I make the same thread every month.
Rarely get replies.
Subject says it all and, since all the time I use Steam to occasionally play games and talk to people, would be nice if I could add you there.
Drop in on the #/adv/ channel on rizon.net IRC chat: https://www.rizon.net/chat.
>>16796932
Will do even tho I kind of always disliked IRC.
Still if anybody here would like to befriend an autist on steam to play some games or talk well, just tell me.
I don't have problem talking one on one, I don't have problems talking with a group of people that I don't know, but when it come to my "friends" I don't feel well around them, I feel anxious after we hang out I don't feel happy but just that bad feeling of anxiety. Does that mean I don't see them as my friends? Should I talk with them or seek counselling?
You feel nervous when you're with the group? Or after?...
In the first case, you should seek counselling. It could be social anxiety, although I'm saying with little to no information on it.
In the second case, it could be you don't see them as close friends, yes. But it could also be that you are now alone, and their company gave you safety, and now its gone...
Either case, you can experiment with it. Hang out with other people, how do you feel?...
Counselling is not a bad idea, either way, but I say that to everyone! Shit done wonders to me.
>>16796943
I don't feel really nervous when I'm with them, just a bit, but after is like that feeling when the drug is starting to kick in and you are all like "well, shit", I'm now feeling like shit, for hangin out with my friends.
I don't have another group of friends to put this matter in perspective, but as I said, any other group of colleagues I feel okay.
I might have a psychological impression of my friends that I have gone beyond some limits for them and that they don't seem to be the ones that would do the same thing for me. Maybe I'm afraid to admit that I have shitty friends, and I don't want to be alone.
>>16796985
You could be right, yes. But just because they haven't done wonder for you doesn't mean they won't, or they don't want to.
But I don't want to send you down that road. You should be responsible for your own well-being. You shouldn't expect people to throw themselves at danger for you, you should be grateful to those who do.
Maybe you are expecting too much from them or from yourself.
I've been drinking a 16 oz coffee almost every day for a while now, and I think I'm developing a tolerance. I had my daily a few hours ago and I'm already tired, and I have a bunch of work to do tonight (this is my break). I also recently went back on my SSRI, but only on a very low dose. I don't want to drink more for my health and the whiteness of my teeth. Should I give it up for a while and then go back? Should I upgrade to something more caffeinated?
>>16796900
Why did you ask this? wtf was the point, either drink more or don't. If you think you want to get the high back then drink more, and if you don't want to drink more then don't drink more... It isn't like caffeine is a real drug. Start doing coke, or something you pansy.
>>16796937
>Why did you ask this? wtf was the point
My thoughts exactly.
I mean, don't get me wrong, people posting questions on /adv/ keeps the board going, but Jesus, some of the shit people come here for advice on... how do you even choose which socks to wear in the morning?
>>16796954
>>16796937
I don't know anything about brain chemistry or coffee. Suck my dick.
>If you think you want to get the high back then drink more
That'll lower my tolerance even more.
Ask a recruiter that works daily with new grads and places them at companies.
About me:
>Manufacturing, chemical, automotive, logistics companies are my primary clients
>Engineering/Chemistry/Sales/All forms of business are the general fields I work with. But I still know quite a bit about other degrees.
>No experience in medical fields, research, or anything that's scientific and not corporate.
>Knowledgeable of teaching abroad companies and their procedures (China and Japan specifically)
>I know quite a bit about resume format, the do's and the dont's, and general info.
Please, ask me as many questions as you can! New grads, current students, high school students, or people going back to school are welcome.
>>16796899
Just how much of a boost does being former active-duty military aid job placement? Is it only evident in government jobs?
>>16796899
MY DECISION FROM COLLEGE COMES IN TOMORROW AFTERNOON
IM FREAKING OUT OP
WILL I GET IT IN?
WHAT AM I GOING TO DO IF I DON'T?
>>16796899
How much do companies care about GPA, compared to internships or prior experience? Does having a 3.7 instead of "just" a 3 give you any meaningful advantage?
>work 50-60 hours
>drink until I go to bed
>repeat
I've lost interest in all of my hobbies. I'm lonely as fuck, but I don't enjoy the company of other people - I have plenty of friends and a supportive family.
I live alone with two cats. Between an overwhelming sense of numbness to the world and my growing alcoholism, I think about buying a gun at least a dozen times per day, for about 2 years now.
Help me out, /adv/. I think I'm about at the end of my rope.
Get medical help from a doctor, now.
50-60 hours you should be able to afford some therapy or something
>>16796865
My insurance only covers doctor visits and medication. But I legitimately don't know why I haven't tried therapy.
