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Plenty of able bodied people also have trouble finding a job.

Someone post the story about the guy from /k/ and the blind girl. You know the one.

How is she being supported now? Unless her disability is chronic homelessness, being in a relationship doesn't mean you now pay for everything.

>>18518967
She moved here for a job contract creating something related to help blind people. But the contract ended and wasn't renewed like she thought it was going to be. She's got savings and I'm thinking some parental support to stay unemployed for a few months but eventually she would have to move back across the country.

Get a job you hate and do it until your soul has broken. Then you will be a man.

Self discipline

>>18518894
go to prison a boy, come out a man

No, but a doctor would. Also it might be an STD like crabs causing the itching.

>>18518857
Really? How is it an std? I did nothing that would give me anything like that. And no im not going to the doctors.

>>18518849
Don't beat your dick in the shower dumbass

>>18518681
Howd u find out she has no clue on anything sexual? If it was a convo with her you shoulda (and still can when the moment is right) tell her if she is interested in learning. Begin slow with a kiss on the lips and go from there.

I'm not looking to fuck her right now. We're both virgins by choice due to morals and religion.
Anyhoo, I found out because her brother said foreskin or something and she said like what's that. Then I said it's part of the dick and its forcibly chopped off of babies, like Muslims do to clits. Then she asked what a clit was, and her friend pulled up a tampon insertion diagram and she had no clue still and asked what a hymen was too. Eventually she just said she has no clue how sex works at all and that porn is evil and Jewish and that she's just let her future husband show her everything

>>181518686
Sorry the thing didn't tag you

I forgot to mention that I feel I can't really connect with others, to put an example my classmates, we talk and I make jokes, laugh and all that but I don't feel really close.

Mate this might sound random, autistic and pretty dumb but how often do you masturbate ? Do you know about NoFap and have you tried it ?

I'm 24 and missed the golden years. Use your age while you still got it. Plenty in college get laid while still studying I suggest you do it, you will never encounter a population density of single/slutty girls ever again after college. Make a Craigslist hookup ad and get a milf even.

Allergic to the collars your lady makes you wear?

>>18518714
No lady, no collars. Yesterday I wore sunblock. Could that be it?

>>18518724
Is it your first time wearing that kind of sunblock? I don't think it'd cause a rash on only your neck unless that's the only place you applied it...

No, absolutely not. It is a private act to choose to show yourself to someone else. Actively setting up someone you supposedly like, so he makes himself vulnerable while having no idea it's a trap, is immoral yes. Just fantasize like people have done since the dawn of mankind.

>>18518476
No, it wouldn't be okay. It's dishonest, and it just shows that he can't trust you or this friendship.You're a very shitty """friend"""".

>>18518476
is that what friends do to each other? You're a literal faggot that doesn't deserve his friendship to be quiet honest with you. Not even trolling. Thats the sad part.

Honestly, bite the bullet, bring it up, she won't like it but from what you've said it's something that needs to be confronted. Has she had any trauma in her life (that you're aware of?). You need to bring it up in a way that doesn't make her feel like there's something 'wrong' with her but that maybe there's some shit she's avoiding and it could be a benefit to her if she confronted it

>>18518409
I don't think bringing it up is a bad idea. She has brought up in the past, usually when things are REALLY bad, that she should go to a therapist and see what's up.

I'll try talking to her. As far as trauma, nothing I know about, and she's told me pretty much everything as far as I know. But obviously the whole point of trauma is maybe it's been repressed?

Thanks.

>>18518421
She should see a therapist, that kind of behaviour doesn't just happen, there's always a root. And exactly, trauma quite often is repressed and it could come from anywhere, it could be something truly awful, it could be from some off hand comment by a person that resonated and stuck with her. Either way it's definitely something she should explore, if anything for her own mental health. I hope it works it for her and for you guys.

>>18518298

well read your fucking contract you dumbass

if it was a handshake, then you need to take him to court. you're owed whatever hours you worked there, because you assumed what any reasonable human being would assume, that you worked for an hourly wage.

tell him that and visit your lawyer uncle. you pakis are all related anyways :D

>>18518311
>>18518311
The problem is I wasn't given any contract. The only thing I got was a phone call, and next day a shirt.

