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Dwelling on the past, how do you cope? 2016-02-11 18:39:44 Post No.16795340
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Hi /adv/ I was wondering if you could help me.
I have an issue that I've been suffering with for a long time.
The problem I have is that I think too much about mistakes I have made in the past.
If I make a mistake, I will zone in on it and dwell on it. Thinking of how I went wrong in this way and that way.
I will try and resolve and undo anything I feel I have done wrong but I will never feel 'complete' so to speak. At least not for a long time.
Sometimes there are things that can't be undone, and they sting the most.
The things I dwell on aren't something specific which I can't get over. I can generally combat the larger things in life as I feel there is more to learn.
Really it's the little things that everyone goes through on a daily basis that I struggle with.
Losing money, forgetting something, saying the wrong thing at the wrong time, making a bad impression, things like that tend to build up.
I will say though my main concern is money. A struggle we all have sometimes, I understand that.
The problem I personally have is that if I go and lose some money for whatever reason it will pain me mentally.
I sometimes feel like money is the only thing holding me back in life (and the reality is, it may be)
How do you guys cope with these feelings?
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This is a sign that you may have anxiety. I know it's cliche, but talk to a therapist or doctor.
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>>16795369
Already did that for 2 years. Mostly for depression.
Over my anxiety now as well as large parts of depression.
My anxiety only really ties in to certain social situations and what I just listed.
I'd say I have dealt with the majority of my issues.
Plus, at my age they will only give me support if I'm suicidal. Which I'm not.
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Just how good is carpentry? 2016-02-11 18:34:52 Post No.16795326
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Just how good is carpentry?
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2016-02-11 18:34:52
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I've been told by a lot of friends who are in university that currently the best field to work in is carpentry, because it makes you stronger - both mentally and psychologically - and there's an ongoing boom in this sector all arround the world.
Is that really true? How do I get started? Any anons work in this field?
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>>16795326
Both mentally and psychologically
BOTH
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>>16795326
Meme.
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Fuck off, carpenter fag. You think you're hilarious, sitting in your dimly-lit room surrounded by heaps of woodworking books and spare 2x4's. You come here to shitpost and enlist people in your sick carpentry cult, and everyone is fucking tired of it.
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fuck /adv/
I need to talk to my professor after lecture about registering for his class so that I have enough credits to graduate this spring but getting really anxious and Im psyching myself
How can I get rid of this feeling in the next hour and a half so that I actually talk to him after lecture
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I don't understand what's so nerve-racking about this.
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>>16795318
tell yourself you're a carpenter.
this boosts your confidence.
i'm a carpenter myself and my confidence has grown ever since i got into the industry.
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>>16795347
The class is closed and registration closed last week
Its like the anxious feeling some people get before sending emails. Its irrational, Im just trying to get rid of the feeling
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So this time last week I put up a post about me cheating and my girlfriend of two years finding out. A week has passed and she has decimated any chance of me having any friends when I return to university in September.
I deserve it and I feel disgusting as each day passes knowing that she is heart broken because of me. This will be the single greatest regret of my life to boot.
However, My major predicament is how do you come back from being the lowest of the low scum bag cheater. I have actually become the person I hate and I want to die but I don't even deserve that.
Please help. Just some tips and pointers please.
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You didn't become anything, you made a bad decision. Accept it, learn from it and don't do it again. Stop being a drama queen or ask your girlfriend to peg you.
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I have aspergers syndrome and lately I've met a girl who, while normal, may actually like me. I have a really hard time knowing how to respond to things or hold normal conversation.
Anyways, I texted her today asking if she'd like to go to this park nearby we've talked about but she said she "i wish! I have work all day tomorrow " with a crying emoji at the end.
What's a normal lighthearted playful but kind response to this. Normally I would respond "okay" but I've been told it's robotic.
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That sucks let me know when you got some time.
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>>16795240
This sounds normal. Thank you.
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>>16795236
"are you on the pill? just wondering if I need to bring condoms"
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I'm 25 and can't grow a beard. Not even a pubic-hair lookin' one. I found two back hairs the other day, have plenty of nipple hair, a happy trail, and a full head of hair. The most I can grow is pic related, but it's dark blonde. The hair on my head and facial hair is dark blonde, eyebrows and body hair is black. Everyone in my family has black hair with brown eyes. I have blue eyes.
Should I be worried? My grandfather has blue eyes, but it's not until my great grandparents does anyone have dark blonde hair.
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>>16795222
Beards are overrated.
S'all about the moustache
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I've chosen to have a career in music, but I feel like I'm only doing it for attention. I catch myself approaching soundcloud like social media and mostly get inspired to write flavor-of-the-month meme music, most likely because that'll make me look so original and hip.
>tfw you discover you're a hipster
Also, it just feels I'm not cut-out for this as I really dislike playing any instruments and while I have a decent enough ear, I'm no prodigy even after slaving away for upwards of 4 years at this.
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If you don't enjoy doing it, and you're not very good at it, why the fuck are you still doing it? Why are you posting this here? What do you expect people to tell you?
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>>16795205
the op wasn't written that well
I do like it. I do like arranging all those notes and chords, etc. but I always have this sensation that it'd be much less appealing if nobody ever listened to my music. I think I'm just using it as a vehicle to get attention
I'm just conflicted, I always have this thing where I feel like I'm being a narcissist and that I should kill anything resembling an ego
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Art is a bad career choice.
Most artists had real jobs. Michael Gira worked in construction even when his band was getting reviewed in the New York Times.
Get a real job and practice mysic in your spare time.
When you're not depending on music for money it will come from a better place and you'll be able to make better music.
Most music isn't even worth money until you get a caring fanbase. That's why piracy blew up.
Get a job, practice, and maybe eventually you'll record an amazing album.
