I lost my V-Card today. Her and I went on a date and we ended up boning. It felt pretty good. It was in the back of my car and was a little uncomfortable but what can I do about it. As much as I liked the sex, I just didn't feel THAT emotionally attached to her. I told her this and she said she expected it and throughout the time we were on the date she wanted to have sex. I was told not to feel guilty or bad about it at all, but I'm feeling some sort of remorse. Both of us wanted sex but I feel like I used her. I took some time to think about what I did and I realize that pussy isn't everything and that emotional connections are just as important as the carnal pleasures. What am I doing right, and what should I be doing to further improve myself?
meet someone for companionship not sex
have sex with yourself
I wanna do something with my friend but we don't know what. What should we do?
Suck each others cock.
Sex
Share a meal.
Whenever my buddies and I eat out at a restaurant or something, we end up talking for, like, three or four hours. About life, about girls, about God, about politics, about school, or just shoot the shit. Some of my favorite college memories so far involve going to some fast food place with a friend and having a simple (or deep) conversation.
Try it. You don't have to do anything crazy.
So, maybe I'm overthinking it, but I'm afraid I could be an aspie. I fit some of the criteria, but most concerning is my lack of regard for trying to fit in with the people I work with. I feel like I know social cues, and I can understand people's feelings and shit, but just don't care. I just want to get through the day and go home so I can be alone. I might hang out with someone once a month for vidya or drinking or something, but usually in small groups or 1 on 1.
I don't dislike people. In fact I want the best for everyone. I just really hate the ass-kissing people do and the games they play, and want no part of it. I would like a few more friends, but don't really know if I want to make the effort, and I don't really know if I know how. I've been diagnosed with adult ADHD and depression but should I go for some more extensive testing or something? :C
>>16909706
>should I go for some more extensive testing or something?
depends. Usually only go the psychology route when you're utterly powerless to change any other tangible thing in your life - noises, relationships, unvoiced opinions, the things in your environments...
As for fitting in with people, we all tend to form niche interest groups these days- when you want someone to join yours, you always need to have a 'beginner's guide' session for that interest- and vice versa for if you want to join someone else's group. So it's hard when nobody wants to fully share & explain their respective "autisms". At least one person needs to either have flexible vocabulary or otherwise technology, if things are going to work out nicely, in that respect.
Anyway sorry for late reply but I'm sure you can tell 4chan always has time for u
There is this Asian girl at school she is cute and has a decent rack how do I get her to like me?
git a bigger dik you fukkin weeb hmu on pornhub, look up sis loves me, and black salami
>>16909704
are you sure you want her to like you though? you don't know anything about her except what she looks like. she might be yandere as fuck.
just talk to her like you'd talk to anybody else, and try not to make it too obvious that you're ogling her rack. if she's not overtly batshit, keep talking to her. either she'll like you or she won't.
I'm not gonna say "b urself lol" because people do lots of harmless social fakery when getting to know each other, like not dumping their life story on someone they just met etc. however I will say that the more shit you have to do, say, or pretend in order to get someone to like you, the more you will have to do, say, or pretend to ensure they keep liking you.
I kept in contact with a high school teacher I had a crush on. I don't have feelings for him anymore and we only message each other once every 10 weeks or so. He likes to change his FB profile picture to photos of him and his wife. It's something that I do not want to see even though I don't like him anymore. Is there a way to hide his profile pic or the entire chat with him in this FB Messenger screen WITHOUT unfriending him? I use FB Messenger for friends who do not live in the same country as me. There are not that many of them and I don't want to see a profile pic of him and his wife every time I open the app.
Thanks (sorry for poor English).
>inb4 just unfriend him and move on, you will be a homewrecker, I bet you still like him, etc
>>16909690
What the fuck is the big deal? Does a picture really trigger you that hard? If you don't like him anymore then ignore it and move on.
>>16909840
I just don't want to see it. Please tell me how to hide it.
>>16909850
Hide notifications from him so you don't see his messages and then as you message people he'll eventually fall down to the bottom of your messenger.
So a coworker that i was interested in gave me her snapchat. A couple days after snapchatting I invited her to a movie, which seemed to go well. A week or so after she gave me her number. Now here lies the problem, I don't know if its the way she text, but she rarely text me back. For example, i texted her last night, she apologized for not texting back and said she fell asleep. But when i tried to initiate a conversation she didn't text back. So im confused whether or not she actually likes me. She did give me her number without me asking, pls help /adv/. wat do?
Just ask her bro
I want to deflower my sister, how do I trick her into this?
>>16909681
1. Remove all the face cards and aces from the deck—they’re the only cards you need.
2. Place the kings in a row and say, “All the kings decided to check into a hotel. And since they’re nice kings, they decided to bring their wives, the queens.” Now place the queens on top of the kings, matching the suits.
