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Self-Compassion Works Better Than Self-Esteem
Boosting your ego won't make you feel better. Instead, try talking to yourself like you would your best friend.
It means treating yourself with the same kind of kindness, care, compassion, as you would treat those you care about - your good friends, your loved ones.
"I shouldn't have failed, I shouldn't have had this issue come up in my life." And this sense that "this shouldn't be happening," as if everyone else in the world were living perfectly happy, unproblematic lives. That type of thinking really causes a lot of additional suffering, because people feel isolated and separated from the rest of humanity.
So, when we have self-compassion, when we fail, it's not "poor me," it's "well, everyone fails." Everyone struggles. This is what it means to be human. And that really radically alters how we relate to failure and difficulty. When we say, "Oh, this is normal, this is part of what it means to human," that opens the door to the grow from the experience. If we feel like it's abnormal, this shouldn't be happening, then we start blaming ourselves.
Another one we talk about, actually, believe it or not, is physical touch. The physiological compassion system is triggered by the main three triggers, which is physical warmth, gentle touch, and soothing vocalizations (an ahhh sound), so it's amazing what you can do with a gesture. You know, putting your hands on your heart, or something for you that's supportive. What happens is your physiology calms down and the caregiving system gets activated and helps facilitate the talking to yourself in a kinder way. I always tell people, yes it is touchy-feely, but don't underestimate it because we are mammals at the end of the day.
https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2016/05/why-self-compassion-works-better-than-self-esteem/481473/?single_page=true
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This has helped me a lot, anon. Well it did when I practiced it.
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>>36968607
Kay'
Probably won't do it though
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>Another one we talk about, actually, believe it or not, is physical touch. The physiological compassion system is triggered by the main three triggers, which is physical warmth, gentle touch, and soothing vocalizations (an ahhh sound), so it's amazing what you can do with a gesture. You know, putting your hands on your heart, or something for you that's supportive.
nofap confirmed for evil
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>tfw to intelligant to not hate myself
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>>36968607
this post is reasonably good and deserves a daily reminder reposting format
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>>36968607
Self-compassion also means confronting hard truths in the way that you would be real with a good friend, not just soothing yourself with reassurances. That's one thing it has going for it over self-esteem. I'm sure the article mentions that but I just wanted to point that out for the skeptics.
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>>36971643
you wouldnt tell a friend to kill himself
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>>36971699
Indeed, so neither should you tell yourself to. If you think suicide is "truth" then you're definitely not being compassionate toward yourself.
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>>36971350
it's 2l;dr
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