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Don't you have any regular activities that force social interaction like school or a job? Social skills naturally grow in these situations. If you aren't doing those you should strive to getting there.

...or you could be my waifu.

Get people to talk about themselves when socialising

1. Take pride in your appearance. Take a bath, condition your hair, hell, put on some makeup if you'd like. Dress in a way that gives you confidence and makes you feel attractive.

2. Go out. To the store, to a meet up anything. There are places online where you can arrange to meet groups of people, or if you'd like, just go to the library and try to start up a conversation with a person. Somethin like that. You can't expect to want to do something like this and not step out of your comfort zone.

3. Repeat steps 1 and 2 as much as possible. Isolating yourself is half your misery - we are meant to be social creatures.

Good luck OP.

>>16723792
Start with fingering. That could also be a chance for you to master your finger technique. Do it for like week or two, and try going a tiny bit deeper every time - and after a while she'll be stretched enough to try real sex.

Also, condoms can make sex feel even rougher than normal, so since you're both virgins and there's no risk of STD's, you could try it without condoms and with lots of lube. Just make sure you can pull out on time.

>>16723800
>Virgin
>No Condom
>Pull out in time

Quick question anon how many kids you got?

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>>16723800
OP for the sake of humanity don't listen to this guy

i enjoy my job most of the time

>>16723550
Smart people work at jobs they enjoy.

>>16723550
I work for Woolworths in Australia, both at the Deli and as a Cashier.

I genuinely enjoy it. It's a good environment and the shifts aren't too long and my pay is 24$ an hour, under probation rates. Only problem is I'm not attached to the roster yet, so I only get a call once a week to come in and work shifts, but that should change soon.

It's all about your outlook, son. If you enjoy the people you work with, you enjoy your job. If you enjoy the people you serve/greet/help, you enjoy your job.

It's taken me some time to learn that.

She's sick and you expect her to take time out of her day, when she's exhausted, to see you, because for some reason you can't go and see her? Okay.

>>16723447
She spends all her time at work because she has to, dude. You know, in order to get paid. I think if it were up to her she'd stay home and sleep and never talk to anyone until she feels better.

Going out of her way to give you a hug probably doesn't fill her up with joy when she's sick. Wait until she gets better; then she'll be more likely to want to hug you.

>>16723447
> take time out of her day to see you
She's my fucking girlfriend. Wouldn't it make sense that of the hundreds of people she comes into contact with every day, she'd want me to be in the bunch?

>>16723447
>some reason you can't go and see her
She has a room mate. I don't. I'm not just going to barge in on them in the middle of the night and annoy the shit out of them.

Also, with her work and sleep schedule, she stays up a good 5-8 hours longer than I do. She usually sleeps through the day (making her inaccessible), wakes up to go to work, and then gets off after midnight. That would mean that the only feasible time that we can slip in a little visit is late night during the weekdays. I'm usually winding down by the time she's off, and given that we live pretty close to one another, it makes sense that it isn't a huge deal to drop by.

>>16723447
>She's sick
I think you missed my point anyhow. It's not like I'm steaming angry at her or that I'm telling her to drag herself out of her bed to come see me. My point is simply that she isn't too sick to call out from work, and she's there for a full shift interacting with people in close proximity. We literally haven't seen each other in 2 weeks, which is very strange for us. Am I really not entitled to miss her and want to see her for five minutes?

>>16723334
nobody gives a fuck
posture elsewhere

Posture what?

>>16723334
I had a bf who was sort of famous for being a great bar fighter. Anyway, he was tall and skinny.

My money's on the taller guy. They always have the edge IF they use it.

( the dude on the bottom is hotter except for that gay-ass long hair. Cut that SHIT off. But I like his chub and Pink Floyd shirt. He's got a great mouth. Would hit even tho I dont' like blondes. )

>>16723247
Eat breakfast.

>>16723247
are you a japanese net cafe refugee?
I would try to live a normal productive routine of learning things I like and spend leisure time doing expensive things like drinking margaritas and smoking premium dutch weed on my yatch in the middle of the egean sea

The same things I do everyday already, because money hasn't been an issue for years now.
Read, cook, drink, work.

>>16723091
Wash your shoes.

>>16722708
Can you elaborate on your situation? Did she die or what?

>>16722708
What happened? Why is she gone?

>>16722733
>>16722737
Broke up

>>16722687
You'll either take to it naturally, or she'll be leaving very soon.

>>16722687
You literally just say hey, we are doing this today. You just tell her what you two are doing and when.

She doesn't just want a "BDSM lifestyle" she wants you to dominate her and take charge of her so she can be a submissive.
You need to go over the reins of this relationship in a conversation with her and a fine toothed comb. Possibly look into the contracting portion if she starts pushing boundaries you have no intrest in.
You ask her about what you can start with and three stoplight safe words.
Who do you break character for? Are you restricting her diet? Are you dishing physical or emotional punishments?
Ya'll have to talk.

>>16722338
learn how to twerk

>>16722338
Don't be fat

>>16722338
Have you considered a different cammo style?

>>16722329
You know there are other guys in the state you're living now, right?

>>16722329
>Why don't I just leave?
Well, you're going to have to, if you ever want to be happy again. If he only saw one therapist for 6 months, and nothing changed, then he needs to find another until something works. He doesn't get to just quit and pretend that things are still fine.

>And the cherry on top is that he can get suicidal and depressed when I talk about leaving.
Don't talk about it, because that gives him the chance to use your emotions against you. Just do it. When he's not home, slowly start saving away your money and packing your shit up. If you can get family to help you out, by letting you send your stuff to them, even better.

>He has organized a romantic weekend away and I don't want to be anywhere near him. Although I still love him and I care about him, I don't want to do romantic stuff with him and his soft dick.
Tell him how you feel now, as opposed to flipping out on him during the trip, and simply don't go.

>>16722329
>fucked everyone and everything off to go live in another state
Surely you can rebuild those bridges if you try hard enough and blame him for everything.

>he can get suicidal and depressed when I talk about leaving
Not your problem.

>I don't want to be anywhere near him. >Although I still love him and I care about him
Only one of those can be right at a time. You're lying to yourself if you think otherwise.

Do you trust her? Because if so, that's all that matters

>>16722114
Is she dressing up to kiss up to a boss or get a promotion or something?

Compliment her on how she looks and suggest that both you and her could dress up for your next date.

Wait and see, don't do anything stupid right now.

>>16722114
>>16722114
How often does she get dressed up for you?

you set expectations that were outside of your reality. you also were the one that went out of your way and expected others to do the same. grow up OP.

>>16722001
my expectations seem reasonable.

>>16722001
this

if you give someone a expensive gift just to get pissed off later because they didn't do the same, then it's better to not give anything

>>16721920
You don't

...then why is he still with me?

Except for not continuing to violate his trust, the only thing for you to do is wait. Building trust is only something you can do for yourself.

More importantly though, why'd you cheat and why'd you go back to your bf instead? This may not be worth rescuing.

>>16721915
You now realize relationships are about sex

If you occupy close proximity with someone and aren't having sex its called friendship

Perhaps that's what you desire instead

>>16721915
Go outside to things that interest you or hang out with friends and co-workers more. This widens your social net and provides you with more opportunities to meet someone.

There is no easy answer. Everyone who is in a relationship bumped into their mate somewhere. All you can do is try to bump into more people.

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