How do I stop being a coward? I hate it so much. Just in general, I can't find the courage to do simple things, let alone follow my ambitions.
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>>18087459
You have to step up and confront your fears. do shit that you normally cant summon the courage to do.
There is no easy answer. You just gotta nut up.
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>>18087459
There is a saying that a hero is a coward in a corner. Put yourself in that corner.
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>>18087459
Try to find your fear. No matter how ugly it is, your fear is also a part of you. Accept and make a peace with it, then proceed to take a one step forward despite knowing it exists.
For your ambitions, like other has said, put yourself in the corner. Think hard and desparately about your ambitions, think about how very important they are to you and you're one step to losing them.
Make it your mindset that your ambition is always one-step away to be lost forever, so it could fuel you into action where you'd rather trying and fail than being coward who prefered to stand wathcing them lost.
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>overlseep
>run to work, not late but feeling tired and ruined the whole day, like I haven't slept at all
>stretching in the morning is a must for me, didn't do that and it's just monday.
>go back home with the idea of writing and drawing
>too tired to do that shit, literally lied to my only friends I won't go online because I had something to do (my only friends are on the internet)
>not tired enough to sleep in the hours I'm not at work constantly and forget I even exist
>spend idle time in front of my laptop, slowly building up into a depressive state as I realize it's already 12:06 AM (writing this) and I haven't done ANYTHING at all. Not a thing. Haven't written a word, drawn a line, listened to any music even. I just did.... something.... on the internet, not even sure what
What is wrong with me /adv/ and how do I snap out of it? I used to be pretty active last year, had a pretty good time. My work is not even that bad because I get home pretty early by all standards, while having to wake up at a relatively good hour (work from 8 to 3)
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>>18087372
Go to bed earlier. All your problems come from not getting enough sleep.
>nah i get enough
Trust me its clear you need to get more sleep.
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>>18087380
So everything, from not "feeling like it" to sometimes being blatantly suicidal comes from not getting enough sleep?
How much is enough though? I sleep 6 hours a minimum every night, mostly 7 or 8, sometimes 10.
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>>18087386
10 as often as you can.
Not even kidding. All the people you see in life with so much energy have it because they go to bed at 8 or 9 every night.
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Today it's come to my attention that my friend might be a compulsive liar or a pathological liar. Our mutual friend has came to me and has been concerned about my friend lying about things that are relatively small. My friend also said that he is hiding something that he's afraid to tell us because he lied about it. How can I tell if my friend is a pathological or compulsive liar? Is there anything we can do to help him?
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Please help
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>>18087300
just leave him alone. Fuck mind your business. If he was a compulsive liar he would be lying all the fucking time about really obvious shit. Its seems he just has some shit he doesn't want to share.
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I'm a common-sense idiot. I've known it all my life but that fact has made me depressed this past year. I always have to fidget to find the most effective solution to everyday problems that I'm not used to doing. Like for example sometimes I'll try to open a plastic package with my teeth instead of grabbing a fucking knife. I cannot think quickly at all and if I attempt to, I panic and mess something up. I'm also a very simple slow learner and cannot improvise worth shit. Like if I use like for example a machine that I've never seen before I'll sheepishly get someone else to help me, and then realize how fucking easy to it was afterwards. I am complete shit at locating things, even if they're right in front of me, and I don't know why. Someone has to say, "It's right there," and I'll be like "Fuck, i didn't see it." Related I guess to this is my terrible sense of direction. I'm also unbelievably clumsy, and can't stop dropping/spilling things.
As a kid/teenager people have called me "smart," now i know they were lying to be nice, I'm a fucking retard.
Advice for these feels? I tried accepting these about myself, but it has just depressed me.
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Common sense is also life experience. I was total common sense idiot until I moved out and got a job and payed bills. Now I'm basically Niccolo Machiavelli when it comes to having social awareness and common sense.
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>>18087282
I kinda suffer from the same thing...
I think "common sense" to some degree comes from how you're feeling and your level of self esteem.
If i've been really depressed and introspective, I find it hard to do the simplest things like you say.
On the other hand I find that if im working hard on something, or if i've just finished a hard day of work (doesnt happen often) i'll have a pretty "dont give a fuck" kind of attitude when i finally relax, and these sorts of problems disappear.
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Dumb social media stuff 2017-02-27 09:19:26 Post No.18087237
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So someone has threatened to (or maybe already has) screenshot comments I made on a social media post that really aren't bad, but if sent to an HR department and paired with a complaint in 2017 could lead to at least minor issues that I'd rather not deal with.