3. Then say, “The queens were such devoted mothers, they didn’t want to leave their sons at home.” Place the jacks on top of the queens, matching the suits.
4. Now say, “Before they all went to bed, they decided to lock their doors.” Place the aces on top of the jacks, matching the suits.
5. Here’s where the story gets interesting. Say, “But in the middle of the night, they all got mixed up.” Put all the stacks of cards together, one on top of the other. Turn the deck facedown and ask your child to cut it three times, being sure to put the deck back together after each cut.
6. When she’s done, say, “But somehow, come morning, everyone was back where he or she belonged.” Starting from the top of the pile, lay the cards out in four stacks facedown, putting one card in each stack until you’re out of cards. Turn the piles over: All the kings will be together, and your sister will want to have sex with you!
How old is she anon?
>>16909681
>I need to hide my penis from the CIA, they'll never suspect it to be in my sister's untouched virgin fuckhole!
so im in a no fap challenge but am still viewing porn. is this a bad thing? can i just make it worse. i feel bad about watching porn its just feels mormal to get porn sometimes. any advice
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>>16909670
What's the point of watching porn if you're not going to jack off? Fucking play some video games or get a girlfriend, those are usually good tips for a good no fap.
belive me ive tried. its only day one nofap bro
im a veteran fapper. i fapped to shot mot meant for fapping
I hated my dick teacher mrs.hall. she gave me detention so i bitch slapped her. She called my mom while she was doing coke.[ no i grounded. i stole my moms credit card and i phone. i om on a bus right now. what do I do?
Take over the bus and proceed to run over people. Ayy lmao.
>>16909659
kill yourself
>>16909659
Huh? The chick's mom is a cokehead?
Alright /adv/, I am not socially awkward/can't talk to girls, but whenever they flirt with me I just blank on what to do The other day a 8.5/10 started flirting with me very obviously, but I didn't know how to respond. Help?
Bumping for interest.
This girl was actually stroking phallic objects in front of me on 3 different occasions and had made naughty faces and stuff every time I saw her. I didn't know what to do.
I'm not as good at social stuff as op. Diagnosed social phobia. But when I get into these situations I'd rather know what to do so I can get my pulse below 250 again. Also I feel like an ass for not reciprocating. Probably won't lead anywhere but it would help me cope.
>>16909653
It's impossible for anybody here to give you any advice you haven't heard a million times before. 'Be yourself', 'jus chill bro', etc. Shitty truth is, social anxiety is something only you can change, and its really fucking hard to change. I think the best thing you can do is simply force yourself to talk to cute girls. Or girls in general. Or even just strangers, which would also help you improve general interaction skills. Basically what I'm saying is, force yourself into social situations, and if you keep pushing and pushing, eventually you'll become the confident guy you always wanted to be. Sounds stupid, but its working for me, very slowly but surely.
>>16910255
This, but also that girl could have just been trying to make you uncomfortable.
I'm having trouble even having conversations with girls, let alone getting a gf. Would something like the Ben Franklin effect work? Simple interactions don't seem to work. I start conversations and then they either stop responding or I end up interrogating them. In person no one ever strikes conversation up with me. What can I do to be more interesting? I'm very aloof
>>16909645
Can you talk well enough with guys? If not, I'm pretty sure you're probably screwed for improving your anxiety. If the problems just girls, I've found that for me the secret was simply forcing myself into situations with cute girls in them. Once I was forced to talk to them, I very quickly became better at treating conversations with girls the same way as I would with guys.
no, women are pretty immune to the ben franklin effect, because it's well known that men have ulterior motives
what ben Franklin.
>be closet trans
>met trans online
>met her in real life
>hang out a lot
>she's a bit ugly and neet but very intelligent and loving
>she tells me something, i think she told me she likes me and want us to be something
>im awkward and dont 100% like her
>tell her i dont feel the same way
>still hang with her because im her only friend
>keep her as a backup plan in case she gets pretty and start studying (she's clearly very intelligent)
>she overcome her depression (thanks to me I guess), accept herself, and start making new friends
>she always remind me im her best friend and the person who have helped her most
>spend a lot of time with her, watching movies, playing videogames, i borrow her my comics, she borrows me her music.
