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Self-Compassion Works Better Than Self-Esteem
Boosting your ego won't make you feel better. Instead, try talking to yourself like you would your best friend.
It means treating yourself with the same kind of kindness, care, compassion, as you would treat those you care about - your good friends, your loved ones.
"I shouldn't have failed, I shouldn't have had this issue come up in my life." And this sense that "this shouldn't be happening," as if everyone else in the world were living perfectly happy, unproblematic lives. That type of thinking really causes a lot of additional suffering, because people feel isolated and separated from the rest of humanity.
So, when we have self-compassion, when we fail, it's not "poor me," it's "well, everyone fails." Everyone struggles. This is what it means to be human. And that really radically alters how we relate to failure and difficulty. When we say, "Oh, this is normal, this is part of what it means to human," that opens the door to the grow from the experience. If we feel like it's abnormal, this shouldn't be happening, then we start blaming ourselves.
Another one we talk about, actually, believe it or not, is physical touch. The physiological compassion system is triggered by the main three triggers, which is physical warmth, gentle touch, and soothing vocalizations (an ahhh sound), so it's amazing what you can do with a gesture. You know, putting your hands on your heart, or something for you that's supportive. What happens is your physiology calms down and the caregiving system gets activated and helps facilitate the talking to yourself in a kinder way. I always tell people, yes it is touchy-feely, but don't underestimate it because we are mammals at the end of the day.
https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2016/05/why-self-compassion-works-better-than-self-esteem/481473/?single_page=true
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This has helped me a lot, anon. Well it did when I practiced it.
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Kay'
Probably won't do it though
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>Another one we talk about, actually, believe it or not, is physical touch. The physiological compassion system is triggered by the main three triggers, which is physical warmth, gentle touch, and soothing vocalizations (an ahhh sound), so it's amazing what you can do with a gesture. You know, putting your hands on your heart, or something for you that's supportive.
nofap confirmed for evil
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Just to get things clarified for all of you fucking cucks, futa isn't gay, and no matter how much shitposting or trolling you do, there isn't anything you retards can do to change that. It's literally been proven that a penis present on a female instead of a vagina has no correlation to male attractiveness. I am not attracted to men, plain and fucking simple. There's literally no difference between a futa and let's say, a large girl with a strapon doing you.
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>>36968557
>there's literally no difference
stop fucking using the word literally in every other sentence, you aren't even using it right. Yes, there is a literal difference, one is flesh and the other is manufactuted. Jesus.
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>>36968557
Has anyone ever found a source for that damn pic?
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>>36968557
You are bisexual, just accept yourself and move on
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chart robot thingy thing thread. These are pretty boring on sock because of all the normies, so i figured I'd come here for some nice autistic charts.
And don't forget to rate other people charts.
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Bonus template though the other is probably better.
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More minimalistic chart for the less autistic. Can we get some messages in though?
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hello normies how're you doing today?
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how can 8/10 guys browse 4chan? this guy posted on /fit/
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>>36968523
If you're reserved and not an obnoxious fuck, women will literally never approach you unless you look like a god
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>>36968523
bro why are you reposting me on r9k that's pretty fucked
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>>36968523
Because /fit is the most normie thread on here
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All beta weaklings should be feminized and be slaves to chads and stacies. I'm one and I accept my destiny.
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go on hrt then,fag
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>>36968518
>be sissy trap
>dont use super powers to walk through life over the backs of Chads
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>>36968539
Of course sir!
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How's your life robots?
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Crunk
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>>36939270
Perche voglio potere parlare con la gente quando sono in Italia
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Its okay. I am currently being a NEET and sky high anxiety and worthlessness, but I have a fiance so instead of mooching off parents I mooch off a bf. I can pretend that my minimal chores and cooking constitute a real job called "homemaking". Not bad.
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Feels bad when normies have ruined suicide,
its too mainstream, how am i supposed to die now?