I stand by the comments I made, and to be frank, I've been meaning to put in my 2 weeks notice at my job anyway, but it's just such a bitch move that I'd be a little annoyed if I lost a job based on some dude on the internet.
How do I respond to this either with the guy or with my HR department if it's brought up to me?
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>How do I respond to this either with the guy or with my HR department if it's brought up to me?
Tell them it must be fake. laugh at it. move on. Your only guilty if you admit it.
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Its current year, and you must be careful about what you post on a linked social account. Employers disassociate themselves with that. If you get caught, apologize. You might only get a slap on the wrist. But there's a reason I don't have any social media. So much shit can bite you in the ass. Old photos of drinking. A rant on "I hate this person stupid piece of shot". Someone stalking you by seeing your location and going there.
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So...deny or apologize? lol Gotta say I was leaning towards deny, because I don't know how anyone could implement me on something if I just say it was photoshopped or I was hacked.
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Rules of thumb to give commitment the green light 2017-02-27 09:02:59 Post No.18087193
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So a buddy of mine that's married offered a small group of friends some advice about relationships. He said generally, if there are only 3 things that get on your nerves about the person - you're probably safe to settle.
I've had a constant debate with myself about my current gf that I've been dating for 2 years. I have a bad pattern with women in the past that I get restless and wonder who else is out there. Some pretty bad grass is always greener syndrome.
/adv/, what is your opinion on my friends "three things" advice? should the number be higher? should people not settle for less that exactly what they want?
also do you have any rules you abide by or would offer to other people considering if they should lock someone down or not? ways to know you are certain about your decisions etc.
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>>18087193
If I had to narrow it down to three things I would have to say they're "does she respect me, is she considerate, and is she responsible?"
Those three things cover a lot of bases. People live a long fucking time, you shouldn't get married to anyone you don't feel comfortable being with for that long fucking time.
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>>18087193
Gross over simplification.
Married 10 years here. You can work out annoying things over time. What really matter is the positive feeling you have for the person. I know its cliche but you should feel whole when you are with them and a little empty when they are not around.
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>>18087193
the grass is greenest where you water it
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Hey adv, I'm a senior in college and I'm losing motivation in my classes. I know these ones actually matter a little bit, but I just don't care any more.
When I first got to college I was a way harder worker, but now I think I'm just jaded and I wanna just get a job
I just feel like my actual classes arent that important. College has helped me by boosting my resume and allowing me to get certifications in things that will also help me get a job. I'm an industrial engineering major btw.
I don't wanna end college on a bad note, can someone help me get that motivation for classes back?
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>>18087120
No, we can't. If motivation for a job isn't enough, what the fuck are we gonna do? Don't be such a baby, you're going to have to do a lot of things you won't enjoy in life, and this is one of them. you're lucky this one actually has a reward at the end.
>actually jaded 33 year old
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>>18087120
I can't relate to you as a biochem major, I think the defining difference being that you can get a decent job at the gate. So I want to say that you should remember you have a long carreer ahead of you and this first job probably won't be your last, you're going to have to keep working very hard and going beyond what you are now for the rest of your life. So just keep it on your mind that if you want to be successful in your field and ultimately your life, your current mentality is going to hold you back. Remember that every moment counts and your sub par attitude right now might leak into future aspects.
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>>18087132
This is what I have been kinda thinking in the back of my mind. I'm just getting lazy and I hate to admit it.
Not sure if this is approptiate but does anyone know where can I find a dress like this?
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heat pours from my eyes
achy legs, back keep awake
stuck mind grinds away
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>>18087088
>Not sure if this is approptiate but does anyone know where can I find a dress like this?
Google 'sheer slip', maybe add the color of your choice. It's not a dress.
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>>18087088
that's not a dress, that's a nightie
you can find them anywhere that sells lingerie
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>tfw gf is in amsterdam for a week with her class getting high as fuck
Is it normal to feel jealous?
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If you're jealous because you want to get just as high, maybe. There aren't as many temptations for straight women as there are for men there. I'd be more worried if she'd get to magaluf or something; drinking and partying gets you hornier than smoking all day and looking cross-eyed from it.
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>>18087072
Weve never done drugs together before and shes gonna be doing shrooms and shit.
Its kinda pissing me off cause i offered her to do drugs months back and she said she'll think about it. Then suddenly shes doing class A psychedelics its pissing me off a bit
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>>18087096
Ah, that way. I get your point, you were interested in exploring this stuff with her, and while she was hesitant then, she is doing it and taking it a step further now. I'd tell her how you feel when she gets back.