>spend a weekend at my house (my homophobic parents are out) and have such a nice time
<on the other side, my life keep getting worse, i get into selfharming, throwing up, im still a closet trans and im very homophobic from time to time, and i only think about killing myself but that have nothing to do with the story
>she start hanging out with another trans (or maybe crossdresser, we arent sure)
>she's always talking to her
>i start to get jealous
>she invited me to hang the 3 of us
>feel way too bad to go out
>dont like going to public places with her because im ashamed of what people think
>friend's birthday
>met the other transgirl
>she's pretty cute, put a lot of effort on passing, dresses a bit like shit but all the makeup and shaved body works fine
>they holds hand a lot and talk a lot
>utistic as fuck and also feel pretty bad deep inside
>in a room with a transgirl i like a lot in a sentimental way and a transgirl that turn me on physically
>afraid that they get closer and i get just left behind alone
>they are going to hang out in 3 hours and she invites me
>too scared of getting full awkward again
>ashamed of be seen with trannies in public
>>16909637
drop trou and take a dump while they're watching
If you're going to be yourself--no matter who it is you are--you will come across people that don't like you. Without fail.
It takes a lot of fucking guts to be yourself, no matter who you are. Props to you for being the person you feel you are inside. If you're going to continue along this path, you're going to need to let go of others' opinions about yourself. You will need iron-clad skin.
I'm not really sure what all this sexual/relationship stuff is about. Seems at the core of it that you simply want a community. Maybe the best thing to do at the moment currently is to find friends, discover who you are on a deeper level (most of what you said in the OP seems to be surface-level drama). Seriously, do some deep thinking. What is it that you want?
>>16909637
>>16909655
Don't believe there are two people who value trannies and want them to live on 4chan, fuck off.
I came into college with no idea of what I was doing. Halfway into a Biology degree I realized that this wouldn't work for me, so I switched to the only engineering I could realistically do, Biomolecular Engineering. I will finish this degree and a Molecular Biology degree in the next year, with a minor in Bioinformatics.
I absolutely hate biology. The subject matter is interesting, but after working in labs and getting an idea of what actually goes on, I realize that I will be miserable in this position. I've been working an IT job on the side and I enjoy it much more. I've fallen in love with computer science, especially data sciences and more esoteric topics like machine learning.
I've tailored my electives towards mathematics (mainly upper division statistics like stochastics, bayesian inference), and computer science (introductory programming classes like logic design, assembly, and a few computational biology courses). I was looking at some classes I could take that would be interesting and closer to what I want to study in graduate school, like Machine Learning and Artificial Intelligence, but I don't think I'll be able to take the prerequisites in a realistic time frame.
When comparing the courses I've taken to those of computer science/engineers at my school I definitely am lacking in terms of CS courses. Some notable ones I saw were, Discrete Math, Intro to Data Structures, Computer Architecture, an upper division algorithm and abstract data course, and elective specialization within the major (ie. systems programming, robotics, networks etc.).
I do have the option to take a graduate level algorithmic and programming class for bioinformatics in python (which would satisfy Bioengineer major requirements), but I would need to take, two lower division CS classes (C and intro to data structures). If I were to do this, I would probably have to drop the Biology degree.
with this info could I do CE grad?
This is hard to follow but my recommendation would be to study what you want to study as long as switching majors doesn't delay you excessively. I never switched out of biology but I hated it and realized that too late so I would get out while you can, even if it means taking an extra year.
CS->CE is doable and I think BioEng ->CE is doable as well. Those sound like lower division or easy classes anyway, and I know discrete was easy as shit.
Don't take grad classes if it means finishing late. Finish your degree and get out. You can always change your mind later the most important thing is having that piece of paper. My housemate is a senior data scientist and told me I could use my degree and experience to get into machine learning just fine and all I've done is GIS and have a bio degree.
Why CE and not CS? Or a Data Science masters?
>>16909611
No preference honestly. Just want to study machine learning and/or data sciences in grad.
>>16909606
Taking the graduate class won't set me back at all, it would fit in to my degree as it satisfies a requirement amongst a list of options. I might have to drop the biology degree if I do that though.
Long story short.
My ex gf raped me for my first time and I tried to pretend it was no big deal. But I was never able to have sex properly with her. In fact the one time I 'accidentally' did my penis refused to cooperate with her and wouldnt get hard for her.
Its been a few years since then but I havent been with another girl than her. How do I know if my penis is still broken or not? How do I fix it if it is?
Ive always been worried that if I ever tried to have sex again Id have the same ED problem.
>>16909563
it's probably psychological, try not to worry. you'll be fine, and hopefully your next partner will understand.
>>16910097
Yeah, don't worry about the psychological/physiological trauma, it'll all smoooth itself out, right?
>>16910097
Well she might be a virgin. Which makes me really worried.
When is the 'right' time to have sex in a relationship?
>>16909523
There is no magical right time. It's when you're both ready.
Whenever you both want to have sex
>>16909523
If you haven't by week 3, or date 4/5, you're gonna be waiting a while
Unless they are emotionally immature, scared, otherwise damaged or religious.
The people who insist on waiting almost always have baggage of some kind.
Use it as a guide, not a law, but within that time frame use it as a barometer for the emotional and sexual health of your partner
(Assuming you're an adult or at uni)