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You need to get out of the basement, off the internet, and into a new career in a field that's less stressful and more rewarding, such as carpentry. Learn to work with wood, and you'll find your life improves drastically.

>>16795856

the best way to start over for me has always been to simply start over. i grew up military, so im used to moving. whether its to a new state, new town, or new apartment, the change helps.

if thats not happening i tend to kinda purge my old life. sell or get rid of everything i can, re organize the major furniture, etc. big on dropping people out of my life when i ruined everything or simply cant continue with them too.

>>16795860
yeah I'm used to moving around to and I plan to move by May 1
But there's plenty of work that I need to get done before then and I just feel stuck right now, hard to get myself motivated and moving around

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>>16795790

add stress into the equation. nothing but pleasure shrinks the pleasure center.

>>16795795
The strees, the pain, lone nights thinking how to achieve something, rethink every possible way in a situation just to be prepared on everything, of course the negative scenario came first... And yup, you are definitely right.

>>16795752
Now that you're out of the Army, try a freelance career as a great way of making your money while being your own boss, and meeting a lot of interesting folk. If you develop basic skills in a trade like carpentry, you'll end up being invited into the homes of people from all works of life as a respected craftsman. Everyone from prince to pauper needs a carpenter from time to time, so you'll end up experiencing the whole spectrum of city residents.

>>16795762
Nononono, don't spread that carpentry stuff here mate, I'm looking for a white-collar/pink-collar work that doesn't necessarily have to profitable. I want to expand my experiences with something different. Plus carpentry in my city is heavily unionized, and competitive, requiring years of experience before being taken into a union. On top of that I had a friend ditch the idea all together because his union couldn't find him work-work going to senior members.
I was thinking being a bank clerk, but open to other suggestions.

they don't know

and by they i mean the people in this thread

>>16795714

i avoid going straight for the 'hit on' approach. girls are all getting hit on. all night. at the bar especially. so why would they choose you over anyone else?

mostly connection and chemistry. but by going straight to 'hitting on' you just tell her that shes JUST LIKE EVERY OTHER GIRL. not worth actually getting to know.

so approach a few girls. and chat with them. casually. 'hey hows it going, what you ladies up to tonight?' gauge their reactions. respond accordingly. wait til you find something to asctually connect with a girl over. which one might have a little chemistry. give them each a little attention until one wants it more.

You don't.
Picking up girls at a bar is a waste of time.

>>16795741
I'll try this with my friend when he'll be here ! Right now my other friend is mixing and I don't feel confortable socialising alone. Ley's have some beers !

>>16795709

>am i being too stupid or is this a real problem.

neither. its not a real problem (for you at least, its a real problem for the rest of the dating world imo) and you are actually being really smart.

most of us jump into the first relationship we can manage to find without worrying about how compatible we are. attraction is attraction and once we stick with someone we feel like we have to stick with someone until they do something bad. like its not fair for us to have doubts or lose interest. its crazy.

relationships end. its pretty much the only universal thing about them. and romantic ones are the most fragile of all.

so break up with her. you wont look back and think 'wow shes the one who got away'. not with any seriousness at least. instead you'll be able to look back at what a nice relationship you had and how you were smart enough to end it on a high note, as opposed to waiting until you wanted to fucking murder each other.

as for being happier alone, you think that now but likely wont in the future. probably. I thought the same thing as you during my last relationship, and 3 years later im still single and loving it, so maybe you are like me.

but most people yoyo. and thats okay to. sometimes you want to be in a relationship. some times you want to be alone. the key to balancing this is only being in a relationship when someone particular makes you want that. not just longing for an imaginary someone to fill an imaginary void.

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>>16795664

>TL;DR
>in the middle of the biggest wall of text

>>16795653

that'd be like someone who has never played an instrument in their entire life learning how to violin from scratch

very hard but entirely possible

expect to spend years on very basic things

>>16795653
Google resources for it and I expect you'd be surprised.
Biggest thing you don't have is enough experience to do it safely. That'd be your biggest barrier, if any.

>>16795663
I guess I may as well join a gymnastics club, my primary issue is always travel. No actual clubs for miles.

I'd just love to be skilled in back flips and the like.

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Here you go OP

Maybe science isn't for you - if you're not enthused by the study, you'll find the career equally trying, but if you procrastinate on a job you get fired. Think about left-field areas you might enjoy working in, with rewarding activities and strong employment prospects, such as carpentry.

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>>16795678
Seriously this. I fucking hate people who "love" science. I love the scientific method and everything it's produced.

>>16795644

If it's for a shitty job just download a template or better - write it in Word and lie like crazy. Make up workplaces and shit.

tissues & lotion

>>16795649
Masturbation depresses the hell out of me now.

I don't even know how to tell my sister how much she's hurting me by ignoring me. We always come to each other with our problems.

>>16795629
That's all a matter of perception. You're already a complete person with a full personality. You just have to reconcile that twisted self-perception with reality.

Keep trying stuff until something sticks. Every time you learn what you don't like, you also learn a bit about what you do.

>>16795629

the core belief behind existentialism is that the universe is inherently meaningless, but that our power of choice gives us the option to give our lives meaning.

but to do so we have to at authentically. to do otherwise would be to lose your true self, and then you are no longer a human, so much as a tool of the universe, literally an NPC. finding your 'style' or your 'edge' might make you more defined. it might make you more recognizable.

but you dont want to 'develop' or 'find' some persona. you want to UNDERSTAND who you are.

Ideas ?

>>16795627
Think that you are one year closers to your death.
Stop being a pussys and get friends on the next year. If you're lucky you might get a girlfriend.

>>16795631
Lol we just broke up... And friends i noticed they were all fake so i put distance between us.....

>>16795587
Talk in text as little as possible. If she lives in another country then try to facetime with her more often.

Communication is mostly about your body language and tone, and has very little to do with what you say. Removing the two major elements from it means that you are barely communicating at all, so obviously she'll get bored of talking with you eventually.

If she doesn't want to do anything more then she's probably not worth your time anyway, anon.

>How do I speak in text to people, specifically girls?
As little as posible.

>>16795640
We're both students in college so we really don't have too much time to do that, we mostly just send messages for each other when we finish class. We are in different time zones so it isn't too convenient. I could suggest a more easier program to talk with like Skype though. I agree, text fucking sucks but I just want some strategies for now so I don't sound like a boring rock.

>>16795693
Then find time. Sometimes when I talk to girls I'll use emojis, and stuff like "haha" or "lol" a lot in conversations so that I don't sound too serious most of the time (never showing any sort of emotion in how you talk comes of as pretty boring).

I'd give better advice, but I don't really know your situation.

Try to talk about something in the class, just strike up the conversation, then with something like "what's your number, so we could discuss it later?"

Or ask for Facebook, it is easier to type than to talk.

>>16795577
>Is it too much of a dorky move to write her a note?
Yes it is and that's a pretty terrible idea.

Just ask her for her number one day. If she asks why, just tell her that you like talking to her and you two won't see each other in class anymore soon.

>>16795577
For every fear you face in life, calmly rationalise it. Any irrational fear you encounter needs to be faced and defeated. The sensation will only be momentary. A missed opportunity can last much longer

This may not seem helpful, but just talk to her. And try to smile