other guy wants to talk to you, he will contact you.
>>
>>18092629
We play talk and play games occasionally, but due to not being able to stay in the group I'm left out of a a lot of shit.
Anonymous
I allow you to kill yourself. 2017-03-01 08:49:21 Post No.18092520
[Report] Image search: [Google]
I allow you to kill yourself. 2017-03-01 08:49:21 Post No.18092520
[Report] Image search: [Google]
I allow you to kill yourself.
Anonymous
2017-03-01 08:49:21
Post No. 18092520
[Report]
[View this topic]
Life is all about perspective.
But..we are not able to change it that easily.
I compare a lot of feelings with drugs cause when taking drugs our brain receives chemical connections that make us happy in most cases.
Same thing with sadness.. We are sad because we received information that our brain interprets as „sad“ and that is when he (brain) releases chemicals that make a feeling know as sadness.
But what if we interpreted todays sad situations as situations that make us happy, we would have a totally different perspective on every thing.
And I am using quite plain sources here (sadness and happiness) because I lack words to describe the change of perspective and understanding of life in general.
The reason why its hard to „change perspective“ is because trough out the years of evolution we taught our brain to react to things in ways we call „normal“ or „usual“ in this society.
And I am sure we didn't do it on purpose either, but because of lack of information.
„I don't agree, I think we can control ourselves if we learn how“
We can, but its hard to control ourselves with every thing that is already set in our brains trough evolution.
I see it as if we are one part „US“ and other part our brain, but then every thing we think about is based on our past experiences that our brain experienced, and WE ARE our brain.
Here it gets confusing for me cause it's a „fight“ against ourselves pretty much..
I want your thoughts.
5 Posts / 1 Images
View this topic
>>
>>18092520
The world is as it is whether we like it or not. I, too, am a big fan of LSD. Do not end your life due to a realization you had while you were on it.
>>
>>18092523
I never tryed LSD
>>
Your emotions don't stem from the brain, they are produced their, but that is because your brain is your meatbag control room. A great many things can influence emotional from subtle sounds and waves to not so subtle visual stimuli.
You must see your body as a receptor, a vessel, in which you are the pilot.
You take in stimuli, let's talk about social stimuli since I sure that is mostly what your talking about. And your sensors receive this, eyes pick up visual cues and ears take in what is being said, this being automatically compared to a 'norm' that you've come to accept, from there your brain will make a response stimulating the nerves responsible for producing the chemicals it wants. Now you will find you largely feel emotion in your stomach right, this is the end result of the chemicals being released/mixed, once you become familiar with the feel of different emotions, it is possible to enduce them at will by forcing that feeling over yourself
File: 1438584815727.jpg (57KB, 500x694px) Image search:
[Google]
57KB, 500x694px
What is the optimal way to lose your virginity? I don't want to regret losing my virginity to the wrong person or at the wrong time/place.
I've been advised before to get a trusted friend to do it for me. Is that something I should seriously consider? How do you even break the ice to ask for such a favour?
I'll wait until I'm in a serious relationship if I can but given my situation that might never happen.
Disclaimer: I know it's not a race and I'm trying to be careful, but I'm in my late twenties and don't want to wait until I'm 40 or 50.
5 Posts / 1 Images
View this topic
>>
What do you mean, 'optimal way'? That entirely depends on what you want
>>
fast and loose
make your first time mediocre and unfulfilling so you get right back on the fucktrain
>>
I imagine a very awkward conversation following such a request.
My honest advice would be to hire a prostitute. Take a trip to a place where it's legal and get it legitimately to avoid any moral quandaries.
File: evuLution.png (61KB, 1024x768px) Image search:
[Google]
61KB, 1024x768px
>Be me
>Be 17
>No interests
>Shut-in, no job, no money
>Antisocial as fuck
So I don't have many talents, but I think I am reasonably good at problemsolving. Another strong point of mine is my determination to accomplish things I want to accomplish. And since I really like doing computer shit, I almost naturally tumbled into the world of code.
The thing is, I am only 17, and I am 2 years away from finishing highschool, so I can't study computer sciences just yet. But as I said, I WILL accomplish anything I set my mind to, but I don't have the funds or social skills to get good at writing scripts and networking etc..
How should I go about gaining knowledge and skill in things ranging from encryption to scripting? Google and trial and error are painstakingly slow I have found.
4 Posts / 1 Images
View this topic
>>
>how do I get started writing scripts
open up a text editor, type some JavaScript , render it in the browser.
>>
>>18092451
I already know how to write scripts in JS and PHP and how to implement it in webpages. But how do I gain knowledge on writing "real" programs.
>>
To be more specific; I am really interested in the security side of ICT. I'd love to learn how it's done and get really good at it, but where to start?
When I put my head/chin on my hands like this, the inner part of my right ear feels tingly. Anyone know why? Can't find anything on this
3 Posts / 1 Images
View this topic
>>
>>18092427
"Tingly" in what way?
You must be pressing either a nerve or a vase.
>>
>>18092440
I don't know how else to describe it. It feels like a tingling, maybe numb sensation inside my hear. Like a hair itch that I can't scratch.
File: Fruit_Punch_1024x1024.jpg (93KB, 1000x669px) Image search:
[Google]
93KB, 1000x669px
>be smalltown boy
>move to a big ass city
>install Tinder because why not
>get matches
>women take literal days to respond
>conversations die after 5-6 messages because they stop responding
How do I step up my game?
5 Posts / 1 Images
View this topic
>>
You're probably ugly imo
>>
>>18092399
I'm not. Also, I wouldn't get matches at all
>>
>>18092401
Then you must be boring an uninteresting