>>18518311
And I seriously can't afford court cases. Legal system in Pakistan is very beautiful to trust it.

A good starter choice is don't get a credit card. Just get a debit card and stick with that until you feel comfortable enough financially to get a credit card and just pay off the fees of the credit card through your debit card.

>>18518228
I have a debit card and with the job i'll be getting, financially I'll be able to make payments on it monthly easily.

>>18518217
You want to have a stable source of income before applying for a credit card. Also, don't be a person who has a ton of credit cards. I don't understand the real mechanics behind it but getting a bunch of credit cards will make your credit score look like shit. Closing credit cards can also make your credit score look like shit. Rule of thumb is the fewer the better.

Do not treat credit cards like free money. Always pay bill statements in full, do not just pay the minimum. Paying only the minimum will not look good on your credit score and you'll get fucked in the ass later by APR.

Another thing to do is never max out your credit card. Looks really bad. Rule of thumb is to stay under 1/3 of whatever the limit is. Ex-> $3000 then stay under $1000.

Probably other stuff I could mention but yeah, unlike what some retards believe, credit cards are not free money.

>>18518204
your local library?

>>18518204
I guess that google scholar is your friend here.
there must be plenty of scientific articles in the subject, probably some reviews as well

They all same the same thing and lack the depth i need. I just moved so i didnt think about the library i will look into that as well

>>18518100
Why not just sleep with her and not tell your gf? What's the problem here?

>>18518100
humble bragger detected.

you already know the answer to your own question, so why post at all? fucking loser

>>18518100
Loyalty is truly dead.

>>18518088
>I wouldn't feel justified leaving her because of something she can't control. But what else can I do?
Shit bro you got your own life to think about as well. She can do whatever she wants, but you're not obliged at all to be okay with anything. If it's too much, it's too much. Tell her either something has got to change (whatever that is, is for you to decide) or you're out. Don't be (passive-)aggressive about it, it's just the way it is. If it doesn't work out, that's okay too.

>>18518098
I guess that's what it comes down to. But I dunno if I can live with myself having done something like that to someone in need. Especially considering the effect it might have on her already fragile psyche.

>>18518119
If she's entirely dependent on you, you're not in a healthy relationship. And you can't sacrifice your own life and dreams because of that. She HAS to get her shit sorted. You can help her, but if things don't get better after a while, man, you just owe it to yourself to search happiness elsewhere.

My honest opinion - and I'm not trying to be harsh - is that you stayed way too long with her already, which only made things worse.

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>>18518069
Shameless bump

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>>18518183
Combo attack

>>18518069 (1/2)
Oh wow. That's a lot. I'm a guy, had nowhere near your amount of problems but at some point I was also very conscious about my body and without many friends. I was being a full on white knight back then. Until at one point I decided to basically stop caring. Be cold and cynical, not chase people but be chased by them. It was still ill-reasoned fantasy, but it made me basically roleplay someone more confident. I was sometimes a jerk, I am not proud of that time in my life. But it got me capable of sometimes just coming up to people and talking. Whenever I'm afraid of fucking things up I take a mental step back and think about what's the worst that could happen. And I don't mean embarrassment. I mean real, physical consequences. Will someone get hurt? Will this destroy my future chances at something? Will this fuck me up? If not - then it's the perfect opportunity to challenge myself and go for it. And from then on things usually go smoothly. Just be polite, show interest in other people and don't downplay yourself. I know how it feels to feel like a bother, but believe me, most of the time it's just you who thing that.

As to body consciousness - I started coping with it when I somehow got in a relationship. When someone really important to you tells you that you're beautiful it really works. But I'm alone now so I just try to not think about it. If it helps I can tell you that if someone falls for you your body will most likely seem awesome to them anyway. This, and things depend heavily on how you play this. Some nice clothes instead of an old tshirt can make all the difference between looking arousingly curvy and looking overweight, for example.

If you identify as a female, to the point where you'd actively try and change your gender, how can you possibly go back to being the gender you wanted to change from?

>>18518044
That's a long story.

>>18518044
honestly, this