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Pretty easy one. Friend's having a birthday at a bar uptown. Invited me, his gf, and a few other mutual friends. He and his gf don't like my gf. Should I tell my gf the situation and go alone, or should I ask if she can come, or should I just show up with her? She wasnt invited.

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Okay so I'm gonna give initials to those involved.
Friend 1 G
Friend 2 B
Friend 3 J
Me H

This was two weeks ago

Okay so G ignored all friends over the weekend and B called H on Sunday crying about how worried he was about G and how they weren't close and how G had been posting that she wanted to get new friends etc
Monday, all friends CALMLY confronted G and poured hearts out, offering care and support and G told friends to go away. That night, H tried to talk out the matter, but G was stubborn, no rude words exchanged. both satisfied it was sorted.
Tuesday, all called out to a room to talk it out, G said it was over she wanted to forget about it. All left the roof satisfied it was done. That night, G texted B to tell him that sh
wanted no more to do with H and she was pulling out of a holiday.
No more contact was made between BHJ and G.
Saturday night, H gets drunk and sends texts to G, asking to sort it out and that G was loved by all friends. Sunday morning, G replies that she doesn't want to be friends with BHJ and isn't going on group holiday.
Monday, G claims H harassed her, H disciplined.
Rest of the week, G spreads nasty rumors about BHJ etc.

BHJ very hurt but still strong together.

Basically, I don't want G to be my friend but I cant cope at all knowing she's being spiteful. None of BHJ have told anyone of the fallout.

*whelp* someone offer me advice on how to actually move on and cope with seeing G daily.

-note- this post was made for BHJ to read together, each is taking this individually at different levels. H being the worst, crying, skin flaking, hair falling out etc. Thanks in advance.

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So what does sex actually feel like to you guys? Is it good? Do you enjoy it? Obviously you do, or otherwise you probably wouldn't do it. Which is exactly my problem: I don't feel anything during sex. It doesn't feel good, it doesn't feel bad, there's just nothing. I get absolutely nothing out of it, which leads to me becoming limp after a few minutes and that's that.

My dick is working fine, as far as I can tell. Masturbation works just fine. I can make it quick or draw it out, it feels good and it makes me horny. Everything my girlfriend does to me, however, doesn't do anything. Blowjobs are like a weird, barely palpable sensation; if I closed my eyes, I couldn't even tell if she's just using the tip of her tongue or has it in her mouth. The same happens during sex, no matter if I use a condom or not. If I don't see what's going on, I can't even tell whether I'm inside her or not. I used viagra once and that worked, allowed me to make her cum, but I myself got nothing out of it.

It's not my girlfriend. I love her, she's very good looking and foreplay always gets me hot. Once I have to actually use my dick, though, it all falls apart because I just get nothing out of it and lose my erection.

It's difficult for both of us. We've been together for three years now and she has been incredibly patient with me, though I fear that at some point kinky sex games and my tongue are just not going to be enough anymore and eventually break our relationship. Not to mention that I really would like to have sex at this point. I suppose I'm still technically a virgin since I never came during sex and my girlfriend is the only girl I ever tried to have sex with.

So this is weird, right? This is not something every guy struggles with?

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How to kiss?

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Dear /adv/, can you share any tips on how to transform from a frowny paranoid nerd girl to something dateable?
Not fat, average looks, zero experience in relationships (not counting crushing on a best friend for 7 years and acting like a childish bitch)

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Do you have protips for discipline and motivation?

Last night I was awake at 5.45 AM dancing with my demons. I took the phone, checked my facebook, it was birthday of one of my female friends.

Casually wandered on her pics, BAM. There were multiple pics of my exgf, 7 years together before she dumped me, and his new bf, which is old as fuck and looks semiretarded. This kind of killed me at start, then I got so enraged. I was, and I am, less than that guy. I'm 28, on med school but obviously late as fuck, should have been a MD like 3 years ago. I am lazy, not interesting, a weight for my family. At this point I just want to graduate asap or kill myself and stop it already. My family even cares for me, they pay for all my shit, I just basically have only to sit all day and study. And yet I get distracted and shit. Please send help.

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So I'm going out with a girl for the 3rd time this Valentine's Day weekend. We've been talking mostly through text for about 2 months and we're really hitting it off so far and it seems like both of us see this lasting for a long time. What's an appropriate gift for this? I really like her, but I don't want to go overboard since this is only our third date. Any advice would be helpful.

I've also brought up cooking a meal for her at home. I'm not a super good cook, but thought it could be fun. Or would taking her out to a nice restaurant be better?

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First time poster here.

I've never been this open about my past relationship with anyone, let alone strangers. Thankfully I don't have to look any of you in the eye.

When I met my ex, she was dating someone else. After we got to talking...I found she had posted nudes somewhere. Twice. After that, a guy who wanted more (she refused) attempted to blackmail her. She came to both me and her boyfriend. (I guess she had developed feelings for me) of course, I was judgmental. I really liked her, and finding this out just made me a bit angry. She shook in fear, was bawling her eyes out and promised me she'd never stoop that low and be "disgusting" again. From what I know, she didn't.