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>>36968354
This is the most robot post I've read in a while. Well done. Maybe you should just learn how to be normal I guess.
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Die in combat.
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>>36968354
Death by cop, after killing normies of course
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>tfw thick japanese mommy gf
This isn't fucking fair. There is literally no way for me to accomplish the goal of obtaining a qt japanese mom.
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>>36968284
>tfw no sumo gf
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>>36968301
do women sumo wrestlers even exist? I'm pretty sure they're banned
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Really?
It seems the only women who talk to me these days are older, sexually frustrated japanese ladies.
I need to get out of this city.
>mfw testicular cancer
i will miss you lads
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that's completely shit news my dude.
my dude longe boy survived his ball cancer, he's only got one ball but he's alive now.
apparently smoking shit tonnes of weed and doing oils helped him a lot.
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Just get your balls chopped off. Its not like you're going to make any use of them anyways.
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>posting about cancer on 4chan
No one believes you Op but it's okay because it doesn't matter if no one cares
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How do I get on a regular exercise plan? 2017-05-12 06:11:28 Post No.36968225
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I always say I'll start but I hardly eat and I feel tired and lazy all the time. I need help and motivations.
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You just have to start. You'll soon see progress and want more.
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>>36968225
I recommend strength training and managing your diet. Cardio is absolute hell and it never gets any better unless you have good running genes (have long legs, get "runners high")
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Eat something! You can't workout if you don't have energy!
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Who /only child/ here? How has it affected you as a robot?
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probably made me a robot if I'd have had a sister I'd have tried to sex her
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Who /memesnatchniggerdick/ here?
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>>36968211
If you had a sister you'd probably know better, I have 3 sisters and I feel no sexual attraction to any of them.
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okay im starting on an easy level. not millionaires yet. i made a thread a few days ago about wanting a doctor or med student boyfriend by volunteering at a hospital. i live near hospitals and med schools so im going to start volunteering and also download tinder, get okcupid and swipe right on all the doctors/med students :)
i am also going to swipe for anyone who works at goldman sachs and morgan stanley (investment bankers)
is this a good plan?
pic unrelated
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Go drink battery acid
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>>36968175
Fuck a doctor or investment banker. You're never going to see them and will always be second to their. What you need is a real man like me. I'm a full time sales associate at Bergdorf Goodman and I make about a 120k and I work less than hours a week
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Why would you ask this on r9k you friggin retarded roastie pile of trash?
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>normies who try to diffuse arguments or break up any kind of discussion about a disagreement
Why do they fear opposing thoughts? Why can they not realize that the lack of resolution that comes from doing this means inevitably two people are going to start fighting again because they still disagree about this thing vehemently? Fuck you if you do this.
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Normies inherently fear confrontation and conflict.
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>>36968150
If two people will never agree, why beat a dead horse?
As riveting as your little pissing contest is, nobody else gives a fuck. Conflict and disagreement are healthy, but let's not be naive here-- attacking someones position will sometimes make them dig their heels in even harder. You're arguing to be right, save face, or simply because you're playing devils advocate.
Give us your context OP, obviously this is something you run into.
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>>36968201
Or maybe people want to do something better than hear two dumbasses argue.
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>tfw you're in your 30s and you primarily masturbate to preteen anime girls
Am I a pedophile?
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Regardless you're an embarrassment
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>>36968126
it's okay. by her own admission, girls her age love dick!
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>>36968126
Image search's not working senpai, wanna source me up?
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>correct somebody because what they said was wrong
>"I bet you're a lot of fun at parties."
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>>36968124
don't worry OP, people like that tend to live a life of unaware misery while you have the opportunity to recognize when you're wrong
as long as you do recognize when YOU are wrong and not just pointing out when other people are
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>>36968124
They're right. You're not. That's why you don't get invited anywhere
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>>36968124
It's because you were being an asshole. Your cynicism and general autism was showing. Learn to be a little lighter and kinder.