My boyfriend is from England and I'm from the US. Just looked up the marriage rules and becoming a UK citizen or whatever so I can live there with him. It sounds pretty complicated. I have to be living there for two years prior or something? I dont get it
>>16796832
I wouldn't recommend changing your entire life for somebody you've never even met before. You wouldn't know what living with them is like, so compatibility is up in the air.
>>16796832
The trick is to marry him and move to Continental Europe, where the rules on income etc. don't apply. After a couple of years you're a European permanent resident and you can move to the UK. This kind of international mobility should be pretty easy if you have careers in a field with a very strong job market, such as carpentry.
>>16796846
We meet next month. Still staying optimistic though... I know being together will be a lot different, but hopefully for the better
A new local art gallery gave me the chance to exhibit an art piece in their latest show in hopes that it would sell. There are three days left in the show and the piece hasn't sold. I did my best with social media marketing and having people visit but I had no luck. I do pretty well in my private sales, but with the gallery commission price, I guess it has scared off buyers. I feel horrible about it because I gave them confidence in the work and it hasn't sold.
I was thinking that I could pay them the commission that they would have received if it sold just out of the kindness of my heart. I want them to stay in business because they brought amazing art to my area and are supporting the movement that I'm in. Is this unprofessional or uncalled for if I do this? What would you do in this situation?
>>16796794
That's what you get for trying to be an artist instead of an illustrator .
Also post pick of art.
>>16796931
>Also post "pick" of art.
That's what you get for being a STEM major who can't find a job instead of an English major.
>>16796931
That's what you get for being an illustrator instead of a carpenter. Pick a job in a solid job sector and these problems never arise.
Hello /adv/, I'm fucking scared right now and I obviously need your advices.
My life is getting worse and worse everyday, I am someone who believe in God but I never really cared about all the "going to church on Sunday" thing. However, recently, like two or three days, I started to think that litteraly everything has a meaning. And pretty much every hour, I look at the sky, saying "Please help me God, show me what I should do", I'm litteraly begging for him to show he is here.
For now you think that OP is a faggot, but It's not over.
If I want God to help me, I shouldn't fap, right ? So I tried to not fap, but it was too much and I fapped. The scary part is that, right at the moment where I cummed, a guy was talking on the TV, in the room just next to mine, and said "You are possessed ! You are possessed !"Or something like that. It wasn't exactly this sentence but there was something about the Devil and being possessed.
Then 5 minutes ago there was a rolling thread on /b/,I rolled, and guess what were the three last digits ?
667.
Seriously, I asked God to show me his presence, and all of this happens, he is clearly showing me that he's not happy, right ?
What would you do/believe if you were me ?
>inb4 religiousfag
>inb4 atheism
>>16796790
Imagine a world where there's no religion.
Got the image?
Now hold it.
The problem you face is fabricated and trivial.
>>16796790
I say it's all coincidence, however I could be wrong.
I Mastubate often, yet pray everyday.
God is an unknown force and if you fear him, than satan can take advantage of that and torture you mentally.
Trust that he will forgive you, everyone masturbates.. surely not everyone goes to hell.
As long as you give time to him, he'll be happy. Church isn't mandatory to love god.
This is my opinion of course.
Is coming here even trying to get advice? I feel like there's so many edge lords who don't actually try to understand and empathize with people's problems and just insult you, is there anyone willing to understand?
I'm listening.
>not automatically filtering chanspeak while you read
what are you, some kind of faget? Why would we be here if we didn't like to help morons with their problems? I think the problem is your own sensitivity to attitude and language creating a bias in your perceptions of how helpful people are here.
you- you- double nigger!
also yes there are a lot of edgelords on here with bad advice, but I think it comes from a good place
>>16796767
>edgelord detected
Soo I need some pointers on birth control and the real pros and cons, cause my gf and I want to move to unprotected sex eventually and we've heard mixed reviews on birth control pills. Whats the best way to go about having unprotected sex without getting prego? We're both clean so std isnt the main concern. Basically we're stalling on getting birth control cause we've heard some bad side effects and whatnot.
Anything with hormones has the possibility of not reacting to her system well. Side effects vary from person to person.
Pills aren't a good choice for a lot of people, since you have to remember to take it daily, and the same time every day. Antibiotics also get in the way of effectiveness.
The implant and the shot are not particularly recommended as they have long term side effects that aren't pleasant. Implant migration and bone density loss, respectively.
Google can help you with the rest.
>>16796743
Are you a femanon tho? what's your experience with it?
OP please don't come to /adv/ for birth control questions. I always see cringe-worthy misinformation.