Most artists who make music their career at a young age will typically sellout their originality in order to make more money.
Mr. Geetar
Buying new guitar, help me, fellow guitarists 2016-02-11 17:47:01 Post No.16795169
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So I want to buy this bad boy for 330 euros.It's a Jackson KVXT with a hard case and they look like this.
Is it worth the price? When I come to check it out, what should I look for apart good feel?
Also it's rare to find a Jackson guitar in my country so it might be a good chance to get it.
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>>16795169
Depends on what you're using it for? Personally, I know jackshit about what makes a good guitar - still playing the busted Tagima I bought back in highschool, matter of fact.
Anyway, bumping the thread for interest. To throw my 2 cents, I've played a floating-bridge Jackson at a friend's house once - it was pretty cool guitar but it untuned quite a bit if you were too rough at the whammy.
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>>16795169
Tremolo? Get something with a fixed bridge. Tremolos are just a pain in the ass.
Work out your price range and do some homework.
I bought a Vintage V100 like 7 years ago and recently had the heads replaced. Guy who did it said it sounded great, which is a strong compliment when you consider the guy has like $5k worth of guitars and I paid less than 300 for mine.
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>>16795169
Honestly, Jackson guitars are shit. But if it's something you really want due to its rarity where you are, go for it. But don't expect the quality to be good.
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I want to be a dad, but I hate women.
I mean, I can be comfortable around them (even if I'm not that good for seducing women, to be fair I never really tried) but I can't stand their mannerisms. I think every guy can pretty much feel the same way more or less.
Even though, sharing my life with someone I love and having kids symbolizes what I could do best in my life. How can I go past this problem of not being able to stand women's company?
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>I think every guy can pretty much feel the same way more or less.
You're wrong. Way wrong.
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>Admit you have a warped view of women at best, and are a misogynist at worst
>Find out why
>Treat it, maybe with therapy
And no, I'm not trolling.
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>>16795180
Yeah, I think it has to do with me being 3 years in military school.
But how do I stop emphasizing every fault in women as something only found in women? And how can I get more comfortable around them (because I have to admit I'm not)
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It's always about her happiness, not mine. That's why I never left. I don't know if that means I really care about her, sacrificing the solitude i always wanted.
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>>16795156
you sound like a pussy
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Ok
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>>16795171
This
A giant juicy one waiting to be fucked by your mistress.
So i fell in love with this girl from my workplace and i couldn't do shit but think about her for 3 days straight which completely fucked my week.
Yesterday , her best friend hits me up for a coffe just to tell me she has a huge crush on some dude i know and asks me to hook them up . I was on spot mortified .
So yesterday went to hell and i need to know how to get back on track and forget about all this shit because i will have to see her at work every day ..
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>Never mind it wasn't meant to be.
Just tell yourself that, its the truth.
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>>16795153
you sure you are actually in love and this is not infatuation? do you even know her really?
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I guess time will heal it .
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We've actually went out couple of times and we clicked great , i had no idea she was into that dude .. It's a great letdown and even today i feel like shit .
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So I got pretty close with this girl a couple of months ago, way out of my league so I Chickened out of making a move.
We "stopped" (not 100%) talkin and meeting.
Anyways recently I've been thinkin' maybe I should ask her out??
>How do you do that again?
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Why the fuck are you asking 4chins cucks whether or not you should ask her out? Just fucking do it already faggot.
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Im asking how though..
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Talk to me!
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my wife of 6 years poorly tried to an hero a few nights ago while i was workin night shift. found her in the morning. called ambulance. they took her to mental health ward. i love her but lost all trust. she blames me. she IS by polar. this is not the first time. she says i i end the relationship she will do it again. i feel so trapped. what to do? anyone have the same xp? can someone please give me some insight? she may be getting out today and i will have to pick her up but i am so mad right now. help?
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Run, she's not your responsibility.
Tell all her family.
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File divorce, you deserve a woman with a better bill of mental health.
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>>16795142
>my wife of 6 years
>Not responsibility
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Have you talked to her family about this OP? You need to get them involved in her recovery process if they are not part of the problem. You can't do this alone.
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How do I stop being love blind? 2016-02-11 17:26:25 Post No.16795128
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How do I stop being love blind?
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How do I stop being so love blind? My girlfriend is constantly fucking my life over. She says one thing and does the opposite. She's the main reason why my life is such a mess, everything would be so much easier without her.
Then she tells me how much she loves me and I just can't dump her. Every promise she does just contradicts itself because she always promises to change her ways but it never happens, she ends up fucking me over a few days later anyways.
I just love her too much to let go of her though...
How do I fix myself?
>Inb4 You're such a cuck.
I know, I'm retarded.
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Tell us what you're trying to change.
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>>16795128
how does she fuck you over?
If she's toxic, you need to cut her off. Simple as that
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>I just love her too much to let go of her though...
what do you love about her, op?
i mean, what about her (as an individual... not as a woman or a partner) do you love?
what about her personality, her life, her opinions or behaviors do you love?
perhaps you just love her because she is your partner. she's "the one you're with" and so you love her. when you describe what you love about her, could you take that and apply it to someone else? or could you remove her name and individuality from it and replace it with some generic idea of a partner?
i hope this post makes sense.
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My mom is questioning why I need Bronkaid if I don't have asthma or congestion, but I don't know what to tell her. I need it because the appetite suppressant really helps with not binging on food, but that wouldn't go over with her. I don't know what to say.
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It's a stimulant and can be addictive. You'd really just be adding to your problems. And if you aren't old enough to buy it yourself all the more reason not to have it.
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As long as you're still eating a healthy amount, just tell her your sinuses hurt without it or something.
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>>16795127
tell her about carpentry. working with your hands trains patience, physical strenght, calm, etc. carpentry can make you healthy and you'll earn money for it.