Months down the line, they broke up. During those months I was getting extremely close to her and eventually fell in love with her. I gave it a while after they had broke up (didn't want to be a rebound) and then asked her out. It went well.

We began to have our ups and downs later in the relationship. I was the jealous type. And knowing about her past didn't help me none. During one argument, I completely lashed out. I dob't have screens or logs, but I remember saying something like, "You actually think I trust you? You're a slut. You know that. I should've blackmailed you and never talked to you again instead of being dumb and actually falling for you."

She cried, got angry and broke up with me. I feel remorseful. I feel like maybe it should've ended. But goddammit, why do I still love her? Why do I still keep her necklace around? Why do I still think about her?

She haunts me. I have dreams about her. I can't stop thinking about her. I want to talk to her again but she's just a slut, right? I tell myself that to get over her but it doesn't work. I've posted nudes when I shouldn't have. See? I'm making excuses for her again. What should I do? I don't have the slightest clue. Everything hurts. Remembering the good things hurt. Remembering the bad things hurt worse.

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I'm doing a survey project for school what's the best site to do it

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What do you do with someone who doesn't respect your time?

There's this guy I'm friends with and it's fun to hang out/go to shit with him but he has this trait that just pisses me the fuck off.

>"yeah we can go do that tomorrow"
>the next day
>"sorry man I'm tired" or some other lame excuse like "oh my other friend wants me to go to the store for him" that could have either been done at another time or could have been avoided by just telling them 'I'm going to the gym with anon"
>when he does show up he's 5-10+ minutes late, almost no exceptions

It's annoying because it's like he doesn't respect my time at all. He says we can hang out or go to some place today, tomorrow he'll give me some BS excuse and/or say 'nothing was set in stone man".

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Should I become a carpenter? I'm looking for an easy job that feels rewarding. Carpentry seems like the kind of job that would pay my bills and that isn't very hard at the same time.

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When I was 12, I met this awesome girl (Karen). She was pretty, had very similar interests and liked talking to me. We were "friends" officially but I guess we both had a crush on each other. She moved away when I was 17, and with all the time wasted in school, we never really got a chance to talk properly in the last two years. She gave me a parting kiss, and left. I talked to her twice when I was 17-18, and then we both drifted apart.

I'm not what you would call an "introvert" or a shut-in, but a quiet person. I had a group of friends and many acquantainces during high school, but I'm the guy who initiates a conversation, gives his POV and then hangs in the background. I tend not to trust people easily, and follow a rather strict code.

I'm 18 and half now, and I'm in college (rather reluctantly, and I hate it). There's this girl (Lily) in my class who is STUNNING and seems to like me. She sat behind me on the first day, and a week later, she started talking to me, over rather mundane topics (like, she first initiated conversation by asking me why I was eating french fries in my dorm) (she followed me). It's been three months now, and we've spent quite a lot of time together. We meet almost daily, and she tells me about what she did yesterday. We're still "friends", and we haven't held hands or anything.

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how do I stop being manipulated by my best friend? I don't know if he does it on purpose or if he is just forgetful, misreading, etc.

Examples:
>says we should go out, his treat
>forgets wallet
>always wants to split at restaurant, says he'll treat me to everything when he's got his "career"
>always says "i'm sorry, man" or "do you mind if...?" but it never sounds sincere
>always asks rhetorical questions like "hey, what do you think about doing ____? do you mind driving?" while already getting things together/dressed to go do that thing without expecting my answer

I can't figure out if it's unintentional and he's just narcissistic or if he is intentionally acting naive to manipulate me, because none of his other friends last for very long.

Random intervals with tell me how much our friendship means to him, how I'm his best friend basically family, etc. and idk it just never feels sincere, just like a pua push-pull routine. He also pats, rubs my hair like a grown man will do to a little kid to assert dominance, and it pisses me off but I feel like I'm being over sensitive.

I feel like saying something at this point (after dealing with it for 8+ years) would be ridiculous, like why do I care all of a sudden. And maybe I'm just being over sensitive and I'm subtlety offering this and he's just accepting it, like I'm the narcissist and just blaming my problems on him.

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I have atypical autism (also known as PDD-NOS). It's basically more severe than Asperger's, but less severe than classic autism.
While going through the registration process for a special autism center, I was asked "If we had a magic wand that could make one single issue you have go away, what would that be?".
I responded, saying that it would definitely be the issue I have with social skills and interacting with others. Then, I said that the question was pointless, since they "don't have a 'magic wand' which would make these issues go away".
Then, the counselor replied saying "We asked for it, but it wasn't financed.".

What does this mean? Does it mean that not only does this center ask pointless question, but also has severe problems with funding?

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What can I buy for more privacy/security on my patio? I have a first floor apartment, and everything's pretty open. Any gates or anything that would fit?