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Then two years ago I decided I wanted to live overseas, she wasn’t that keen at first but eventually agreed and we moved overseas, found a flat and moved in together. Both got jobs (she earns twice as much as me though and still pays for lots of things, meals / trips etc.). All was good, then her Dad got sick, she flew home, he eventually died and she stayed home for 4 months with her family. After her Dad’s death she considered never coming back but eventually did, for a few months she was extremely moody, we got into arguments over nothing, she was constantly criticising me, bringing up the money thing – although she pays at the time she often uses the fact she ‘earns more’ and ‘pays more’ against me during arguments.

During this time I moved on a little bit – there are things in the relationship that upset me, but seem tiny compared to the bigger picture. For instance we tend to do what she wants to do all the time, go places she likes for trips, days out etc etc. She hasn’t really made many friends here so wants to spend all her time with me. And then a lingering feeling, I don’t know what it is, things just felt – samey – boring.

Last year I went overseas for an extended trip and met someone, kissed her the first night. Felt like absolute shit and didn’t kiss her again, but spent every day with her – ending up spending a night together cuddling and talking etc etc etc. Told her I had a girlfriend, she said I was an arsehole and telling her only served to make me feel better and her worse. She was right.

Kept talking to her for a few weeks, even when I was back home. Then broke it off, never saw it.

NYE – spent two weeks in NYC. Didn’t do anything until NYE when a 8/10 QT showed an interest in me, got too drunk, kissed her a couple of times. Felt like shit.

Since moving oversea girlfriend has been pounding the gym (as not many friends) and has never looked better, is definitely an 8 or 9/10 now but still I don’t know. Sparks gone or something, sex comes once, maybe twice a week and is goodish, not great.

One thing I haven’t mentioned is that I literally don’t tell anyone I have a girlfriend, don’t know why, arsehole I guess. Hide my facebook from people etc etc so people don’t know.
There’s a girl at work (let’s call her A) who I’ve always slightly fancied, she’s very pretty, not sure if hotter than girlfriend but maybe, is very different looking though. White vs. Asian girlfriend. Used to like A bit but got over it and moved on, she has a boyfriend – but he’s a dick and she always complains about him – but they live together with shared mortage and it would be too much work to leave him she says.

Earlier this year we all went for a drink after work and everyone bailed, so A and I had dinner and drinks together. Was an ABSOLUTE BLAST. Dared me to kiss her on the lips once – just a peck – so I did, she giggled and loved it. After date my interest went from a 1 – 8.
Been flirting pretty consistently since, just fucking about nothing has happened. Till last night, went out for a big drinks night with work, kept making eye contact, winking, smiling at her etc. Spent much of the night chatting to another very pretty girl at the bar – mostly to make A jealous – I could tell it was working. Got far too drunk, confessed my feelings to A and got back, “I’m not saying I don’t want to, I want to but I just can’t right now. I want to kiss you, I really do but it’s not a good time.”

Bumping for help..... :(

>>18084525
Honestly, you need to go to the dentist. If you fuck something up in your mouth, and trap an infection, it can be extremely costly to get fixed, and you can get very sick. Also brush 2x a day and make aure you floss for heaven's sake.

>>18084419

yolo it

Is it hard to learn a instrument like drums

>>18084417
Post pics of her body first, I dont believe you

>>18084417
Here's how it works bro. She wants to bee the one who puts in tons of work and sweat to become a total fembeast only to find that she can be easily dominated by an above average twerp with no hesitation.

>>18084348
I am but a simple man, tending to a bump.

>>18084461
You don't have to "like" people to be nice, OP, as you clearly illustrate.

I agree, I think as long as you're nice you're fine

>>18084348
Their just gaslighting you bro. Everyone knows that you are a closet douche.

>>18084283
probably because you are fucking beta and made no moves

>>18085322
yes and I regret that. any way to turn this around?

>>18084283
bump

>>18084234

either approach women in those communities (though those are generally online) or don't bring it up until you're at least a few dates into a girl.

>>18084234
I know several Asian girls in university who does this, but you just have to be normal and pretend it's not a degenerate thing. They just go,
"Haha, isn't this funny anon?" Nah, it's degenerate but you get it...

>>18084204

>feel like nobody would want a quiet roommate who keeps to himself

now you're just trying to victimize yourself, people love roommates who are quiet and keep to themselves, even the party animals do becuase it stops any of your shenanigans from interfearing with theirs.

>>18084204
Wouldn't your dad qualify for unemployment?

>>18084189
Give it back Tyrone

>>18084192
But I need my phone to work n shieet

>>18084189
Give it back Tyrone

Yes. If shes not ugly and dying, I see no problem with her if your personalities are so compatible like you said. To what extent does she not take care of herself, though? Because there is a limit.

>>18084337
To list what stands out to me:

Personally I like to take showers daily, and especially after sex -
she'll skip a day usually when shes at my place and that means sex fluids tend to just...stay...
I've asked her about it and it doesn't seem to be an issue to her, which is strange considering you'd think you'd wanna keep your cooch clean.

She's also gotten sick 3(4?) times in the 6 months I've known her, which really concerns me in the long run because I almost never get sick. This is probably because she doesn't eat nutritional foods, which doesn't help me because I've been trying hard this year to eat healthier.

Teeth brushing seems to be sporadic as well.
Sometimes they're white, but often times there's plaque, which less then savory.

Other stuff like minimal hair-dressing and makeup is a thing, but that's not as concerning.

>>18084372
I should say that had I known all these things before getting to know her, I'd probably have broken it off then, but its hard to justify leaving someone once you know you get along with them so well, and that doing so will really hurt them.

>>18084113
Fuck the first one

>>18084113
It's never a 100% until you bust that nut.

>drop out of hs
>go to college

What? I think your prof is experiencig early onset dementia because all you've typed screams 'bad idea'. Finish hs. Then go to college. You're not the only intellectual in a 600 mile radius, it sounds like a scam or he's grooming you for something.

>>18084075
>I'm legitimately the only person within say, 600 miles that is intelligent enough to read anything that isn't a preschool level book
>obviously exaggerating but you get the picture
Why do I get the feeling that this is the opposite of the truth?

I obviously said I was exaggerating, to get you a better picture, I'm classified as a native american, as a result, I can get into college without much of a hassle. the area I live in is over 70% hispanic, and the actual schooling system is dying, generally. really, the school is not about schooling as much as it is about control.

literally nobody knows the difference.

Don't know, don't care. Haven't even heard of the latter.

Honor 6x . It's the better/newer p9 lite

Is there any way you can get a peek inside their house/apartment/whatever and scope out the situation?

Maybe come over with an offering like a toy or something.

Three words: child protection services

>>18084064
Police told me not to associate with them, I kind of agree. When I say they are crackheads I mean it.

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C'mon, why can't people put a little more effort before shitposting?

>>18084028
I assure you I am serious.