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So I have had eczema problems on and off for my whole life and recently it is really bad on the back of my neck and in front of my elbows.
I have tried many different steroid and non steroid based creams and I've tried coconut oils and many other different things but none of them seem to work really.
I would like to know if anyone else has eczema problems and how you deal with them? Also how can I ignore/deal with the insufferable itch
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>>18087038
have you tried rubbing coal tar shampoo on problem spots? apparently that works for some people
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>>18087070
Will that work on broken skin? Because that's how bad the worst ares are getting
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Hi /adv,
I've been talking to a girl on Tinder for 5 days now, and we'll have a drink together in a few. There's one thing different this time though - She's 28 and I'm 20. I'd say that's quite a difference regarding what we are doing with our lives and how we might act.
Have you got any tips for me, or my first date?
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>Got any tips
Yeah, try to be relaxed and enjoy the date itself. Concentrate as little as you can on what to say or how to say it. You're just some dude going out for drinks with a woman
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>>18087024
And do you think I should adress it? Or try to act a bit more mature? I mean, I think I'm mature enough, but is there anything a 28 year old woman likes more than a 20 year old girl?
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Anyone some insight on dating as a whole, or with a (slightly) older woman?
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Why do I have to live? 2017-02-27 06:47:26 Post No.18086800
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It's somewhat unfair. I don't want to live, I don't want to feel anything anymore. Why are people around me attached to me? why does their happiness depend on me being alive? I can value that I have people there for me that cares, and I'm very grateful... I wish I could just vanish, leaving nothing behind, no pain for the others or memories.
I have no faith in the future, I don't think I'll ever be happy. I'm in a very bad mood and I have to make a huge effort for me to have just a slim chance of being happy. I have to show myself happy for the other people so they don't worry, I hate it when my family or friends worry about me. It's unfair for them. I can't keep up this kind of behaviour anymore, I just want it to end.
My psychologist is the only one that knew about this kind of feelings. He told me that I'm a good person, because I have people that loves me. Also, he told me that I would lose all the things I like, all the possible happy moments that I'd have still to live. That my family and friends would be devastated and I wouldn't want that. He thinks that I'm better now, but that's because I don't want him to worry, I'm becoming attached to him too... I know it's just fucking stupid, but I can't help it.
I don't think I'll ever have the balls to suicide, but please, give me a reason to believe that living is still worth it.
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>>18086800
kitchen sinks drink deep
the grime and spittle we pour
down its gaping throat
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>>18086800
Boohoo, life is shit and then you die. Whether it's worth anything depends on what you do with it. Since you decided to whine about it on 4chins, it's pretty obvious it's not gonna be worth it for you.
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>>18086823
Whether you're a king or a street sweeper, everyone dances with the grim reaper.
I will haunt you in your dreams.
We will have fun, you and me.
Especially you.
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I look down on most girls 2017-02-27 06:43:57 Post No.18086789
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I look down on most girls
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My shitty mother is one of the reasons on why I've come to hate women. My father died because of her, and now that I'm just about to be a successful man like my father, she tries to drag me down because "girls are better" shit.
>inb4 virgin nerd
I fucked 2 girls back in my childhood days.
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>>18086789
What kind of advice do you want? There already is a rant thread, if you just want to vent go there.
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Mothers arr horrible. Tell her to swallow sleeping pills.
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>>18086797
Oh, I didn't know there was. Thank you.
>>18086834
Abortion should be legal. I fucking hate her.
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I have fallen in love with a girl who likes me back, maybe on a lesser scale, the problem is that I can feel that she is trying very hard to suppress her feelings and not let me get close so she doesn't like me more, what can I do to fix that? How do I make her show her feelings and follow them?
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>How do I make her show her feelings and follow them?
She is showing her feeling. Even if she likes you a bit, she feels it's better to not get involved. Respect her whishes and move on yourself, too.
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>>18086771
you can't make her do anything. if she's shutting you out she probably has a reason for it. you don't get to "fix" her just because you have an attraction towards her.
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>>18086771
Maybe you should talk to her about what's going on with her.
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Hello /adv/
I was recently accepted into college of applied science and I'm stuck between choosing biotechnology or materials science
if you were me what would you choose and why
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Materials science. Biotechnology marketplace is overcrowded.
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>>18086721
Suzuki attached
until the water departed
and the fingers went