Just read all of this
http://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/unintendedpregnancy/pdf/contraceptive_methods_508.pdf
https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control
http://m.scarleteen.com/article/sexual_health/the_buddy_system_effectiveness_rates_for_backing_up_your_birth_control_with_a_
And talk to a professional.
So for a while now gf and her family have invited on holiday with them, and offered to pay for my hotel and I'd cover flights which is fair enough seeming as I'd be bunking with their daughter in more than one way. Her brother recently decided he can make it on this holiday and her parents decided to cover his whole holiday (It's a complicated situation where her parents get money every 5 or 6 months and her brother is in fulltime work). So now I have no idea how much I'm having to pay towards this holiday. It's €1300 per person and I could barely afford the flights with budgeting myself very carefully until July. I know I just need to wait until they say how much I owe but now my gf (who doesn't work either) has offered to pay out of her limited savings to cover what half of the total bill as my birthday present. I'd rather she spent much less on something small and sentimental that I can keep rather than bankrupting herself to bring me on holiday with them. What do I say to her? As much as I'd love to go, I honestly expected a lot less to pay and I don't want to rinse out my gf's bank account to go. help
>>16796702
I'd just tell her that while you'd love to go on holiday with them, right now it doesn't make financial sense.
If you guys are very serious, you could even tell her you want to start spending more wisely in anticipation of having a family one day.
>>16796769
Yeah I want to go less and less with how much money this is going to cost. We're both students and I'm a little immature so no family for a while and even if I said that I don't think she'd buy it. but I might try and say that I don't think I can afford it right now, to her it will just come off as I don't want to come since she if offering to relieve the financial strain from me.
What are some methods of thinking, practices and general advice for not being an emotional little bitch? Anyone have any stories, tidbits, etc?
Anything
>breakups
>getting fired
>insecurities
Constantly going over stuff in your mind just burns in those pathways.
Do things to distract yourself.
>>16796693
I like reading the stoics and Buddhist material regarding mental practices and handling emotions.
Start there.
Unless you want advice on a specific situation.
being a little bitch is this: weakness. Whatever it is you're bitching about, you're doing so out of avoidance with the fact that you're too weak to handle it, whatever it is, and so you're trying to make yourself feel better/make excuses/etc.
Either you stop being weak, or you stop being a bitch about it, meaning, accept that you're weak, don't hide from it, and quietly fix your own goddamn problems.
My niece is being harassed/bullied by kids in the neighborhood. No injury has occurred yet but there were multiple times where they have hit her. One in particular is doing it the most, even a couple other kids were his targets. The last time I spoke to the family, they said that they would talk and handle it. Today, the boy and a friend hit her in the eye with a snowball. Again no serious injury but she is afraid to stand up for herself (she doesn't even want me to teach her self defense. She keeps freezing under almost any pressure). What legal grounds can we sue on, if any. I don't think a restraining order will work since they ride the same bus to school and live right around the corner. I'd like to send the boy, 9 or 10 yrs old, to juvenile detention or sue the family for a token sum to make them regret allowing him to behave like this. What can we do?
have you tried leaving a flaming bag of dog poop on their doorstep and ringing the bell?
Kinda funny but I doubt it would work. I need an effective solution that's not immature or destructive. He'll I'd love to bust their cars or windows but that opens us to legal issues. Thank you for posting though.
>>16796657
unfortunately the system is not on your side
the system is there to protect itself
so sadly, the first thing you must do is tell the school and document the encounter with the school being told. every time.
from there you can get law enforcement involved if they continue to do nothing because you've established a pattern of behavior of the kid, AND a pattern of complicity of the system.
there is no quick fix unless it escalates alot...
Hi /adv/, kissless virgin here, never once went on a date either, but I've just managed to ask out a really hot qt on a date, but I don't fucking know what I'm supposed to do, I've never gotten this far. So please, help /adv/, I have NO FUCKING CLUE what to do.
Also I'm Canadian, help.
Pleasehelp
All you have to do is fuck her right in the pussy.
>>16796624
Step 1: fuck her vagina
Watch a lot of Adam Sandler movies and learn how the master dones it.
I am considering asking a woman to be my valentine but what the fuck does that even mean? Like if you ask a woman to be your valentine.. what does it mean to you? I live in the USA if that helps.
Also.. can you ask a woman to be your valentine via text? What does it all mean? Does it just mean "Hey, I like you!"
Like what if you have never been on a date with the person you want to be your valentine?
>>16796585
This is why Valentine's Day is so ridic. Don't ask her to be your Valentine, ask her on a date. Much less confusing that way.
>>16796599
hmmm.. well I went on a date with this girl before but I think she low key friend zoned me. not sure. I was basically going to use valentines day as a way to feel out how she feels about me perhaps.