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We were out eating at a new pop up and my phone ran out of battery so I had to borrow his to take some photos of the food (this was to do with my job, not random instagramming) and came back home. He was in the kitchen and I jumped on his phone to send over the photos to myself - to which he reacted really weirdly. It's never been an issue before in regards to me using his phone so - unfortunately and regrettably - I let curiousity get the better of me.

What flashed up was a message from "Charlie" telling him "I had a dream about you last night x" I glanced further up to see they had both been trying to arrange a time to meet up. My stomach sank. I didn't look any further because I felt terrible for looking in the first place and told myself maybe I was overreacting.

My boyfriend came back into the room and understandably things felt awkward, he kept pressing me on it but because I felt so bad about reading the messages in the first place I didn't say anything. He then left the room with his phone and returned - With the lock on his phone changed (something that hasn't changed in the whole time he's had the phone.) Things continued to feel awkward and so I went to bed. He followed me up ridiculing me for being "paranoid" (even though I had never even mentioned the messages) then showed me his phone in an attempt to reassure me - at which point I noticed he had deleted all the messages between him and "Charlie."

I have since messaged him saying I saw the message to which he's come up with every excuse under the sun possible including "I deleted the messages to see if you had read my phone" (which doesn't even make sense, right?)

It's also worth to note that we generally run in the same social circles and discuss who we've talked to so the fact he's not even mentioned this girls name is a flag to me.

Hes now complaining i don't trust him enough but is it any wonder? Am I right in the way I'm thinking? I'd just like some perspective on this.
Thanks.

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>Over the last 5 years meet 2 or 3 decent females in the dozens I've come into contact with/befriended
>Only 1 of them I saw as a romantic option
>Long story short I was all wrong about her and she's into one night stands
So I've more or less given up on finding "love", that shit's a fairytale. I've always been disgusted by hookup shit, for women it came off as trashy and I could never bring myself to use a person to get myself off, but I've pretty much given up. Even the best girl I've met in half a decade turned out to be doing this so why not anymore? Might as well adapt to this kind of culture, I don't want kids anyways. Is it wrong for me to think that? I mean at my core it feels wrong to just use people to get off but hey the girl I liked is still obsessed with the tinder faggot she met who hit it, quit it, and ignores her so why not? I'm pretty salty, I won't lie, but I've lost hope in females. How do I into hookup/FWB culture? Just fuck my moral up, senpai.

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I have 5 days to get myself to look as fucked-up, run-down and trashed as possible for a day, because of reasons.

I have my clothes prepared, I'll probably stay up the whole night before and I've already quit showering, but I need ideas.

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>complimented this chick
>her face goes completely red
>says i made her blush
>keeps grinning and smiling

Is this good?
What do I do from here?

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Doesn't seem possible. Not as mtf

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Should I tell my boyfriend I'm inbred? Do you think that's a deal breaker?

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Any guys here can give me some advice.

Im in my 20's and I'm not good looking at all, more so ugly would be my guess.

Being in my 20s and having never been on a date in my life, I feel really depressed and sad mostly when around women my age.

I'll save you some time, I did a google search and got advice on how to improve my appearance. I work out(2 years), dress well, skin is clear. The problem is my face I think and im short 5'6.

Basically i just want to not feel depressed about it because it ruins my day and makes me feel like garbage.

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ITT: books which changed your life

pic related

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I'm dating a non American girl and every time I go to her family's house, they speak in their native language 90% of the time.

Although they are able to speak english, I'm lost 99% of the time.

I feel like this creates a barrier between them and I'm starting to hate going over.

Is it wrong that they don't speak English when I'm around ?

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I'm angry at my boyfriend for being overly empathetic to the point of depressing himself (or so I suspect).

I will preface by saying I am aware that I'm an incredibly selfish and unempathetic individual and, no, being that way doesn't bother me.

He's always saying how concerned he is for his friends/family and making fusses over it. He wants to help them any way he can, even when, in my opinion, it's a completely ridiculous gesture and will not actually do anything but stress him out more. I find this very frustrating because:

>I can't relate, I obviously don't feel this way about my friends/family

And

>it just leaves him stressed out and depressed

This is even more frustrating because I cannot help him. I cannot emphasize with his feelings, so I can't even understand him if he were to tell me how he feels.

He has not been eating lately and in general acting depressed, and it annoys me. It kind of disgusts me, even against logic it's like my natural inclination is to think less of him for it.

I am finding myself blaming him for this, too. Even though logically the reason for my anger is probably my own lack of empathy, I'm mad at him for having it. I find myself disliking his friends and family, disliking him for caring about them, etc. I try not to express this openly, as I understand they are important to him and even though it makes no sense to me I am trying to respect that.

I want to be in a relationship with him. I just don't know what to do. How should I be helping him? My first instinct is to just shut myself off to him so I don't have to bother with this, but I know if I do that there is no point to sustaining a relationship. What do 'normal' people do in these situations?

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Has anyone here ever had a hemorrhoid?

I never have before now. I noticed it about at least three weeks ago. It is a fleshy protrusion near the entrance of my anus. It hurt at first, but now it doesn't hurt at all unless I poke at it.

How long should I expect it to be there? Will it go away on its own, or should I be doing something to get rid of it?

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>be friends with this girl
>she's autistic and really unsociable, can't talk for longer about ten minutes about something that doesn't have anything to do with her wanting to kill herself
>tell her i can't deal with her constantly being so negative multiple times, but she doesn't get it, also she keeps blaming me for not humoring her all the fucking time
>finally decide to cut off all contact
>feels good man
>fast foward a couple days
>hear from mutual friend she's been talking shit about me behind my back
>ok
>apparently she already hated me while we were still hanging out
>she even told me things like "i'm looking foward to seeing you" while secretly disliking me and gossiping about me

I haven't felt this betrayed in years. I want to fuck up her life so badly, and I know this is not the way to go, but I can't get this out of my head.

tl;dr how to get over betrayal without resorting to revenge

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What is it like being an attractive person? Looking for both male and female perspectives, feel free to share experiences, musings, whatever

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>gf broke up with me
>start becoming obsessed YouTube dancers

i hate how addictive all the videos are

how do I stop watching?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nhdv0RT_jE0

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Do guys really care that much about roasties/innies?